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my evil twin
don't bother reading if you can't manage, but 5's to any singly word of response because i really really need some advice here...
i have this twin sister- we're both 14- and she is really immature and selfish and just a totally disgusting and impossible person. sometimes i love her, but alot of times i could just explode! she is just so hard to take!
the main problems with her are that she is really into herself but at the same time extremely insecure and self-consious...and the second is that she just can NOT get over things...like tonight she was trying to get me to remember something by repeating like the same vague amature description over and over and I was like, OK I DON'T REMEMBER CAN WE DROP IT OR CAN YOU GIVE ME A BETTER CLUE?!?!
See its little stuff like that, but I just want to rip my brains our and throw them at her face!!!!!!!!!!! I HATE sharing things with her when I just don't really like her as a person...and she really harms me as a person, because I spend so much energy being infuriated at her or trying to ignore her pesty existence.
I really feel like we are the only people in this world that each other has, so we need to get along...but I just cannot tolerate her at ALL! Its like her brain is so many pages behind, and I can't stretch to reach her and make her stupid accomodations.
Is there any way I can coexist with her as a step towards actually liking her? There are some people in this world that I just cannot ever like, and that's okay, but I really don't want her to be one of them...and how can I vent my feelings in a healthy way? lol i've been sitting in my room screaming (literally) for the past 20 minutes...ew and I wouldn't do anything to hurt anyone so don't go there....
snaps to you for reading this!
xox and SOS
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maybe you just need some time apart. if your with someone for a long time then their annoyings habbits can become more apparent! i go insane on holiday with my brother. but if i dont spend a lot of time with him then its fine because i dont notice. so go out with some friends and when you come back dont think about how much she annoys you. go in with an open mind and see how you feel. dont let it get you down or you will never get over it because everytime you see her she will remind you of how you felt when you wrote this. nd one day you might find that you actually get along because you dont see her faults as clearly and by that time maybe she will have matured into a person who you would like to spend time with!
hope it helped!
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well hmmm. well first of all you need to talk with your sis in private. then tell her how you feel. and be totally honest. just let her know what's wrong. maybe she has the same thing to say for you or something. but that's all you can do
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um sorry i really did read this three times already i keep forgetting
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Well, first thing I'd like to tell you, this is a REALLY long thing. Next time, sum it up for all of us...
Okay, on to work...
First off, you must talk with your sister, in peace. Or talk to your parents about it. Have you ever tried that? I mean, my sister and I are complete opposites as well; mentally and physically. The only thing we have in common is our psychological part, which isn't very much.
All sisters have problems, whether you like it or not. I know, and you know, that we both have to love our sisters, whether we like it or not, since that's the Law. No, I kid. But we do love them. There is no way on earth, that someone must truely, purely hate their family members. It's just so hard. The biggest thing you can do for now is just talk it out. But it's just a phase that we sisters all go through, once in a while. I'm sure you've felt similar way at her, when you were small. You just have to understand that she's your sister, and you love her, right? She loves you back, and who knows? Maybe she feels the same way about you, as you do to her? You guys MUST talk this thing out. Whether you need your paresnts or someone to be controling it. Talking it out is the only solution. Violence is the solution to stupid problems, and Suicide is the premanent solution, to a temporary problem. It's a fact...
Take Care,
~SAM
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Well you should just sit down and talk to her alone just you and her.
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I understand <b>exactly</b> how you are feeling. I have a younger sister, and she is the <b>exact</b> same way as your sister. But for you, it is ten times as hard to deal with because she is your twin sister.
Communication is my key word in any relationship problem, and with her being your twin sister, this is probably <b>one of</b> the most important relationships in your life. Talk to your sister. Sit down with her in private and explain to her that you love her with all of your heart, but that there are some things about her that you don't understand or don't like. Let her know that you want to have her not only as your sister, but your best friend. Let her know that you don't understand her selfishness or the way that she acts. It could be that your sister doesn't even know that she is acting in an offensive way. You have to spend time with your sister and get to understand and know her as a person. Get into her head and learn what makes her act the way she does or do the things she does. Once you start treating her like a friend also, and not just a sibling, then that is when your relationship when your relationship with her will grow.
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u should get a diary and in it rite notes to her ( the kind that u dont actually give her ) about how she is making u feel. thats what i do and it makes me feel better. and try to accept her. its not her falt she is insecure and self consious. hope i helped
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when she starts to get annoying ignore her,dont try to shut her out or anything since you say you feel like your the only people in the world each other have.Because with out her you will have nothing.
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I think cheese is 2 cool i think it is the moon!!!!!!!
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LOL, sorry.....The twins I know are so alike in personality it is scarey!
I think as you grow older you will get along better. Right now what you are going through is normal.I sure can remember thinking mine was all ate up with stupid at one time!
Maybe when she just get's to be to much you can go run or go for a walk.Just get away from her for awhile. That is probably a lot of it too. You guy's are SO close you may just need to get away from her now and then. I mean you're in the same class, you probably hang with some of the same people etc...Too much togetherness maybe. So don't feel guilty about just getting away from her now and then. It's perfectly normal.
One day.....I know it's a way's off yet, you will actually look back together and laugh about all this! :)
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Ignore her. Or slap her around a bit.
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Dear my evil twin
I have a friend that's a twin and they are exactly a like I have another friend that's a twin to a boy and they get along becuase she wants her mom to think she is a perfect little angel but she is not and my mom is a twin to a boy so I really can't help you in that department
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I think that you should just tell her no matter how she feels about it. Yeah, you may think that it will hurt her feelings if you yell at her and explode, but that's how you'll get through her...no by being nicey nice, but by being demanding. Tell her how you feel, and that even though you love her to death, most of the time she gets on your nerves to the greatest extent! You have to just let it out because she probably doesn't know if she's annoying you because you just keep quiet and keep your feeling sbottled up inside of you. If you really get your point of view through her then you can help to change in a positive way. Talk to her, and go from there. She needs someone to tell her that she is doing worng so that she can learn to do right, and you have got to be that someone. Be there the whole way through, and never give up on her. I hope I helped!
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Sometimes sisters can be like that. I know you would wanna feel like you wanna strangle them right then and right there. But you can't. Try telling her when she does this kinda stuff to just stop- either you don't remember or you're not in the mood. Have you tried getting your feelings out about her and talking to her to a friend? Usually that helps me. I hope I helped you!
*GoOd LuCk*
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