xlostangelx's advice column

Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles.

I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!

I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.

I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.

I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.

I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!

♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥

advice

Ok, i really ReAlLy like this boy named Naz. This whole year, i worked hard at getting to know him, and it finally worked! So now i'm really really good friends wit him, and i tell him everything, like he tells me. My parents dont really care about me liking him, as long as i dont do anything. But then one night wen i wuz talkin to Naz, he found out that i was a virgen still, and he said, "i guess whoever u give it up to, u really luv them." Then he asked me if i wud sleep wit him. I sed i dont know. (And i know he's not usin me becuz for one thing, i'm really close wit him, and also becuz he knows i liked him this WhOlE year, so if he wanted to use me, he cud've tried to a long time ago. And i DiD kiss him before.) So anyway, i really want to, becuz i luv him. And i KnOw this is luv becuz....well i jus know. Everyone who's been in luv knows. So i want to sleep wit him, but then my brotha Miguelle cums into the picture. He says if i do that, i'm a slut and a hoe and that i shud be ashammed of myself. He made me feel really bad. But it's My lIFe, isnt it? I wanna listen to him cuz he's my brotha, but he jus has no idea how much i luv this dude. He doesnt understand, cuz he's neva been in luv before. But wat shud i do? (sorry its so long! I ReAllY need help on this, pleaz dont delete it! Thanx!)

ok , i think that you should maybe wait just a little bit longer .. and how old are you? ..

yu could be in love but still, your bro is just looking out for you and everything and doesnt want to see anything bad happen to you..

and you will always remember your first so make sure you really really wana do this and use protection!!!!

-ash