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i am 13 and i just started cutting myself on my wrist i mean they arent deep but there still cuts idk what to do bc it feels so good but i really want to stop i look at the cuts and i do it again i use bobby pins what should i do i told my mom and dad anad there getting me help but i dont think thats going to help ill still do it what should i do ?
It is a good thing that you told your mom and dad, Getting help is the best thing you can do for yourself. To be able to stop, You must want too stop. Anything is possible and cutting yourself can lead to scarring and death. Every time you feel an urge to cut yourself go and do something you enjoy doing walk or listen to music. If you are going to seek help, You have to try and go with a positive outlook not a negative one. Anything is possible
what does it mean when a guy friend says he likes you as a friend
It means he doesn't see you more than a friend, He isn't attracted too you in a boyfriend/girlfriend way, He just wants too be friends and nothing more.
i lost my viginity at 13, and since then i havent been able to stop, im now 15 and have sucked over 50 differnt boys, and i have had sex with over 30 differnt guys, i also done anal with 10 differnt guys. i really cant stop even though i feel so ashamed its like a thing that im so used to it feels very normal , im only 15 and all the guys have been 16 -35 years old... iv done threesums and all sorts, am i addicted or just a dirty slut?
You need to seek professional help from a therapist, This is not normal.
You are only 15 years old, Having sex with so many different men can lead to STD's, AIDS and Unwanted Pregnancy. You are putting yourself at great risk. As consensual as you may make it seem having sex with men over the age of 18 is statutory rape. It is 100% WRONG.
It is good that you see the problem now the next step is to do something about it, Seek professional help. If you have to sit down with your parents, Then do so because in the end it is about your safety and well being. Tell a school counselor or someone you trust but in the meantime you need to stop having sex. It's disgusting to be having sex with so many guys at your age, Sorry to be harsh but that is just gross.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years, he has had a really horrible up bringing in an abbusive home when he was a kid, we currently live together and i have recently found out I am pregnant.
He gets angry all the time, over the smallest things, like loosing a game of fifa or something, when he does get angry he always punches the walls, doors or breaks things but if i say something he doesn't like or tell him to do something i get hit, punched, kicked and i have almost lost the baby twice already because he has hit me in the stomach. I feel like i need him to be independent though, and he tells me to get out of the house all the time, and tells me i won't get anything in the flat/car etc. he calls me names all the time, swears at me continuously and shouts at me in public if i need the toilet or something. But, when he is in a good mood, he is a really great boyfriend.
In November 2009 i was invited to a party and i was getting ready and it was a dressing up party, he told me to drop his friend off at the train station which i did and when i got back he locked me out of the house and had thrown all of my clothes through the window, for no apparent reason, i picked up my clothes and told him to let me in, he made me beg, i was on the doorstep crying and begging at 11pm at night in the freezing cold in a tarty dress, i was begging for around an hour when i picked up a brick and tried to bash the door down, i only managed to put a scratch on the door, but he called the police and was put in jail that night. he pressed charges for criminal damage and i now have a criminal record, but the day after i got out of jail he apologised and we were back together the week after.
I just feel like i can't leave him, but i just don't know what to do to stop his behaviour. I am terrified of him when he is like this, but i don't know how to stop it. Pleease Helpp!+
GET OUT IMMEDIATELY
Your boyfriend is abusive, You stated you have almost lost your baby twice before hand. You need to tell someone how he is treating you, Call the police. For you and the sake of your baby.
This asshole needs to be nowhere but jail, Leave before he ends up killing YOU and YOUR baby.
Here is a great website you can also go too. It's called RAINN it stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network.
http://www.rainn.org/
Here is also a hotline you can call it is 24 hours
1-888-7HELPLINE
You need to get out of the house ASAP, If you have nowhere to go at the moment grab your stuff and go to a local womens shelter but GET HELP.
After you get yourself out and situated look into Therapy and Support Groups.
Anything is possible, You can do it but you have too take these steps too get there.
Keep me posted
my ex boyfreind kenny and I just broke up about a month or 2 ago. Iam going to give you an idea about how are relationship was when we were dating. First of all he kept ending the relationship and then he always wanted to rry it again and I would always give him another chance becouse I belive that there is good in everybody. The last time we broke up he wrote me a 4 page letter talking trash about me and saying it's my fault that he tried to overdose and kill himself by tanking 20 tranquilizers and it would've be my fault if he would have died that night well I took his number out of my contact list on my phone so I didn't know who it was when he called or wouldn't have answered the phone but he said he's coming back to the center on monday and he told me that I better watch out and I want to know what he is talking about?
Let someone know what he said too you, If you still have the letters give them to someone at the facility.
Your ex is making threats, He is putting guilt on you and most of all his bullying you.
If your ex is still making phone calls too you then you should go to your local cell phone provider and get your number changed. Usually the first time around they might do it for free but the second time around they charge. It's wrong, What he is doing too you is harassment. Report it
My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for a long time, but I really like him.
He's very funny, cuddly, sweet, and smart. He and I share a lot of interests and I feel like we have a good chemistry. I spend a lot of time with him, almost every other day, and when we're not together we talk a lot.
But I'll admit that sometimes I get sketchy about our relationship. For one, he is very...clingy. He always wants to be all over me. Always handsy and groping me and at first it was very passionate touching but now it's getting sexual. He usually stops when I say no but starts a while later again. I sometimes think he just wants me for sex. He claims he doesn't, but I don't know. I feel weird sometimes.
Another thing is that he's always distracted. Everything is too important for him to be on the phone with me. The tv is always on as well as the videogames. He barely says a word. I express my concern and he doesn't do much about it. It's like clockwork. I just stopped calling for a day but if I don't call him we don't talk all day because he's grounded from his yahoo and Facebook.
I really really like him. I still want to be with him without being weird and naggy and trying to change him. What do I do?
If you feel all he wants is sex, Then there must be a good reason why you feel that way.
Lets look at what you've said;
1. He has been getting sexual lately, When he is asked to stop he does but a little while later it picks up again.
Sound to me that he isn't getting the no part, He is being persistent and pushy. Does it sound like he wants sex? If you want my honest answer Yes.
You said you two haven't been dating that long if he isn't willing to wait and respect you, Then he just isn't worth your time. Respect plays a huge role.
When a guy plays video games half of time the time they go into their own world, They forget reality. If your boyfriend can't lay off his video games for a half an hour or so..You've got yourself a problem. The way you can generally tell if he is into you for you is by the way he talks, acts and most of all his actions. If he seems pushy and constantly or often bringing up sex or even his little "fantasies" then you should eventually start to suspect that he is your typical horny teenager.
My boyfriend chats with this other girl while we are talking and I'm not stupid I can see they are talking but he doesn't tell me. It feels like a knife in my stomach and I start shaking so I end up telling him good night and going to bed where I lay awake for hours crying. Now I know that is probably pathetic crying over a guy and all. But this is stupid. Why can't he just be honest with me and TELL me that he is talking to this girl or something. I hate her already. I've already talked to him about it last time when he said I was over reacting and I asked him to PLEASE tell me if he talking to her instead of letting me FIGURE IT OUT. Idk what to say to him today, I'm .... in a very bad mood.... should I avoid him or not... this is so messed up. He loves to say that "well I can be friends with whomever I want" I KNOW THAT OKAY GOD I KNOW!!!! But what if that girl is KILLING ME ON THE INSIDE... geez
ADVICE PEOPLE PLEASE!!!!
Chill out,
If your boyfriend is just talking to a girl then it should be fine. It is not fair too tell your boyfriend who he can and can't be friends with. If you continue to act jealous then you will eventually push him away. As long as he isn't crossing any lines it should be fine and you should trust him. It is normal to be jealous but don't go overboard and get out of hand just chill out a bit. If it bothers you talk to him about how it makes you feel insecure but don't drag him out of having friends that's not right.
Hi. I have been experianceing the following for the last week or so: having to go to the bathroom alot, being very thirst all the time, loosing 10lbs in 1 week, and stomach cramps. I was wondering if i should contact a doctor and what they could be syptoms of because i am 11 years old. Thanks.
You need to contact the doctor ASAP, 10lbs in a week is not normal.
so i'm going out with this boy and he has a stalker ex girlfriend that doesn't stop calling him baby and babe she is doing whatever it takes to break us up even get my best friend into it. what do i do?
You do nothing, Ignore it. This is your boyfriends ex and he is the one that should say something. If he doesn't like it, Then he needs to tell her it's over and she needs to stop harassing him. If your best friend is such a good friend then she should have no reason to try and ruin your happiness. Try talking to her, Let her know how it makes you feel and see if she can talk some sense into his ex. Likewise she is jealous and can't stand to see her ex happy with someone else. As long as you don't show it bothers you she will get no reaction from it and over time it gets boring...it becomes pointless and it gets tiring because she isn't getting what she wants. Be strong, Don't let people come between you and your boyfriend. However, I do suggest having your boyfriend give her a little reality check. If she doesn't stop, Continue to ignore it eventually she will get bored and move on.
I'm a sophomore girl, fifteen years old. I dated a guy all through my freshman year, when I was fourteen and he was sixteen, a sophomore at the time. We'll call him Matt. Matt and I started off and for the first six months, things couldn't have been better. It wasn't until he started pressuring me to do stuff (sexually) that we started to fall apart. I know now that what he did was wrong because he used guilt and at one point physical power to get what he wanted. At the time though, I didn't see it. I was SO whipped by him, and SO clingy. I thought I would be nothing without him. (He was my first boyfriend, kiss, fingering, hj and bj). I was only clingy because I felt so attached to him from all the physical stuff and I was so scared to lose him. Which I did... He broke up with me in a text and refused to see me in person to let us talk about it. His reason was "were just not working out". We did fight... A LOT. After we broke up he did a lot of shitty stuff. He tugged me around saying he wanted to get back together and then saying he didn't (he confessed it was cause he wanted action), he gave all of his friends and his baseball team VERY vivid descriptions of how far we went (and lied and told people we had sex). He told me I was a whore, worthless, that he only liked me for hooking up, and so on...
I can't even begin to explain how much all of that tore me up. It was the worst summer of my life. I cried myself to sleep almost everysingle night... I ended up deleteing him from my phone, deleted him from facebook, refused to talk to him... And I finally started getting better. However. Halfway through the summer he tried to apologize for everything he did. He went on for a long time... But I said no, and told him I didn't wnat to forgive him because I couldn't trust him to not hurt me again. That I couldn't even be friends with him because I was scared to trust him in any kind of way. I told him he had hurt me too many times and I was in no condition to be able to take another round. He didn't like that and we ignored eachother again until school started.
When school started I was tired of hating him. It took too much out of me to keep it up and I just wanted to forgive him because I knew if I didn't, I would never be able to forget. Forgive and forget ya know? I needed to just be done with it. So I told him I forgave him. And that I was sorry it took me so long and that I was sorry for anything hurtful I might of said (even though he said I hadn't) and that I was sorry for being so clingy during the relationship (he said that wasn't completely my fault). And we seemed good. But the thing is... Now...
Now it's been about six months of us being friendly. We'll text every so often, but not much. I have dated another guy but I ended it... because I still had unresolved feelings for Matt. I don't think I do anymore. Matt has been dating this new girl but, I'm pretty sure they're breaking up soon... His best friend told me he was going to dump her cause he only liked her for the sex. Haha, he's still just as big of a douche. Anyway, I don't want him back or to ever be involved with him like that again. But it seems like everytime were alone together (which is kind of often... we go to this two person computer lab during studyhall together) we ALWAYS start talking about the past. And there's ALWAYS this energy between us. He's put his hand on my knee and rubbed my hand and I've pushed him off because he's a dirt bag and he's dating someone... but I STILL have this pull to him. And we fight... all the time. I can't even begin to describe our relationship. Were not friends... but we are? I don't know. I just feel like I'm never going to be able to have a normal relationship with him. What do you guys think?? Is it a bad idea to try and be friends with him?? And why is there still this spark there when he's hurt me so bad and for all this time I thought he didn't give a shit about me... which I really don't think he did. He never cared as much as I did, and I know that. But he gets angry when I say that. Even though its true.. UGH we just argue all the time and I jsut want us to be normal!! The weirdest part is, it was like one day he just stopped affecting me. One day, I stopped feeling this pang in my stomach when I saw him in the halls, and I all of the sudden just stopped wanting him. It scared me a little, haha. I don't even know whats going on... I'm so confused. please help! Oh he's a junior now, seventeen.
You need to stick to your ground, Stop letting him take advantage of you. If you can help it, Avoid being alone with him. Matt treated you like shit, He doesn't deserve a second chance or any kind of friendship in fact he needs to back off and that is exactly what you should tell him. The new girl, It probably is what you heard..He just wants to use her for sex. Sounds like he is putting her through the same shit he put you through, Therefore she isn't getting no special treatment she is learning the hard way. You probably miss what you two had in the very beginning of your relationship but you also need to realize that wasn't the real him. The real him came out when he started being an asshole towards you and you should keep telling yourself that. Just avoid him, Keep your distance. As long as you have any contact with him, You are making matters worse for you in the long run and you make it even harder to forget about the situation. Meet someone who will treat you right, Matt doesn't deserve the time of day. Also, The pit feeling fading is a sign that you are starting to move on. (Which is a great thing!)
can girls have sex when theyhave their periods?
Yes but you may experience discomfort and pain.
20/f Joe -19
So me and Joe used to "talk" but then after about 3 months he blew up for no reason and said he couldn't do this anymore and didn't wanna talk to me. I didn't talk to him after that. This was in January. I left him alone, I'm not like a lot of girls who would of texted him saying i missed him and stuff. I had no contact with him.
Then about a month after (In Feb) he chats me on facebook asking how i was. It started off okay but then he basically turned into a douche again.
I didn't talk to him still after that. Then about two weeks ago he randomly texts me at like 11 at night on a Saturday saying "hey can we still be friends?" He was drinking but not to the point where he was drunk or anything. He went on to apologize (twice actually) for being a jerk. Then we just talked about stuff until 4 in the morning.
The thing i'm wondering is, do you think he was thinking about me or what?? I didn't talk to him for like a month or two after he chatted me on facebook. I never contacted him since he blew up on me in January. I thought it was random how he texted me, but I won't lie I was kind of happy. All i wanted from him was an apology and he gave me one. He said sorry twice actually.
I was just thinking, maybe he was thinking about me this whole time?? Was it bothering him that I wasn't texting him like i miss you and stuff?? I don't know, what do you guys think??
You could of crossed his mind from time to time, Do you know anything about this guy? Does he have a girlfriend...I'm just asking only because he's blown you off twice before. You didn't really explain the relationship you two had before his blow out.
If you think he is sorry and sincere then go for it, However just remember you said he was drinking. Although he may not of been drunk at the time he still had a little alcohol in him and that doesn't mean he wasn't "relaxed" It's up too you but if you do take it slow, Don't be pushy or forward. Make sure he isn't bullshitting his way into leaving you for the third time. If he does it again then leave him for good, It would then be obvious he is just playing games.
Yesterday a nude of this girl in my school went around and I got it sent to my phone. I told two of my friends about it and they both asked me to send it to them, both of which deleted it right after. Now apparently this girl was seen with her mom and the cops in school today. And now I'm terrified.
Could I get in any sort of trouble? I'm 99% sure I know who got the picture in the first place and sent it around. I'm 16 and this nude or the girl is 16. Is there anyway I could get out of trouble if I get questioned or something?
Yes you could get in trouble, This is harassment and can also fall under child pornography and it is wrong. You should of reported the photo instead of sending it too your friends. How would you like it if someone did that too you?...The girl is probably looking to press charges against the person who went around sending her photo to people(s). Despite deleting videos/photos a cell phone can still easily be traced. IF there ever is a next time, Be smart and report it. You sure as hell wouldn't want to be the person being questioned by the police would you?
theres been i BIG misunderstanding...i post lots on here about paralyzed and car crash and a pool incident and cancer. some things i put on here are from my friends though. they know i get on here but dont wanna make an account so i write about them on here as me and tell them all of your feedback. appearently i am lieing about everything according to whoever runs this thing...but by the way, im definently not...MY life story...my TRUE life story...3 years ago my parents DID get arrested for child abuse. i went through months of emotional and physical abuse therapy. last year i was diagnosed with heart cancer and had to have heart surgery. last month, my cancer was making progress and healing so i didnt have to spend so much time in the hospital. so i was going to my teams softball game just to watch and me and my aunt were in a car accident. i am paralyzed from waist down for a few years if therapy goes good. i went to the hospital and met this other girl a year older then me (im 14)....her friend pushed her in a pool and became paralyzed for life and now her friend wont speak to her....so please help me and let me know what u think..?
If you have questions to ask then you should be the only one asking questions on your account. Perhaps you could suggest this site if your friends need advice?
im 16 going to 17 soon , and my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. The first time when we had sex was on our 4 meet up we used condom and so on... however we love having sex it gives us some beautiful feeling but we dont use condom anymore like it feels amazing without it, but im so scared to get pregnant however i did wanna have a baby with him but oh gosh my parents will freak out. I love sex , but i love doing it with him he was my firt ... but i told him i done it with two guys before . Strangest thing was when i lost my virginity to him i didnt bleed lool.. is that okay? please help :)
You need to start using a condom, Just because you aren't pregnant now doesn't mean it won't eventually happen. Sure, It feels great without a condom but reality is you are 16 years old and you are not ready for a child. If you think your parents would freak out...Don't you think there is a good reason for it? If you want to have sex then use protection, Be SMART! Not using a condom is an extremely irresponsible thing and you know it. End of lecture
Hi, i jusst wanted to know if me and my 2 week old boyfriend should break up? This all started today when i sat on his knee (its ok im 16) and he said that i farted..... and i didnt!!! The second thing is thaat he touched my friends boob. The third thing is that when i was going up the stairs at school he said that i should get my "big butt" out of his face!! i was like WTF! shut the hell up! and when we were going to leave, he just said bye. not love you. just bye. we usually say i love you before we leave to go home. but he didnt today. He is always embarrising me infrount of my friends and im not liking it :( he is a sweet guy though and very romantic. but is this just a bump in the road in our relationship or should i make it a standstill thing?? so do you think i should dump him or not?? (sorry this is soo long i just had to get all the details so that i can get a honest answer) so thanx :D
You two have only been dating for 2 weeks, Everyone is different but in my opinion that is a bit quick to say I love you too someone. Relationships take work and the main key of working it out and keeping it strong is too communicate with one another. Don't dump him over something that is an easy fix, If he embarrasses you in front of your friend then let him know. Also, Even if you did pass gas on his lap if he was mature enough he would laugh it off. Not hold it against you and as to second...Touching your friends inappropriately is unacceptable. You two are dating therefore he should be committed to you. However, If you really want the honest answer..He sounds a bit immature.
Since my boyfriend and I live a little far from each other and we go to different schools, it takes a lot to see each other. I usually see him every Saturday, Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. He rides his bike to the park by my house and it's a thirty min ride for him. I couldn't see him Tuesday, and he wants me to ride my bike to his house today.
Truth is, I don't have a very good sense of direction, and I don't like it. I know the general direction where his house is, but I feel weird because I'm not good at going long distances on bikes. I get tired easily. I really want to see him today, but I don't know. Plus, my parents work and sometimes I need to watch my baby brother and sister. I also have chores and everything, so it's kinda a mixed subject. My life is scattered and I never know what is going to happen during the afternoon, so I really don't know.
My boyfriend really wants me to see him today. I know a relationship is fifty fifty on making time for each other, and that means I need to make an effort too! If he travels that far for me, I need to do it for him too. I just don't know how to get there and I don't want to disappoint him if other plans get in the way. My parents don't know we're dating either, so it'd be risky for them to drive me there. I'm not sure why he won't ride his bike like always, but it's understandable that I need to do my part, too.
So any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.... Thanks so much.
Mapquest the directions or take a bus route.
30 minutes on a bike is really not that far away, I have biked to my friends house back in the day which is an estimated 25 minutes. If you want to make the relationship work then you are going to have to do your part just like you said. You can't expect him to put in all the effort, It doesn't work that way.
My boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 1/2 years he's 25 and im 19 we have been living together practically as long as we have been dating we started renting a house no more then 2 weeks after meeting each other it was like an instant connection type of thing, well everything has been more then perfect except for the last 2 months my boyfriend told me he needed space and wanted to be single, he wasn't kicking me out but he wants to be single he said that he was in relationships one after another and he wants to go out and have "fun" before he commits meaning sex so i know he's already hooked up with his ex several times but purley because he knows he can he dosent want any relathionship just sex.. and i know he's trying to hook up with other girls witch i cant say anything because i hooked up with my ex after we broke up, were still living together and sleeping in the same bed and once in awhile we will end up having sex.. i broke things off with the kid i hooked up with as soon as we did it because i know i was only doing it because my boyfriend( now ex) was doing it i thought about him the whole time and it was just bad, i made a mistake well everyone is telling me i need to get out of the house im in, my ex- boyfriend will go out and hang out with these girls during the day and then come back to me and everyone thinks its wrong.. witch in the back of my mind i know it is but i have never been this in love with anyone in my life i feel like i couldn't even breath without him and i keep thinking if he just gets this out of his system he'll come back to me, but everyones saying it wont work like that i dont know how to get myself out of this siutuation i litterally have no where to go staying with family is not an option for me, nobody has room i have asked friends to but, they can't anywhere i go im bringing my dog, we have 3 he's keeping 2 and im keeping 1 i dont know what to do, its a 1bd room house so were still sleeping in the same bed.. what would you do i guess is what im asking??
You need to get your living situation situated and fast, Do you have any family members? If not, Then I would be searching for someone who needs a room mate. Look at ads in the paper, Ask around. Your ex boyfriend is not being loyal to YOU and I don't know if has already crossed your mind but he is taking advantage of you and your body and you are letting him. If you two share a house then one of you sleep on the couch, You shouldn't be sleeping with someone who does not want to be with you for you. It IS wrong, It's very wrong. I would definitely be searching for another home or least a place someone can let you stay until you can get out on your feet. Search the papers like I said, Ask around and even offer to pay rent if you have too but get the hell out of the house.
I would sleep on the couch, If you two aren't dating then you should not be sleeping together. Talk to him, Make guidelines and let him know most of all that you will not be his booty call and he can't take advantage of you. Stand your ground
I'll be straight forward with this: can you be friends with an ex? How could you get back to that point? and Is it ever a good idea? I'm talking about after a break up with no big fights, you just weren't right for eachother dating-wise.
Everyone is different but with me, An ex stays an ex. It avoids tension, drama, unnecessary stress etc. I'd rather live in peace than to be associated with someone who might deliberately make your life hell.
is my 3 inch penis normal p.s. im 14 male
No, It's below average but keep in mind you are only 14 years old and still growing.
http://www.mraverage.com/stats.htm