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Heyyy, I'm Mary:)
I've been on here for over four years--Ask me anything, and I'll try my best to help you out. :)

Alpha female, always tries her hardest, analyzes the situation too much, overthinks what the other person says, tries to please others, stresses easily, high achiever, loooooves to laugh. I'm still learning the facts of life, but I can always share my mistakes and lessons learned. :)

I'm always willing to listen/lend a helping hand. Inbox me and I will be sure to get to you as soon as I can.

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ive tried every kind of eyeliner out there but ti always runs off and like goes away. ive tried the waterproof 16 hour one and they all go away what works?

i use christian dior..or used MAC..its really good..

Okay now I dont want to sound too sluty but yesterday I went some where with my friend and when we got there it was this really cute boy there. Now he was flirting with me(rubbing my leg and holding my hand) but the bad part of all this is he was doin gthe same to my friend, when we went outside, we actually made out. When we got back to my friends house she told me that they made out! Now I don't know if that is true or not because they were never really alone together bu twhat if it is true? I have to see this boy every thursday, and I think we both like him, but who does he like??? PLEASE HELP ME

hes playing both of you..i think your friendship is more important..

I have spyware on my computer and I went to my add/remove programs and saw "SearchAssistant" and thats what usally gives me the spyware.. so when I clicked "Remove", nothing happened. I clicked it several times and yeah no luck. Any other ways I can take it off my computer? I rate 5's!

idk if this will help..but i had like over 5o viruses on my comp so what i did was take it to a computer store and they charge like 60 bucks to clear your computer..

When you go to the doctor just to get meds. for the flu or something...do they still weigh you? I know they do when you go in for a physical or a check-up but what if you just have the flu?

yes!

I've liked this guy for like, seriously, a REALLY long time, I mean we've been friends for longer than I can remember. A couple years ago my cousin was visiting from another state and I was takin her to hang out w. me and a few of my friends (including the guy i like). Now let me get this straight, I told her how much I liked him and how much he meant to me. Well, they meet each other and they decide that hey they like each other, so they start to go out (yea long distance n everything) and i'm like seriously, devastated, you don't understand how much i care for this guy. They broke up after awhile but i have never really been the same w. my cousin since. about a year after that happened, my guy started liking me, and he told me and so we dated for a few weeks and did some stuff n my cousin got soo pissed at me, and i think that i have a right to do what i please, considering she did like, almost hte exact same to me! even though i wasn't doing it to piss her off, i did it cause i really really like this boy. Well, me and my boy still talk alot, and he says that in a few years (i'm 14, he's 15) he thinks that we should get together again, but he doesnt want to right now, and i understand that. My cousins coming into town this weekend. I have plans to see a movie w. my guy and a bunch of my other firends and my mom told me i have to take my cousin, n i'm soo afraid that she and him will start likin each other again. what do i do.!??!

Wow tell your mom your situation. I totally agree with you on this one. Your cousin has no right to be mad because you told her that you liked this guy first and she still went out with him.

OK well here is this grl I h8 and she is probably reading this because she copied me doing this! She comes over EVERY FRIKIN DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is so annoying wut in the world do I frikin do?
Signed,
Annoyed!

Well, sit her down and tell her how you feel except maybe nicer..If you can't do that then make up an excuse on why she can't come over anymore..

20, male.

Okay, the girl I'm going out with and I are sitting watching TV. We've only been dating for a few days, but I've been her friend since before elementary school. She mentions a mutual friend was talking about a movie that we passed. So I, the idiot that I am, accidently call her by the friend's name. She pulled away from me for a few seconds, and then went into my arms again.

I explained that it was only because she mentioned her name seconds before, but is that enough? Should I try to explain in detail that I have no feelings for this other girl or should I drop it?

No..just drop it because she probably already knows that it was a mistake..

ok i recently just read a conversation my friend and crush had a while ago. When i read through it he acted like he didn't know me... but he does.
So... should i just forget about him (which will be impossible) or forgive him for trying to look kool infront of friends. I mean i know you shouldn't go for guys that act different around friends and then act like they don't know you and all but i just can't help it. But i also think he's alittle to insecrue about himself.
but serioucly what should i do? i really need to know.
(i rate high)

Ask him why he was saying what he said in the conversation...confront him about it..maybe he is a little insecure about himself..maybe he likes you too but is too shy to show it..hmm you never know..:-)

I am to be Chrismated this week at my new Church. It is Melkite Greek Orthodox Catholic Church. I am disappointed that my grandparents refuse to come. On top of that they did not tell me the true reason that they aren't coming. They told me that it was the "weekly hair appointment" that couldn't be changed. Which is garbage. My father told me they would not come because their beliefs do not match. How do they know that without even walking in the church one time? I mean really. I don't know why I am suprised, but it has hurt my feelings a little bit.

They are good people and build churches as part of a mission in the Baptist Church. I have been Baptist up until now but two things have guided me to this church: the need to be a little more celebratory of Christ's Resurrection and Saviour of us people, and my fiance is the Cantor. If my fiance wasn't the Cantor or we weren't together, I would still like to be a part of this church.

I have tried and tried to explain that this is not the Roman Catholic Church and some of the things I have learned. They are so prejudiced as to what a Catholic is to them. Which at one time I heard: mean, Italian, and wrong. Which none of the three are true.

I realize that they aren't going to change to my religion ever, but I am a bit upset they wouldn't come for my sake. At least they are coming to the wedding.

So do I bug them every day until the event so that I can see them, or just let it go? How can I get them to understand my decision?

Talk to them about it and explain to them why this is so important to you...If they really do care, then they will go...

I just found out that this girl i know is about to die because of cancer. I dont know how to handle it. someone please help me!!

Just comfort her and her family as much as you can and help them get this through this...

me and my boyfriend..lets call him MOO.. well me and MOO started goin out 2 days ago... and before him i went out wit this kid lets call him COCOA, everyone still thinks me and COCOA are going out but we arnt! And well MOO found out that everyone still thinks that and they think its true, which it isnt! He believes everyone wen they say it to him, but he doesnt believe me wen i tell him that we arnt!! WHICH ME AND COCOA ARNT!! And when i tried callin him like 4 times he never answered his phone, not even to say... i cant talk sry.

There's not much you can do...All you can do is tell him and look into his eyes and say that you're not interested in anyone but him...:-)

14/m
i like 2 girls right now, GIRL-A goes to my school and lives REALLY close, but GIRL-B goes to a dif school but still lives kind of close to me. im good friends with GIRL-A but i dont think i have a chance with her(atleast not right now cuz she just broke up with her bf and she still likes him). i know GIRL-B likes me and shes perfect for me but we barely ever see each other(atleast not now). do you think that a relationship w/ GIRL-B would work out or should i just wait a while and see what happens?
-thanks

Ask out Girl B! You never know what might happen! ..and if that fails then by the time the thing with Girl-B ends, Girl A will be over her boyfriend!

i have this friend and we are really good friends. I am a 15 year old guy and she is a 14 year old girl. She wants me but i feel if we go out and something happens between us that we might not be friends afterwards. I dont want that to happen. How can i tell her this without hurting her feelings?

Just tell her what you're telling us! ..Unless you're feeling the same way about her, then ask her out and see where it goes from there..good luck ;-)

ok well i like this guy. i dont know if he has a girl friend. he always says hi to me and gives me hugs. and were both like involved with singing adn stuff at school so we like sing songs together and stuff. and he kissed me on the cheek once when he was leaving somewhere. and he asked for my cell phone number. and once he tried to hook up with me. stupidly i didnt know and didnt even open my mouth! ha ha. anyway i wanna know if he likes me. and if he does then what should i do? should i ask him out, or wait for him to ask me out, or ask a friend to ask him to go out with me? i am really confused and i really like him. please help!

Yeah! He def. likes you. Talk to him about it and see where it goes from there..

ok well there was this guy, he was like a nerdy inda guy. i dont like him, at all. and at a party there were these guys having a kissing contest and were trying to see how many kisses they could get foom girls. and the nerdy guy wanted to too and he asked me for a kiss. i asked him to wait a second and i left and never came back, he look so sad. i feel bad cuz i never thought id break someones heart. i dee him at school sometimes. i feel really really bad. what should i say if he asks me about it? thanks, appriciate it

aww :-( He'd probably be too sad to talk about it so he'll probably get nervous or somehting around you..

Does anyone know where to get the

Surgibleach 5 minute bleach kit?? Thanks, I rate all 5's!

walgreens or target? lol

13/f Ok i get like really scared and my mom thinks im too young to babysit. I want a job so my mom will let me get a cellphone (my mom is so mean i should hav one already!). Well since i get scared i think about stuff like....What if i was babysitting and someone called and said "Im coming for you" or something like that or if someone came to the house. I know there's a REALLY big chance that wouldnt happen but i cant help it i hav a very wild imagenation. Is there any other good job i could get? or anything that would keep me busy from thinking about stuff like that while babysitting?

I rate!

ok I know people who are 15 and they don't have a cellphone yet...but back to your question..you'd be too busy babysitting to think of anything crazy like that..

well there is this guy that i like and im not sure if he likes me. we talk at school and he likes to joke around with me adn make fun of me, but he always smiles and is happy around me. i just want to knwo if he likes me, what do you people think?

14/f

He probably does like you...

is this a good idea.....well i like this guy and i want to write a note and put it in his locker but not tell who i am just yet but put a sn in thast note that isnt my real one and talk to him on there and give him hinks to who i am?i older by a year 13/f

Don't do that..just talk to him in real life and give him your real sn and maybe things will progess from there..

my frend been acting like a totel cow the last few weeks in school just leaving us and dropping us,talking bout us behind our back.i had a go at her and she just turned on the tears and made the people who she was hangng round her go against me now i dont know what i can do cos when her mate hugged her when she was crying she smirked at me.what can i do.?plse reply swn xx

Ok she is not your friend anymore. It's obvious that she doesn't want to be around you either. Move on and just be happy with your life because she is just holding you back.

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