Website:
My-spizzle!E-mail:
chichi_ohiri@yahoo.comGender:
FemaleLocation:
MarylandOccupation:
10th grade (Aug. 20th)Age:
15Member Since:
March 12, 2005Answers:
316Last Update:
April 1, 2008Visitors:
25110Main Categories:
Fashion and Styles
Friendship
Love Life
View All
about
Hiya! My name is Chi-Chi, and I'm really easy and good at talking to and making new friends. School means everythig to me because I hope to make it BIG! I Love GOD (yep...I'm a Catholic-Christian and proud of it!) and shopping at Abercrombie&Fitch, Hollister, Delia's, Urban Outfitters, American Eagle, Forever 21, H&M, Nordstrom, etc. just makes my day :) I'm exciting and crazy and act wacky at most times, but hey-I don't like to be boring. I'm also super random :) Having a good time is my specialty, and I enjoy cheering people up. I would say that I give good advice as well as many other people on this site. If you have any questions at all, feel free to ask and I'll answer ASAP. I really do love when I get messages in my inbox because I feel that I am up to the job to answer your question the best way possible. Well...enjoy my site, and make sure to tell others about it. I'm outty. PEACE.
advice
Today in English we were reading some story about something to do with someone having a disability wanting to play golf. He had trouble walking and had to use a cart to get around to the hole while everyone else had to walk (obviously I wasn't paying much attention). But, towards the end of class my teacher brought up a good point about what the word "fair" meant to us.
Her question was, "Is being fair treating everyone equally, or giving lea-way to those with disabilities so they can be like everyone else.
I was wondering what it meant to you guys.
This is a very stong question. To me, being fair is not only just playing by the rules, but is also respecting people and giving in to no exceptions. The disabled person probably felt bad when people treated him like he was abnormal and needed special special care. I mean, he probably would have wanted to have gotten treated like everyone else to make the game fair because it isn;t just for you to give a person lea-way just because they're different or have a disablity. Anyway, what I'm saying is that fairness doesn't stop at palying by the rules, but yeah, being fair is treating people equally, and not by giving the disabled people the easy way out because they can;t do things others can, because that isn't being fair to them becuase they probably wanted to be treated like a human-a regular person. I hope I helped. I also feel like you should pay attention in class because these points your teacher makes might just be interesting.
Hi im Jess i am 13 years old and i have a boyfriend that is the greatest. Well sometimes we have these little fights over something stupid and we usually brake up cause we were imature. Anyways now that we sorta grew up i was wondering after getting in a fight what can we do just to get past this problem so it wont result to an other brake up? plz help i rate good.
~From Jess~
I think you guys should talk about this problem. Try to resolve it. If you took part in causing the problem, admit it and apologize, and have him do the same thing. You said it yourself, you guys have matured, so do the mature thing and apologize for you actions. It's normal for couples to have fights. You guys should try working on admitting mistakes, apologizing for them, and trying to avoid it from happeneing again. I hope I helped!
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 8 months and were like best friends! We have been fighting a lot lately and he jokes around (lies) too much. He always tells me he was lying shortly after but it really annoys me.. on my advice thingy he left me a question.. do you think im gay? and i said no just weird and he left be the worst feedback so people wont ask me stuff.. he never tells me when hes mad at me and i dont know how he really feels... help!
I think that you should just talk to him about your problem. Tell him that he plays too too much and that you guys are losing your connection and that you want it back. Also tell him that you want to understand his feelings and where he's coming from because you would like ot cheer him up, but you can even help him out because he never expresses or shows signs of his feelings. I think that he needs to stop being immature and act like a real boyfriend. That may sound harsh, but eve you know it's true. Tell him that you like joking around with him, but sometimes he takes it too far that you can't stand it. Get through him so that he can start to change. I hope you get your relshionship back on track and I hope I helped!
What should I do if I get bullied a lot by kids at school? I go to a catholic school, too and its still happening. Junior High can definitly be tough. I get picked on by 7th graders and kids my age. What should I do? My parents and I have tried and tried but nothing has worked! I've gotten nasty emails and instant messengers, and rude and harassing phone calls. can you help me?
Deceivingxheart
I used to attend a Catholic school also. Anyways, I think that you just go to the pricipal or a teacher and tell them what is happening. This situation has gotten completely out of hand because now they are harassing you in school and out of school. See if they can be of some help. If that doesn't work, then you will probably have to take matters into your own hands...but smartly. I know that you can be at a great risk of you guys getting into a fight, but right now it's your only option. Learn to be brace and stand up to them. Don't use physical judgement though, just settle it with talking. If you don't get through to them, and they fight you, then you have to be ready to fight back and show self-defense skills. This is where you have to show your bravery and courage. Step up to these guys. Maybe you could get someone who's bigger than them to fake bullying them so that they can get a taste of their own medicine, and see how it feels to get pushed around. Remember, if you have anymore questions and assistance-I'm here for you. I hope I helped!
don't bother reading if you can't manage, but 5's to any singly word of response because i really really need some advice here...
i have this twin sister- we're both 14- and she is really immature and selfish and just a totally disgusting and impossible person. sometimes i love her, but alot of times i could just explode! she is just so hard to take!
the main problems with her are that she is really into herself but at the same time extremely insecure and self-consious...and the second is that she just can NOT get over things...like tonight she was trying to get me to remember something by repeating like the same vague amature description over and over and I was like, OK I DON'T REMEMBER CAN WE DROP IT OR CAN YOU GIVE ME A BETTER CLUE?!?!
See its little stuff like that, but I just want to rip my brains our and throw them at her face!!!!!!!!!!! I HATE sharing things with her when I just don't really like her as a person...and she really harms me as a person, because I spend so much energy being infuriated at her or trying to ignore her pesty existence.
I really feel like we are the only people in this world that each other has, so we need to get along...but I just cannot tolerate her at ALL! Its like her brain is so many pages behind, and I can't stretch to reach her and make her stupid accomodations.
Is there any way I can coexist with her as a step towards actually liking her? There are some people in this world that I just cannot ever like, and that's okay, but I really don't want her to be one of them...and how can I vent my feelings in a healthy way? lol i've been sitting in my room screaming (literally) for the past 20 minutes...ew and I wouldn't do anything to hurt anyone so don't go there....
snaps to you for reading this!
xox and SOS
I think that you should just tell her no matter how she feels about it. Yeah, you may think that it will hurt her feelings if you yell at her and explode, but that's how you'll get through her...no by being nicey nice, but by being demanding. Tell her how you feel, and that even though you love her to death, most of the time she gets on your nerves to the greatest extent! You have to just let it out because she probably doesn't know if she's annoying you because you just keep quiet and keep your feeling sbottled up inside of you. If you really get your point of view through her then you can help to change in a positive way. Talk to her, and go from there. She needs someone to tell her that she is doing worng so that she can learn to do right, and you have got to be that someone. Be there the whole way through, and never give up on her. I hope I helped!
Thank you soo much for giving me the advice. I asked my dad how in the world I was going to earn $1000 for the trip to LA if i made it, and he said first to get my dance routine down,and then if I end up making it, he said he would see what he could do for the money! yay thanks again yoU rOcK!!!
*dEcEiVinGxHeArT*
Your welcome! I really apprecite you sending me back a message in my inbox for a response to my advice. I'm glad that your father has agreed to help out with the fee of your trip. I really meant that when I said that I wished you luck that you moved on. Good luck, and start working on that dance routine...I'm sure It;ll be great. If you have any more questions just send me a message in my inbox like you did. Thanks again!!!
i like to write songs or poems, well at least try. but everytime that i do at the end they always sound really stupid. so does anyone know any like tips or tricks that i could use to maybe get some decent ideas or to make it not sound so well...corny?
I also enjoy writing songs. Well, to get a good topic think of something tragic that happened to you or someone you know, and make it into a song. Or you could just make up a story about something seiuos like rape, dad abandoning family, teenage girl getting pregnant and the baby daddy left withouut a traces...stuff like that. The song could be emotional, sad, and slow.Those kind of songs that deal with the horrors of everyday life put into a song, can really attract fans. You could also think of something funny or embarassig that happened to either you or someone you know and make it into a party song. It will be easier writing a song that was made out of a story or something that happended. I hope I helped!
I was having a semi-asthma attack on the phone with my boyfriend, and if you've ever had an asthma attack you aren't able to talk without hurting yourself. My boyfriend was asking over and over if I could breathe, well obviously not? I wouldn't answer because it hurt for me to talk and I finally answered with "No!" Then he takes it all defensivly and was like "Sorry! I was just trying to help, but you keep shutting me out." I wasn't shutting him out was I? I was just trying to be able to breathe... Any Advice?
I think that you should talk to your boyfriedn about it. Tell him that you weren't trying to yell at him or trying to shut him out, but you needed air and couldn't breathe, so all you could do at that moment was yell because that's all the energy you could get out of your system. He will understand, but only with your help and you can do that if you tell him why you did what you did so that he doesn't think you hate him. You know that he was just trying to help, but wasn't really comprehending to your feelings at that point of time. Talk to him and sort things out. I hope I helped!
i have a friend and she always lies to me. i tried ignoring her but she just puts me on a guilt trip and i end up being friends with her again. all of her friends talk about her behind her back because she is like... socialy chalanged. all of my other friends who dont pretend to be her friend hate her and they rnt shy about showing it. ive for the most part exepted my friend's lieing problum but i still cant believe annything she sas. can someone help me? thanx and i will rate 5s for annyone who is not jokeing or being sarcastic
I think that you should confront your friend. Tell her that her lies have led yo uto not believe her. Tell her that you love her as a friend, but her lying ways have got to stop if she expects you to trust her. I also think you should tell her that peopleare talking behind her back and that she is a turnoff socially. It may hurt her, but she deserves to know what is being said behind her back, and she needs to hear it form you because you are her friend, and that's what friends do. You should try to help her get rid of her lying ways because it will be really difficult if she handled it by herself, and if you, her friend, were there to support her through this then it wouls give her the motivation she needs to change. Stick by her the whole way through. I hope I helped!
my family doesnt pay attention to me at all... its all about my perfect sisters... i used to wear one of my sisters clothes (bc i dont have any) and my mom was gonna buy me some clothes but she gave the money to my sister bc i ruined my sisters clothes and like my parents dont do crap for me im not tryin to be selfish but what should i do?
sorry for the writing I RATE 5'S!
You should talk to your parents alone. Tell them that you want more attention than what i sbeing given to you. If you feel that they are only putting all of their focus on your 2 perfect sisters and you think that it isn't right, then you should speak up and tell them. I think that if you get through them enough for them to understand where you're coming from in all of this, then they together will work hard to make a change in their behavior. I hope I helped!
There is this kid whos 15 and I really like him..but he doesnt like me only because Im younger than him. He flirts w/ me and stuff when Im alone. Only when Im the only girl around. Then when hes around other girls, he totally acts like Im not there...what is up with this? I need help on this because I dont know whats up w/ him....(hes my cousins friend)
It looks like to me that he is sending you mixed feelings. Like I tell other people...talk to him. I think that works best because you know what the other person is feeling, and you can solve the solution best by that way. Tell him that you really like him. I think that he probably likes you, but is afraid to tell you. Tell him that you really like him, and that age doesn't really matter when you guys have feelings for eachother. He'll understand if he knows that you really like him. I hope I helped!
My boyfriend and i broke up a few days ago at school. Right after school that same day i saw him kissing another girl. I know we broke up and everything but how did he get over it that fast? My question is how can i get over someone quickly? Any tips on how to forget about someone?
I think that your boyfriend is a complete jerk for kissing another girl on the same day that you guys broke up. I mean, I know that you are the one who broke up with him, but that gives him no right to do that. Before you try to get over him, confront him about what he did. Tell him that you saw him kissing that girl, and you didn't appreciate it because you guys had just broken up. Maybe he had a relashionship with that girl when you guys were still a couple, it's bad to think like that but that could be the reason. A way to get over him, well just think about all of his negatives. Maybe he's too short or talks like a girl. If you think about those, then you will know that he's not worth your feelings. I hope that you recover from this and that I helped!
P.S.: Remember to confront him about it first!!!
One of my teachers is always making fun of the students. I know it is just in good fun but 2 girls started crying over this. Should i tell someone or just let him go on making fun of everyone?
Please i need help!
You should stand up for what you think is right. This reminds me of an episode of "Moesha" when her teacher (man) made jokes for the fun of it (or in good fun), but they were really offensive that hurt many people, so Moesha told him and the whole class was on her side. He then ended his jokes because the class began to not like him. Anyways, what I'm saying is that you should be like Moesha. If you know that he is huring people with his jokes, then say something if the rest of the class won't. Don't keep quiet and just sit and watch while he humiliates people. Be brave for the people who can't be. Set an example, and stand up for what you believe in. Someone has got to make things right, and that someone has got to be you. I hope I helped!
I've got an issue that i really need someone to help me with.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months tommrow and I'm going to lose him very soon if I keep up my issue. Whenever I get the slightest bit upset, I get very close to breaking up with him. I few times I actutally did, but he took me back withen seconds. I don't know why I do this, it's really confusing me because I promised myself and him I'd stop. The first time I did this he cried. Yes I know, a guy crying "He must be a pansy", he's not he's affectionate, but just the other week when I did this he just said "Do what you want" and didn't care, at all. I've done this alot and he's begun not to care that I do this anymore because I think he realizes I'm not actually going to follow through with it, but someday I will. I don't want to break up with him, but I get in this tunnel-vison mode where the only way out is out of the relationship. Any advice on why I do this and how to stop.
♥
I think that you are putting all of your anger towards him when he didn't do anything. It seems like he finds this act very annoying, and acts like he doesn't care because you are getting on his nerves, and he's fed up with it. You made a promise to not only him, but to yourself. He feels as if he thoguht you were going to abide by that promise and stick through it, but you proved him wrong. He cried because he actually thought you two were over. You shouldn't do that. Think about ho wit makes him feel. He feels like he did something wrong, and that you want ot break up with him when you don't. Don't play with his heart because it causes him great pain. You need to make a change starting now. Remember your promise you made to him a while ago, and keep it, for his and your sake. If this behavior continues and you feel as if you want out of the relashionship, then tell him that you just want to be friends with him because it will save him pain, stress, and heartbreak. If you really care about him and want this to work, then all you have got to do is fix your behavior. I know it will be hard for you, but you are doing this for im and even for yourself. I think that you guys are meant to be if you guys have hurdled all of these obstacles together no matter how annoying or emotional. I hope I helped!
There is a show on TV, called America's Most Talented Kids~ and you are allowed to enter..and I want to enter...I'm a dancer, and I'm old enough. But it's in California, and if I ended up winning the audition, I (or my parents) wouldn't have enough money for me to go...And I really really want this..What should I do?!
signed,
Help!
If your parents see how great your dancing talent is and how much you want this then they should be able to contribute to your fee of going to California. You could also cut neighbor's lawns, babysit, or other jobs like that so that they wouldn't be the only one paying for it. Talk to them, and make them understand how bad you want this. They would probably like to be a big part to your success. I wish you the best of luck, and that they pick you to the next round. I hope I helped!
ok i have a boyfriend im 13 and he recently asked me to have sex with him. I really want to but i dont want him to go on and tell everybody and stuff i want to wait til summer though what should i do?
I think that of you are not ready then you should tell him. If he really likes you and cares about your feelings then he should understand. If you feel that he will tell people then you probably shouldn't do it. I mean, you are only 13, you shouldn't really be thinking about that right now. You should do it with another person if you really love him because that's when it will really feel special. If you deeply feel that your reputaion could be in jeporady for this, then you have to make the decision whether or not you want to have sex with him. I hope you make the right decision and the one that is best for you. I hope I helped, and if you have anymore questions, keep on sending me messages in my inbox!
Well, my friend and i always try to plan going to citywalk, and every time SHE cancels it. I never canceled it. I'm not sure if she really has a reason to cancel it every time, or if she just doesnt want to go with me. If she didn't want to go with me I wish she would just tell me, and I would rather her do that then expect her to go there with me. I'm not sure if I should still try to plan it with her or what. I mean I hope it's just because she has a reasonable explanation. Because I don't think that i'm that bad of a friend, I don't do anything to be mean, and I like to have fun. If you know whats going on, or if you have a idea please help me. I'm totally confused.
I think that you should ask her why she always turns down your invite. We don't know why she always cancels it, so we can't really tell you what she's feeling. You can find that out from her though. Ask her what time would be best for her for the both of you to go to city walk. If she doesn't say a date and time then ask her what's going on, but not in a pushy way because you don't want to turn her off to not answering your questions. I hope I helped!
I really need some advice.
I am a 15/F ....I have gone out with this one guy about 5 or 6 times (we arent datiing just hooking up). We were introduced by a friend (he's 16) and is (or seems) like a really good guy. My parents are away for the whole weekend and my sister is going to be out tomorrow night and I think this guy is coming over. We have hooked up.. but nothing more then that. I am kind of concerned that something is going to happen that I don't want to happen (i am a virgin). I don't know If i'm just overly worried or what. do u think its a bad idea for him to come over considering the circumstances? Is it suggesting that I want something more then just hooking up? Please give me your advice. Especially the boys here. Thanks.
Well, I'm not a boy, but I feel like I could help you out. If he comes over, and does try to have sex with you then just tell him that you aren't ready. You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do. If you feel like that's what he's coming for and you really have a bad vibe about the whole thing, then tell him that he can't come over for that night. I hope I helped!
Well, I'm not exactly sure how to put this, because I doubt this question has been asked on here before. I have this boyfriend, and its a long distance relationship, I live in Oklahoma, and he lives in New York,I've known him for more than a year, and we met online, yes, this sounds unbelievably stupid of me, but trust me, I am not a girl who falls for a guy quickly. So, I've met his parents over the phone, seen his family on web camera, and hes sent lots of pictures. So, after we fell in love, now, to give some background, I've never felt this much in love before, I waited a year to start talking about personal things. We started getting, well, really really close. You know, we started to talk about sex, and whether we were virgins or not, and then, it got farther. It took me a while to get into it, but we started to talk a little dirty over the phone, I felt it was wrong because I'm only 15, but I went through with it because my other 4 sisters had been like this with guys at a young age. Not that I wanted to be like them, the main reason was I really loved him, and it truly felt right. But, lets just say that it went farther, farther than any of my sisters have went on the phone, I know its pathetic to freak out about going far on a phone with a guy, but heres the point. I am thinking that my family knows, which is really bad. My sister had made some rude comment mentioning it, and my mom was talking to me about it. She was saying that it one thing to be talking nasty things on the phone, but any farther than that is to the point where any of me or my sisters should not ever be able to talk that guy again. I love my boyfriend so much, I cry and get horrible chills at night, thinking hes going to be taken away from me, so I made a decision to stop talking this way on the phone. But, I have 2 questions.
1-Do you think people suspect or know?
2- Do you think doing this with him was wrong? And can anyone give me some advice what to do?
Also, I've already told myself that I won't go down the path of having sex at 15, I truly think that this was a better way to express our hormones, and if we met, we would continue expressing it this way until we were old enough. Please make note of that.
Sorry for the length of this question, but ratings are promised to you.
~*Carissa*~
For one, I think that your family knows about your distinct relashinoship, which may be bad. If they are asking you all of these direct questions which is a total match to your conversations and what's going on, then you've got to believe they have a clue about what you're doing. If you don't feel completely comfortable about talking dirty on the phone to him then just don't. Tell him that you don't feel comfortable doing it. If he cares about your feelings, then he will stop so that you can feel comfortable in your relashionship. If you know that you are going to regret what you are about to do then just don't do it. I'm not saying that online and phone relashionships are good, but if you guys know almost everything about eachother and feel right doing it, then yeah, I guess it's ok. I hope I helped, and if you have anymore questions, send me a message in my inbox.
alright this might be long so be prepared.
last year i was friends with like EVERYONE but this year people are telling me how much i've changed and stuff. i didn't even notice it until they told me. now it seems like i'm pushing everyone away and i honestly don't mean to. it's like i can be fine talking to a person one second, then all the sudden i'll remember something they did and i'm annoyed. a couple minutes ago i was listing the people i talk to regularly and stuff, and i think i only got up to like 20 people and theres 600 students in my grade. it seems like im being a fake person than what i really am and lately i've been kind of depressed like everythings going wrong. so i guess my question really is what are some ways i can get back to my original self and maybe regain some of my friends that i used to have
Think back on how you used to act. People liked your personality then. Ypu had many friend, and you still want that now. If you can manage to be like you used to be when everyone liked you, then that can happen again. Give yourself a second chance. They are probably still waiting on the old you to come back. End the wait, and just change your ways. Try to get things back to normal and how they used to be. I hope I helped!