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My boyfriend...
I really love my boyfriend, but hes scaring me. He keeps saying "it would be better if i was gone" & he keeps talking suicidal. Other times hes not though. I keep telling him to stop talking about it cuz its scaring me. He says "sorry I'll quit" but then he does it again. He says he wont kill himself cuz he cares too much about me & I was thinking, if we do ever break up, whats he gonna do then? Sometimes I think hes saying stuff for attention. I dont know what to do, I might not be able to do anything, but any advice would be appreciated.
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Yes he's like starfing for attention for somereason..and i think he does care for you and everything but he wants your attention badly and maybe he's tryin to make it to where he knows he wont lose ya..much luv dez
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Hey I'm haveing a promblem sort of like that. My boyfriend is a cuts himself because he can't stop thiking of me. I would give you some advice but I can't figure out my own similiar promblem. I'm sorry I coudln't help. Most people on here have told me to talk to him so I guess I'll tell you the same talk to him. I hope I might've helped a little bit. I know what your going threw and its hard. I'm sorry. - Amber
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He probably is doing it for attention. If he doesn't have any school/family/medical problems ask him whats up. If he can't give you an answer quick enough, he is just looking for attention. Just try changing the subject (if he is looking for attention) everytime he talks like that. Besta Luck
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You cant to a thing.
Hes doing it for attention
Your boyfriend sucks
Why are you going out with him?
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Well to tell the truth I think you might not be making him to happy. I mean I have a girlfriend and she makes me happy to the point that I couldn't have a care in the world about anything but her. It's a great feeling believe me. Anyway, maybe you could make him feel better by doing stuff with him regularly. Guys always feel great when they're spending time with their girl. At least that's how I fee. But you know it could also be a mental illness. There can be a chemical inbalance in the brain that makes him depressed. I would say you should be able to make him feel better better if he's just depressed normally but if you can't help him get better then ask him to go to the doctor. Hope I helped.
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All you can really do is ignore it tastefully the best you can, and be there for him. Should the idea of breaking apart arise, do NOT let his suicidal tendencies get in the way. It's a very common way to get someone to keep from breaking up with you. And should he go to the extreme and actually kill himself (note: this won't happen) it would not be your fault. Anyone who kills themself under such circumstances didn't quite have all the wires connected up there in the first place.
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Tell him that you really care about him, and love him and that you dont want to lose him, you dont want him to leave. Say that if he was gone, the world would crumble, that so many people would be crushed, and ask him what about all the people that love him and care about him, his life will get better, you two are only in your teens i take it, so your life can only get better! there isnt any reason to die! there are so many people out there that love him, and that care about him.
Hope I Helped!!!
:)
Always There;
*KeLsA*
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Hiya hun,
You really don't wanna have to deal with a guy like this...if you ever want to break up with him, he is totally gonna send you on a guilt trip - 'oh, please don't leave me, I'll kill myself'. If his life isn't better with someone who loves him as much as you do then he doesn't have much hope and he most likely is doing it for attention. I'm really sorry to say this, but people who do that are really sick...
I don't wanna panic you or anything, but have you considered that he might have manic depression/borderline personality disorder, as his mood and attitude towards life seem to change so much? You should probably get it checked out, just in case, because if he does have it it can be medicated and stuff will get better, and if not then there's nothing to worry about!
Please, please don't EVER feel guilty over what he's saying. It's not your fault; you're obviously a very caring person and you've done all you can for him. I think the only thing you can do now is give him an ultimatum - either he stops this crap or you go. You don't have to really mean that you will go, just make it sound like you do - it might prompt him into takign action. If he is really doing it for attention, he will either stop it straight away or tell you he'll kill himself if you leave him. Don't listen to that - he's saying that when you're with him, that excuse is worn out.
Go with your instincts. You know this guy - you have much more of an idea of whether he is truly depressed or not. If he refuses to go to a counsellor, he most likely is doing it for attention. Maybe he thinks it's the only way he can hang on to you? If you think that might be the case, have a word with him and tell him how much you love him, but this stuff is driving you crazy and has got to stop - it's pushing you away from him, not making you want to stay around. Offer to go to a counsellor with him if you think he is genuinely depressed.
Just remember that this depression, real or fake, will take a while to shift. When you have been pretending to be like that for a long time, you actually begin to believe that you really are depressed, and it just becomes part of your mentality.
Good luck, and I'm sorry if I sounded really harsh in some of this!! The bottom line is, get out if you're not happy, no matter what he says. He's hinting at threatening to kill himself when you are with him, so don't fall for it if he tries saying he really will kill himself if you threaten to leave. You deserve much better than someone who is making you unhappy...if you're unhappy, walk away, no matter how hard it is.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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