about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

i was wondering if anyone could send me the link to not show the song on your myspace profile.
ive looked at many layout sites, but none of them havee the one im looking for.
thankss =D

Whateverlife.com has a code that works.
I tried sending it, but it didn't work.
So go there and click 'layouts and graphics'
then on the right side click
'hide music player'.

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I'm going to make a playlist to listen to because I am beyond bored. What are some of your favorite songs? I like punk, indie, and country punk? I'm not sure if thats what it's called... but I like Limbeck and Ben Kweller. Things like that. But other things are great too I am really up for anything.

Well I don't feel like listing songs, because that could get rather lenghy. Here are some bands/artists I'd reccomend:

Mayday Parade.
Boys Like Girls.
Maroon 5.
A Change of Pace.
Daphne Loves Derby.
Jason Mraz.
The Academy Is...
Backseat Goodbye.
Shiny Toy Guns.
The Killers.
Halifax.
Yellowcard.
Taking Back Sunday.

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My name is Liz, I am 16 and I have a boyfriend named Dalton. I am in love with him so much and I'm positive he loves me too. I'm really serios I am full fledge in love with this guy. Last night we were at his house and he brought up the idea of sex. I didn't know what to say so I told him I wasn't ready. But now I think I am so should I go for it? I know I love him so please don't say that I am too young or its not worth it.

Follow your heart. If you feel like you're ready, then go for it. But really think about it. If you have any questions or doubts, I wouldn't do it. I'd say you're a little young, but I know of 14 year olds losing their virginity, so who knows how young is considered too young. But like I said, really think about it. Just think of the pros and cons. Will sex really bring you 2 clsoer or anything? Or will it just be something you 2 did? And if you're not ready, that's completely fine! I'm sure your boyfriend will understand if he loves you like you say he does.

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does anyone no where i can get a juicy couture layout??thanks!

Google it =]
I'm sure you'll find tons of sites, and a layout that you love.

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okay so i decided to make e new myspace as an advice column so that people can ask me for advice and i don't have any friends on there or anything like that help?

Friend big layout sites and supoort 4 support with them.
Here's mine;
www.myspace.com/dontchalayouts.
Add me and I'll support 4 support with you to get you started out =]

Support 4 support means posting a bulletin saying to add one another, in case you didn't know =D

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i want the song Dead! by my chemical romance on my page.

without having to upload anything from my computer, because it takes AGES

help...

links please.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=188378425

That literally took me 4 seconds XD
Enjoy!

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I work as a service clerk in a drugstore, usually in 8-hour shifts. During this time I am either running around stocking things, helping people find things, or ringing people up, so I'm obviously on my feet the entire time. I am not allowed to wear sneakers or open-toed shoes, but by the end of the day my feet are killing me. I've tried wearing flats, vans, heels, kitten heels, and boots but they all were painful. Anyone have (a) any suggestions for close-toed, comfy shoes, or (b) any ideas to stop the pain?

Crocs are comfy shoes.
Or Puma sneakers.

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14/f 138 lbs. 5'9". about how many calories should i eat to lose about 5-10 lbs.?

You don't need to lose weight.
you're perfectly fine how you are =]
You're if anything, a tiny bit underweight.

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i'm making me a myspace layout, and it looks good and all, but i have a problem with it. i can't find a code that will hide my friends and comments completely. i tried using this code from a layout site, but it doesn't completely hide the friends and comments tables. where can i get a code that'll work?

thanks.

Google it.
Or try whateverlife.com
If you don't find one, inbox me and I'll fix one so it works with your layouts.

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I like this guy I met online. I don't know if he likes me or anything but we seem to get along really well. I dont know if I should tell him or what because I really like him. Wht are your views on long distance relationships? Do yuo think they work or not? We're both 15 if tht helps.

Thnks :)

Hmm, this is kind of tough.
My views on long distance are, if you're both willing to commit and be honest within the relationship, go for it! I'd probably tell him, or at least hint it to him. Life's too short not to. But first, make sure you really know him. I'm going to go all "safety crazy" on you and tell you to check out who you talk to. Where did you meet him? Myspace? Because they have alot of freaky guys on there. Just please please be very careful. He could be some 40 year old freak or he could be who he says he is, but just looking to hook up. I know both of those are terrible, but it's true =/ But if you're positive he is who he says he is, then I guess you can like I said, let him know, or hint it to him. You never know, he could feel the same way. I think long you guys could make it work if you really trusted one another and wanted to make it work. Good Luck!

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Alright, so I'm going to get my eyebrows waxed for the first time EVER sometime this week, and I'm a little nervous.

1) How long will it take?

2) How do they do it?

3) On a scale one to ten, ten being highest, how bad did it hurt for you the first time?

4) What age did you start getting yours waxed/plucked, etc?

5) How often will I need to get them redone or whatever?

Plz help, I'm a little confused, and really nervous.

1. Like 5 minutes.
2. They put wax on your eyebrow and in between, then a paper thing. Then they rip it off. But not super hard like the 40 year old virgin waxing scene (even though that was chest hair.)
3. It hurt about a 5ish. Not that bad at all.
4. I started getting mine at 14. Thoguh I've only gotten them done 3 times.
5. However often you want. You could do it at home with kits you can buy or you can use tweezers.
Goo luck =]

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I'm getting really bored of all the music I like recently because I listen to it all too much, so I would like to find another band I'd like. I like alternative music mainly, stuff that's a bit different to everything else and things with pretty lyrics. Anything anyone could recommend? Thanks in advance .xoxoxox

Boys Like Girls.
Paramore.
Cartel.
The Used.
Senses Fail.
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Plain White T's.
The White Stripes.
Smashing Pumpkins.
My Chemical Romance.
Silverstein.
Mae.
Quietdrive.
The Almost.

hope this helps =]

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When I was little, my parents never spent time with me, never talked to me unless it was about something i did wrong, and really brought me down.

Now I'm 16, and I'm used to living without my parents basically. They're there, but not there for me.

I think my childhood led up to the reason why I don't have any esteem at all.

I'm trying to make up for those years by hanging out with my friends- and they're calling me "clingy".

I need to try and make up for those little positive moments i never had as a kid, I need to get my esteem past the level of zero.


Any advice on how I can do this?

Find something that makes you happy. Take up a hobby, like for me, it's writing, and just do it whenever you feel down. Try something new, something that makes you feel accomplished and proud. Writing always makes me feel better and I hope you find something that does the same for you!
Also, explain to your friends that you aren't 'clingy', you just need some friend support because you feel you don't have parental support. Or find some new friends who don't feel like you're 'clingy'.

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OK, everytime I think someone else is prettier than I am, my bfflad, Bethanie, always says the ones I say have no boobs. What and the heck is so important about big boobs!!?!?!?!?!?!? I mean i dont mind having a bigger chest than them but wats the point if they do or not. I mean big boobs arent everything are they?

I don't know why people care so much about boobs, but you shouldn't worry about it. They aren't everything, I agree with you there.
And this friend is either messing with (much like my friend teases me about being semi flat) or she's just kind of rude. Ask her to stop if it makes you feel insecure.

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hi, im really upset and i've cried for ages over this im turning 14 in exactly 2 weeks, this is long right basically i havent started my period my boobs are growing and are a fair size, i've got lots of pubic hair on my vagina and armpits thats normal. I'm worried about the period thing will it ever start? I masturbated with proper dirty sticks and unclean pens will this affect my period and also i don't do much sports apart from athletics once a week in school as part of PE but i'm quite energetic and lively. I'm so scared i really don't know what to do, my sister who is now 17 started hers at the age of 13 and 3 months i don't know about my mum and i can't talk to them or any doctors what should i do? I want to say thank you for everyone who helps me out with advice and please even if i have 50 answers please still write in thanks a lot.

Masturbating does not affect your period.
You're perfectly fine. Some girls don't get theirs until they're 16! And trust me, you aren't missing out on anything. But don't go to the doctor, please, it won't do anything to help you because there is nothing wrong. And don't cry over it, you're honestly going to be fine! Your period normally starts 1-2 years after puberty starts, the pubic hair, etc. Like I said, just calm down, you'll be fine! =]

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Hey, can you guys listen to my song and tell me what you think.. And some adive also, if you have any

I'm kinda shy, so i'm not ready to share this with people I already know.

http://www.purevolume.com/songsfortheweek

thanks

I really liked it.
Except, I agree with the person below me, you kind of sound like you're talknig more than singing. Other than that I honestly can say I really liked it. You're guitar playing was really nice. And I read the lyrics and liked them as well. Good luck =]

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I saw you answered a question about a girl who likes a guy, should she tell him? Blah blah.
Anyways: I like how you answered it, and I have a similer question...
I really like this guy, but I dont really know him. We talk online a lot and I dont know if i shoudl elt him know I like him.
What do you think?

Thanks.
I didn't completely get your question.
So you like him, but do you ever hang out? When you say talk online, are you limited to that because you can't hang out? Do you just not hang out, or does he live somewhere different than you. You didn't really specify much, but I'll answer for both.
Well, if he lives near you, I'd suggest hanging out with him. Go catch a movie sometime? Go to the mall? And flirt with him a little. Smile at him, laugh at his jokes, see how he responds.
If he lives far away, and you're thinknig of a long distance thing, I haven't ever been in this situation, so I'm speaking purely from opinions. I think it could work. Though, I'm a strong believer in "love conquers all". But if you like each other, go for it. I mean, let him know. Like I told the other girl you reffered to, life's too short to sit around and wonder what could've been. Tell him, ask his opninion, and see where it goes. Good Luck!

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lol okay im 16/f and i like my friend whom i known since i was 4. and i talked to him in 7th grade. and then yesterday on myspace. and i like him a lot.and we might hangout at the mall. and im not sure if i should tel him yet that i like him.because im afraid he'll get scared. because i notice guys do get scared when u tell them you like them or something. what should i do?

Tell him.
Don't just blurt it out, but bring it up with him. Just say, we've been friends for so long, and lately, I feel like I want something more from you. My feelings are different, they're going beyond friendship or something like that.
Life's too short to sit around and wodner what could've been. And you never know, he might feel the exact same way! =]
Good Luck!

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I have mono. I have to make an appointment with my family doctor soon, but until then I have a few questions.

Are you able to exercise with mono?? I heard it depends on how you feel, but some people said it could really make me sick. My spleen isn't enlarged yet though.

Would swimming/going out in the sun be a bad idea?? It is very hot out, but I'm not sure how much it would affect me.

Since my spleen isn't enlarged yet & I haven't had the urge to sleep a lot, I don't think my mono is in full swing, but I was diagnosed with it. I did try some google articles, but they weren't really helpful.

Thanks!

My best friend had mono, and the doctor told her to rest. Like Volleyball said below, excercising could cause your spleen to rupture and that would not be good.
I think swimming or going out would be a bad idea because of this, and the fact that mono is contagious. So like I said, just rest. You don't have to sleep, you can read a book, watch a movie, or listen to music. Of course, you can update your advicenators =]
Feel better soon & Good luck!

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this is for anyone who gets cosmogirl or seventeen*

you know how in most issues they have a workout routine? well i wondering which one was the most effective. i still have most from this/last year so if you could tell me which one the most effective one is in would be greatt (or like whos on the cover)

Like the person below me, they're all effective. And it depedns on what you want to tone up or slim down. Some are specially designed for elgs, some for arms, etc. Just go through them and find one that looks like it would work the area you want to work. But like I said, they all will work if you do them and eat healthy.

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