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I got asked out by a popular kid. I don't like him though!
I just got asked out by one of the most popular kids in my grade. You could tell he really wanted to go out with me. I don't like him, but practically all of the girls do. They keep telling me that I should of said "yes" to him. They also say, "You were so dumb for not saying yes! Any girl would want to be asked out by him!!!!"
BUT I DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!! Should I go back and say "yes"? Or say "no" and be real? I'm only 11! Help!
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It's easy as 1 2 3. You don't like the kid then dont say yes if your friends are real friends then theyll back you up on your decision
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I think that everyone is just jealous of you.
But I think you answered your own question, YOU DON"T LIKE HIM. I know that all the people that are saying you should say yes might get on your nerves, but i think that if you don't like him, you shouldn't go out with him. Don't go in to a relation ship that you will not enjoy, no matter what age you are.
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As you go through life, remember this one thing:
You are the only one who can live your life. Thus it's totally counterproductive to allow others to dictate what you should do with it. So if you don't like him then that's it, game over, you pass him by and find someone who you think would make you happier.
When you stand up for yourself and take control of your life you will be much happier in the long run. And now is a good time to start.
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Just because something is the popular thing to do does not always mean it is the right thing to do or it is the right thing for you to do. This is what I told my son when he was growing up.
My mom was more direct; she would say just because Billy jumps off the Brooklyn Bridge does that mean you have to too. Extreme example but that was the way parents were back then.
Both what I said to my son and what my mom said to me really mean the same thing. Don't let anyone force you into doing something you do not want to do. Just because this guy is the most popular guy in school does not mean you HAVE TOO DATE HIM. For whatever reasons you have they are the right reasons and do not let anyone ridicule, shame you or in anyway force you into changing your mind.
Lets call your reason for saying no a little red flag that popped up in the corner of your eye. When this flag pops up something is telling you that something is wrong. It is an inner warning that you should not ever over-ride out of fear of being ridiculed or shamed in any way. That red flag is a form of built in safety devise you have to keep you out of danger. Learn to heed the flags warning.
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You are never dumb of making the right decision. If you don't like him, then don't go out with him. Go with what your heart tells you. I know it's hard especially at your age but that's the only way of making your decisions. Don't let people judge you. In the future, you are going to have to make decisions on your own.
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If you don't like him, Why would you go out with him?
Dating is NOT about popularity and looks it is about common interest and attraction if you don't like him then of course you should say no. Who cares what other people say, They can't force you do date someone you don't want to date.
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Guys always want what they can't have. Since he knows you don't like him, that makes him want you that much more. Stick to your beliefs and make your own choices. If this guy is really popular, he's probably a bit of a player and will only date you for a short time anyways. I hope this helps and good luck.
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NOOO! Don't just date a guy because people tell you to!
You did the right thing! If you don't like someone, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. It's mean to them, because you're just leading them on. If people have a problem with that, so what? It's none of their business anyway.
Always be real.
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