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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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i want to become a Christian but i don't no how someone help? please?
If you mean convert into Christianity the first step would be to talk to a priest.
i'm a 17years old girl and all my life i have been dealing with 'haters' as friends, i've have never had a friend that care more about being there for each other than how i look. I have always been the one to make friends, but somehow its hard to get along with the girls than the boys...and some of them hate me because i get along more with the boys than the girls...My so called girl friends always try to make me feel bad about myself and one of them went as far as telling people that i have 'white liver' this in the caribbean means someone with mix culture sleeps with a lot of guys...what more can i do to let them know i'm not the enemy...please help me!!
These aren't friends, Friends don't make racist/insulting remarks towards people. You do not have a point to prove except the fact that you can do better and make new friends. If your friends want to be jerks and spread rumors then let them, Show them you are better by ignoring it and meeting people that will treat you like a friend should be treated.
20/f. Ok, I'll start off by saying that I'm VERY picky. I think it's even a miracle that I like someone because I never saw myself falling again. So, this guy is like my dream boy. He treats me really nice, we have a lot in common, he's very clean cut. He's SUPER cute! He always listens to me. Just perfect! My one major turn off is earrings. He doesn't wear any. That's the only thing that REALLY turns me off. So, I found him on facebook and some of his pictures he has earrings. yikes! But, I don't want to let him go because he's a good catch. He's really sweet. And he can take the earrings off. lol. I mean, he doesn't wear them to school or anything. I'm just concerned he's gonna wear them on our first date. Any suggestions? Should I talk to him about it? I don't want him to know I found him on facebook though. When I get to know him better, if this goes somewhere, I'll express that concern. But, how can I express it at this point in a way that seems normal and nice?
thanks!
:)
Over Earrings?
I'm going to be fully honest, If you are that picky then you've got yourself a serious problem. If he is a perfect catch, Then go for it but being picky about something that small is only in the end might turn him away. If he likes to wear earrings, Than you should accept that as he is freely expressing himself and what he likes. Sometimes when we date people we need to learn to make sacrifices, It doesn't become about YOU, It becomes about the both of you. Something as simple as a guy wearing earrings is not nor should be a big deal at all. If it turns you off, Well either you learn to just deal with it or find someone else. A guy is not going to change what he likes just too satisfy what you like and make you happy. That is wrong and controlling and it draws a man away, If you want to be with someone you got to learn to be more excepting to the way things are. You wouldn't want someone telling you what you should wear would you?...I'm not trying to be an ass but lets face it you got too lighten up a bit.
i've known this guy since the 8th grade, we were like best friends, I could tell him every or anything and trust that he would keep it a secret....we were so close, and we both had a crush on each other but afraid to say...anyways i left the school in 9th grade and lost touch for a year...thats when he asked me if i want to give us a shot and i agreed...then he started acting like an ass, one second he is sweet then the next he makes insulting jokes about me when i'm around his friend and always trying to dictate to me what i can and cannot do. we keep breaking up and getting back together. Now we broke up again because he went too far this time and he keeps ringing my phone off and i'm not answering, i'm confused. HELP!!!!
I'm a tad bit confused based on the title and information given as I do not see anything about how he mentioned kids..
However, Based on the information giving it sounds like your friend is controlling. Controlling relationships are not healthy and it is not cool to be insulting towards your spouse just to show off in front of friends. Assuming you are in either 9th or 10th grade now is way too young to be talking about the future. You are a kid, So is he and you should be focusing on trying to get through high school not having babies.
If he is acting like an ass, Leave him. From the sound of it he is playing games with you, If you want a real relationship you might want to look somewhere else.
how can i burn fat?
my friend told me things like walking, runnning and jump roping can help? she said that's what she does.
Your friend is right, Exercise and dieting can burn fat.
Running, Jogging, Going up and down a flight of stairs repeatedly can also do the trick. If you like to walk, Go for a walk with your friend everyday and in time you will see a difference.
Why girls shake their legs continuously?
Sounds like a nervous habit.
First of all, my boyfriend and I have been dating for like 1 1/2 years. I love him and I don't think he's a bad person, but I've really been having a problem with the way he treats me lately. We always hang out everyday after school until 4 (so like 30 minutes) and then we hang out every friday night from 7-10:30. Now, it's not that I have a problem with the amount of time we get to hang out, I just HATE how it's so scheduled...I feel like he doesn't even want to hang out with me outside of the schedule unless he wants to do sexual stuff. He never wants to break the schedule :( I just want to have a carefree "see each other when we feel like it" thing so it's fun and spontaneous, but he's more focused on keeping everything in order so he can get home and play his videogames for the rest of the day. I guess I just feel like he puts my feelings 2nd to videogames. I've already tried bringing this up to him many times and he just says I'm "accussing him of being a terrible boyfriend and I need to understand that he isn't going to part from his hobbies for me"...but I didn't ever ask him to do that. I'm glad he has hobbies but I just don't understand why he has to schedule his entire life, including me, based on his videogames...I don't know it just makes me feel like I'm not very special, I'm just part of the schedule to him...I don't really know what I'm asking, I just need advice please. Thanks.
Have you talked to him about this? Tell him you wanted to play things by ear rather than doing things in a routine. Personally, It sounds like he may be bored. After awhile a routine becomes a habit almost like a chore. Ask him to do something fun, Plan in out. Do something you both normally don't do that you can see one another enjoying. Go camping, Picnic, Dinner and a movie. Be creative about it but you got to communicate to work things out.
I and my gf were involved in foreplay. We both were nude. I licked out her vagina and later my penis touched her vagina. After sometime, i cheked if i had precum. I could feel a small drop of liquid. Since her vagina was wet due to licking out and my precum might have touched her vagina,is there any chance of pregnancy? I had masturbated a day ago too and she had her periods.
To answer the title of the question
Yes, Precum can cause pregnancy, If you don't want a baby then use precaution at all times.
so I said yes to go to prom with this guy. he isn't the best looking but he's really nice so i couldn't say no. he's just one of those guys that i can't picture dancing with though :/ what do i do?
You said yes, So you go with him
Why does everyone have to look like prince charming? It is about what is on the inside isn't it? You may find yourself having a great time but in order to have a great time you need to allow yourself to be open and excepting. Don't be shallow, Go and have a great time.
I have posted up a couple of other times on the forums about my situation. About a week and a half ago my gf of 2 years broke up with me we are on and off long distance and the last time I saw her was 3 months ago. Its a long story but the short of it is that we broke up and are doing no contact at the moment. Just 2 weeks ago to me it seemed like everything was fine. We were talking a few times a day and sending corny love messages back and forth like usual. It hit me like a ton of bricks when she wanted a break and I was so surprised. Part of the reason I moved across the world and got a job here was to be closer to her.
Lately Im having such a hard time coping with the situation. Its caught me by surprise and Im not sure what to do. I know I need to keep busy and be social to keep my mind off of her but its hard because im in a new city where I dont know anyone.
I went out with a co worker last night to the bar and had a few drinks but that was a horrible idea. Once I had a alcohol it made me think of her 100X more. I just couldnt stop thinking about how she is with this other guy. The thought of them dancing, kissing, screwing each other is just driving me insane! I cant believe that after everything we have gone through together she has fallen for some other guy. It really is just unbelievable for me to think that she is with someone else and sometimes I feel like this is all just a bad dream. I know with time it will get better but does anyone have any advice for me to get over her?
I know the most important thing is to stay active but its hard for me to be active and social when I have been here a few weeks and dont know anyone. I have started running early every morning and stuff but I still feel messed up. I really wanna move on and i will not contact her but Im always thinking about her. What should I do to get through this?
I feel like somedays Im totally over it and then other days its super difficult. I know with time it will get better. Its just amazing to me though that she is acting how she is. Even if I saw an extremely beautiful girl with a great personality that wanted to date me right now I couldnt date her. I would be thinking about my ex. I guess thats what really is confusing to me is how can she be with this other guy only a couple weeks after we broke up with a 2 year relationship. It can possible be more than a few weeks shes been with this guy since they didnt know each other until that time. How can she not be thinking about me when being with him? I guess I just felt more for her than she did for me even though I really trusted that she loved me.
I really think that one of these days I will be getting a phone call from her or something after she gets out of her rebound thing and has some time back to her normal life here in Japan away from the study abroad. Part of me really wants to hear from here but I know that really, even if I did hear from her and she desperately wanted me back that no matter what she says it will never change what happened. It wont change that she disrespected me and acted selfish. My head tells me its nuts to take her back and that I shouldn't even if she wanted to at some point, but feeling wise I just miss her so much.
This whole situation would be a lot easier too if I was in my home country with access to family and friends rather than starting off in a foreign country.
Long distance relationships are extremely hard to maintain and in order to maintain the relationship you have to be willing to travel and make time. You are in Japan, That is across the country like you said and would be literally impossible to work it out unless you had plans of moving back.
Break ups are difficult, They take time to get over. Right now you are going through the grieving of a break up and your next step would be accepting that it's over. Not having any contact with your ex as hard as it is too hear, It's your best bet. As long you would remain in contact it would be harder for you to move on and focus on your life. When you feel you are able to move on then you can start dating again but make sure you are fully and completely over it before you do. It would be unfair to your new spouse if you were too still be hungover on an ex. Focus on getting your life situated, Hang out with friends and keep yourself occupied and over time you will gradually learn to except it is what it is.
Me and my boyfriend lets call him Kyle, have been going out for 4 years. We have never kissed or even hugged. The most we have done is hold hands. How should I go about kissing him?
Kissing is one of those things that come naturally, If you do not know how to kiss then here is a link that can give you some tips.
http://www.french-kissing-tips.com/
Just be calm and relax, If you two have been dating for 4 years then you should have no problem trusting your partner. If you mess up the first time, It's okay just try again you will eventually get the hang of it.
I ate tuna a few days ago. Ever since then, my stool & urine has smelt like tuna. What's going on ?
It isn't like a gross, dirty fishy smell. It smells specifically like canned tuna...
Normal
The body is a cleaning itself out, The same thing if you eat asparagus, You smell just like it later on. Just make sure to wash up well and it will eventually go away in a day or two.
If this is a constant problem, Then you should see a gynecologist as you could have a UTI, Yeast infection etc. If it isn't an on going problem then you should be fine.
If you want some tips here are some suggestions;
Wear 100% cotton, No lace or thongs as you are more likely to contract odor.
Shave, Pubic hair draws odor and traps pours
Wash daily with soap and warm water
What jobs in Texas hire at 15?
Most places require a minimum age of 16 to hire, Unless you have working papers nobody is going to hire someone of age 15.
On the other hand here are some places you could try if you do have working papers.
McDonald's, Wendy's, Babysitting, Dog walking,
If you have a hobby you could pick up that too, Right now my sister does not have a job and she makes jewelry and sells it which is a pretty neat idea too.
do you have to wear a condom if you want to be given head at the age of 14?
Generally, No you do not have to wear a condom when you are receiving a blow job. There is no way to become pregnant by performing this act either as the penis has no contact with the vagina. If you were too have sex, Then yes I would highly recommend using protection at all times as all it takes is one time and it is better to be safe then sorry.
Some women do not like the taste of semen so they prefer to use a flavored condom when giving head which is perfectly fine but I do not recommend using one that is not flavored as then she would have the taste of lubricant in her mouth which wouldn't be pleasant. If you want too try to differ it up a bit you could also suggest flavored lubricant as well.
Is it ok if I put peanut butter on my vagina then let my dog lick it?
If this is a serious question NO
Anything that does not belong down there should not be put down there, It can cause infections, UTI's and irritations. Also, Having a dog lick you down there is not only gross...but it is classified as beastuality which is illegal in many states.
20/f
I am in a commited relationship, but for some reason I feel the need to have affairs. I am currently on my 2nd affair, the first is still kinda ongoing, but not as much as in the past, due to over time, it gets harder to keep it up. Is something wrong with me? Why do I feel the need to have affairs? I know you can't get in my mind and tell me whats goin on in there. But...IDK. just tell me something, please :)
I agree with Hitoast
Cheating, Is not anything to be proud of. If you are seeing other people while dating someone then you are not in a committed relationship. If you aren't happy with you boyfriend then the right thing too do would be to end the relationship rather than leading him on.
Can a person have a friendship restored after they
lost it for life?
Depends on how bad the situation was, What happened and how mature you both are to work it out.
I've had my ups and downs with friends, I just recently lost a friendship of 14 years because the person wasn't willing to talk out something that could of been easily resolved but it was their loss.
my name is Rachel and iam 15 years old plus iam (mr) mentally retarded and iam pregnant and I havn't told my mom yet but i've already told my dad and i asked him to let me tell my mom when I feel like iam ready becouse I feel like it would be best for her to hear it from me first and he said he would but at least I got one parent out of the way but I don't know how my mom's going to take it becouse iam her only child and she is really over protective of me and I don't know how to break it to her considering the guy that I had sex with is 17 years old iam afraid she's going to hate me and I want to keep my baby but iam afraid she will make me give it up for adoption or have and abortion and iam strongly against abortion becouse I feel it's murder and the baby didn't ask to be put in this world it was my mistake not my childs iam really scared right now. I also take alot of medicine becouse I have so many mental health and physical health problems like high blood pressure. I take 2 doses of respridol for bipolar disorder, celexa for depression and panic disorder, and adderal for adhd can I take these medicines while being pregnant? I also want to know if the baby can get these disorders? I don't have a job plus iam still in highschool and iam to young to drop out and the only way I can get a job is with a work permit and it wouldn't be a decent job. plus I told the guy I had sex with I was pregnant which is not my boyfriend it was just a one time thing and he said he's to busy to help me take care of the baby since he works and goes to school. my mom dosn't really have the money to help me she only makes $7oo.00 a month and my dad just lost his job Iam scared half out of my mind I don't know what to do. please help me any advice would be greatly appreciated please help. Iam sorry this is so long.
You should never take medication while pregnant unless it is consulted by a doctor first, Taking medication during pregnancy can increase the chances of a miscarriage. Second, You are only 15 years old. You are in high school, Don't have a job and live under your parents roof. These are all things that say you are not ready to raise a child on your own. Even if the father of the child were to support you, 700.00 is not nearly enough money to support a baby at all. Anyway, If your mother were to recommend adoption personally I think your mother is making the best choice in the world for you as again...You are not able to care for a child on your own at 15.
It is very possible that your child can inherit mental problems, Your genes are passed on.
Everything is just going so well for me. Is that bad I don't want to date? I feel it would be a distraction... I'm doing very well in all my classes right now and don't feel I have the time... The main reason I ask this is my friends keep trying to set me up because my ex of 3 years dumped me a few months ago and they think I need to get out there and date... I keep telling them I don't want to but they don't understand. I know they mean well and just want to see me happy but I am...I just don't know what to say to them anymore. I tried explaining that if I wanted a bf I could find my own, and that I don't want to get serious until after college.... Please help meh!
I had to read this title about 3 times (lol)
If you are happy in your life, Then there is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to be involved in a relationship at this time. In fact I give you a whole lot of credit for knowing what is right.There is plenty of time to date, You do that when YOU are ready. If your friends keep trying to get you back with your ex, Then tell them you have no interest in dating and you would like them to stop. You said they mean well and I'm sure they do but setting you up with an ex that dumped you is just going backwards but to answer your question nothing wrong with it at all.
16/f last moth my boyfriend and I had sex. I was kind of worried because I was supostoo have my period on the 10th (its always on that date) I ended up starting my period around the 28th about 1-2 weeks ago I had sex again (unprotected) afterwards I noticed I was spotting and this continued on and off for a few days. We had sex again 3 days ago (some of the cum that was on his stomach got on my vagina) and I'm still spotting. I ended up not haveing my period on the 10th again so maybe I'll start around the 28th again. Is this normal. Could I be pregnant? And my boobs have been kinda sore but only if I touch them around the nipple. I don't feel sick or anything What could this mean?
Anything is possible all it takes is ONE time, Nothing is 100% safe. If you don't want to end up pregnant then start using protection as right now that would be the smart thing too do you are only 16 and you are not ready for a baby.