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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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My boyfriend recently changed his profile picture and it's him and his ex in his arms.. Should I be worried? I had my best friend ask him (I know I shouldn't have done that, but I was freaking out) and he said that it's his ex and she's dating his friend. She got really jealous a few days ago when she saw us together (This was when I didn't know who she was, but then when I saw her in the picture that's why I freaked out). I don't really want to talk or ask him about it because I don't want him to think I'm jealous and stuff... He hasn't changed his attitude around me and he still tells me he loves me, but should I be worried?
Yes
An ex is the past and should stay the past. Someone who isn't with someone should never have their ex as a profile picture. Not to put the icing on the cake, but he has it up for everyone to see. I am sure he is well aware of the fact that people will most certainly think they are back together.
Guess what, It's a crock of shit that he loves you. A normal human being in a relationship with someone wouldn't go and put a picture of an ex on their profile unless they have bad intentions. Unfortunately, He is lying to you. The fact that he even has any photo laying around is a big no no. It's rude and inconsiderate, Fuck him.
I am 15 and if i am myself im considered wierd and i cant get a popular cute boyfriend and now that im homeschooled its even harder help
You're standards are messed up. Why does someone have to be "cute" or "popular"? I hate to kill your high horse here but none of this matters. If you like someone, It should be for who they are. Who gives a flying shit if someone isn't popular, Dating and being with someone about popularity. Unfortunately, If this is the way you think then maybe you aren't ready to be dating? Do you feel the need to date someone popular because you are afraid of what others will think of you? If so, Then again maybe you order wait until you realize what liking someone really means. To want a "popular and cute" boyfriend is a bit shallow and unrealistic. You need to adjust yourself and learn to find someone who excepts you for who you are and has things in common with you. Who cares what others think anyone, When it comes to dating it isn't about other people, It's about you and your spouse.
So I would like to know if I'm wrong or right and what to do.... My wife has her best friend of about fifteen years....her friend has always been a bit of trouble .....if it wasn't drugs it was partying and being the village bicycle....my wife and I have been together for 11 of those and I've tried over the years to be ok with her friend in the picture but as soon as I start warming up to her she does something like cheats on her husband not to mention she is lazy treats her husband like servant and is so immature and when her and my wife get together they act like dumb little girls....now my wife and I met in high school and I'm two years older. We have each done our fair share of dumb shit but she 27 and me 29 now , have settled down, have goals that we both work for, but I still have to deal with her friend who is also 27 , that has no job and dresses and acts like a teenager. I couldn't have an intelligent conversation with her even if I wanted. This last weekend I took my wife to a concert and old town Sacramento ...... I decided to invite her friend and her husband along with a couple of our other friends and all her friend did was complain about the other couple, it was an all day concert but the last band she didn't sans see the last act and expected everyone to leave because she was ready.........and when we didn't she complained.....when we went to old town Sacramento........she was up my wife's butt......she gave me a little trinket and my wife one of those best friend necklaces and I notice she had a new purse and I was wondering Wtf then why couldn't they pitch in on gas and why was I feeding the. Come to find out she lifted that stuff and who knows what else? So am I crazy for wanting my wife to put distance at least til she catches up in maturity? Or am I being unreasonable?
Lesson learned, Never give a ride to anyone until you have gas money handed to you before hand. Sometimes we have to learn to deal with the immaturity of others and learn that not everyone we meet in our lives are someone we may be keen about. You don't have to like her, You don't have to be her friend but at least for you and your wife's sake learn to be civil. Sometimes certain people are impossible to tolerate and I have been there many times in my life, but we all deal with it. Unfortunately this is a trick situation, You could try talking to your wife. However, Don't make the situation seemingly as if you are trying to turn your wife against her friend. Maybe notice a change in her when she hangs out with her friend and hope she may try talking to her friend about her bizarre behavior.
Hey, i have a pet dog, she is really cool, the best pet ever, and she is so cool, but she just started losing hair in a few spots, like by her tail and butt, i dont know what it is, help.
Likely fleas
Have you tried switching her food? It could also be possible she may be allergic or even have sensitive skin.
Recently my mother and little sister has moved in with me and my boyfriend due to finicial struggle. My boyfriend and I talked about and both agreed that it would be okay for my mother and my sister to move in, until they get back on their feet. They have only been here 3 days and its not going great. My boyfriend is constantly complainning about how they are too loud. I tell them to be quiet and they listen but if they talk above a whisper he starts banging the walls and grunting at them. I just don't know what to do. I will not have my sister and mother on the streets but I feel like my boyfriends anger is rising too much lately.
Lesson 1: Family shall always come first.
Not only is he being completely unfair, He is making this into something much bigger then it has to be. Instead of trying to get along, He is behaving irrashionally and making everyone else miserable.
Family comes first, If he can't except it and learn to show some respect then sweetheart, He has to go.
Sorry for the length. So I'm 21/f and since I met my boyfriend three years ago we've formed our own little group with the two of us and three other guys around the same age. There was no conflict, good times and my boyfriend and I would always talk about how we had a great group of friends. About a year ago one of the guys had entered a relationship with a girl that was already dating someone else (she cheated on her, now, ex with our friend). At first the rest of the group was very skeptical but our friend seemed happy so we welcomed her into the group. As time went on we noticed that she was extremely insecure, she lies constantly about things that just don't matter, she is a constant flirt with the rest of the guys, and whenever her and our friend would argue, as most couples do, she would blast him on Facebook spreading their business to her friends and family. Not only that but apparently I'm a threat to the girl, as I'm not allowed to laugh at anything her boyfriend says, be alone with him, or even like the same things. At first i thought maybe it was the fact that i miss being the only girl but the guys including my boyfriend say that she's crazy but they don't want to hurt the guy's feelings by saying they don't like his girlfriend. What should we do? Thanks for any advice.
You do nothing
If she is insecure abd flirts her way through the crowd then let HIM be the one to handle the problem. You are not in the relationship, He is.
Getting involved in someone else's relationship that doesn't involve you is wrong. If she considers you to be a threat, All well. As long as you be yourself and don't get involved in the drama then it's her problem, not yours.
You don't have to like her, Nobody said to be her best friend. Just try to be respectful by letting the guy date who he wants to date. Trust me, I have got involved with friends relationships before and there ia nothing beneficial about it.
Just mind your business
Firstly I'm male age 20, my gf is 17. We have been together for 2 years now, back in high school when I was 18 and she was 15. We live in California, and have never had sex.
She has wanted to make love for a while now, but I have always been worried about getting in trouble. I was reading the laws on statutory rape and they say that if Im more than 3 years older than her I could go to jail if someone found out. And it doesnt help that her adoptive parents (who are emotionally and physically abusive towards her) dont like me.
I am technically a little more than 3 years older than her, but currently since Im 20 it seems like just 3 years and no one cares.
So I guess I want to know if the police would really take this seriously if her parents reported it, and if I would really go to jail (Im a nice guy and I care about her. Ive known her my whole life and would never want to hurt or manipulate her, but I know other people would think I was just because of the age thing.)
So what do you guys think? Is this really a big deal? Will I really be treated like a pedophile or something? And please dont tell me to just go out with girls my age. I want to get her away from her abusive parents when she turns 18. We both want to marry each other and have kids when we are older. It just sucks that we happened to be born a little too far apart...
In most states the age to consent is 16, Likely you will not get in trouble. Relax
I am 16 years old and there are four residents in this house ; myself , my cousin , my sister and my grandmother , who is our guardian .
She has a job and works almost every day . Me my sis and my cousin are very mutch under weight . our bones are very visible . we get no allowance at all . the only thing we do receive , if we are lucky , is pocket change . our fridge is almost empty completely . i Dont understand . if she has a job and get paid , why are we starving . i got so used to being starving all the time . my cousin used to 'steal' food or money from my grandmother . i would do the same . i mean , hes only human and hes hungry .
we all go to sleep with empty bellies . my digestive system even slowed down . idk what to do .
i dont want to call the cops or anything but i will if i have to .
not only is lack of food a problem , but we barley have clothes -_- .
im tired of going through this . my hair falls out a little , too .
then she has the audacity to eat in her room by herself . are u kidding me . this is why i have an attitude . if she did her job than i wouldn't be this way . i cant even think straight .
everytime i get up , i fall right back down . i feel weak and brittle like a twig . i cant fit ANY of the clothes that i DO have , wich isnt even much by the way .
every month a check of $125 comes for me , and i dont get anything from her . i only have one pair of shoes and there is not even something as simple as milk or eggs in the fridge .
where does all this money go ? what is she hiding ?
Sweetie
At 16 you should be able to find a part time job. I am not sure where you are from but you may want to file for foodstamps ir have an older sibling file for you. When people fall in hard times there are always food pantrys that offer food to people who need extra help.
You may want to contact a relative or an adult you trust. Call the DCYF abd explain what is happening.
im on my period and i dont know how to put a tampon in and im reallyt scared!... can you help me??
p.s. does that mean i lose my virginity??
No, In order to loose your virginity you would need to have sexual intercourse.
I've been married for 6 years to this great guy, but I know he's not the one I'm supposed to be with. I've been trying to decide for years whether or not I should stay or go. I have another guy I just started seeing that wants me and my children to move in with him. But he also knows I'm not ready for that move right now. He's great with me and my kids, he works and has time for us too.
My husband is always on his computer or sleeping, yes I understand he works 3rd shift but still he needs to spend time with us, but he's never going to change. What do I do? I am so confused and heartbroken over trying to figure this out.
Doesn't sound like his heart is really into the marriage anymore. Lack of communication and effort are taking it's toll.
You aren't happy, If you were then you wouldn't be here in a debate. You stated that he won't change, Have you spoken to him? Assuming you have and he has shown little to no effort in inproving, It may be in your best interest to move on. Sometimes you just have to do what is best for you and your children.
I am a 24 year old female and I just moved in with my aunt and she said that I could decorate my room any way that I wanted and i want something girly and sophisticated because the last person who stayed in the room i have now was my 17 year old cousin who is a boy and the room is to boyish for me . my favorite colors are hot pink, light pink, purple and fuchsia if that helps any any ideas would be greatly appreciated thanks in advance.
Www.pinterest.com
Check out their home decor :-)
Sometimes when decorating it's best to have a style rather then theme.
There are many options. Modern, Retro, Beachy, Sophisticated etc.
As far as colors, Hot pink and black look awesome together.
Example, If you painted a room hot pink, You may want black furniture. Maybe a bed comforter from Victoria Secret that says Love Pink on it or a black and pink style.
A desk (black) with a lamp. Certains could be a lacey black. I wouldn't blend pink over pink as it may be over doing it.
Pick a style and go with it. Check out Pinterest as they have awesome ideas.
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 nearly 4 years, and I have felt something had been abit odd with him lately. I checked his Facebook and found messages of him talking to friends saying that he thinks he's bored, his going crazy, he loves me but feels trapped but doesn't want to be single again and is thinking of cheating on me. I'm so heart broken about it, I don't know what to do , maybe I thought making our sex life more exciting and try having sex in different places. I hope it works and we have done exciting things before with sex I don't just lay there :-( I also found pills that help with erection problems, so he's obviously tried to do something about it but I don't want it to get to a point where he cheats on me and ruins our relationship! Because we barely ever have fights and laugh together and etc but i need some good advice and something that will help him want to be more sexually excited about me. Also taking into account he has had anxiety and seems like depression about his life and he feels like is going nowhere. He basically has a daily routine of going to work and working too hard for shit money over several years and he comes home exhausted and drinks then does it all over again. It's been hard for him to make changes but he doesn't know what he wants to do. I kind of feel that that could be what's causing him to want to Cheat.
He is not into you or your relationship anymore.
Keeping him interested isn't all about enhancing your sex life. Sounds to me by what you have written he has been bored for some time now. His boredom could also simply be that he has lost interest in you or fell out of love.
Sometimes relationships grow apart, If he truly is bored then there may not be much you can do to save the relationship. Why would you want to be with someone who is a potential cheater? How do you know he isn't or hasn't already cheated?
It is this simple, He isn't happy abd the relationship has already ended
Can girl get pregancy anal or butt
No
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 11 months now,and I recently found out that I was pregnant.
I don't feel that it is right for me to keep as I still have alot to do with my life. I am 24 and he is 25.
He on the other hand thinks we can work things through and he says he will take care of me and the baby.
My problem is,he is always so busy with and he sometimes doesn't keep in touch unless I do.I look at things now,three weeks into my pregnancy and I really don't believe how he behaves now will be any different to when I am 9 months pregnant.I love him and I want to one day have children with him,just not this one. Maybe when we are married and he will feel the full extent of this responsibility. Right now I feel like he doesn't feel it and that he has his priorities focussed on work stuff. Mind you,I wrote here because even sitting him down to have this talk has been hard and I didn't wanna do it over the phone nor talk to someone who will just judge me.
Help Me.
Agree with Dragonfly, You are a smart young lady.
Not many seem to see what reality holds nowadays. Although some say the choice of adoption will haunt you, Have you considered an open adoption? You can arrange adoption to where you have visitation rights.
It will not make you a bad person for deciding to put a child up for adoption, I is far more selfish for someone to raise a child knowing they are not able to give the child what it needs. Unfortunately, When it comes to raising a child it has to be 50/50 with both pafents, not one.
Remember dear, A child is a lifetime. If you are truly not ready that is okay. Doesn't make you bad.
I had sex for the first time with my boyfriend without a condom about a month ago and I took 2 home pregnancy tests yesterday and they both came out positive and i am so scared because my boyfriend is black and my family is very racist on my dad's side but my mom doesn't care if he is black or white but she would freak out if I told her I was pregnant by anybody at 14 years old I know this for a fact because my sister came home about a year ago and told my mom she was pregnant by her boyfriend and he was white and my sister was 17 at the time and she kicked her out she said if you want to act like and adult and have sex and then your going to be treated like one the only reason I had sex in the first place was because my boyfriend said he would break up with me if I didn't have sex with him . I asked him to use a condom and he refused but I still wanted him in my life and now i am pregnant what should I do ?
I am going to start from the bottom
Never allow someone to force you into doing something you don't want to do, He is manipulative and an all around asshole. Someone who loves someone doesn't force them or better yet, Use manipulation against you. Now to be a bit brutal, He just cost you your youth. I wouldn't be living on high hopes that someone like that would be sticking around for sure.
Now as far as your parents, You have to tell them. There is no way you will be able to hide a pregnancy and yet alone, Your parents are the ones that will always be your family. The first start towards being a mature adult is too learn to take responsibility for your actions.
Not to be mean to you dear, But you may want to consider adoption.
So me and my boyfriend have sex like a couple times a month. I usually have irregular periods but I'm not on BC and I'm really freaked out cause I should've had my period a couple days ago. We use condoms every time we have sex, no exceptions. And we usually make sure there is no breaks or tears in the condom by filling it up with water when we are finished. I'm probably just freaking myself out but let me know what you think... PLEASSSE.
Highly unlikely, Delayed periods can also be from stress.
Applause you both for being smart. ^5
This is kind of long, but please bare with me.
I met this guy about 2 months ago from a friend. ( He is 24, and im 18) age difference is not an issue for many reasons, especially the fact that i live in Egypt, so its normal over here) we got really close and he took my number and since then we've never stopped talking, we wont even go a day without talking at all.. hes always writing me asking me what im doing, where im going or HOW im going, tells me to message him when i know, calls me baby or acts like were together. Now i cant even begin to explain how much feelings i have for him, im addicted and im so attached at this point. He wasnt saying anything about the way we are with eachother so honestly, i got fed up and brought it up with him. I told him that i just wanna know where we stand, and what we are exactly. and if he treats girls the way he treats me or if im different. He told me that im special to him but that there are two things 1st thing, that he lives a different lifestyle that i do (he drinks, smokes up, clubs, bars) and im not like that all (not that i judge or anything, i just personally do not approve of that kind of lifestyle) and he knows i wont be able to handle it or deal with it, and 2nd ) he doesnt want commitment especially with a girl like me because supposdly im so "perfect and amazing" and he doesnt want me to change for him because he thinks hes wrong but he isnt ready for change. So this is what i did, i was like okay i understand, and barely called or texted him anymore.. since then hes been blowing up my cell phone always constantly calling me telling me he misses me , i pretended to be asleep once when he called so that the conversation doesnt prolong. and he was like okay please go to sleep but give me a kiss first, and started being all cute with me and stuff, so i just went along with it and since then i havent been calling or texting, hes the one who always initiates conversation and acts the same with me and i think hes noticed that im different. Now, my question is. what do i do? how do i treat him? he said he doesnt want anything serious for now yet he calls me and texts me all the time. i dont know what to do anymore :/ my feelings for him wont go away this way and im just confused and im hurt honestly cause i feel like if he really wanted me he would have been with me already. i just dont knw and i want to know whats the right thing to do. Thank you for taking the time to answer this, i appreciate it :)
There us a mistep here...
"He doesn't want you to change for him" It's pretty much the other way around, He won't change for YOU. It sounds like he may just not be mature enough to give a relationship a chance. This man wants to live freely, Wants to party and not have to sober up for the sake of making someone happy.
You should maybe be friends for awhile, Take things slow. He told you he wasn't ready, Let him fix himself and maybe one day he will be. However, You should be honest and tell him to maybe hit you up when he is willing to give a serious relationship a try.
NEVER change who you are for someone else. Be you always.
I've rephrased my previous question because that answer did not help me at all :L please can someone help me out and tell me which house hold items I can use INSTEAD OF a dildo, a real penis and any food. I live with my parents so I don't want them to find out so things I can find in my bedroom maybe???? I am a girl and thankyou in advance please helpp???
Not only is it not safe, It's highly unsanitary.
I do not recommended it, All it takes is one time to get aome sort of infection.
I am 17 a girl and want sex and mite be doing it(sex) tomorrow night and at church with my feauce. Is it ok to have sex at this age? and at church? And be for getting married?
Having sex at a Church is wrong in sooo many ways. A church is considered the house of g!d where in the bible and according to many Catholics, Sex is forbidden before marriage.
I by all means am not religious, but this act is considered a sin. It is frowned upon, It's wrong ti do in a church.
How do you know if a guy is a virgin
There is no way to tell