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Well, I'm not exactly sure how to put this, because I doubt this question has been asked on here before. I have this boyfriend, and its a long distance relationship, I live in Oklahoma, and he lives in New York,I've known him for more than a year, and we met online, yes, this sounds unbelievably stupid of me, but trust me, I am not a girl who falls for a guy quickly. So, I've met his parents over the phone, seen his family on web camera, and hes sent lots of pictures. So, after we fell in love, now, to give some background, I've never felt this much in love before, I waited a year to start talking about personal things. We started getting, well, really really close. You know, we started to talk about sex, and whether we were virgins or not, and then, it got farther. It took me a while to get into it, but we started to talk a little dirty over the phone, I felt it was wrong because I'm only 15, but I went through with it because my other 4 sisters had been like this with guys at a young age. Not that I wanted to be like them, the main reason was I really loved him, and it truly felt right. But, lets just say that it went farther, farther than any of my sisters have went on the phone, I know its pathetic to freak out about going far on a phone with a guy, but heres the point. I am thinking that my family knows, which is really bad. My sister had made some rude comment mentioning it, and my mom was talking to me about it. She was saying that it one thing to be talking nasty things on the phone, but any farther than that is to the point where any of me or my sisters should not ever be able to talk that guy again. I love my boyfriend so much, I cry and get horrible chills at night, thinking hes going to be taken away from me, so I made a decision to stop talking this way on the phone. But, I have 2 questions.
1-Do you think people suspect or know?
2- Do you think doing this with him was wrong? And can anyone give me some advice what to do?
Also, I've already told myself that I won't go down the path of having sex at 15, I truly think that this was a better way to express our hormones, and if we met, we would continue expressing it this way until we were old enough. Please make note of that.
Sorry for the length of this question, but ratings are promised to you.
~*Carissa*~
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For one, I think that your family knows about your distinct relashinoship, which may be bad. If they are asking you all of these direct questions which is a total match to your conversations and what's going on, then you've got to believe they have a clue about what you're doing. If you don't feel completely comfortable about talking dirty on the phone to him then just don't. Tell him that you don't feel comfortable doing it. If he cares about your feelings, then he will stop so that you can feel comfortable in your relashionship. If you know that you are going to regret what you are about to do then just don't do it. I'm not saying that online and phone relashionships are good, but if you guys know almost everything about eachother and feel right doing it, then yeah, I guess it's ok. I hope I helped, and if you have anymore questions, send me a message in my inbox.
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By what your family has said I figure that they already know. Also, i learned this in sex-ed..you shouldn't lead a guy on about having sex when you are not because then he gets horny and sperm builds up and if he doesnt get it out of his system its called blue-balls and i hear its really painful.Just try to keep the conversations clean.
xO LiSa*
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if a family member made a comment to me AND my mom talked to me about it..i would really think they were on to something. Ask them why they are talking to you about this..whats making them talk to you about it. maybe they are just talking to you about it because they knoww its the next step in an online relationship.
My opmminoon is that it isnt wrong because everyone has hormones and feelings. Its not like you had sex with him..so i think its ok.
What i would do next is talk to your mom about why shes talking to you about the talking dirty on the phone thing. If your mom tells you "well because i know what you've been doing" I knoww you would be embarassed but just tell her you experiemented and your done now. If you want to keep doing this with him..make sure nobody is around! Dont be afraid of losing him..he probably loves you just as much as you love him.
-melissa-
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yes i think your parents know...and personaly i dont suggest internet relationships..but if you say that you love him..then i guess so..but anyway how can your parents take him away?i mean what are they going to do fly to new york..and it depends if you just talk dirty then you are acting like most 15 yr olds..o and good decision about the sex thing:Dbut if you went farther i would slow it down a bit..and if they like take your phone away then you still have the internet..but if he is ok then i dont think its wrong for you to talk to a guy dirty just not all the time...and dont go beyond that..cuz he may get ideas..hope i helped!Good Luck!(o and stop worrying and stop talking dirty for a really long time cuz it shows up on the phone bill..thats probably how they know!)
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Well i understand this. I wouldnt know much about that far of a long distance reletionship and that you've never met before.. but whatever floats your boat. Anyways, your family might know if there are a ton of signs, but most likly they don't because its just your mind making you think that. Your putting suspicton on you, its very normall.. its just the way people act, so i wouldnt worry about it.
No i don't think this was wrong, but i do think you should meet! but phone sex is okay, i wouldnt worry about it. Just make sure he knows that your like not an 'easy' girl, and that you don't do that with just any guy. Keep everything the same and just make sure know1 is home or awake when you do the phone thing. Good luck hope i helepd
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