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Scared of karma
18/f
I believe in karma, I really do. And that's why it scares me. I'll start off that in 7th grade, I liked another guy while I was dating someone else. But I chose to stay with my boyfriend during that time and forgot about the guy I was crushing on. And after we broke up, I got cheated on 3 times in a row by 3 different guys (not at the same time of course). So that's what gets me so scared now. I LOVE the person who I'm with right now, after all the people I have dated... He's different. I really like him, and I really want to stay.
But lately I've been really paranoid of him liking another girl or having some interest or whatnot. The reason why was because 6 months ago, I had a coworker who liked me. It was obvious, he showed some interest but he knew that I had a boyfriend. The thing is, I started to like him and I hated that about myself. Every day I went to work, he was working with me and then when I get off my boyfriend picks me up from work. I felt so guilty, but I never let my sight off of my boyfriend. Did I cheat? No. There were friendly hugs like bye, but that's it. Nothing more.
My boyfriend knew that he liked me. Later on, I told him how I felt because I never liked hiding anything from him. And he was hurt. But the thing is, I stopped talking to my coworker because he eventually quit, and now I only ask how he's doing once every... 3 months?? But because of that I'm so paranoid that the guy that I really like, what if he likes someone else?
I thought that maybe the karma was the first time my boyfriend broke up with me. I was devastated and we got back together a couple of months later on. And now I'm afraid of him breaking up with me again.
Do you think karma will hit me? Or do you think the first break up was actually the karma?
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well it's a good thing that you realize what you did wrong. if you know that you have already won. try and change it now. you never know when karma is going to hit you, nobody does, all you can do is be the best you can, don't lie and if your talking to some guy and starting to like him... that's normal, that happens to a lot of people, but at least you didn't chheat on your boyfriend.
when your talking to you bf you can say something like " at my work there was some guy i was talking to and he was pretty cute" or something and if your bf looks at you all weird you can say something like "but not as cute as you, and give him a kiss or something." haha
but the moral of the story is karma is karma and you never know when its going to hit you, try and do the best you can.!(: hope i helped.!
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This is normal. But the thing you should do is sit downwith your boyfriend and tell him. Tell him you really like him and possibly ask him to tell you if he feels like he is losing interest of you too another girl. And if he ever does tell you he is losing interest to another girl, ask him what you can do about this. MAKE SURE YOU TWO COMMUNICATE!!
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It is human nature to be in a relationship and be attracted to someone else. Of course it would hurt your other half, but as long as you don't linger on the subject, it will pass. I believe in karma too, but I don't think that your attraction to other men will effect your karma. Like I said, it's human nature. You cannot always fight the natural human urges. You can try to control them and with some practice you will overcome this mishap.
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I believe in karma also but lets not over due the idea of it.
If you are in a relationship with your boyfriend and feel guilty about liking someone else, Then don't let it go to far. It is okay to be attracted to someone but don't make a big deal of it. You are in a relationship with your boyfriend, Not someone else. Of course it will hurt your boyfriend to hear you had a crush on someone else, You would be hurt if you heard that your boyfriend liked someone other girl wouldn't you?
You should learn to trust your boyfriend and the relationship, Don't go assuming that he could possibly like someone else. You were cheated on 3 times, That was the past. This is now, Your relationship with your boyfriend. Stop asking about the other guy, Let it go and get over it. Continuously bringing him up is only going to kill your boyfriends confidence and make him because insecure. Appreciate what you have, Not what you don't or could. If you are happy in your relationship then you should have no reason to doubt it.
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