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Is he cheating?
My boyfriend chats with this other girl while we are talking and I'm not stupid I can see they are talking but he doesn't tell me. It feels like a knife in my stomach and I start shaking so I end up telling him good night and going to bed where I lay awake for hours crying. Now I know that is probably pathetic crying over a guy and all. But this is stupid. Why can't he just be honest with me and TELL me that he is talking to this girl or something. I hate her already. I've already talked to him about it last time when he said I was over reacting and I asked him to PLEASE tell me if he talking to her instead of letting me FIGURE IT OUT. Idk what to say to him today, I'm .... in a very bad mood.... should I avoid him or not... this is so messed up. He loves to say that "well I can be friends with whomever I want" I KNOW THAT OKAY GOD I KNOW!!!! But what if that girl is KILLING ME ON THE INSIDE... geez
ADVICE PEOPLE PLEASE!!!!
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Sounds to me like he's being secretive and hiding something. Hmm, you need to talk to him on a more serious note. Let him know why you want to know if he's talking to this other female. Just tell him that you're tired of guessing and just want the truth. Let him know that you're not accusing him of anything you just want to know what's going on. If he's innocent he shouldn't have any problem with telling you what's going on. If he makes up more excuses then you have a problem.... he could be cheating. Just bring it up and see where it leads if he avoids the question then somethings is going on. Good Luck!
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I know this will be hard because from the looks of it he is in your mind and heart and it will be hard to let go, but LEAVE HIM. You take control of your life. This is YOUR life and you shouldn't have to live this way. You should be happy. Just break up with him and tell him your not stupid, you know the truth. Deep down you know he is cheating even if only with words. It will progress to physical cheating. I want you to get out there in the world and be the awesome you and fall in love with someone who really deserves you and treats you like a real woman. He sounds immature you can do better. Take control of your life. You said you start shaking, that is a very bad sign. He has a mental hold on you and it is making you physically ill. I have had this happen to me. I am 32 and trust me you'll learn about these guys they only care about themselves and what ever they feel like, but what about YOU?
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It's fine for him to talk to whoever he wants. I think it's fine as long as it's not like 24/7 and he's not flirting with her and stuff like that.
I guess I don't blame you on the way you feel though. Whenever I feel this way, it's mainly because I'm jealous and over thinking it all. I'm sometimes afraid that he's talking to her in a flirty kind of way.
I usually over react to that stuff because I did catch my ex talking to another girl about stuff they wanted to do with each other, if you get what I mean.
Anyway, not trying to make you paranoid but I just get how you feel.
If you bring it up to him alot, he'll probably get annoyed and you don't want to lose him right?
Let him talk to her and keep yourself calm about it. You have to trust him.
Don't be that over protecting girlfriend. Just keep calm and don't think about it so much. It'll be fine. Good luck!
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Chill out,
If your boyfriend is just talking to a girl then it should be fine. It is not fair too tell your boyfriend who he can and can't be friends with. If you continue to act jealous then you will eventually push him away. As long as he isn't crossing any lines it should be fine and you should trust him. It is normal to be jealous but don't go overboard and get out of hand just chill out a bit. If it bothers you talk to him about how it makes you feel insecure but don't drag him out of having friends that's not right.
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Your boyfriend can be friends with whoever he wants. Lets be honest, its not killing you, your just jealous.
Yes its wrong that he's lying to you or not telling you but from what I can tell your talking to him over a computer. I know that when I'm on my computer I multitask like a mad person. Some people just enjoy holding conversations with multiple people at once. You can't hold it against them, andif it honestly bothers you that much you need to re-evaluate how you look at relationships. Its not healthyto expect your significant other to stop talking to people simply because you don't like them.
I guess what I'm saying is you need to grow up. Or wait to start dating until your more mature.
Or you can always let it go and stop crying about it. Crying doesn't get you anywhere in life.
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He's right, he can be friends with whom ever he wants. I think you are over reacting, he's talking to the girl! not kissing or, or anything else. What's the problem? There's no need to cry yourself to sleep over him talking to somebody else. If him going about it in a secret way is bothering you then talk to him about that and say, I don't like how your keeping things from me because then it leads me to think that your doing other things. Something like that? which will then lead him to allowing you further into everything he does. What you need to do is take a step back and calm down because your over reacting, and this problem can be easily solved by a simple calm sit down talk. He could just not be telling you that hes talking to this girl because he can see that it hurts you so he wants to keep it away from you, or the fact that you react like this to him talking to someone else could be making him keep this from you. Go talk to your man, apologise for how you reacted and just be honest with how you feel about what he's doing.
Hope this helps, good luck xx
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