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Break up * Then Make up.
I've got an issue that i really need someone to help me with.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months tommrow and I'm going to lose him very soon if I keep up my issue. Whenever I get the slightest bit upset, I get very close to breaking up with him. I few times I actutally did, but he took me back withen seconds. I don't know why I do this, it's really confusing me because I promised myself and him I'd stop. The first time I did this he cried. Yes I know, a guy crying "He must be a pansy", he's not he's affectionate, but just the other week when I did this he just said "Do what you want" and didn't care, at all. I've done this alot and he's begun not to care that I do this anymore because I think he realizes I'm not actually going to follow through with it, but someday I will. I don't want to break up with him, but I get in this tunnel-vison mode where the only way out is out of the relationship. Any advice on why I do this and how to stop.
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i think yer having mixed emotions. stuff like that makes the relationship stronger. just try not to get mad over unescessary stuff like that.
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I think he's playing with you. He's afraid to let you go because of his own insecurities, so he cries to get you to pay attention to him. Just like a baby! I don't think you want to spend the rest of your life with changing your boyfriend's diapers. But apparently he has successfully manipulated your emotions. The fact that he doesn't care when you threaten to break up with him shows that he simply doesn't care about you. It's all about what he wants. Tell him it's over for good. He probably won't believe you, but when he goes to kiss you or hug you or whatever, just tell him, "You're not my boyfriend." It's going to be hard, but keep up! And if he gets violent with you, go to the police.
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I understand that he's your b/f and he doesn't treat you that way, so you should try to give him the same respect. I truly know that you don't mean to do this, but maybe something else is bothering you. Try talking with him and telling him that you don't want to break up w/ him, and you don't mean it. If he's really there with you, he'll definitly understand.
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I think that you are putting all of your anger towards him when he didn't do anything. It seems like he finds this act very annoying, and acts like he doesn't care because you are getting on his nerves, and he's fed up with it. You made a promise to not only him, but to yourself. He feels as if he thoguht you were going to abide by that promise and stick through it, but you proved him wrong. He cried because he actually thought you two were over. You shouldn't do that. Think about ho wit makes him feel. He feels like he did something wrong, and that you want ot break up with him when you don't. Don't play with his heart because it causes him great pain. You need to make a change starting now. Remember your promise you made to him a while ago, and keep it, for his and your sake. If this behavior continues and you feel as if you want out of the relashionship, then tell him that you just want to be friends with him because it will save him pain, stress, and heartbreak. If you really care about him and want this to work, then all you have got to do is fix your behavior. I know it will be hard for you, but you are doing this for im and even for yourself. I think that you guys are meant to be if you guys have hurdled all of these obstacles together no matter how annoying or emotional. I hope I helped!
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Been there. What you need to do is realize BEFORE you break up with him, how much you will be hurting the both of you. You will both miss each other. Just whenever you feel yourself about to break up with him, think about how you'll regret it. After a while, he's going to get sick of all this drama and might not take you back. So just be very careful what you do! xO ali *and good luck!
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