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Iam 15 and pregnant and have bipolar adhd depression panic disorder and high blood pressure!
my name is Rachel and iam 15 years old plus iam (mr) mentally retarded and iam pregnant and I havn't told my mom yet but i've already told my dad and i asked him to let me tell my mom when I feel like iam ready becouse I feel like it would be best for her to hear it from me first and he said he would but at least I got one parent out of the way but I don't know how my mom's going to take it becouse iam her only child and she is really over protective of me and I don't know how to break it to her considering the guy that I had sex with is 17 years old iam afraid she's going to hate me and I want to keep my baby but iam afraid she will make me give it up for adoption or have and abortion and iam strongly against abortion becouse I feel it's murder and the baby didn't ask to be put in this world it was my mistake not my childs iam really scared right now. I also take alot of medicine becouse I have so many mental health and physical health problems like high blood pressure. I take 2 doses of respridol for bipolar disorder, celexa for depression and panic disorder, and adderal for adhd can I take these medicines while being pregnant? I also want to know if the baby can get these disorders? I don't have a job plus iam still in highschool and iam to young to drop out and the only way I can get a job is with a work permit and it wouldn't be a decent job. plus I told the guy I had sex with I was pregnant which is not my boyfriend it was just a one time thing and he said he's to busy to help me take care of the baby since he works and goes to school. my mom dosn't really have the money to help me she only makes $7oo.00 a month and my dad just lost his job Iam scared half out of my mind I don't know what to do. please help me any advice would be greatly appreciated please help. Iam sorry this is so long.
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You're asking the wrong questions right now.
It shouldn't be "I want to keep my baby and I'm afraid she will make me give it up."
You should be asking "Can a kid who has all these problems and no financial stability provide a good life for a baby?"
You've got to tell her that you're pregnant. No tiptoeing around it, just flat-out "Mom, I'm pregnant." Then let her know that you refuse to get an abortion and ask what she thinks you should do. Chances are she'll suggest adoption.
Adoption isn't a terrible thing. People are on waiting lists to add a new baby to their lives. It's very possible that yours could have a better life with another family. It's not like you cut all ties, either. You can arrange for an open adoption where you get to visit with it every once in a while. A friend of mine has an open adoption thing going with a family, and it's been fantastic for her.
Some people may say you can do whatever you want. Here's the thing. If you decide to keep the baby, that's your deal. But if your mother says "I don't want to support your baby/can't support your baby" she can kick you out of her house. So yes, you have freedom of choice, but you do have to accept the consequences.
As for the medication, I'm trying to figure out what self-respecting doctor would have you on that cocktail of meds. Are you seeing an actual psychiatrist, or just a family doctor who's scrip-happy? If you can, try getting in to see a specialist who is experienced in concurrent disorders. I'm no doctor, but I'm trying to figure out how you can be diagnosed with both bipolar and depression, since depression is a symptom of bipolar. And putting you on stimulants would make your manias worse, so ADHD treatment and antidepressants at the same time would be pretty awful. In any case, you need to have your diagnosis and medication checked out for two reasons: one, to put you on something safer for the future, and two, to make sure that what you are on is safe for pregnancy.
I can tell you that with my diagnosis of bipolar disorder, anxiety disorder and OCD, I was having nasty symptoms from the last two until I found the right medication. I'm on one mood stabilizer now, and it takes care of the other two things pretty well... or at least gets my brain down to a level where I'm able to cope with it. The solution isn't always more drugs. You may want to seek counselling sessions to teach you some skills for dealing with your panic disorder.
Most importantly, just breathe. Take it all one step at a time. If you're having trouble with the emotional side of all this, try seeing a counselor. They'll be able to help you work through what you're feeling and cope with the stress.
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You should never take medication while pregnant unless it is consulted by a doctor first, Taking medication during pregnancy can increase the chances of a miscarriage. Second, You are only 15 years old. You are in high school, Don't have a job and live under your parents roof. These are all things that say you are not ready to raise a child on your own. Even if the father of the child were to support you, 700.00 is not nearly enough money to support a baby at all. Anyway, If your mother were to recommend adoption personally I think your mother is making the best choice in the world for you as again...You are not able to care for a child on your own at 15.
It is very possible that your child can inherit mental problems, Your genes are passed on.
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