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pick between two friends
i have two friends that i'm particularly close with. the three of us used to hang around each other all the time. one of my friend, A, used to have a guy that she's close to. obviously to all of us he was just playing with her but she really loved him. after they broke up (he really broke her heart), she confided with the other friend B the most. then we all found out that B is dating the guy. Now B and the guy are all lovey-dovey and A is heartbroken. The problem is im loyal to both of them and it's hard for me to remain sane. When im with A, i get mad at B for being inconsiderate. When im with B, i get mad at A (she doesnt have the best personality). I end up saying things i don't want to say to each of them about the other friend. I regret things i've said and talked about. i feel like a hypocrite. how can i go on? how do you split your attention between two best friends who hate each other?
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okay i was in the same situation as you. you have got to stop talkng about them because its only going to make it worse. also your friends, you cant force them to forgive each other so just give it time. your going to have to be like a vualt when one of them tells you something you cant tell the other. thats the only way to do it and just hope they make up soon. you've got to stop talking about them because your going to seem like a hypocrite. hope this helps!
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Stay out of it!! That's the best thing you can do, because eventually you are going to say or do the wrong thing and you are going to loose friendship with one or both! I understand that they pour their hearts out to you because their your friends but you have to stop them. Let them both know that you have too much respect for the both of them and you do not want to get involved. If you say something about A to B then you need to tell A what you said instead of her finding out by someone else. As you know words get twisted around very easily so it's better they hear it from you rather then someone else.
A cool thing you girl's can do is set up a meeting and have ea. other express their feelings about the situation. So now nothing is he said or she said it's all coming from the original source. Good Luck!
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First of all,. The fighting is between them. Not all three of you. They shouldn't be putting you in a position where you have to choose. If they start talking about the other girl,. Just say up front right away that you don't really want to talk about this as you are friends with BOTH of them and are not taking sides.
Make sure it is very clear that you are not choosing or taking sides,. because i would not say anything else because although you may agree with each of their point of views. it could get back to the other person and there fore cause more drama than is needed.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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