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Am I helping or getting in the way
I have many girls as friends, and some of them are really close like siblings. When they get a new boyfriend, I act hostile and give off a pissed off vibe. All I wanna do is protect my friend from getting hurt, but am I getting in their way?
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You can think what you want, but keep it to yourself until she comes to you for advice.
What happens if one of these relationships lasts longer than a few months? You've been hostile towards the boyfriend since the start. He'll never like you. They'll spend less and less time with you because you make the girl choose between her boyfriend and you. Then you lose a friend.
More food for thought: I have a friend who dated this colossal bag of dicks in high school. None of us liked or trusted him, and we all let her know. Her response? Shut us all out and move in with him. I didn't hear from her at all for over a year. Turns out that he was abusing her badly and she was all on her own because we had pushed her away from us. If we hadn't been so openly judgmental and biased in the start, she would have come to us when things started to get worse. Instead, she desperately avoided the "I told you so" and got into a bad situation. You can protect your friend better by being there for her.
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Yeah, it seems like a sign of jealousy, but i understand that you are just protective over your friends. Some may appreciate your actions but then it will get old and bring a wedge in between your friendship. So i just say let them live life and just be there when ever they need you. Good luck!
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yeah, i think it's not really your business to be mad. you may be close like siblings, but it doesnt give you the right to diss the guy that she believes can make her happy. if not, you'll look like the jealous best friend (which is not good). i understand your intention is great, i would love to have a friend like you. if i were to introduce my bf to my own brother, i expect him to treat the bf nicely. and when the bf breaks my heart, i know my brother is there to make me feel better. and thats what you should do.
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I think that you are. my advice would be to meet the boyfriends first and if you think that they are bad for them then you can get alittle protective. but don't get overly protective because then your friends are not going to want you to be around their boyfriends which could but a gap in your friendship. hope this helps! ;)
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