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restarting a relationship... how do you do this?
My girlfriend and I have just had some major issues and we've both come to the conclusion that this is best solved by just starting over 100%. We both agree on the idea, but neither of us really know how to do it...any ideas?
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If you want to restart your relationship with a clean slate pull all problems and differences aside. Do not bring up what happened in the past whether it was good or bad. You're starting clean so it's like you two just meet for the first time. Try to reenact your first time meetings or maybe take her to a nice dinner and ask questions as if you never known her. Good Luck!
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If you want to restart a relation ship with your girlfriend you should put your problems aside. This is hard to do since every time you may get in a conflict, she or you might remind she or him of what happened. My advice is that you should talk about your problems and solve them first before restarting your relationship. If you have done that, then just imagine what it was like the first day you met her, remember how you talked to her, how you acted, and try to re create that. That should help you to start over. Good luck!!! If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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Well in my opinion if you both what to start fresh, you both have to talk about what you both don't like eachother if you really love eachother you would be able to change for one another. This creating a much stronger friendship and relationship , you say you don't know how to do it. It is hard if you have major issues , you could decide to have a sort of break but I don't think thats a good idea. Start off with being friends again take things slow , never rush them at all.. your relationship would mean alot of respect for one anothers decisions and thoughts. Make her feel that shes worth starting everything all over again , if you have been dating a really long time I do think the best idea is to start from scratch and take things in a really slow procedure. Tell her what you didn't like about your recent relationship , she would have to understand ... I also think that if you both want to be intimate you have to wait a while to gain eachothers trust again because without trust in a relationship there is nothing at all.
Good Luck :) !! every action has a consequence.
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If youre gonna 'start over', you both need to figure out what you want to be different in the relationship. Whether she nags you when youre out with friends, or you dont listen to her problems enough, or trust issues, you need to decide how to fix your issues.
Another part of starting over is the physical side. Im not sure if you all are sexually active, but take things slow again. First kiss, all the way til when you finally had sex, like how you would go slow in a new relationship. This way sex wont be a worry for a while & the emotiinal aspect will be the main priority.
Get to know eachother again, have long talks, just hang out as friends almost.
this may be hard & might not work but good luck!
x sweeethoney
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Until we have the technology to perform complete brain wipes, you're out of luck. And hey, even then you'd be stuck drooling and learning to tie your shoes instead of building relationships ;)
Every relationship has its major issues. You can't just run away from them and pretend they never happened. That's not how it works. You guys can tell each other that you wipe the slate clean all you want, but that doesn't change the fact that the past is still there in your minds, and it will come up to bite you later.
Start tackling those problems. Sit down together for however long it takes and hash it out. I can't give you more specific advice because I don't know what the problems are.
Here's the thing they don't tell you in magazines or movies: you don't have to agree. Sometimes it's just a case where you have to agree to disagree, air your grievances and then mutually move on. That's the closest you'll get to 'starting over'.
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