Gender: Female
Location: California
Age: 16
Member Since: April 24, 2011
Answers: 47
Last Update: April 27, 2011
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Iam 22 years old and my ex is 36 but I was only 21 when we was going out and after we broke up which is going on 2 months now and laley for the past 2 weeks Iam even more confused about us becouse things are getting back to the way they were before the breakup and iam afraid he will be controlling again like he was before like he always thought I was cheating on him and I never had the chance but why would I anyway I loved him with all my heart. when we was together I was always in his sight he never left me alone. He sayed it was for my own protection becouse other guys might take advantage of me it was like he didn't trust me at all. I know that's pretty bad and why would I want to be in a relationship like that and I really don't know like I said before iam confused. Right now the relationship is to good part again like I would color him pictures out of my coloring book, make him cards, and every now and then he will give me a kiss, or a hug. He we tell me he loves me and call me sweetheart or sweetie or babydoll can somebody tell me what's going on? (link)
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Obviously the age difference has a huge encounter on what's going on. You're still young and he's more experienced. He treats you like a child from what you are saying. He's not doing it for your own good he's doing it because it's convenient for him. He knows you are a beautiful young lady and he doesn't want you out of his sight because he knows you can find better. It's true you can! Everything he is doing now is just to get you drawn back in. It's not going to last long because people do not change over night. These are just temporarily actions. You need a more healthy relationship! If there is no trust in the relationship then there is no relationship. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and he has none for you!
Oh, another thing when it comes to controlling relationships STAY AWAY from them. Controlling relationships are NEVER good because typically it's full of jealousy. Jealousy leads to harmful things as in physical, emotional, or mental abuse. Get out while you can. Good Luck!
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Ok so me and my boyfriend had an amazing easter together. He invited me to his family reunion and i got to meet all of them for the first time. It was great I loved it. Then we had to leave because there was a tornado. And I was scared because we were driving through it. Then I felt save with him. He finally dropped me home.
Then the next day he talks to this girl on facebook. I get mad because I thought he loved me. I know it was stupid I was just a little mad though. We were going to hang out Tuesday since I had work on Monday. Then he tells this other girl about me and how I overreacted about it. So she's like I'm gonna piss her off and write on your wall and flirt with you. And he was ok with that because he didn't stop her. Then I get home and read it and I get so mad. I couldn't control my anger. He was telling me I had anger issues. I told him I was mad at him because he didn't need to make me madder than I already was.
Then I said I'm gonna block you. He didn't want me to block him. Then I ignored him for 2 hours. He finally talked to me and said there was nothing going on between the two girls. He loves me. And the thing that really pissed me off was he's like "I love that you care about it" and I said I don't fu*cking care about you anymore. He got mad and I dissed him more. Then he's like Goodbye, I'll miss you so much.
I didn't respond because I thought it wasn't real.
It's been 2 days straight. He blocked me on facebook, on skype, deleted my number (one of my friends told me that) and he just hasn't talked to me.
I know it's both of our faults. I know he was sick of the relationship. I know it's over between us. That was just the stupidest way to end it over a text.
I'm really strong about it because I've been hanging out with my friends and trying to move on because I want to he's a bad guy for me. He unblocked me on facebook today but we're not friends.
I know he wants nothing to do with me but I really miss him. I wish it didn't have to end...especially this way...
What do I do? I know I have to move on but I love him so much, I can't stand life without him. It's hard. I was with him for almost 2 years I want to be in a relationship with someone who really loves me. Because he never came back :'(
please understand. (link)
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Do you want to still be with this guy or move on? I understand that you two have been together for a while but if he isn't treating you like the princess you are then move on. You as a females should not settle for less in a relationship, have high standards and find someone that meet those standards. Yes, he was wrong for upsetting you more but you where totally wrong by how you came at him. Two wrongs doesn't make a right. You need to set aside your differences and call him or set up a date to meet so you two can talk about what happened and where you two want to go from there. Maybe you guys can be close friends because 2yrs is too much to just throw away. For now if you are trying to get over the relationship just take time out for yourself. Don't indulge in another relationship because the timing is not right. Wait a few months or so until you are able to say i love you as a friend and i have love for you but I'm not in love with you anymore. You deserve the best so remember that and if he wasn't giving you that then go find someone else who will. I encountered the same situation but mine was 4yrs and i had to move on now I'm happy it took a while but i go through it and so can you.
Good Luck!
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How to make my boyfiend stay interested? (link)
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Well, what's your age? Are you guys sexually active? Try new things in general and switch your routine up. Go to new places and experience new things together. Good Luck!
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theres this guy i have liked from the beginning of the skool year. he was my dream boy.. i loved him. he was the boy u hade dreamt of night and day. i got his IM address and we started talking and he had the nicest personality a guy had ever had. though we never talked in skool, he talked to me online like i was his best friend. he shared all his thoughts. then the febuary dance came and he asked me if i wanted to go with him. i was star-struck dancing around all alone. i said yes right away :). the dance came... i was all ready and glammed upp! i looked beautiful. i saw him in the halls and he didnt even make eye contact with me. i knew right away something was wrong. i arrived at the dance and i looked around anxously for him. my friends looked at eachother and told me they needed to talk to me. they said he wasnt gonna show up. my heart fell. to this day (may) i still feel the pain. i STILL love him. but he loves another girl.and i hate the fact that i didnt get a chance with the one boy in my life that i actually liked. so im asking you now,, what should i do to make him love me? we still talk but we arent as close as him and this other girl he likes. im scared and hurt. i need some advice on what i should do. should i talk to him at skool? online? flirt? leave him alone? please help. thanks. (link)
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Well, before you try to get in a relationship with this guy you need to talk to him personally. See why he stood you up. I would do this in person rather on i.m! I don't really think you are in love it seems to me that you are just infatuated with him. Once you guys talk you can tell him how you felt when he stood you up and how you like him or use to like him. Don't intervene with his current relationship though, because that would be cruel.
PS; If things do not work out between you to just move on and find someone better
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last week my boyfriend and i were having sex. we used a condom spermicide gel but during intercourse intercourse the condom came off but he kept going anyways. i realized that it felt different so i told him to stop because i didnt want to do it without a condom. do you think i might pregnant? (link)
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Well, if you know it's a such thing as pre-cum. Pre-cum can get you pregnant. So i advise you to go to the doctor to be sure because you could be if you have the pregnancy symptoms. Check and see if you have a irregular period or if you are sick. Good Luck!
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Hi i am thirteen and i play with myself! I dont know why i do it but i try to find anything that vibrates and i stick it down there it feels so good tto me but it makes me feel funny! but i love the way it tingles down my body and i am addicted to it what do i do??? (link)
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You're not addicted you're just at the age where you experiment and your body is going through hormonal changes. It's normal for females and males to go through this so don't feel afraid. You're fine you will soon grow out of it and if you don't after a few months or year make sure you talk to a counselor to be sure you are not addicted to sexual activity. Good Luck!
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I'm 17 (female), I think I always knew I wasn't straight but for some reason I still identified as straight and only really thought of myself as bi-curious (but in a way where I would only really consider males as possible partners). It's only recently that I've started to think I'm probably at least bisexual, and even more recently that I've started to think I might just be flat-out gay. The reason I'm thinking this is because it just suddenly dawned on me and it somehow feels 'right' and like everything suddenly makes sense. Except it doesn't, because I'm still terribly confused. I looked back at things from my childhood and throughout my life, and this is what I've got:
- I have this clear memory of being a little kid and thinking to myself, "I think I might be gay, I hope not." This doesn't make much sense though, since I'd never thought there was anything wrong with being gay and my family would be perfectly accepting of it. I remember then just pushing the thought away.
- As a little kid, I'd experiment 'sexually' (I find it hard to think of seriously, since we were just little kids) with other kids, but mostly girls, and I remember enjoying the experiences with girls a lot more, and being more into it than the other girls.
- However, I always had crushes on the boys. Looking back, though, a lot of them don't seem like crushes, more like trying to have a crush on someone you merely like as a friend. Some of them were legit crushes though.
From a young age, I've:
- Found female bodies more sexually attractive than male bodies, and have found females generally more aesthetically pleasing.
- Pasted pictures of women to my walls, never men. (I've never thought of this in a sexual way, though, more in a 'women are nicer to look at' way, or just because of fashion.)
- Loved lesbian fictional characters.
- Seeked out books which focus on lesbian relationships.
- Written about lesbian couples.
- Preferred lesbian porn to straight porn, lesbian erotica to straight erotica (started with this way too young, probably.)
- Fantasised about both men and women, but women more often.
- I often felt odd around girls, in a way I can't describe.
- Yet all through this, I fancied guys and not girls. I do, however, remember feeling oddly attached to certain female friends in a way which seems like a little more than friendship, looking back on it.
Looking back on all this, it seems odd that I did those things yet thought of myself as straight.
Now:
- I have no interest at all in images of naked men, yet images of naked women turn me on.
- I have had feelings for lots of guys, and only one girl.
- I've been in love with a guy.
- I've fantasised about men sexually, but in reality, it never feels right. I'm still a virgin, but the sexual experiences I've had with guys (even just kissing) have always either held no interest for me at all (just felt like going through the motions) or have been at once both enjoyable and offputting. I don't know the word, but it's felt kind of wrong at the same time, like I want to carry on but I also want to get away, and the next morning I usually feel dirty, ashamed and sickened.
- However, I've had sexual experiences with girls and have always felt fine about it (though I havn't gone as far as with guys, so it's hard to tell...maybe I'd still freak out if it got to that point?)
I'm really confused. The idea of my being gay, like I said, feels right. Yet I know I can't discount all the feelings I have had for males. And I do still get feelings for males. It's just...I don't know, it seems like I am emotionally attracted to men, but when it comes to sex, I'm more interested in women.
Sorry this is so long. I guess I'm not asking for advice as such, but rather, what does this sound like to you? I'm so confused so I'd like to know what you think. (link)
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From the looks of these you sound like you are lesbian. I believe you are confused on whether you want to pursue this or try to experiment with men. I do not think that you are really interested in men but you still want to try and experiment. To be sure you can always experiment and what ever you don't like or you like better then stick with that. Good Luck!
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I sorta like this guy who's a close friend, but he has a girlfriend. She's not exactly a friend but she's also more then an acquaintance. Is it worng that I like him? and wanna be more then friends? Of course I could never do anything until he and her break up, but I just wanna know if what im feeling is wrong? Im 15/f and he is 16 (link)
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Well it's not a bad thing that you like him as long as you respect him and his relationship. If you start to do things that will provoke him to cheat then you are in the wrong. If you are not friends with the girlfriend then you should have no problem. Just don't interfere with the relationship. When thin gs are bad for them and he comes to you to lean on then you can let him know how you feel. Good Luck!
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Do you think it is really possible loving someone but not interested in sleeping with him? or maybe it is just a lust?
I am a female and from Egypt...30yrs old. (link)
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Of course it is possible. Lust is when you just think you're in love but you actually have a sexually attraction to them.
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15/f
We were in class one day and he had made some kind of reference/motion to alcohol that I didn't get so I was like, "HUH?"
He was like, "PARTY."
"And?"
"DRINKING!" He said.
Then it hit me and I of course went, "OHHHH!!"
He said, "God, you're so retarded. You're so childish. I swear, I just want to yell at you sometimes! You're so frustrating."
And then he looks at me and starts laughing. I pound my head against my desk in frustration and he just laughs harder and says I'm "so funny", like he says all the time.
...I know I overthink things a lot, but is my friend bipolar or something? We're not close at all, just acquaintances more or less, so should I ignore him? After all, I'm not exactly childish, I'm just slow on the uptake on the darker things in life.. Why is that so annoying to him? Something like this seems to happen every time I don't get his jokes, but today he really kinda blew up.. (link)
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I'm not to sure if he's bipolar but he has anger issues. He's prob. doing this for attention. Just ignore him! It's ok not to understand everything at first, everyone has those moments you're not alone. Another thing just leave him alone if he constantly disrespects you by blowing up. Good Luck!
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My mom has been my bestfriend, the person who i could run to if or when i'm feeling down, i told her everything, we talk about everything, i always thought she was honest with me because she is a christian... My dad died when i was 12, we were sooo close and since then i 've never been the same, about 3yrs after i learnt that he wasn't my dad, from her mouth, for a month straight i couldn't look in the mirror straight because it was like i never recognize myself, my reflection....i didn't know who i was, now i don't even know how to trust her anymore. (link)
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I understand that you feel betrayed by your mother but you need to forgive her. It was a honest mistake she never intended to hurt you. You need to talk to her and explain to her how it devastated you. I can relate to this and i understand your pain. I had to forgive in order to not hold the burden over my shoulders. It took everything in me but it' worth not holding a grudge. Just talk it over. Good Luck!
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My girlfriend and I have just had some major issues and we've both come to the conclusion that this is best solved by just starting over 100%. We both agree on the idea, but neither of us really know how to do it...any ideas? (link)
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If you want to restart your relationship with a clean slate pull all problems and differences aside. Do not bring up what happened in the past whether it was good or bad. You're starting clean so it's like you two just meet for the first time. Try to reenact your first time meetings or maybe take her to a nice dinner and ask questions as if you never known her. Good Luck!
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do you have to wear a condom if you want to be given head at the age of 14? (link)
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Many people do not use condemns, but it is very risky. You can obtain diseases from oral sex as well. So always use protection!
PS; You're too young to be thinking about oral sex try to hold off until you are older and more experienced mentally. Good luck!
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ok well when my bf uses a condom i am only 12 so how much would sex hurt ??????? (link)
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Condemns do not effect the pain of sex. Another thing, you are way to young to be thinking about sex. Try waiting until you get older trust me you have your whole life ahead of you. Sex will forever be there, but once you loose your virginity it is forever gone! Good luck!
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I have many girls as friends, and some of them are really close like siblings. When they get a new boyfriend, I act hostile and give off a pissed off vibe. All I wanna do is protect my friend from getting hurt, but am I getting in their way? (link)
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Yeah, it seems like a sign of jealousy, but i understand that you are just protective over your friends. Some may appreciate your actions but then it will get old and bring a wedge in between your friendship. So i just say let them live life and just be there when ever they need you. Good luck!
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How do i know if my cherry has popped or not? (link)
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Cherry is a slang word for hymen. Sometimes people are not born with a hymen or they can tear it in many ways before sex. For example, Horse back riding, cheer-leading, ballet, etc. If you do have a hymen that's intact you can tell when it's torn sometimes by bleeding after sex. Not massive blood but a few spots.
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Whenever my mum sees me she points out everything that is bad about me. For example, I have just had my hair cut, and when I got home, she said she hated it. She said it was too thin, not long enough etc. I just feel so upset about my life and I want to die. (link)
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Tell your mom to STOP! You are beautiful and maybe that's her away of expressing her love. Yeah, it may sound ridiculous but many people do not know how to express love. Let her know that this is hurting you and it's not going in one ear and out the other. Just know that you are beautiful and no matter what people say at the end of the day you should be proud of yourself. Try looking in the mirror and picking out what you admire the most about yourself. I want you to understand your true beauty.. After you have completed this pull your mom aside and have a serious talk to her and explain she is hurting you. Good Luck!
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I'm 12 years old and my younger brother is basically 11. My mom has to spend days reminding him to do stuff like dishes or laundry but he never gets in trouble. My mom said if he didn't do the dishes on a certain day he wouldn't get his Ps2 right, he doesn't do it and the day after he gets it. Me, she told me to clean my room in an hour she never said when I had to start doing it and if I would get punished, after I do my home work(which takes an hour) my mom comes in and says, "Not done? No T.V. for a week." I clean my room after and nope, nothing I'm still T.V. free. Another example, there's no swearing in our house. I call Ethan a "dumbo" 'cause he's got big ears and I get my art rights taken away. He calls me a F---ing F--- and my mom says,"Don't say that to your sister. I'd get it if he was like maybe 4 or 5 years younger but this is too much. (link)
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Is your baby brother favored? Talk to your mom and explain to her how you feel. Let her know that you feel that you are treated differently and it bothers you. Maybe she has higher expectations for you so when you do wrong or what's not asked of you it upsets her. With your brother things may be different. Just talk to her and see what's going on. Good Luck!
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My boyfried and i had sex about a week ago. While we where having sex he asked me if i started my period because it felt different. i said no. afterwards i went to the restroom and i was spooting. i thought maybe we had sex to hard or something. but after a couple days i was still spotting. we had sex again this Friday and im still spotting. what could this mean? and im not supostoo have my period till the 25th or soo. what could this mean? (link)
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Maybe your period is coming early! If this continues to happen you might want to go to the doctor to be sure of what's going on. Hope that you're ok. Good Luck!
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i have two friends that i'm particularly close with. the three of us used to hang around each other all the time. one of my friend, A, used to have a guy that she's close to. obviously to all of us he was just playing with her but she really loved him. after they broke up (he really broke her heart), she confided with the other friend B the most. then we all found out that B is dating the guy. Now B and the guy are all lovey-dovey and A is heartbroken. The problem is im loyal to both of them and it's hard for me to remain sane. When im with A, i get mad at B for being inconsiderate. When im with B, i get mad at A (she doesnt have the best personality). I end up saying things i don't want to say to each of them about the other friend. I regret things i've said and talked about. i feel like a hypocrite. how can i go on? how do you split your attention between two best friends who hate each other? (link)
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Stay out of it!! That's the best thing you can do, because eventually you are going to say or do the wrong thing and you are going to loose friendship with one or both! I understand that they pour their hearts out to you because their your friends but you have to stop them. Let them both know that you have too much respect for the both of them and you do not want to get involved. If you say something about A to B then you need to tell A what you said instead of her finding out by someone else. As you know words get twisted around very easily so it's better they hear it from you rather then someone else.
A cool thing you girl's can do is set up a meeting and have ea. other express their feelings about the situation. So now nothing is he said or she said it's all coming from the original source. Good Luck!
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