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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Cani have sex at 15?
Honestly? If you have to ask random strangers on the internet then you are not ready to be having sex. Sex is a mature decision that should be made when YOU are 100% ready not when other people think you are ready. Perhaps I would wait a little longer
So i've been with this guy not for too long now, and evryone was so happy for us, and supportive. Because evreyone thought i would say no. He likes me, at the moment i like a lil bit but not as much as he likes me. But i figured why not? Hes nice, funny, etc. If i end up having feelings for him then our relationship will be serious, but if we dont then we will just break up. So i gave him a chance. As i said everyone is happy for me. And this girl i am aquaintences with says on chat he is a horrible person and hes a flirt, so have fun with that. and i was like k thanks. and then she texts her friend that is also my friend, it was actually the girl that tryed to hook us up, and says al this rudeee stuff about me that makes her look so bad like a jealous bitch, like she said i would be mad if my bf didnt talk to me. like stfu we just started dating, and her bf doesnt even talk to her. So i dont know what to do, because she has a bf, but she likes my bf, and my bf likes me. wtf do i do? i mean i knowwwwww she is jealous and mad, because when she was single she always led him and acted like she hated him, when we know she like him. ANSWERRRSSS lolll thanks, anything goess.
Relationships aren't about what other people think, If you like your boyfriend and you two have a strong bond then that is all that you should be focused on. Bonding comes within time, As of now you and your boyfriend are in the beginning stage of dating and are just starting to "really" get to know one another. The key, Is communication. If your boyfriend really appreciates you and respects you then you should have no problem discussing how you feel. To be honest, You will ALWAYS have someone who disapproves and is jealous of a relationship. You can't make everyone happy and the fact that she is acting immature and selfish is her problem. Jealousy is a funny thing, She envy's you because you have what she wants. The relationship is about you and your boyfriend, In order to make it work you have to put in the effort and communicate as every relationship will have it's up and downs from time to time. My advise: Ignore her and show her you don't care and I suggest the boyfriend to do the same. If you two show her you both have a strong relationship then she will not be able to break through and she will eventually see that in time.
Half my friends are freaking out about tomorrow and I just heard about this! Why is the world supposed to end tomorrow? Who is saying this and should I eblieve it?
Will the world end on May 21st 2011?
The world is not going to end tomorrow, People have making false predictions for YEARS and somehow we are magically still here. The world was supposed to "end" in 1945, 1990, 2000 and so on. It's false, It's just when THEY think it's going to end and frankly I'm really tired of people talking about it I just can't believe some people's gullibility.
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There's a guy in some of my classes that (since yesterday) wants to show me his penis to prove to me that it is longer than 3 inches.
LOL
You're probably thinking, wtf?, but there's a story behind this (it deserves a good explanation)
My school is an environmentally friendly school and we have a class that part of our grade is doing outside work, so i was working with him and two of my other friends and they were having a very sexual conversation (it was all guys that i was with, so you can see why. They're horny 13 year olds!) and he randomly asks me if i want to see his penis. And i laughed and said no. Then he said yes you do. and i said no i don't, and it kept going like that back and forth for a while. Then he starts to call my name and everytime i look but not down there just at his face, but one time he actually pulled his pants down! (only in the front, like as if he was about to pee, and i only knew that from the corner of my eye) Of course i didn't see it, but i knew that it was out.
And today he did it again in the same class and everything except this time he wanted to prove it to me that his "thing" was longer than 3 inches. (did i mention that on both days he had a boner? Yesterday it looked really short, like through the pants) so that's why he did it today, but what does this mean, does he like me, is he sexually attracted to me, or what because i asked my friends and they have no clue, just like me.
Please, feel free to anser my totally random question, please! I would be so... greatful for any answer/opinion/comment you have. I'll take anything.
Thank you for any answers in advance.
This "guy" is being totally inappropriate, Every horny little boy has raging hormones but believe it or not there is such thing as going to far and Mr. Peener here crossed that line more than once. My advise is to report him, Seeing he is doing this in public he could get in trouble for public exposure and if you don't report him you could also getting in trouble for not saying anything. Does he like you? I really can't tell you but from what it seems like all he wants is to get in your pants that's it. Even so, Would you really want to date someone that childish?
I just got asked out by one of the most popular kids in my grade. You could tell he really wanted to go out with me. I don't like him, but practically all of the girls do. They keep telling me that I should of said "yes" to him. They also say, "You were so dumb for not saying yes! Any girl would want to be asked out by him!!!!"
BUT I DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!! Should I go back and say "yes"? Or say "no" and be real? I'm only 11! Help!
If you don't like him, Why would you go out with him?
Dating is NOT about popularity and looks it is about common interest and attraction if you don't like him then of course you should say no. Who cares what other people say, They can't force you do date someone you don't want to date.
My cat just had kittens, they're about a week old now. I have them in this big cage with a bunch of towels and its covered so it's dark inside. Mama kitty had been ok with it until the last two nights, i keep waking up and she's under my bed with her kittens. Why is she moving them? I don't want her to move them to somewhere i cant find them, what do I do?
It sounds like the cat wants a more comfortable environment, Try putting them in a quiet room with a blanket at least then you know they can't get out. If she is hiding the kittens then try putting them in a room where she won''t be able to go far and block off all possible places.
What the hell is going on with this world ending on Saturday crap? My vacation starts Saturday and I'm really not trying to head to hell instead of the beach. Any info would be great.
Just another false predicament nothing to worry about, People have been talking about the world ending for years and we are still here. Enjoy your vacation and don't let false assumptions get in your head!
why does it burn when i pee?
Sounds like it could be a UTI (Urinary tract infection) Call your doctor and have it checked out.
If someone blocks emails from me on Hotmail and I send an email to them, Do I get a failure to send message or just nothing?
You cannot send them an email if they have you blocked.
Sometimes sending someone an email when you are blocked it will go through without sending an message but instead of going to that person's inbox it will go to "filter" an automatically be deleted.
EDIT: No they cannot read the email because they have your email blocked therefore it may not go through at all and you will receive a message saying it failed to deliver or it will go through but instead of the person getting it and reading it they have it filtered so it would automatically be deleted either way.
I was seeing a guy for a year and a half. We made it official for a little while but then ended up taking the titles off but we were still exclusive, or so he told me... Some shady stuff happened. I dumped him, but he wants to just give it a break and stay friends because he says he sees a great future for us a little bit down the road and he wants to get serious with me in the future but not right now. I asked him if he plans to mess with other girls during that time and he says he can't make any promises. That pissed me off, hut I understood that because be recently moved two hours away I won't be physically available anymore and well sad to say but men have needs. but I offered that we can still mess around if he doesn't mess with anyone else, to which he said he wil lthink about but he can't make any promises (and I was willing to drive up there twice a month for the weekend).
Anyway, even though he wants to stay friends, he puts no effort into keeping in touch. I finally came to the conclusion that the past year or so has been a lie and that I was being led on. I really do see a great future for us, but only if he goes back to being the person he was in the beginning of our relationship.
I am conflicted on what to do. He tells me that this is the wrong time for him to be in a relationship, that he wants to get his degree first which will be this summer, and I'll be done with college in the fall. Also that it would too hard because we live far apart now (I am moving to where he is in a few months though, and while we were together we talked about living together).
I don't know what to do? Are his reasons valid, or is this just a load of crap he's giving me to string me along? While we were officially together, he never strayed, but I could tell he wasn't happy because I kind of forced him to be in a relationship and he agreed because he didn't want to lose me. If we start things up in the future, I'm worried that faithfulness will be an issue. I'm considering these options at the moment:
A) permanently removing him from my life
B) keeping in touch but only that, and seeing other people
C) Staying good friends but nothing physical
D) Making no effort to keep in touch with him to see if he is just using me or if he's willing to make the effort to make things right.
What should I do? I'm not sure if I have feelings for him anymore, because I am very hurt and I have a lot of anger towards him. I was always honest and upfront with him and he wasn't always the same with me. He says he doesn't know if he has feelings for me anymore either, and I can understand that because I haven't been an angel either, I have said some pretty mean things to him, which is what I do in retaliation to being hurt, which I know is pretty immature.
Thanks for anyone who answers. I am 20 and he is 25. And as a sidenote I am moving to where he lives because it's a big city, not because he lives there, but because it's a beautiful place with many job opportunities.
If you are looking for commitment then it is a dead card. The guy pretty much told you that he doesn't want commitment at this time in his life, He makes no promises he won't fool around but gives you all the hints he just wants to play the field for awhile. If you are looking for a long term serious relationship then honestly...I don't think he is your guy after all he just wants a booty call and to remain "available" for his convenience.
if the hymens are not broken,and just by touching the vagina by the penis can a girl be pregnant? and in a case where the girl is suffering from a problem that she doesn't have her period can she be pregnant??
Never say Never, Anything is possible.
If the penis come within contact of the Virgina then yes, It is always possible. Pregnancy can occur with something as simple as a drop of precum and just because a guy says "He didn't" doesn't always mean he is right.
Ok people... im Female, 13 and im telling you all now that im not crazy... Could i Be a vampire?? I like the taste of blood, have a dark ring around my iris, can see in the dark well, extremely good sense of hearing, can feel peoples energey (can tell if someone is near even when i cant see and can pick up on their emotions or how they're feeling... Its like hummidity sometimes too), Love the dark, have animal like insticts especialy when i go into fight or flight mode, and have fangs..... What do you guys think????? (no im not a cannibal)
You are not a vampire
I suggest you to stop watching movies and reading books about it because it apparently is really starting to get to you. Vampires are fake, That is almost like asking people if you are a "Ghost" no it's impossible.
My friend is feeling very sad and she feels like crying but she can't. What can I do to comfort her ?
Talk to her, Listen to her
Communication is the golden key to working things out, Sometimes when someone is emotional all they need is for someone to listen to them.
So I met and started dating this really sweet boy in January, shortly after getting out of a long, complicated and personally detrimental relationship with an older man. I am 20 years old, this new boy is also 20. I have had more fun with him than i think I've ever had in my life. Hes a sweet, caring, genuinely nice boy and I can say I've fallen in love with him. I have been super happy except recently I've started noticing things that kind of upset me.
For one, we are out of that "honeymoon" phase where he thinks about and puts me first and calls me sweet names all the time. He used to say I was perfect, call me princess and precious, etc Now its just babe or love and honestly I understand that this happens and its not a big deal, but it would be nice if every once in a while he would still call me sweet names and text me nice things. I dont think that would be too much to ask for. I kind of feel like the "new" feel of the relationship has worn of, sort of like a little kid with a new toy. They're super excited about it for a few weeks and then they're not.
Another thing that is bothering me is something I found out about him a while back but I didn't think it was a problem. He told me, reluctantly, that when he was younger he used to have an anger problem. That as a kid he was always angry at his parents and he didn't understand why. He said it was bad when he was a teenager and he would yell and them and get upset over everything, and now he said he's learned to control it a lot so it doesn't show, but it still happens to him sometimes. He told me "if you ever see me get quiet or unenthusiastic about something, or answer in short sentences just know it has nothing to do with you, I'm just upset" And i told him good, because i had noticed him be like that and thought it was my fault and he got super sad and sad nooo baby, don't ever think it's your fault i dont want anything to make you feel like what we have isn't real. That was sweet and all, but ever since then I notice him get upset a lot more often which makes me think back also to the fact that were not in the beginning of the relationship and he's not trying to be perfect anymore. And it bothers me because from the very beginning I told him that I'm a very happy person and i thought he was too, but now I see that he gets upset over any small little thing he doesn't like and he gets all quiet and like keeps to himself and it makes me feel bad, I don't know how to handle it like I try to give him his space but it upsets me.
I don't want to talk to him about all of this because I'm not very good at expressing in words to others how i feel and I feel like I would mess up what I'm trying to say. I just feel like things are different now like the way he treated me for the past 4 months is changing and it makes me sad. I even had a dream about it last night that I was with him and a lot of people in my childhood house where i grew up and there was a party but something went wrong and he turned evil and told me he wanted to break up and got everyone at the party against me and tried to steal the house, idk it was a strange dream and honestly a nightmare.
It's also important to note that he's a gentleman in every sense of the word. like hes sweet and gentle and not at all mean, so I don't know why I had that dream or feel sad about the situation. I just basically feel like I'm not as important to him now as I used to be, because it's not like he does anything wrong to me, but he doesn't really do anything special either.
I don't like feeling this way, what can I do or how can I change my mentality about this?
Honestly? I think you are setting your standards to high.
Not everyone is "perfect" and even if a guy appears to be "perfect" everyone still has their flaws. Sometimes we just need to except people for who they are what learn to except a situation as it is instead of expecting things all the time. Sure, This guy may not exactly be your ideal of prince charming but I think if you open up a little bit you could find yourself having a pretty good relationship but only if you are willing to give him a chance. It's not so much about your mentality it's your point of view and outlook on things. Try to be more open and understanding, Instead of looking at what is no longer there try to look at is at what will come.
How can i make myself unsearchable on facebook? I'm applying for jobs and I don't want them to be able to find me on facebook. Thanks!
There is a way to make yourself completely private
On the upper right hand corner click where it says "Account" scroll down to you see the privacy settings.
You can customize your page to be the way you want it, How it appears to friends and other people. If you want to make your page maxed I recommend setting your page so only friends can see.
Now as far as being "Completely" unsearchable that is not possible but you CAN make your page completely private by setting the following to only friends. If you don't want anyone to randomly look you up then you could set the privacy to "Friends of friends" where the approval has to go through you before they can view your page.
Also, When you post things on your wall you can also set it up so certain friends can view what you post and you can do that by going to the privacy settings as well. Each setting has an option "Everyone, Friends of Friends, Only me and Custom" You can customize it so only the people you want to see your post can see.
I split up with a girl i was seeing and i think as a revenge attack shes saying shes pregnant?
Im not on facebook but shes emailing everyone i know including family saying she is on the social networking site.... Im 21 and shes 30 with 2 kids already?
She keeps sending pictures of ultra sounds as well how can i prove wether these are real or not?
Can please someone give me some advice or a number to call?
If you question the pregnancy then the only way to truly know for sure is too offer to tag along during her next appointment. Even if she is pregnant and you are unsure of whether the child is yours or not you can always request a parental test.
People can't hide a pregnancy forever, Eventually it will come out to whether or not she has been lying.
I didn't know what category to put this in... I'm a female and recently, I've got a sore little bump near my clitoris, kind of on the labia majora... Yea, I had to look that up because I seriously never paid attention to what's down there. But it's sore and it itches only if something touches it, by that, I mean like if I'm lying on my stomach or using the bathroom. I don't particularly wanna tell my mom because she'll demand to see it and I just have this weirdo feeling of having people look at me there, it's just bothers me, so yea... I'm not asking for medical advice, just some suggestions on what it might be and if you think it's serious.
We are not doctors, We cannot give you a diagnosis of what it may be.
However, If you shave then having bumps down there is common. The bump you described could be an in grown hair. Itchiness is common for in grown bumps and people who shave. To solve the problem I recommend using a different razor. Perhaps switch over to intuition which can be found at Walmart for about 10 dollars.
18/f
I am a somewhat shy girl. I'm not the type of person who likes to stand out from the crowd, and whenever I do, I get shy and embarassed. I blush a lot when the topic is always about me. I feel awkward when i'm the only one talking and a lot of eyes are on me. I get nervous and I just have no confidence in myself. I get dressed in the morning and leave for school and feel so boring. I don't feel pretty most of the time, even though my boyfriend says i'm beautiful. I walk down the hallways and see girls that have so much confidence. For example, there will be girls wearing skirts and heels to school.. i could pull that off but I would have no confidence in myself. Instead of walking with confidence, I would feel shy and awkward.
I guess what i'm trying to say is.. I want to be able to walk in a room with my head up high with confidence and be proud of who I am. How do I attain that confidence in myself??
This is not just about self confidence, You need to learn how to boost your self esteem.
Believe in yourself, Sometimes instead of dwelling on whether you can or can't do something you should just do it. It is only obvious when you make it obvious. (Always remember that) To one person, You are just another person. Be yourself and take one step at a time.
so im 13 and theres a boy thats really really cute at my school and we talk sometimes. but every time we do talk he flirts. so one day my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he didnt so how can i tell if hes telling the truth or lieing
At 13, Most boys are in the beginning stage of dating. They don't know what they want and sometimes boys don't always admit it when they like someone.
If you really want to know if he likes you then ask him yourself, Talk to him. If he flirts with you then I would imagine he likes you. Guys don't just flirt with anyone especially if they don't like a person in that way. If he shows signs such as smiling, flirting, compliment and acting nervous around you then yes, Sounds like it.
I am 64 yrs old. My mother is 91. I come from a very Italian background. My mother has 1 daughter (me) and 1 son. She lives 8 minutes from me now. Always been dependent on me and needy. Next year my husband and I plan on retiring. Our goal is to move to Florida. We have no specific plan other than to sell our home and wing it. How can I ever make such a move and plan on taking my mom at some point in time. She occupies a condo and lives alone. Pretty self sufficient but I do talk to her just about everyday, visit once a week and whatever else she may need. How can I make this transition as easy and with a minimum amount of stress. I have only touched the surface of this but I see it as a huge problem. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
Romy
You are in a tough spot
I partly agree with the columnist below me, It would be wrong to secretly move away without informing your mother.
If you plan on moving to Florida with your husband then what it all comes down too is you can give your mother the opportunity to go with you, This does not mean that she has to live with you and be permanent what you could do is have her go with you and seek a assistant living home for her down in Florida. You could even look online and make calls ahead of time and see if you can make possible arrangement before hand that way it will all be arranged before you move. I am not entirely sure on what to say because again this is a tough situation but if it were me I would offer her to come along and I'd probably see if I can make arrangements before hand. You don't want to leave your mother high and dry..