"People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone." - Audrey Hepburn
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I've stayed here so that I can share the knowledge I do have. I know I'm not changing the world but I do hope that I spark others to open their eyes.
"The only thing to do with good advice is pass it on. It is never any use to oneself." - Oscar Wilde
So, if you learn something from what I say then repeat it to someone else who can use it.
I hope that if you see an answer of mine that you enjoy it will inspire you to go out of your way to give good, solid information. Provide links for further information, detail your responses, encourage people to seek out professionals when it's needed, and stop sugar-coating responses and just say the truth.
I hope that even if you absolutely hate my answer that it'll kick start your brain. Hopefully you'll begin taking your time to respond instead of hurried answers that are useless to an already confused person.
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hi how do you send someone a friend suggestion on the msn profile? thanks in advance! (link)
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If the person has disable the option of taking friend request on their MSN or Windows Live Messenger profile then there isn't an easy way. You could gather their email address if they have it public and available on the profile and send them a quick email about wanting to be a friend or you could try to add them to the MSN messenger anyway.
Adding a friend to MSN will send them a note that requests them to add you back, block you, or ignore the friendship offer. It's pretty straight-forward and can be found on the MSN messenger toolbar on the top.
If the person isn't interested in gaining new friends and have kept their information private then there isn't much more you can do. Sorry.
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how can i get frinds faster (link)
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First and foremost: be yourself!
Nobody wants to talk to a person who is obviously fake, and nobody wants to have to pretend they're interested in things they just aren't worried about. Be yourself. If you like books then hang out in the library often. Find a place where you enjoy being or a place that is about things you are particularly interested in. You'll easily run into friend matches here.
Be open.
Nobody will ever know you, what you like, or what you don't like if you never open up and show them or tell them. If someone has reading an interesting book then inquire about it, strike up a conversation, or show your interest. It's really very easy.
Be friendly.
Nobody wants to try to be friends with the person who talks behind another's back, is aggressive, or seems to be scary. Be friendly and kind. If someone drops their books, make sure to help them pick them up. Compliment others. Smile often.
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what MADE episode was on tv on wed at like 2. it was like this guy who's kind of geeky and he wanted to be a hip hop dancer or something and he got a team together for his school's talent show i think. and he was yelling at his mom when she was trying to help them. can someone tell me please? (link)
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You would really think this would be easy to find but there are some difficulties in it. First, all locations that have MTV or the MADE series don't feature the same show time-line at the same hour. What you saw at 2 may not have appeared anywhere but your region. It's kind of odd.
In addition, there was no new episode that came out on October 6, 2010 so it makes me think what you saw was a rerun. The new episode that did air on October 5, 2010 was about a girl who wanted to be a mountain biker. Not anything like a hip hop dancer talent show ;)
Now, I did find a list of ALL of the aired MADE television episodes that you can watch for absolutely free online. I looked through for recent "hip hop" talents but they only had females listed. I looked for "talent show" but nothing comes up from this season 10 series.
Here is the link to the MADE full episodes that are online to watch for free:
http://www.mtv.com/shows/made/video.jhtml?filter=fulleps
If you mouse over the titles you can see a short line about the show and a photo of the person they feature. I haven't found one that fits your description yet, and have even watched a couple of these episodes now, but am not entirely sure what season this episode you talk of may have come from.
The CLOSEST thing I've found is the special from season 9 called Hip Hop Challenge:
http://www.mtv.com/videos/made-season-9-hip-hop-challenge/1601511/playlist.jhtml
OR the season 9 episode 32 where Tanner went from T-Smooth and into a new hip-hop dancer:
http://www.mtv.com/videos/made-season-9-ep-32-hip-hop-dancer/1601614/playlist.jhtml
I hope that helps you find the show you're looking for at least!
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what is the song that plays when allie is secretly watching her parents cry in the kitchen. it goes like "stay stay stay..." thanksyou (link)
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Stay by Jesse Thomas is the song that plays in the Degrassi episode entitled: Don't Let Me Go, part 1 and part 2, episodes 25 and 26.
You can listen to this song on YouTube right here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0UZ51k8nLbI
Jesse Thomas, who is originally from Kentucky, finished her debut album in the Spring of 2010, and it was recently released in September 2010 onto iTunes and in stores. The album is entitled "Hazel EP" in case you're curious.
Here are the lyrics to "Stay" by Jesse Thomas:
I'm so out of touch these days,
I act out in the wrong ways.
My mouth moves faster than my brain.
I've done you wrong I've made mistakes.
You've seen the darkest side of me,
But please don't think of me that way.
Would it be too much to ask,
To remember the girl who made you laugh.
Stay, stay, stay,
Stay, stay, stay, stay
Stay, stay, stay,
Stay, stay, stay, stay
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i'm 18/f, i weigh about 150 pounds. my ideal weight is around 135, is there any specific exercises i should do to get down to the target weight? i am a little overweight.
i have love handles, and was wondering if there was a workout technique i could use to get rid of them or make them smaller.
i also have a bunch of excess tummy fat, i heard somewhere that crunches and situps werent good for it, is that true?
basically, i just want to tone up my body, and i need help with what exercises i should do...
anything would be appreciated! thanks in advance,
gina (link)
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The truth is, you can't lose weight in specific areas of your body. Your body gains weight in strategic places and will lose that excess weight slower than in other places that doesn't have as much stored fat. It's just how the body works.
That being said, any exercise you do will help you lose weight. Any. You could run, jog, do crunches, or lift weights and you're going to lose weight.
However, just because you're working the muscles in one specific area doesn't mean that's where you'll lose the weight from.
I know. Losing weight isn't as easy as you'd think.
If you're goal is to tone your stomach then, yes, do more crunches and exercises that work out that abdominal region. It'll help increase the mass of the muscles, but it won't necessarily cause the already-stored fat to go away in that area at first.
Your goal should be to get into a healthy routine. Once you're in a routine where you're eating a well-balanced diet and exercising regularly then your love handles are going to diminish and your body, as a whole, will be slimmer and trimmer.
Exercise alone just doesn't cut it though. You have to change your eating habits. A lot of people simply do not grasp this. Think of this:
If you're suppose to eat, say, 2500 calories a day and work out to burn slightly more calories each day than you consume...
...then you can eat all of the chocolate candy bars you want as long as it adds up to less than 2500 calories!
That's kind of silly, isn't it? Chocolate doesn't help to feed the muscles. It helps to become stored fat. Why would you want to decrease your muscles and that built-up strength, right? After all, the muscles are what actually breaks down the fat.
Change your eating habits.
Exercise doing whatever makes you happy.
Try to do some strength training 3 days a week, spaced out so that you give your muscles time to heal from small tears that happen during these exercises.
The other days of the week, do some cardio. Run, job, do jumping jacks. Pick up some aerobic DVDs and following through with them on the days you aren't, say, going to the gym.
Your body will tone. Your fat will diminish.
Lastly, focus more on your size rather than your weight. I know that sounds weird but here is why:
Muscle weighs more than fat.
You don't want fat. You do want muscle though. Not HUGE muscles but long, lean muscles that give you that beautiful shape and doesn't leave you saggy and baggy as you age.
So, what do I mean about focusing on you size rather than your weight?
Nix the scale.
Pick up a tape measure.
Measure yourself once a month. Measure around our stomach, thighs, hips, arms, etc. Keep a little list of how you're doing. You might see a little increase here-or-there as you build the muscle before you lose the fat but it'll happen to where you suddenly see great definition where there was none before. Weighing yourself on a scale doesn't tell you where you lose squishy fat. Measuring yourself with a tape measure does.
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I've been on birth control for a few months and my boyfriend and I have been using condoms the past year. But we want to just use the pulling out method why'll im stilll taking birth control. I take it everyday and the same exact time, so is it safe or should we stick to condoms AND bc? (link)
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Nothing is 100% effective.
Nothing.
So, even if you take the birth control pills every day you are still at risk at getting pregnant. Your back-up method right now is condoms. Birth control pills coupled with condoms is a pretty good plan, actually.
The pull-out method is very much not effective. Pre-ejaculate seeps from the penis without anyone every knowing or feeling it. Pre-ejaculate can very well contain sperm.
It takes 1 single sperm to find it's way up into you and get you pregnant. That's it. Your boyfriend doesn't have to ejaculate fully into you. He doesn't have to deposit millions of little sperm. It only takes 1 lucky one to get the job done.
If you look into effectiveness in real-life studies compared to clinical/laboratory studies then hormonal birth control pills aren't really 99% effective. It's more like 93% or so, which still isn't bad if a person thinks about it. The problem is that it is not 100% effective at preventing unwanted pregnancies. Condom effectiveness is something around 88% effective at preventing unwanted pregnancies.
So, while you may end up with an early miscarriage and never know you ended up pregnant, there is still a much greater risk at nixing the condoms and going bareback.
The honest answer comes when you use your head.
Are you ready for a baby?
Probably not or you wouldn't be trying to prevent pregnancy. So, why risk it further?
You already risk it when you do have sex. So, why would you want to take a greater risk?
Sex isn't going to be magically better because you stopped buying and using condoms. It isn't going to be make things suddenly wonderful. It isn't going to happen. Whatever you think it's going to do is probably very wrong.
Use your head.
Keep using the condoms and the hormonal birth control pills if you don't want a baby. There is no reason in the world why you should up the risk factors here. There's no reason why you should have to deal with an unwanted pregnancy. There is no reason why you should worry when your period is just a day late. There is no reason why you should be afraid that just 1 sperm made it's way to your egg.
Everyone should always use a back-up method when they don't want to get pregnant. The pull-out method is no a good back-up plan.
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What to say (link)
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There are tons of things you can say at a funeral that are acceptable. Sometimes all a person wants to know if that you're there for them or that you're not taking the person's loss easily either. Here are a few basic lines you can say to family members, friends, and other loved ones as a funeral:
I am so sorry for your loss. This really hit me hard.
We just to remind ourselves that he/she is in a better place now.
I know this is hard on everyone here and I just want to let you know that if you need an ear to listen or a should to cry on then I am absolutely, one-hundred percent here for you.
I know this is such a great tragedy but we can get through this loss together.
NAME was really a good person and I'm so glad we got the opportunity to spend time with him/her here on Earth.
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if someone wants to send im message to me whats the procudre (link)
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I'm not entirely sure what you're asking because of your poor spelling and grammar; however, I will try my best to take a good stab at answering you correctly.
IM stands for instant messenger. IMing is faster than e-mail if both people are online at the same time.
You can Instant Message (IM) someone and receive Instant Messages (IMs) after installing a program onto your home computer. Some of these programs include: MSN, AIM, ICQ, Yahoo! IM or YIM or Y!M, and Skype. You can find many of these online by going to Google and typing in one of the above acronyms. From there you will select an appropriate page and download the program, following their series of links.
You will be prompted to create a username and password for you IM program. You can choose any name and any password that is currently available. Try to pick something neutral and not embarrassing.
Then, tell your friend that you have an IM program called [whatever you chose], and that they can send you an instant message through that free service. Write down your username you chose and give it to your friend. When they sign-up and download the IM program they will be able to send you a message if you have the program running on your computer at the time.
As for sending messages on Advicenators, this just isn't a social networking website. This is a place for advice so we don't have anything like that set-up for our disposal. We don't need to chat with friends while we're answering serious questions on Advicenators. That's why many people here have IM programs like I listed above and they can find out other Advicenators' usernames for those programs by looking at their specific column information.
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What are the dangers of giving a blow job? I am from Jamaica. (link)
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Serious risks of engaging in oral sex with a man or a woman include:
1. Herpes is probably the biggest STD risk during oral sex. Both strains of herpes can live in the mouth or the genitals, and particularly during outbreaks (cold sores, herpes lesions) can be passed from one place to the other. More than 50% of a random group of people will have antibodies to the virus (indicating some level of infection). Genital herpes is complicated and uncomfortable. Herpes can be passed on even if no sores are present.
2. Chlamydia and gonorrhea can infect your throat, showing strep like symptoms. These can also infect the eye; eye infections can have serious consequences. Roughly, 80% of women who have chlamydia have no symptoms and it can prevent them from ever having children.
3. HIV can be passed through unprotected oral sex. The infected semen/precum or vaginal fluid must enter the body through a cut or sore in the mouth or esophagus. You may not even be aware you have a cut in your mouth or throat. Some people take up to 10 years to show that they have contracted HIV/AIDS.
4. HPV can be passed during oral sex. HPV has been found on vocal chords. There is no test to find out if a man has HPV and men usually show no symptoms.
5. Syphilis can be passed similar to HIV. Signs and symptoms are indistinguishable from those of other diseases so some people go a long time without knowing they have it. Mothers can pass this onto their babies without knowing it.
6. Hepatitis A is also a risk, but usually only oral-anal contact. Hep A is not a chronic condition like Hep B and C, but can make a person quite sick several weeks.
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when will my period come again??! will it come every month or every 5 weeks or every 26 days??? can you please tell me examples of others? i still cant figure out mine and its been about a year... (link)
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Your period should come every 28 days.
Mark your calendar as such:
Day 1 of your cycle is the very first day you start having your period. 28 days later you should have your period a second time.
Some women don't have exact of perfect cycles. You should see blood once every 23 to 32 days. It depends on your own cycle, really. Nobody can magically predict when your period will come again if it's irregular, you know?
So, mark on a calendar day 1 when you first get your period. Count 2 for the next day, 3 for the next one, 4, and so on until you get to 28. Around that date, whenever your day 28 falls on, you should be getting your period again. If it's off by a few days then don't worry.
If you notice you're getting your period, say, every 26 days then instead of expecting it to come on day 28 then just count to 26 and expect it then. You know what's normal for you after a little while of tracking your cycle.
http://www.MyMonthylCycles.com can help you track this cycle if you don't have a calendar you can mark up. You'll have to input your day 1 onto that calendar for it to help you figure out what 28 days later will be.
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I know this guy at school and he has genital warts. He was telling us he got it from his ex girlfriend who had hpv. Well, I saw him coming out of the bathroom a couple of times and it always looks like his hands weren't washed. I have a computer class after him and we set at the same desk so I have to touch the same computer he's used right after. Can you get stds like this? I thought about like bringing some wipes with me and just wipe off the keyboard first just in case. What do you think? (link)
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I never really thought of it but I suppose it is a good possibility.
Newer studies have found strains of HPV and herpes living deep under the nails of humans. Because of this some people even contract, say, genital warts during masturbation. It can be difficult to wash out the virus strains if you don't use a nailbrush and some good soap and water.
So, while the risk is probably not extreme you could still take precautions anyway. Remember though, lots of people probably touch this guy's hands every day and don't contract the virus either. The risk isn't insanely great if he isn't touching you genitals or mucus membranes.
Still though, wiping off the keyboard isn't the worst idea and if you wash your hands thoroughly after class with a nailbrush and soap then it can't hurt.
I wouldn't freak out on the guy though or make a scene. He doesn't purposely touch the keyboard in hopes of infecting you ;)
You also have to take into account everything you touch and who might have what and not disclosed it. You could sit at a desk every day of someone who has AIDS. You don't know and, because of that, you don't go to great extremes to "protect" yourself against it.
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I totally love to chat w/other ppl but I'm Filipino and wanna chat w/other ppl like me from the Philippines or used to be from the Philippines. Where can I meet other Filipinos online? :) (link)
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Hi there!
There are lots of Filipino or Pinoy groups on Google search. There are even forums dedicated to people from the Philippines. Here are just a few:
http://filipinoforum.net/
http://www.asiafinest.com/forum/index.php?showforum=22
http://www.dcapture.com/mff/
http://www.yeepe.com/chat/pinoy_chat.asp
http://www.ichatfilipina.com/
http://www.thefilipinochat.com/
http://www.filipinocupid.com/
http://christian-filipina.com/
From there you will just want to become a registered member and ask if anyone else uses whatever chat program(s) you use. Try using more than one program to help find multiple friends. There is MSN, AIM, Yahoo! Messenger, Skype, etc. Ask around see if there is anyone around your age that you'd like to chit chat with from time to time! :)
Remember to play it safe and never disclose your personal information to strangers over the internet. While it's great to expand your friendships and meet new people you should be aware of your own personal protection. Never divulge your full name, address, phone number, or any personal identification.
As for the above sites directed to dating, you can always seek strictly friendships, I'm sure. Many sites like that probably offer the ability to write something about yourself or fill out a few forms that would allow you to say, "I only want FRIENDS." Be smart, be safe, have fun.
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ok im single male 41 yrs old, always have been 100% dorky but now gianned weight with age. nevr have been any good with females at all. started masturbating and continued regular since high school about 5 times a day. lately i have been experimenting with cross dressing in panties as a way to get off, as the regular got manotinous. my doctor told me that its like doing drugs i have to keep upping the ante for same effects.
my question is - i have NO feelings for dudes or being a women , but does wearing panties make me gay or bi, even though i have none of those thoughts or feelings or is it just being a horny lonley guy? (link)
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It does NOT make you bisexual or homosexual at all. Whoever says it does is absolutely, flat-out, ignorant when it comes to human beings.
There are actually many, many straight men who enjoy wearing women's clothing, lingerie, and even wigs. Many times straight men find it fascinating to cross-dress. Some just like the soft feel of women's clothing, too. There are lots of cross-dressing catwalks and what-not that a lot of straight men attend because they just think it's fun, for whatever reason.
Everyone has sexual preferences. Everyone has fetishes. Everyone has likes and dislikes when it comes to sex.
Just like there are women who love to wear men's clothing, there are always going to be men who love to wear women's clothing. It doesn't mean anyone's sexual identity has changed. I have LOTS of female friends who wear men's boxers but I NEVER pointed at them and said, "OMG! You're a lesbian now!" And I'm certain some woman, some where, gets sexually turned on by wearing men's underwear. Doesn't change her sexual preference.
If you don't find men sexually appealing and you do not want to engage in sexual behavior with a man then you are straight. It's as simple as that. There's no twisted, "Well, I like lacy panties..." that makes a person's homosexual. It's the urge to act upon sexual feelings for the same gender. Nothing more. Nothing less. If you don't have desires of acting sexually with another man then you're straight.
It's like seeing a man and saying, "Wow, I really like his abs. That looks good." It doesn't mean the person commenting is a homosexual male. It means he's seen a visually attractive man and recognizes what he likes about that body. It may cause him to work-out more frequently and pay more attention to his abdomen muscles. It doesn't mean he wants to bed the guy. It doesn't mean he wants to go down on him. It doesn't mean he begins sexually fantasizing about him. It just means he found something visually appealing. It's natural. It happens. There's nothing wrong with it. Lots of men thought guys like John Wayne were amazing--didn't make them gay at all. Heck, lots of them wanted to BE John Wayne because they liked his physic, his stride, his whatever made him John Wayne. Just sayin'!
If you like women then you like women. If you want to have sex with women then you aren't homosexual. If you do not want to have sex with men then you're not bisexual. If the only gender you have sexual, lustful feelings toward is female then you're a very straight man.
It doesn't matter if you want to run around naked all day--you're sexual preference hasn't changed. You could dress up like a bright red lobster every day of your life and nobody is going to point at you, screaming, "Oh my god, he's a loberster-ist!"
There are women who like their men to dress up like other women, believe it or not. There are women who think it's sexually appealing to see their boyfriend, husband, partner, whatever in lacy panties and a silky bra. It doesn't mean they're lesbians at all. It means they have sexual desires, fantasies, fetishes, etc. It means they're human.
I wouldn't worry about it at all. Your "acting out" isn't harmful in any way. Seriously. There are a lot more fetishes out there in the world that are more serious then this sort of thing.
Relax. Calm down. Ignore your doctor's pleads for you to stop. If it makes you happy then it makes you happy.
It'd be different if you were going out and harassing people or having bad thoughts of like, say, rape. THAT would make therapy very important. If you're doing this dress-up in the privacy of your own home and there's no other people involved that this could wind up being detrimental to their physical or mental health then this is probably very well in the range of safe and acceptable.
Dressing up in the other gender's clothing? In the privacy of your own home? Please. That is far from extreme or perverted.
Your normal. Congratulations. Find a doctor who doesn't think you wanting to wear women's clothing is WAY out of the norm. If he/she thinks you dressing in lingerie is "upping the ante" for more sexual pleasure then there's either more going on and you've been "upping the ante" for years now and have told him or he is absolutely clueless when it comes to sexual behavior in adult humans. I don't know what you've told him in the past--but you do.
If you feel you're spending entirely too much time focusing on sexual pleasure then get a hobby. Go out more frequently. Find some friends (online or otherwise) that aren't going to act sexual. Volunteer in your local community. Masturbating a couple of times a day is probably nothing extreme though--panties or no panties.
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Hi I want to be Wednesday Adams for Halloween and I was wondering where I could get a dress like hers? I DONT want an actual Halloween costume, just a look-alike outfit. Please and thankyou :D (link)
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So, I went searching for Wednesday Addams dresses and found a whole bunch of matches. Most of them were considered to be costumes though, but a few of them were even handmade on sites like Etsy. The main problem is that she's seen in a few different dresses and so it kind-of is based on the movie, show, or photo image you prefer. Anyway, I'll share the list of what I found and maybe there is something you're interested in:
http://www.lavintage.com/Wednesday-Addams-Dress-80s.htm
http://www.oasis-stores.com/Lace-and-Bow-Dress/Dresses/oasis/fcp-product/3660025005
http://www.etsy.com/listing/58520790/vintage-black-dress-white-peter-pan?ref=sr_gallery_5&ga_search_query=wednesday+addams&ga_search_type=all&ga_page=&order=&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title
http://www.etsy.com/listing/55741012/vintage-tuxedo-black-and-white-Secretary?ref=sr_gallery_13&ga_search_query=wednesday+addams&ga_search_type=all&ga_page=&order=&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title
http://www.etsy.com/listing/57251767/vintage-black-dress?ref=sr_gallery_21&ga_search_query=wednesday+addams&ga_search_type=all&ga_page=&order=&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title
http://www.etsy.com/listing/52372722/vintage-80s-wednesday-addams-in-polka?ref=sr_gallery_40&ga_search_query=wednesday+addams&ga_search_type=all&ga_page=&order=&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title
http://www.etsy.com/listing/35026585/wednesday-at-the-newspaper-office-40s-or?ref=sr_gallery_7&ga_search_query=wednesday+addams&ga_search_type=all&ga_page=2&order=&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title
http://www.etsy.com/listing/58261565/gothic-long-wednesday-dress?ref=sr_gallery_1&ga_search_query=wednesday+adams&ga_search_type=all&ga_page=&order=&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title
http://www.bonanza.com/booths/BombshellResale/items/WEDNESDAY_ADAMS_ISAAC_MIZRAHI_DRESS_SMALL
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Okay i really need help, i want to start college fall 2011 but like any other teen im broke lol how can i get full scholarships and grants that i dont have to pay back? who do i talk to? I was also told since i have a disabled mother that i can get a full ride since in technically still a dependent or whatever but i need to find out how i go about all this please and thanks in advance! :] (link)
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Talk with the counselor of the college you'd like to attend.
There are many, many, many grants available. The Pell Grant is probably something you will qualify for--and it will completely pay for the first so many semesters of college. You can even fill out an application online for the Pell Grant (and many other grants). Speak with your counselor about that sort of thing, too, because they usually have a whole list of websites you can get started with.
Talk with the school counselor and see what he/she has to say and offer. If you get started now then you'll be able to apply for local scholarships, too. The school counselors (even at your high school, probably) should know a thing or two about this.
The college counselor will know more because they deal with this sort of thing every single day. Somebody is always trying to reach out for tuition and they're pretty good about pointing you in the right direction, too.
Get started now and talk to these people. They know how college, grants, and scholarships work.
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I am a 15 yr. old girl. 2 days ago a guy was asking me really awkward questions like: would i date him? when would i have sex? etc...(i ignored these) then he put his arm around me and was grabbing at my side. the next day he asked me to the homecoming dance, but i thought he was joking so i said no immediately and he walked off. Now what should i do?
*please understand that i'm really shy and socially awkward! (link)
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You should be proud of yourself for being straight-forward and telling this loser "No!" to the dance.
Think of it this way:
This strange guy that doesn't know you and that you don't know at all just asked you if you were easy.
Easy, as in, slutty.
Slutty, as in, you'll let him have sex with you.
Sometimes ignoring questions about having sex does send the wrong message to the guy. The guy assumes that you don't want to just flat-out say, "Yeah, we can have sex if you're nice to me for a few days..." so he decides to push it a little and see how easy you are. In this case, he thinks you're going to be easy to get into your pants.
Get over this loser and be glad you said no. Find a guy who isn't going to meet you saying, "Hey, I'm horny. Can we have sex?" Because, seriously, those types of guys are the ones that will leave you beaten and broken, emotionally.
Be glad you said no.
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You know how a guy's penis can be fat? When does that happen? Like when he's older or what? We were talking about reproduction and growth at school and they were saying about the average size of a penis. But does it get fat the same time it gets long? I'm confused? (link)
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The penis is just an extension of the body. It grows just as the rest of the body does. It doesn't widen at a particular time in a man's life.
Think of it this way:
A fat person.
When did they get fat?
Over time, of course. As they grew, of course. As they aged, of course.
There's no way to cause the girth of a penis to get thicker just because you, say, had your 15th birthday. It'll grown on it's own through puberty and natural growth cycles during the lifetime.
Next time bring this sort of thing up to your teacher so that they can clarify this information to everyone in the classroom. Chances are, you aren't the only one that was a little confused and curious about penis growth.
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Current belly ring scar caused by 1st pregnancy. Will scar get larger with 2nd pregnancy? How to prevent scar from stretching? (link)
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Any scar on the abdomen is likely to get stretched out and widen during pregnancy. The likelihood the scar would expand is pretty high, but, of course, nobody can guarantee that.
Pick up some lotions and moisturizers for pregnant women and mothers-to-be. It will help heal the scar some and will help the skin to retain elasticity, which will help during the tummy expansion. Apply the lotions and creams multiple times a day before, during, and after pregnancy.
There are scar creams you can purchase over-the-counter but I'm unsure if they are safe to use while pregnant. I would speak with your doctor if you're interested in that more.
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I have a crush on a boy and am fairly certain that it is mutual. But there's this other guy in my class who likes to talk to me and walk with me. He's a cool guy but I definitely don't like him as more than a friend.
I notice my crush stares at me when this other guy sits next to me and starts talking to me and I feel bad! I want my crush to know that I like HIM and only him! But obviously I'm I don't want to admit it myself -_-.
How do i make this other guy go away?? (link)
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It may just be time to simply approach your crush.
Dumping off a possible-friend (male or otherwise) could end up being a bad move. Friends are always good to have around. Even if this guy has intentions on being more than a friend it doesn't mean you should completely dismiss his presence because you have a crush on someone else.
Go on and make your moves to your crush. He'll get the idea that you're not even interested in the guy that is hanging around you often. On your first date with your crush you can even bring up, "Yeah, the guy in history is a pretty nice friend but sometimes I wish you and I could talk some more instead."
Ask your crush if he's free for the weekend if you're up to it. If you can't bring yourself to ask him out publicly then you can give him your phone number or ask for his.
If you find yourself not even wanting to be friends, now and in the future, with this one guy then you can just be honest and straight-forward with him by dropping the bomb:
You: "Hey, can I ask you something private?"
Him: "Sure. Yeah. What is it?"
You: "I have a HUGE crush on BOY over there. Do you think he might like me back?"
Ta-da! Flirty boy might be hurt if he was interested in you but it does get the point across. The only thing left that is a possible "danger" is that flirty-boy might get jealous/upset and tell everyone about your crush.
Which means, you would have been better off asking you crush to get to know you better before ;)
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I am a female and I have a problem with getting really bad raxor burn when I shave my area. I usually take really hot baths and let it soak for a while and then use conditioner and shave. But when it starts growing bad I get really bad bumps and ita very annoying. Any suggestions? (link)
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Exfoliate the area before you shave, moisturize directly after with a thick lotion, and then exfoliate the following day (following with another application of thick lotion). There are some nice exfoliating mits or gloves you can purchase in your bath and beauty care section of the stores to help avoid using exfoliates getting into the vaginal area and setting up infections.
Try to use something thicker than conditioner to shave. There are creams, lotions, gels, and foams specifically made for shaving the pubic region. Conditioner for hair is just too thin usually.
There is also some red bump reduction gel you can purchase from stores in the shaver area. I'm not entirely sure what the name of the stuff is but I did hear it works well. The bump reducing gels should help protect the skin enough from razor burn.
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