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Hi
this is such a weird thing to talk about, but I think you'd be great at helping me. Im a 15 yr old girl, with a lot of stress. My friends are naturally supportive but I couldn't tell them this to my face.

When I'm in bed I kinda imagine that I'm someone else (a man, 38ish with a wife etc.....). I think that somethings really wrong with that but when I think no this is being weird I can't stop.

I have a toy that I initially had in bed when I was 8 (thats normal isn't it?) but I kind of use it in these things. I'm quite scared. Can you help me please

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Hey hun,
The imagining thing - don't worry, you're not alone - I do it! I'm not a guy in my day dreaming (or rather, night dreaming, because I do my 'imaginings' in bed too) but I am radically different (older, prettier, different coloured hair, happier, confident, I say things I wouldn't say in real life...etc etc etc). Sometimes our own lives are so stressfull or upsetting that when we imagine something, or day dream about things, we make it so that our lives are as far away as possible to every day normality. People in hospital and in a lot of pain often think that they are in the past - their body can't deal with the pain so their mind takes them to an entirely different place. I don't think there's anything wrong with you - I think you're just an extremely empathetic person who can put themself in other people's shoes!!
How do you mean by 'use'? It's normal to have cuddly toys still though - I have this one that I will never let go of while I'm going to sleep and sometimes I hug it and imagine it's somebody else (like someone who is upset) and I'm kinda 'sending' hugs to them. I sound weird to myself just saying this, but trust me, there is nothign wrong with either you or me - we just have active imaginations, and I know loads of people who like to imagine themselves in totally different lives too!
If you are really worried, then go and see a counsellor (maybe your school has one? You can make out that you want to see them because you're so stressed to everyone else, then just tell the counsellor what's really going on. They can't tell anyone what you tell them, I promise :)), who, if they can't help you, will refer you to the correct person, such as a psychotherapist.
Here's a wacky thought...believe in reincarnation? Sometimes people have dreams, flashes or imaginings of things totally unconnected with real life, and if they go under hyponotherapy and get asked questions, it turns out to be a past life! This guy could be your soul in another body from a previous life? Just an idea :)
I hope I helped and if you wanna talk to me anytime, just drop another one in my inbox or add me on whatever Instant Messenger you have on any of those addys on my profile :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Heyy! I read these books about Wicca and I got really really interested in it. And I was just wondering if you could tell me how I could get started. I mean im really not that sure in what to do and about teachers and things like that. Im only 12. Ive learned some things from this book, but I.. dunno. lol. Can you give me some advice?

-Rachel

Hiya!
Well, the only thing I can suggest to you right now is read as much as you possibly can - everyone's opinion on Wicca is different, so it's important to you that you find the one - or the mixture of them all - that you are most comfortable with :)
Don't worry about being 12 - I was 10 when I firts got interested in magick, 13 before I found out about Wicca. Any age is fine to start getting interested :)
You can always be a solitary - I am, only I have a little extra help from my friend who became Wiccan around the same time as me! Feel free to email me whenever, or add me on any of the addys on my profile, if you ever wanan chat or ask questions!
For now, here are some good websites and books -
www.spiritonline.com
www.whitewicca.com
The Real Witches' Handbook/ The Real Witches' Book of Spells and Rituals (Kate West)
Anything by Silver Ravenwolf - as you progress in the Craft, you might come to think of this as what some people call 'fluffy bunny' Wicca (i.e. it's not the most detailed stuff and it's 'softened up' for people new to the idea of magick) but any of her books are brilliant starting points.
5 Easy Steps to Becoming a Witch (Gilly Sergiev) - another good starting one :)

Try and find out what you're interested in - there's alsorts, from spells to blessings to healing to divination. Just keep on reading and go with your instincts!

Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I'm pretty sure that I have at least borderline obsessive-compulsive disorder, but where symptoms are listed, the requirements are kind of vague. If anyone who knows more about it could give me a hint as to my own state(severity, etc.), I'd appreciate it. I'll list some symptoms. Note that this if going to be rather long, even though I've cut out a lot of detail and examples.



Hand washing - I'm... fairly obsessed... with dirty-ness... if I touch something that I think might be dirty, then I wash my hands before touching anything clean and/or at the first opportunity. A year or so ago I counted myself as washing my hands ninety times in one day, and I'm sure that it's gotten significantly worse since then.

Arrangement - I like to arrange things that I'm looking at neatly. For example, yesterday I had six bittorrent windows open, and I arranged them in a perfect grid; the top left one's top left corner was exactly on the top left corner of the screen, and all the others were exactly aligned with it(no overlap or space whatsoever between edges, corners touching).

Counting - I'll count repetitive noises. Not all of them (not keystrokes, walking footsteps, etc.), but I'll always count stairs-steps and some other noises.

Perfectionism - but only in things I care about. Not really significant, but I've been known to spend hours on a minor detail of a bad drawing.

Paranoia - I worry that people may be watching me, and about hidden cameras and suchlike. I keep all my sensitive(for example, pirated) files in triple-encrypted archives with very long passwords and worry that the government might have a quantum computer, with which such a password could easily be broken.

Random **** - sometimes I'll feel compelled to do something, for example tapping my fingers in a pattern or sequence until I get it exactly right. A minute before I started writing this I selected some icons in an order. Then I worked out on paper how to work the sequence exactly backwards and did so because I needed to balance the select-ing to put my mind to rest.

Hiya,
I know EXACTLY how you feel, especically about the finger tapping. I've had OCD in the past - I still have it very mildly - and trust me, you can get over it if you act right now!
What you're doing is concentrating too much on the COMPULSIVE part. Try and focus on the OBSESSIVE part - i.e., why you feel like you have to do this. Even if it's just 'I feel like something stupid and bad will happen if I don't', it's enough to know that. Then focus on these thoughts. Every time you catch yourself doing soemthing compulsive, ask yourself WHY - then tell yourself the reason is stupid. I know it sounds extremely hard, and it is, but you WILL get over this!
OCD isn't officially OCD until it takes up more than an hour of your every day life, but it progresses very quickly. I used to walk not stepping on the cracks, and if I did walk on one, I had to walk on another one with the opposite foot but in exactly the place as I trod on the crack with the other foot. I got over that by not looking at my feet when I walk! It's hard, and I had to put a lot of effort into letting myself step on cracks that I could see ahead of me, but it worked. Tackle one issue at a time - ignore the others for now; they'll only make you stressed!! Trying to get rid of more than one OCD symptom at a time will just drag you under and be too much.
The paranoia you describe could be a whole other psychological problem, including social nervousness (there is a more scientific name for it than that but I can't remember it right now...:S sorry).
Try and handle this yourself for now before it gets any worse. Doctors won't treat you until it's VERY bad and you don't want it to have to get to that point. It sounds like the hand-washing especially is bad enough...but you do wanna try getting rid of, or at least reducing, your symptoms yourself first :)
With your hands - give yourself set times of the day to wash your hands - i.e. before and after meals, when you get up and when you go to bed. Reduce this until you only wash your hands before meals or something, or when you touch something REALLY dirty. Remember: if it doesn't leave dirt marks on your hand and isn't covered in mould or flies, it's NOT dirty. I know this will be really REALLY hard for you to do, but STICK AT IT - don't give up just because you fail on one day!! And remember also that NOTHING is a failure - you've admitted you have a problem and that's half the battle won! You're also trying to stop this and that is nothing but a success!
If it gets even remotely worse though, I do suggest going to a doctor as you do sound pretty bad.
Good luck, and feel free to mail me on any of the addy's on my profile whenever!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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im bored any site suggestions for a 14/f?

Hiya,
Try bored.com, that has some funny stuff :)
There's also jokefrog.com or madblast.com if you are into the funny stuff. If not, there's opendiary.com, where you can write your own - public or private - internet diary :) You could try www.fanfiction.net as well. It has loads of stories written using various characters from TV shows, books, movies...your fave is bound to be on there. You could always Google your fave celeb or singer as well.
Hope that helped!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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What are some good British movies from the nineties to now?

Anything written, produced or directed by Richard Curtis (Bridget Jones' Diary, Notting Hill, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Love Actually, etc). The Harry Potter movies, Sliding Doors, Goodnight Mr Tom...hmm, sorry, that's all I can think of right now!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I wanted to know if there was a certain career I can go to for these things. I've been getting really interested with the mind and what makes us do the things we do. I've been getting interested in things like, eating disorders, mental illness, personality disorders, insomnia, ADD, OCD, SAD, why people lie and a lot of other things like health, vegetarianism, raw foodists, etc. I want to learn more about this stuff, but not just through the internet. What are some courses that teach you about this kind of stuff and how can I apply what I know through a career? If you know some careers, do they pay well?

I believe I'm suffering from ADD, OCD and SAD. As I'm researching these, I come across other disorers and I get overwhelmed and I want to learn about them all...

Yep, Psychology is a good course, like the other columnist said. You might also wanna consider Social Work, Health and Social Care, Sociology or Child Psychology. You can apply to them through most colleges or the Open University (google it). You could become a psychotherapist, a psychoanalyst, a counsellor...there are loads of things!! Check out this website (http://www.connexions-direct.com/jobs4u/summary.cfm?id=171) and also check out the 'related jobs' section down the right-hand side for a better idea of some of those jobs.
And they pay EXTREMELY well...most psychologists etc charge by the hour...up to £100 an hour. Most people earn about £10 an hour though.
I'm a vegetarian as well, and I've suffered from OCD in the past, so if you ever wanna know anything more about that, feel free to contact me :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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i comfort eat a lot, how can i stop this its starting to make a difference in my weight. thanks appriciate it

Hiya,
Every time you feel like you want a chocolate bar or something, wait twenty minutes. I know it's really hard, but if by that time you're still craving one, then go and get something else sweet - for example, chocolate milk (at least you're getting calcium!), cereal (fibre) or fruit (vitamins and minerals), or maybe a digestive biscuit (just plain yummy sugar :P). And always stop at just the one - I'm awful with this, I eat one and end up eating the whole packet!! I've found that brushing my teeth straight after eating something sweet helps - it means that the sweet taste goes away so you're not craving more, and food taste so nasty just after you've brushed your teeth that you won't want to eat any more!!
Drink at least half a glass of water every time you feel hungry - it'll help you to get in those infernal 8 glasses a day, and most hunger is actually thirst, believe it or not. Also, half an hour before eating a big meal (i.e. if you're going out and you know you'll eat a lot), drink about 250ml (a small drinks bottle, or two medium cups) of FREEZING cold water - it gives your metabolism a kick start and means you burn your food off up to four times faster than normal!! Remember to always wait half an hour before eating after that though.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Okay here is the problem my friend just turned 12 last week but her room looks a little kiddish with like pink wallpaper,horse models and so on but she wants her room to look like a 12 year old kid's room but her mom will not let her get new furniture or paint her walls.So does anyone have any ideas on how she could make her room look good without getting new furniture and stuff?I will rate fives to anyone who helps with this room emergency no matter if your advice is not very good!!!

That's pretty hard...she could always cover the wall in posters and photos, put her horse models away in a box...
There's also a loada great stuff like fabric paint, fabric dye...a box of dye is really cheap so she could dye her duvet cover if she isn't allowed a new onw. She could add beads/glitter onto old lampshades, too.
And maybe her mum would let her paint the room if she agreed on a colour? She's probably just worried that the girl will paint it and then wanna change it all again in a year. Go for a pretty neutral theme/colour that they both agree on. Pale purple goes with ANYTHING so that's always a good choice, as does pale yellow.
She could have noticeboards in her room too, to cover up some of the walls. She could even ask for room accessories (photo frames, lamp shades, mirror balls, etc etc etc) for her birthday.
Cushions are cheap, and novelty star, heart or other shaped ones can be really fun!
All she can really do is put all her old toys away in a bunch of boxes. She could even cover the boxes in throws and use them as seats. The thing is, a 20 year old could have a baby pink room and make it look grown up - it's not the colour, it's what goes in it :) Some candles would help it look more grown up too!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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ok i need to leave in liek 30 minutes, so if you could give me any sort of help quickly it would be great! i have to sing in about 2 hours and i have a cold that i just woke up with my throat is really sore and i feel like im loosing my voice, and i have a cough, i have no choice but ti sing today and its for judges... any advice on helping my throat?

Buy some 'VocalZone' cough sweets if you can find them!! Drink plenty of water, blow your nose loads before you sing! Don't have soothers or lockets because the gunk in them will just block up your throat and maybe give you catarr, however much they stop the pain.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Is it neccesary, in Witchcraft,or Wicca, To cast a cirlce even while doing a simple spell??Please answer, i need help.

Well...no...
I have to admit that while I'm doing something simple like healing, a happiness spell or a blessing I don't, but if you're doing anything bigger than a chant, or anything that could be influenced by 'evil' (such a divination) then you really should. I;d say any spell that requires certain correspondances (candles, moon phase, etc) DEFINATELY needs a circle, as does any ceremonies (initiation, handfasting etc), as does any spell that is over say 8 lines or you want to go really well/be really powerful.
I hope that helped!!
Email me (my addys are on my profile) any time if you ever want to talk Wicca!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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does anyone know what kind of job an 11 year old could get(this is for my sister)

Hiya,
There really isn;t much she could do - 11 year olds aren;t allowed any job, legally, other than the paper round. However, she could walk dogs in her street for a bit of money, or even wash cars. I'd suggest babysitting but I dunno if parents would trust an eleven year old...I guess that depends on your sister and how well they know her really. If she is good at art, she might be able to do CD covers for small-scale bands she knows - my friend does that and gets paid quite a lot. If she writes, she could send her stuff off to magazines - they often pay at least £5 per poem/short story published. She could even write off letters to (for example, TV) magazines - they usually give at least £5 per letter published, or £10 for the 'star letter'.
For a bit of extra money she could always enter loads of competitions in magazines and stuff, or sell some old stuff on eBay - you'd be suprised at what people will buy!!
Hope that helped :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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does anyone know foods that have no carbs or sugar??

Hiya,
It's pretty impossible to find a food with NO carbs or sugar!! Things like Rice Cakes are LOW in sugar, but pretty HIGH in carbs...
Maybe you could try sugar free yoghurt, or certain vegetables like cabbage, carrots, etc...?
Sorry, those are the only actual suggestions I have...
But you could always look in your supermarkets 'healthy-eating' aisle. There's a new food range out called 'Carb Options', which has loads of normal foods with the carbohydrates taken out. You can also buy diabetic chocolates, if you have a sweet tooth but don't want to risk the sugar :) They're available in any good chocolate shop, including Thortons.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I couldn't find a catagory that this fit into specifically, but I guess it loosely fits into this one.
I get a good idea for the beginning of a story... and what happens? I get impatient and can't move-on with it.
Because of this patience problem I tend to not work-out the story in my head far in advance but to set creativity goals as I go- my farthest goal is usually just the next sentence... meaning, while a person may be walking down the street, I have no idea where they are going until I have to write that down. And that used to work so well for me. But now I can't even do that.
Back in school when I started writing, I was actually forced to do the work and if I didn't I'd fail... so to avoid the irritated tones from my teachers I could easily push-on and the creativity would flow out. I miss writing fiction as school-work.
Maybe it would be good if I join a fiction writing or creative writing class/course/work-shop. I could try. But the thing is, I was motivated in school because the work had an impact on the rest of my life. I had to get on to the next grade and eventually graduate or I'd be screwed. But workshops/clubs/courses. They're all more casual in that they won't effect the rest of my life. I won't lose anything; I won't be in the gutter. There are college courses but I'm sure they expect me to have more skill than I actually HAVE so I'm sure I'd flunk that anyway. Dropping out of high school and now having to do a distance education course set me back in my writing.
There are several aspects of this post I need advice on feel free to comment on whatever.

Thanks!

Hiya,

Maybe this is just a 'me personally' thing, but I always find it helps that, if I get stuck in the middle of a story, I plan it out, chapter by chapter, or maybe even write the very last chapter so that I know exactly what I'm working towards. I work much better when I plan though...maybe you could just try planning, see how it works for you?

It could just be that you aren't motivated...one day you'll get a GREAT idea come along - you'll just know that it's perfect...that in itself will be enough to motivate you into getting a story finished. Until then, keep on writing - anything, everything. You don't have to show it to anyone so it doesn't matter if it never gets finished or if you think it's bad :)

As for the college courses...try a beginners course? They aren't looking for people who will hand in amazing, ready-to-publish books on the first day, or even by the end of the course...it doesn't matter how good you are it, honestly! And I bet you're great anyway :)

Besides, a college course would motivate you, right? Because even though you think it won't affect the rest of your life, it might - Michelle Magorian, an English writer who wrote 'Goodnight Mr Tom' and 'Back Home' actually planned out and decided on the characters for 'Goodnight Mr Tom' (which has since become an amazingly high selling children's book and even a movie) while on a writing workshop! Your teacher or class mates will also be reading at leats parts of your work, so you'll be motivated to write, and write well, so you have some good stuff to show them!! :)

In the mean time, I have a HUGE list of activities for people with writers' block, so if you email me from any of the addys (it's too long to post on here) on my profile, or you leave an email address when/if you rate, I'll get that to you!

Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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So I'm totally in love with this person and that person loves me too... and I want to put together a CD of music sort of saying how i've fallen for them. Any ideas on songs for the playlist?

OK, I have no idea as to your or the other person's musical tastes, but here are some generally great love songs :) -
Delta Goodrem - Out of the Blue/Will You Fall For Me?
Lucie Silvas (google her if you don't know her...she's a big songwriter but is only just starting on a singing career and she has a beautiful voice) - Forget Me Not/Last Man Standing
Goo Goo Dolls - Iris
Aerosmith - Don't Wanna Miss A Thing
The Corrs - Runaway
Atomic Kitten - Cradle
Avril Lavigne - Things I'll Never Say
Dido - Thank You/Here With Me
Girls Aloud - I'll Stand By You/100 Different Ways
Joss Stone - Security/Fell in Love with a Boy/Super Duper Love (Are You Diggin' on Me?)
White Stripes (if you like rocky stuff) - Fell in Love with a Girl
Maroon 5 - She Will Be Loved
Natasha Bedingfield - These Words
Savage Garden - I Knew I Loved You (Before I Met You)/Truly Madly Deeply
Sugababes - Too Lost In You
Gabrielle - Sunshine
Sixpence None the Richer - Kiss Me
Ellie Campbell - So Many Ways

Hope that helped!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I really love my boyfriend, but hes scaring me. He keeps saying "it would be better if i was gone" & he keeps talking suicidal. Other times hes not though. I keep telling him to stop talking about it cuz its scaring me. He says "sorry I'll quit" but then he does it again. He says he wont kill himself cuz he cares too much about me & I was thinking, if we do ever break up, whats he gonna do then? Sometimes I think hes saying stuff for attention. I dont know what to do, I might not be able to do anything, but any advice would be appreciated.

Hiya hun,
You really don't wanna have to deal with a guy like this...if you ever want to break up with him, he is totally gonna send you on a guilt trip - 'oh, please don't leave me, I'll kill myself'. If his life isn't better with someone who loves him as much as you do then he doesn't have much hope and he most likely is doing it for attention. I'm really sorry to say this, but people who do that are really sick...
I don't wanna panic you or anything, but have you considered that he might have manic depression/borderline personality disorder, as his mood and attitude towards life seem to change so much? You should probably get it checked out, just in case, because if he does have it it can be medicated and stuff will get better, and if not then there's nothing to worry about!
Please, please don't EVER feel guilty over what he's saying. It's not your fault; you're obviously a very caring person and you've done all you can for him. I think the only thing you can do now is give him an ultimatum - either he stops this crap or you go. You don't have to really mean that you will go, just make it sound like you do - it might prompt him into takign action. If he is really doing it for attention, he will either stop it straight away or tell you he'll kill himself if you leave him. Don't listen to that - he's saying that when you're with him, that excuse is worn out.
Go with your instincts. You know this guy - you have much more of an idea of whether he is truly depressed or not. If he refuses to go to a counsellor, he most likely is doing it for attention. Maybe he thinks it's the only way he can hang on to you? If you think that might be the case, have a word with him and tell him how much you love him, but this stuff is driving you crazy and has got to stop - it's pushing you away from him, not making you want to stay around. Offer to go to a counsellor with him if you think he is genuinely depressed.
Just remember that this depression, real or fake, will take a while to shift. When you have been pretending to be like that for a long time, you actually begin to believe that you really are depressed, and it just becomes part of your mentality.
Good luck, and I'm sorry if I sounded really harsh in some of this!! The bottom line is, get out if you're not happy, no matter what he says. He's hinting at threatening to kill himself when you are with him, so don't fall for it if he tries saying he really will kill himself if you threaten to leave. You deserve much better than someone who is making you unhappy...if you're unhappy, walk away, no matter how hard it is.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Hi guys,
Me and my husband have just moved into a new house...well, I say new, but it's actually ANCIENT. So ancient that we have no heating whatsoever!! The place was so expensive though that we can't afford to install heating for at least another year. The windows and doorways are all draughty too. So, my question is, as it is so cold at the moment, any tips of keeping warm other than the obvious 'put on another jumper'?

Try putting on a hat - you lose a lot of heat through your head!!
You should also wear slippers, socks, or, even better, bed socks. Extremities, such as hands and feet, can get VERY cold (believe me, I know, we have no heating either ;P), so put on some socks and maybe even some gloves while you're typing on the PC!
You could always go around in a blanket, or pile extra blankets or rugs onto your bed at night!
You can buy relatively cheap draught excluders, too. You can get 'novelty' ones, shaped like giant cuddly toy snakes etc, for kids rooms that are actually cheaper and work much better than the usual brush variety.
Spend some time in your bedroom before going to bed (i.e. during the day) too, because rooms that are lived in more are warmer all the time. I have no idea how or why, but they are :)
And finally...body heat!! Lol, I know it sounds corny, but cuddle up to your husband as much as you can!! :P
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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If you have a ballet (Ball-ay) why do you have a wallet (wahll-et) and not wallet (wall-ay)?

You know I really don't know? Lol, I'm assuming it's because ballet is a french word and they don't pronounce a lot of the letters at the end of their words, but wallet is American/English, and we tend to pronounce all the letters at the end of our words, but not always at the start (for example knee, or knife).
Hope that helped!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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hi i live in michigan and over spring break my best friend and I are going to los aggeles, california! we're realllllly excited any everything but we're worried bcuz some of our friends are jealous and we don't want them to feel bad. what should we do?

thanks

Hiya,
I'm in exactly the same situation, only I live in Britain and am going to Spain with a friend :)
Of course your other friends are gonna be jealous...not only are you going to a cool place, but you chose your friend/your friend chose you to go over all of those other friends! They'll get over it, trust me. For now, try not to talk about it in front of them 'cause that's a bit like rubbing it in. For the ones who seem interested and are not jealous/at least hiding their jealousy, include them - ask them what clothes you should take and the like.
Your friends will get over this, I promise you. Don't let them being a little jealous ruin your holiday - I hope you have a great time!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I'm really confused, and surprised. I talked to my friend today, and we were talking about how I'm interested in Witchcraft, and then she said "Are you telling me you're a witch?"and I got kinda uncomfortable and Was like,"not really"cause I'm interested in it but I'm not one..yet. And then I asked what she thinks a witch is, and she rattled off all the storytale things, and I was really surprised. I'm trying to explain to her what modern "white"witches are, but I'm doing the best I can, but I dont know if thats good enough, I cnt eactly tell her to go look it up online.

I'm not exactly sure what you're asking here, but...
Wiccanism, or 'white witch' is VERY difficult to explain without the words 'witch' or 'magick', which tend to scare a lot of people off.
Some people think we are satanists. Some people think we're dellusional, others think we are evil. There's no changing their opinions 99% of the time. Hollywood and TV shows have blinded and blinkered people as to what witchcraft, or 'the old ways' is really about.
I'm sorry your friend doens't understand...if she is a very strong Christian, there is very little change for you to get her to come around to your point of view. Just always remember that wiccans aren't there to preach...merely to inform if someone is seeking knowledge :)
You're right when you say that you can't just tell her to go off and search the net (there is such a load of misinformed crap out there...plus all opinions on the craft differ per person), but you can tell her to go to this website - http://www.wicca.com/celtic/wicca/wicca.htm
It gives an absolutely beautiful description of what Wicca is all about.
If you personally ever want to know more about Wiccanism/paganism, some cool websites or books to check out, or even just to chat about it, feel free to email me/add me on any of the addy's listed on my profile :)
And always remember that your best is ALWAYS good enough :) If your friend isn't open-minded enough to listen, that's not your fault!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Every time I'm at a wedding or see a wedding on t.v., it's always a religous wedding.


So my question is, what happens at a no religous wedding?


Thanks.

Most non-religios weddings take place in a registrar's office and are called civil ceremonies. They are exactly the same as a Christian wedding but without the 'taking your vows before God' stuff. It's a lot more formal and boring, to be perfectly honest...
Some non-religious weddings are beautiful though, and can take place in a hotel, on the beach, stuff like that...couples are also more likely to be able to write their own vows.
They still exchange rings and sign the marriage contract, and can still have bridesmaids and page boys, but they don't walk up any kind of aisle. Two witnesses are required at a civil ceremony.
Hope that helped!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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