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i wanna be kissing friends (like sex buddies, but sex-less).
there's this guy friend. according to all who know him, he's kind of a player, he makes out with girls (or more heh), bt doesn't want a relationship (a really friendly guy though). the problem is i like him but i only want him as a kissing friend. I have witnessed lots of messed-up relationships among my friends it made me somewhat relationship-phobic. im currently busy studying, and I really dont have time for a relationship (makeout might be good for studying stress, or so i've heard). and i dont wanna involve sex in this. i really really just wanna be kissing friends (like sex buddies, but sex-less). is that weird? and what do guys in general think of that? and how do i make it happen? pls comment
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No that's not weird at all. Although, you should not want to kiss a guy that has kissed multiple girls. You can catch Mono. look that disease up! Anyway's if you still want to go forward with this just simply pull this guy aside and tell him. Let him know you don't want to involve sex in this, because kissing leads to touching and touching leads to sex! Another thing beware because many girls may get jealous of you if you are making out with a popular guy. Lay down your rules if he agree's to be your "Make-out budy" ! Good Luck!
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You are missing a huge, important part of Friends with Benefits (even if that benefit is only kissing) and that's the friends part. Being friends, is a relationship. A friend with benefit is a kind of relationship! Period. It's different than a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but it's still a relationship, and it comes with all the emotional risk and troubles, that all relationships come with.
That's life. Accept it. Deal with it. Other people exist, and if you want any of kind of relationship with any of them, you are going to have to enter into relationships with them. That will always carry some degree of risk.
Is just wanting to kiss someone weird? No. Not at all. Is it something you can get from this person? Maybe. Sounds like you could. Is it going to be a good, non-messed-up arrangement? No! Drama and confusion will happen!
You are teens who are going around hooking up with many different people! This is going to get messed up! People are going to gossip. Shit will be said. Confusion will ensue, maybe not for you, but for somebody! Guaranteed. The price you pay for hooking up with people is that shit gets awkward and emotions get entangled and more often than not someone gets hurt, at least a little bit and often more than that. That someone might be you.
The question is never “How do I make this so I never have to take a risk with someone?” because the answer to that question is “If you can’t take a risk, go live in a hole.”
The question is “Is the risk worth it? Is it worth it to me to enter into this specific kind of relationship with a person, knowing that I will never have perfect control of where it leads?”
That’s the question you need to answer. That is the risk you need to take, or not take.
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Just make out with him alot. Flirt until he kisses you, then just make sure it happens all the time. You will probably end up doing him though, so go carefull(: Use protection(:
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