My boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 1/2 years he's 25 and im 19 we have been living together practically as long as we have been dating we started renting a house no more then 2 weeks after meeting each other it was like an instant connection type of thing, well everything has been more then perfect except for the last 2 months my boyfriend told me he needed space and wanted to be single, he wasn't kicking me out but he wants to be single he said that he was in relationships one after another and he wants to go out and have "fun" before he commits meaning sex so i know he's already hooked up with his ex several times but purley because he knows he can he dosent want any relathionship just sex.. and i know he's trying to hook up with other girls witch i cant say anything because i hooked up with my ex after we broke up, were still living together and sleeping in the same bed and once in awhile we will end up having sex.. i broke things off with the kid i hooked up with as soon as we did it because i know i was only doing it because my boyfriend( now ex) was doing it i thought about him the whole time and it was just bad, i made a mistake well everyone is telling me i need to get out of the house im in, my ex- boyfriend will go out and hang out with these girls during the day and then come back to me and everyone thinks its wrong.. witch in the back of my mind i know it is but i have never been this in love with anyone in my life i feel like i couldn't even breath without him and i keep thinking if he just gets this out of his system he'll come back to me, but everyones saying it wont work like that i dont know how to get myself out of this siutuation i litterally have no where to go staying with family is not an option for me, nobody has room i have asked friends to but, they can't anywhere i go im bringing my dog, we have 3 he's keeping 2 and im keeping 1 i dont know what to do, its a 1bd room house so were still sleeping in the same bed.. what would you do i guess is what im asking??
But as far as that goes, you do need to leave. If he is "getting this out of his system" he should do it without you being here. Right now he has no reason to change. He hasn't really lost you and people are always gonna take advantage of you if you let them. Honestly you teach people how to treat you.
If you have a job, I would consider trying to find a cheap one bedroom or maybe even do a random roommate. It will be hard but I think it will honestly be worth it.
I know its really hard to get over someone because my boyfriend and I just broke up and we were also together for a year and a half. Its hard to actually accept these things and know that you deserve better. But you really do. You deserve someone who wants to see you all the time and doesnt care about any other girls. This guy is 25...it should be out of his system. You should be the one experiencing the fun. But he's put you in a position where your the victim. I really hope you know you deserve better and that he could get it out of his system but its gonna take a bit and hes gonna need you out of his life to realize that you were better than some random slutty girl.
Xui answered Thursday April 14 2011, 12:07 am: You need to get your living situation situated and fast, Do you have any family members? If not, Then I would be searching for someone who needs a room mate. Look at ads in the paper, Ask around. Your ex boyfriend is not being loyal to YOU and I don't know if has already crossed your mind but he is taking advantage of you and your body and you are letting him. If you two share a house then one of you sleep on the couch, You shouldn't be sleeping with someone who does not want to be with you for you. It IS wrong, It's very wrong. I would definitely be searching for another home or least a place someone can let you stay until you can get out on your feet. Search the papers like I said, Ask around and even offer to pay rent if you have too but get the hell out of the house.
I would sleep on the couch, If you two aren't dating then you should not be sleeping together. Talk to him, Make guidelines and let him know most of all that you will not be his booty call and he can't take advantage of you. Stand your ground [ Xui's advice column | Ask Xui A Question ]
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