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Getting over a first love who dumped you.
17/f
this isnt quite a long story but my ex boyfriend broke up with me about a year ago and i may sound quite pathetic but i need to get over him. i know ill always have a special place for him in my heart but me seeing pictures of him now and him with girls that he isnt even dating isnt healthy for me. i will be seeing him in august and also i dont even know how to handle that situation because i havent seen him since the last time we were together before we broke up.
i dated him for eight months and that may be nothing for some but it was enough for me and to be honest i am mature about this whole love thing. but i fell in love and i just need to know how to get over it. anything will be great advice. much appreciated.
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you just need to put yourself out there again and then someone truly special will find you and you might even find yourself taking a date in august
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First of all, your first love will always be in your heart because like all firsts, it sticks. I know it hurts to loose someone you cared about but when its over, you need to move on.
Eight months is a long time. Some people give others rules on how another should get over a break up. They are all ridiculous so don't listen. I have heard someone say you have half the length of your relationship to get over it but you know what forget them.
First of all , you're a girl. I know you know it but you need to realize unlike your ex your are complicated with your emotional depth. A guy is emotional but not like a girl. Just because he moved on after a month doesn't mean you should of moved on the same time as him.
Starting now i will give you some nice tips so you can just get on with your life. If you don't get over it now, you will never be able to be in a relationship again and i as girl know that is not what you want.
First of all, love is not something that you are not capable of doing. You are human therefore love. Love is endless and i will quote that. Losing a loved one under any circumstance hurts and you have been hurt. You are not pathetic. You are just human. Crying, remembering, and living is what you do. I fully trust that you will get over your break up but that does not necessarily mean that you will loose your memories.
In August when you see him, you will have a memory of your happiest moment with him come up and it is unbearable but you know what????? You can handle it. Getting over love is hard but a path well taken. You need to find your right path. A path in which looking at him with a girl will make you indifferent or at the most....less painful.
What you should do is think of your life before your relationship.At the beginning of a relationship, a honeymoon stage, you lost or gave up something that gave you happiness because you achieved something that made you happier. I believe now is the time to bring back that happiness. You need it. It could be a friend whom you lost communication with or even a sport. Something that gives you peacefulness and makes you forget.
I hate to say this but you cannot move on without ridding of everything that had to do with who shall not be named. A teddy bear, pictures, and etc. You are starting anew and with that comes new memories. Therefore lose your past and your torture.
Moving on does not mean finding a rebound. If you find a rebound to get back at him...then you will not be doing anything but hurting a innocent man who was just a bystander.
You are in high school. Not many high schoolers find their TRUE love during those four years and you have to accept that you might not be one of them. You may never know though because mysterious things happen in life.
With that i congratulate you on your new life which will be filled with happiness, indifference, less pain and a journey to finding yourself because ignoring all that haa happened to you.....you my dear are still a teenager and with that i bid you a goodbye and good life.
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The first step towards moving on is learning to except that it is over. Your ex boyfriend has moved on. The truth is, People never forget their first loves. I ended my relationship with my first over 3 years ago and I still remember it clear as day. However, As much as I remember I know that whatever we had it was just an experience no more no less.
A year is a long time to dwell on a relationship that is in the past, People move on. The sooner you begin to realize that it was no more than an experience the sooner you will be able to except and move on from it. If you are still in contact with him I highly suggest cutting all contact. If you are still looking at pictures, Stop. Looking at pictures is going to make the moving on process 10 times harder and before you know it you will eventually burn yourself out. Stop looking at pictures, Stop stalking his girlfriends, Don't even look at his profile. You need and should focus on you, That is what is important now. In August if you see him, Walk away. Don't even pay no mind too it. Reality is.....He is an ex and he is the past.
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