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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I am skinny, yet my face is chubby, Hair cut advice, its looking dull and flat.. and makeup advice? thanks How old do you think i look in this picture?
I'm going to guess you are around 17
Your hair is long, Straight and would probably look good if you tried to chop it shoulder length and lighten it up a little bit with some highlights. If you want to try makeup go light, I personally find women more attractive when they don't over do the makeup. Try applying some simple eye liner and a colored lip gloss. If you want add a little blush to your face but again don't over due it.
Here is a picture of a good hair cut that would probably look good;
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18/f
I have been seeing an ex again and he makes me happy (he is only an ex because i fell out with im his sister) very happy but my parents hate him so much. i want to be with him and like wise but he said to me 'i want to be with you but not as a secret, let me know when u have told your mum' what am i to do tell her and win him or dont tell her and loose him?
You are an adult, You are entitled to date who ever you wish. Your parents may have their opinions but they cannot tell you who you can and cannot date as you are legally an adult. If you live under their roof then yes, They may throw the whole "Their house, There rule" at you which you would have to accept they likely would not want your boyfriend at the house. Therefore, You may need to work around it and spend time elsewhere.
What foods or some drinks(no meds) will make me poop a lot
Anything with fiber, Vegetables.
I am of 16 and female....it my first love ever....i love him a lot and i know he love me too...but i dont what had happened to him, his reaction was changed suddenly....he always says i love u a lot and i cant live without u,u r too sexy, too beaution,amazing,etc.....i love him too...and i know i cant live without him....suddenly his reaction towards me changed and he started saying dont text me or dont call me by mistake also...i will change my no. And will never talk to u.....it hurted me badly....i love him madly....seeing his changed attitude made me cry....and made me to do hillarious things like cutting my hand with knife,etc.....i know he love me more than anything in the world but at the same time i cant bear his changed behaviour too.....please give advices....i need u all... Thank you!
You really should get the mind set that he "loves" you out of your head. People who love each other don't find it hilarious when one cuts themselves, and threatens to change their number.
Reality is, At one point in time your boyfriend may of cared for you, He could of been a great guy etc. but people change. Sometimes people aren't always what they appear to be. If your boyfriend finds it hilarious that you cut yourself......Your boyfriend has some serious issues.
So for my advise; Dump him, He is treating you like shit and is abusing you mentally and there is absolutely no need for it. There is also NO excuse for it either whether he is having a bad day, joking, or even "going through a stage" talking to him about how it makes you feel may not solve the problem considering your boyfriend seems to think it's "funny" to intimate you. I wouldn't stick around and tolerate this crap, You deserve better and normally when people abuse someone they don't stop unless they seek help for it. Ignoring the problem and letting him put you down and threaten your relationship will eventually somewhere begin to take it's toll and I don't recommend sticking around if he isn't willing to shape up. You are 16 years old, You CAN live without him and yes, You will also find someone else who will treat you right and respect you. This asshole needs to be curb stomped because honey, This isn't love. As long as you continue to be in a relationship like this you will continue to allow yourself to be hurt and abused. You need to get out and leave him the sooner you realize you are better off the better you will be.
My friend wants to use a oujie board at a party we are planning. What are some things I should know about oujie boards and what are your beliefs on oujie boards. Also what are some legends on them and how would you use one? Thank you!!!
Ouija boards are said to attract evil spirits, I'm not saying I 100% believe it's true but I certainly wouldn't want to find out.
A Ouija board is not a game, It is a board made to make contact with the people who've passed. Anyway, I personally would pass on the idea of messing with one. Even if your friends think it would be "fun" idea.....Rather a stupid one in my opinion.
well me and my boyfriend where playing around yesterday. his penis touched my vagina and he pre-cumed a little. after that he fingered me and i think that way the precum may have gotten into me and now i'm scared that i'm pregnant cause now is also the time when i'm most fertil :/ can precum cause pregnancy? and afterwards he also went into me for like 3 seconds but i told him to pull out. i dont think he pre-cumed when he was in me though. and i also had a few drinks which is also the reason i was so careless (is there a chance that the alcohol could've prevented pregnancy?) .. usually i always use a condom and i'm very careful. is there a high chance that i might be pregnant?
There is always a chance despite what kind of method or birth control you use. Nothing is ever 100% and yes, something as small as precum can cause pregnancy. If you do not want to get pregnant use precaution at all times.
18/f
I believe in karma, I really do. And that's why it scares me. I'll start off that in 7th grade, I liked another guy while I was dating someone else. But I chose to stay with my boyfriend during that time and forgot about the guy I was crushing on. And after we broke up, I got cheated on 3 times in a row by 3 different guys (not at the same time of course). So that's what gets me so scared now. I LOVE the person who I'm with right now, after all the people I have dated... He's different. I really like him, and I really want to stay.
But lately I've been really paranoid of him liking another girl or having some interest or whatnot. The reason why was because 6 months ago, I had a coworker who liked me. It was obvious, he showed some interest but he knew that I had a boyfriend. The thing is, I started to like him and I hated that about myself. Every day I went to work, he was working with me and then when I get off my boyfriend picks me up from work. I felt so guilty, but I never let my sight off of my boyfriend. Did I cheat? No. There were friendly hugs like bye, but that's it. Nothing more.
My boyfriend knew that he liked me. Later on, I told him how I felt because I never liked hiding anything from him. And he was hurt. But the thing is, I stopped talking to my coworker because he eventually quit, and now I only ask how he's doing once every... 3 months?? But because of that I'm so paranoid that the guy that I really like, what if he likes someone else?
I thought that maybe the karma was the first time my boyfriend broke up with me. I was devastated and we got back together a couple of months later on. And now I'm afraid of him breaking up with me again.
Do you think karma will hit me? Or do you think the first break up was actually the karma?
I believe in karma also but lets not over due the idea of it.
If you are in a relationship with your boyfriend and feel guilty about liking someone else, Then don't let it go to far. It is okay to be attracted to someone but don't make a big deal of it. You are in a relationship with your boyfriend, Not someone else. Of course it will hurt your boyfriend to hear you had a crush on someone else, You would be hurt if you heard that your boyfriend liked someone other girl wouldn't you?
You should learn to trust your boyfriend and the relationship, Don't go assuming that he could possibly like someone else. You were cheated on 3 times, That was the past. This is now, Your relationship with your boyfriend. Stop asking about the other guy, Let it go and get over it. Continuously bringing him up is only going to kill your boyfriends confidence and make him because insecure. Appreciate what you have, Not what you don't or could. If you are happy in your relationship then you should have no reason to doubt it.
17/f
this isnt quite a long story but my ex boyfriend broke up with me about a year ago and i may sound quite pathetic but i need to get over him. i know ill always have a special place for him in my heart but me seeing pictures of him now and him with girls that he isnt even dating isnt healthy for me. i will be seeing him in august and also i dont even know how to handle that situation because i havent seen him since the last time we were together before we broke up.
i dated him for eight months and that may be nothing for some but it was enough for me and to be honest i am mature about this whole love thing. but i fell in love and i just need to know how to get over it. anything will be great advice. much appreciated.
The first step towards moving on is learning to except that it is over. Your ex boyfriend has moved on. The truth is, People never forget their first loves. I ended my relationship with my first over 3 years ago and I still remember it clear as day. However, As much as I remember I know that whatever we had it was just an experience no more no less.
A year is a long time to dwell on a relationship that is in the past, People move on. The sooner you begin to realize that it was no more than an experience the sooner you will be able to except and move on from it. If you are still in contact with him I highly suggest cutting all contact. If you are still looking at pictures, Stop. Looking at pictures is going to make the moving on process 10 times harder and before you know it you will eventually burn yourself out. Stop looking at pictures, Stop stalking his girlfriends, Don't even look at his profile. You need and should focus on you, That is what is important now. In August if you see him, Walk away. Don't even pay no mind too it. Reality is.....He is an ex and he is the past.
Okay a lot of this involves being on a swim team so if your not sure what I'm saying sorry about that!!!
Okay there's this kid on my swim team who really dislikes me almost to a hating point. I actually used to look up to him when he swam butterfly. Well as we both got older I became faster at him in butterfly and I am years younger than him. Our coach would kinda taunted him about it but oh well. But the other night at practice I went home sick becaude I wasn't feeling well. So this new girl that was coaching the summer swim asked if I did that a lot and I don't. That was rare and he told her YES!!! My friend told me he said this and I am so mad!!! I haven't done anything to him. He also tells his friends stuff about me in their lockeroom when he doesn't even know me. (I'm the only girl on the team) He has barely even talked to me even though we've been swimming for years. I just can't believe him. I'm in awe. I really am!
He is clearly jealous, You are better than him and he knows it.
Jealousy is a real funny thing, This kid doesn't like the fact that someone younger than him and that is a girl is better. You kill his ego and he likely envy you for it. Have you ever tried to confront him? Don't be mean but just tell him that he is good too. (Even if you don't think so) Catch him off guard, Approach him and tell him that you don't like the fact that he treats you like crap but you just wanted to let him know that he is really good at what he does and just walk away. He'll probably be blown away and perhaps he just needs a reminder that he is good too. Either or, You can try to ignore him and hope the tension eventually blows over.
I'm getting a six letter tattoo in cursive on my lower side area. Can I get a range of how much it will cost? and how bad does it hurt? Thanks!
Well it all depends on the design, coloring and how big you want it.
I used to work at a tattoo parlor a few years back, A medium sized tattoo about the size on your back hand would range anywhere from 140-250 dollars.
It all depends on where you go too, Different places have different prices.
Example: I once tattooed a picture of a cat paw with wings on the side, Pets name in the middle with a halo above the paw print. Again, The tattoo was about the size of a back hand and it costed I believe 235. If you want an ideal price then pay your tattoo parlor a visit tell them what you want. The bigger you have the more expensive and as far as the pain it's different for everyone.
My boyfriend and I are about to get engaged, live together, and are talking marraige.
I found out hes recently been looking at w4m casual encounters on craigslist. (I found this out by accident). I asked him about it, and he said that it was just like porn and harmless. He has also upped his porn watching lately, though our sex life hasnt suffered.
He is stressed/depressed, and he also says its stress relief.
However I think theres a difference between porn and real women on craigslist, especially since he has replied to these before he met me.
He said he'd try and stay away from those sites, but then I found out he'd gone on them again.
Hes apologized, and said it was just looking.
This whole thing has shaken my confidence in us and though we've been discussing it and I know hes planning to ask me to marry him, now I'm not so sure I should say yes.
What do you think? I know he isnt currently cheating on me, as hes with me whenever hes not at work, and when hes at work he calls me from the work line, he gets no lunch breaks, etc etc. Hes off at 9, home at 9.15.
I'd be concerned if he is going as far as responding to craigslist ads, This is were it draws the line. Your boyfriend is not being a typical man looking at porn, Your boyfriend is looking to get some ass through people on craigslist.
You can try and do what Mangy suggested, Couples counseling. However, My main concern is the fact that you have confronted your boyfriend about his habit and he still continued to do whatever the hell he pleased. This is where my hopes of couples counseling possibly working looks grim.
My main question is this; (especially since he has replied to these before he met me. ) Now if this is before he met you then there really isn't a big deal about it. However, If your boyfriend is still to this day looking at ads on craigslist and is still responding to them then you've got yourself a red flag and need to express how you feel again. If he isn't willing to work on it and stop looking for ass elsewhere then you really need to curb stomp him. You are right, There really is no difference between simply wanting to look a porn then cheating with a complete stranger. Lay off the marriage talk until you both are on the same page because if he continues this crap.....Then it is better to know where you stand before you walk down that isle.
I really want a tattoo, nothing huge, but I want something really meaningful in one of my languages but I don't know what to get. Any ideas?
Are you looking for inspirational words?......
If so, Once you've answered this question you've found your answer;
What is your motto in life?
if i had a dime
I'll take a wild guess...
Incubus- Glass
Hello I'm a 20 year old female and I'm always tired. Even after getting like 6 hours or sleep or so a night I'm still tired. I've been working the late shift at work 4pm-1am so I haven't been getting to bed until real late. Do I have a vitamin deficiency? I have to slam 5 hour energies just to get me through the day. Any advice on what I could do to help become more rested. I do work out like 2 times a week but I feel like that makes it worse. Thanks and I do rate!
Here is your problem
( I have to slam 5 hour energies just to get me through the day) Stay away from 5 hour energies. I have heard numerous complaints that it actually gives you the opposite effect and that it also causes you to crash quickly. 5 hour energies are high on sugar also.
If you get home for 1 am try and be in bed as soon as possible if you can scoop an extra hour of sleep go for it. Also, Taking fish oil pills or anything containing omega 3 should also help you feel better but make sure you eat healthy.
I am almost positive I was raped but I am not 100%...About a year ago I was with my well now ex boyfriend and we had been dating for over a year...One day we ended up at his house and we were doing stuff...Well I always got really scared and wanted to cry so I was asking my "sex expert" of a friend what to do and she thought I was ready to have sex. I told my boyfriend this and he started pushing me to do so. He used everything he could to get me to give in from family, to religion, to friends, to if I really loved him...Even though before he said he would wait as long as I needed...Especially since from the start of the relationship I told him that I didn't want to have sex until marriage and he was perfectly fine with that. When I told him to give me to the next time I saw him so I could make sure I was positive and make it hopefully more romantic he got mad at me and was yelling at me that I was going to do what I normally do and back out then accused me of blue balling him all of the time and how it wasn't fair on his part. Eventually I screamed fine then went to the bathroom and cried a little then went back to his room and just gave in...Is this rape? We were fighting and I know he pressured me but I don't know what it is legally considered...I absolutely hate myself for what I did.
Sorry for this being so long
You weren't raped, You were pressured and taken advantage of.
Someone who respects you and your feelings would wait without pressuring you to your breaking point. Rape, Is when you say no and sex is forced upon you. However, There are many definition of "rape" yours do not fit into the category. Short answer you weren't raped, You were pressured and cracked. From now on if someone keeps pressuring the hell out of you to have sex.....Dump them immediately.
I met a man on facebk 3yrs ago.I would write to him & he would write back but was always very brief.After a year I asked him if he wanted to meet me,he replied that he never meets people from online.After 3 yrs I deleted him since It seemed to be going nowhere,3 mnths later I asked him to be friends again since i missd him and he acepted.In one of our mails he left his phone# I was surprised but stupidly I calld & lft a mssg with my # when he didnt answer.About an hour later he deleted & blckd me from fcbook. I new he wasnt interested but thought we where friends? What did I do wrong? how could he be so mean?
Do you know this person not online but actually seen this person before?.....
Anybody can say anything over the internet, Do you even know if this man has a wife/girlfriend? From the sound of what you've written you may not of been the only girl he was talking too.
Lets face it, Many people generally don't like meeting random people off the internet, It isn't safe and frankly I don't recommend doing it again.
It sounds like the guy just simply doesn't want to be friends and isn't be upfront about it. If he blocked you and deleted you then just leave it alone and move on. That is probably his nice way of trying to tell you he isn't interested. If you want to meet someone then try talking to someone you've seen in person, Trying to meet random people off of facebook isn't really the smartest idea.
EDIT: Alright,
Maybe it could of been you scared him off?..Or he could of been talking to someone you didn't know about. The user below me has a point, Asking him to meet you in person could of caused him to get the weirded out. Although it has been 3 years have you ever asked him for his number? or asked him to meet you in person before? Nobody can really tell you for sure why he blocked you and no we are not saying you did deserve it but sometimes people just do things for reasons unknown. However, I'll be truthful it sounds like he met someone else.
Whenever me and my girlfriend are texting we dont really talk about much and sometimes ill ask "want to have a good conversation.." meaning flirty and like talk about stuff we do when we hang out...but most of the time shes never in the mood doesnt wanna talk and when i dont text her she gets sad saying why dont you text me anymore...what should i do?..
Your girlfriend may want you to text her but maybe she doesn't feel comfortable having flirty conversations through a phone. This is something you should talk about with her.
Is it ok to love your cousin? I dont mean everyday love love i mean like in love with him?Would I ever be able to have a normal relationship with him?
No you will not be able too have a relationship with him
Your cousin is your family, That is considered incest and incest is illegal. That is gross, Find someone who is not in your family and is not a blood related relative.
34/F
I am deciding whether to let my friend go. I’ve felt I don't wish to be her friend for over a year, however we have been friends since the 1st day of highschool and I do love her. I just feel like she is a huge drain on me and I always feel worse (stressed, sad, no energy) after talking to her or seeing her.
She was studying and working for a long time, and so I would always be the one making time for her, going through to see her, phoning at times that were convenient for her. Lately she’s had some big news (moving home, pregnancy), and again I’m the one making all the compromises.
I know I need to accommodate her but she has now said I can't email her because she doesn't have time to reply, and when I try to phone she doesn't pick up. I can't arrange a time to see her if we can't communicate. My last email to her (2 days ago) suggested 3 possible time slots for a phone call. She hasn’t replied. I’ve done this before (suggested times to call) but she hasn’t responded to these requests.
Lately when I do get to talk to her, she adds to the pile of stressors in her life, citing medical problems and more. She is a liar by nature and I now wonder if she is saying these things to gain my sympathies? It reeks of Victim Complex/Histrionic Personality Disorder, but obviously I can’t say this on the off-chance that it is all true. Her issues are vague, like ante natal depression, chronic fatigue syndrome, IBS, spastic colon - all "non-provable" things. The latest is that she has a "bad heart" or something.
I have told her I will speak to her in 6 weeks as I am too busy to chase her down for a phone call, but she has sent me petulant text messages, wondering whether I am as busy as I say I am (I really am!). She has become this huge, negative influence in my life but it is not easy to end it. My mother says I should protect & fight for my female friends as they will be there for me in the future like no-one else will.
Thanks for reading. I appreciate any comments.
In years time, People getting older, They grow apart, They eventually go their separate ways..
If you feel that your friend is a burden in your life, Then the friendship likely died out a long time ago and you both are hanging by a thread and she hasn't acknowledge that yet. There really is no nice way to tell someone that you don't want them in your life anymore, The best way I can recommend for you is too simply tell her that there is something you want to get off your chest....and tell her you feel you've grown apart. However, Considering the fact that she is pregnant at this time instead of getting yourself into possible confrontation perhaps just send her a text message or write her a letter in the mail or last but not least just simply cut contact and hope she gets the picture. Nobody can force you to remain friends with someone but keep in mind if you burn your bridge you may be burning it forever.
I killed a squirrel... I swear I didn't mean too.. It was an accident.. I was actually going under the speed limit, and the thing ran out in front of me while I was driving. :( What am I going to do.. I can't stop crying! My parents think I'm stupid for crying but I feel bad because I never killed something before and I love animals! Should I give it a funeral?? Say a few words for the squirrel... :(
I am sorry you killed a squirrel....
I can't tell you how many animals I've ran over in my years of driving, As sad as it is this kind of stuff happens everyday. Animals just run in the middle of the road and sometimes don't always make it. There just really isn't much you can do to avoid the situation. If it makes you better you can say a prayer or write a poem for the squirrel but I really don't suggest making a funeral for it....