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19 and 15 aged troubles.
Hi guys i am 15 years old, and i am talking to a guy who is 19. you have probably read questins about this before because i ask alot about this situation, but I told my mom about him today. She was cool (i think) about him having a child. probably because she had my olde brother at the age of 16 so she could relate. Now the problem is the age difference... my mother and i have been on very thin ice with me and my 'behaviors'. so she thinks i am going to be going down to crack and alcohol lane when im older.which i am not! i am not that idiotic. i know my limits and things. But how can I explain to her than i am not going to became an addict to anything, and how do i explain to her that 19 and 15 is not that bad. if my question maks any sense please answer it!
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You know what worries me? This line.
"i am hoping that if him and i are to date or anything i'll be able to pus him back on his feet which i know i am 15 and i shouldnt have to worry about that but it's just who i am...i have helped a numerous amount of people get on their feet when they fall"
I get this. Why do you think I'm on this website? I like fixing people.
I use this website. I fix my friends (much to their dismay) and I used to try my family. Don't do it in dating.
Your entire relationship is predicated on the idea that you can fix him. If he never gets fixed, you'll both be miserable. If you don't know what you're doing (you don't, you're 15) you'll probably end up enabling him rather than helping and make it worse.
You aren't going to listen to me. I realize that. Remember what I'm saying when this has gone south in a few years. Ask another question requesting female feedback on dating men they need to fix and how good of an idea it is. Remember what they say too. Dating people you intend to fix never turns out well. You might even fix them, but if you do the process will be so mutually painful that you'll kill the relationship in the process.
Really, that'll happen either way, but it'll hurt more when you see them whole and happy with someone else and think of the time you wasted.
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There are a million plus one mother who wish they had the proble you giving your moms on this subject. Other than that it IS illegal with and without your mother's permission. Have you wondered as to why he is interested in you? Not saying that guys shouldn't be interested in you. But I'm sure you noticed that the popular vote in life is that guys are generally older than the women they date so that's not odd. But again... you 15... and as much as you may know about the world.... you are not always able to see beyond your own intetions and feelings and "right-now" knowledge. I;m not sure where this "crack and alcoholic" thing stem from but maybe your first few relationships... should be with boys your own age... not because you can't handle it... but because you will be aware of what being handled.... looks like.
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We have told you once before, It is illegal.
Even if you have your mothers approval, Laws are laws and that does not change the fact that it is wrong. Your mothers approval does not change the laws and it does not make it okay.
If you date a 19 with a child, You are surely going to have a hell of a time maintaining a relationship as you are only 15 years old. That child comes first on everything, Yours or not. I highly recommend you look for someone more suitable in age range and that does not have a child. Your mother might of had a child at 16 but you know what, I bet your mother also had her share of struggles. This does not mean you need to go down the same boat. Yes reality is 19 and 15 is bad, It should tell you something if someone of the age 19 is trying to date someone as young as 15. It's is 100% wrong but if you want to take a risk then go for it but I sure wouldn't want to be you if he gets caught. At this point you aren't seeking advice...You are seeking approval.
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