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boyfriend help
Hi im Jess i am 13 years old and i have a boyfriend that is the greatest. Well sometimes we have these little fights over something stupid and we usually brake up cause we were imature. Anyways now that we sorta grew up i was wondering after getting in a fight what can we do just to get past this problem so it wont result to an other brake up? plz help i rate good.
~From Jess~
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my boyfriend and i tend to fight over randomly stupid things, we used to just fight then not talk for a day or two, then we grew up, and got past it, now whenever we have a problem we take a time out and just work it out. all problems can be fixed with a little communication
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apologize even if its his fault. dont mention that its his fault though. hope i helped
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I think you guys should talk about this problem. Try to resolve it. If you took part in causing the problem, admit it and apologize, and have him do the same thing. You said it yourself, you guys have matured, so do the mature thing and apologize for you actions. It's normal for couples to have fights. You guys should try working on admitting mistakes, apologizing for them, and trying to avoid it from happeneing again. I hope I helped!
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Basically, when arguing, make sure that you really listen to eachother's aruments and speak in a calm, respectful voice. Usually, the fights that end in break-ups are ones in which one or both people lose their temper and are not in control of their emotions. You can change this by calmly talking about your differences. Even though this is the most effective way to "have a disagreement" with a boyfriend or girlfriend, I realize that things can get out of hand and it can turn into a big fight. When this happens, just be aware of how much you care about eachother and think of all the good times you've had. When things escalate to the point that you may want to break up, just say something like "This is ridiculous. Let's just talk about this instead of arguing" and this will most likely make the other person more sympathetic to the situation.
A good rule my boyfriend and I have is that we never go to sleep mad at eachother. We always promise to work out everything before we go to bed. This is a great incentive to make a compromise about the situation or just agree to disagree! This has worked for us for 2 years now! Hope I helped! Good luck with your relationship!
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If you fight a lot, that's probably a sign. My old BF and I fought constanly. We finally broke up and were happier that way. But if its only little fights everyonce of a while, try to be more understanding, or learn to drop it. but don't be like
"FINE! I DONT CARE!" That's not cool. LOL. Simply tell him you don't want to fight. Start a different conversation. But be cool about it. Hope i helped! <3
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Try not to have fights. If you both feel a different way about something, don't make it into a big controversy, just let it go. When you are fighting, little or big fight, just try to end it and don't keep going on with it! GOod luck.
-Brianna
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