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My boyfriend keeps hurting me and i don't know what to do??
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years, he has had a really horrible up bringing in an abbusive home when he was a kid, we currently live together and i have recently found out I am pregnant.
He gets angry all the time, over the smallest things, like loosing a game of fifa or something, when he does get angry he always punches the walls, doors or breaks things but if i say something he doesn't like or tell him to do something i get hit, punched, kicked and i have almost lost the baby twice already because he has hit me in the stomach. I feel like i need him to be independent though, and he tells me to get out of the house all the time, and tells me i won't get anything in the flat/car etc. he calls me names all the time, swears at me continuously and shouts at me in public if i need the toilet or something. But, when he is in a good mood, he is a really great boyfriend.
In November 2009 i was invited to a party and i was getting ready and it was a dressing up party, he told me to drop his friend off at the train station which i did and when i got back he locked me out of the house and had thrown all of my clothes through the window, for no apparent reason, i picked up my clothes and told him to let me in, he made me beg, i was on the doorstep crying and begging at 11pm at night in the freezing cold in a tarty dress, i was begging for around an hour when i picked up a brick and tried to bash the door down, i only managed to put a scratch on the door, but he called the police and was put in jail that night. he pressed charges for criminal damage and i now have a criminal record, but the day after i got out of jail he apologised and we were back together the week after.
I just feel like i can't leave him, but i just don't know what to do to stop his behaviour. I am terrified of him when he is like this, but i don't know how to stop it. Pleease Helpp!+
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I don't know legal things, but I am going to back everyone up by saying that you need to get out of this relationship, because it's for your own well-being and safety that you get out.
Like DN said- contact law enforcement. That's really the only advice I can give.
I hope everything works out and you are alright.
--Jack
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I am sorry, I wish I had better news. The simple fact is that the others are right... you have to go.
Contact your local law enforcement and have them escort you to get your things out of the house if it comes to that.
I understand that you love him, and you want things to work out... but you can't give him the help he needs, and until he makes the decision to change, nothing will help.
You can't wait around for a change that may never happen. Perhaps you leaving will shock him into seeking counseling. If he doesn't seek help, there really isn't any hope until he does.
I am sorry. You have to leave.
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I agree with Zane. You need to leave this relationship before something else happens to you or your baby. This guy needs LOTS of help but you aren't the one to do it.
Do not feel sorry for him because of his upbringing. He knows how it feels to be abused & yet he does it himself.
Leave him and do not feel sorry for him and go back just because he apologizes.
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GET OUT IMMEDIATELY
Your boyfriend is abusive, You stated you have almost lost your baby twice before hand. You need to tell someone how he is treating you, Call the police. For you and the sake of your baby.
This asshole needs to be nowhere but jail, Leave before he ends up killing YOU and YOUR baby.
Here is a great website you can also go too. It's called RAINN it stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Here is also a hotline you can call it is 24 hours
1-888-7HELPLINE
You need to get out of the house ASAP, If you have nowhere to go at the moment grab your stuff and go to a local womens shelter but GET HELP.
After you get yourself out and situated look into Therapy and Support Groups.
Anything is possible, You can do it but you have too take these steps too get there.
Keep me posted
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