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My Parent Does Not Feed Me .
I am 16 years old and there are four residents in this house ; myself , my cousin , my sister and my grandmother , who is our guardian .
She has a job and works almost every day . Me my sis and my cousin are very mutch under weight . our bones are very visible . we get no allowance at all . the only thing we do receive , if we are lucky , is pocket change . our fridge is almost empty completely . i Dont understand . if she has a job and get paid , why are we starving . i got so used to being starving all the time . my cousin used to 'steal' food or money from my grandmother . i would do the same . i mean , hes only human and hes hungry .
we all go to sleep with empty bellies . my digestive system even slowed down . idk what to do .
i dont want to call the cops or anything but i will if i have to .
not only is lack of food a problem , but we barley have clothes -_- .
im tired of going through this . my hair falls out a little , too .
then she has the audacity to eat in her room by herself . are u kidding me . this is why i have an attitude . if she did her job than i wouldn't be this way . i cant even think straight .
everytime i get up , i fall right back down . i feel weak and brittle like a twig . i cant fit ANY of the clothes that i DO have , wich isnt even much by the way .
every month a check of $125 comes for me , and i dont get anything from her . i only have one pair of shoes and there is not even something as simple as milk or eggs in the fridge .
where does all this money go ? what is she hiding ?
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I'm somewhat surprised that if you are so grossly underweight that one of your teachers have not said something to you. School though is one of the first places you start to ask for help.
Go up to any trusted teacher or school principal and tell them what you have told us. They will contact the appropriate agencies that will come and check on you. In the meantime the school will see to it that you at least get a good breakfasts and lunches while at school.
Another place you can go to is any Fire or Police station. These are safe havens for children. Tell the desk officer or fire fighters on duty what you have told us. They too will see to it that you are fed and that the proper agencies respond to checkout your home environment.
Based on what they find, which will be to look for food in the refrigerator and cupboard, a clean home, clean and serviceable clothing for you and your cousin and other things children require. Based on their findings they will take appropriate action to protect you.
There is of course one other thing you can do. If you feel sick, unsafe or just scared you can call 911 and help will be sent to you.
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Money may be tight but any guardian or parent is legally supposed to sufficiently feed cloth and shelter any minor children entrusted to their care. You have the law on your side. Call CPS and let them know whats going on.
If due to whatever circumstance,s grandma was burdened with not just you both but a cousin too, it makes me wonder what happened to both sets of parents. Something must be horribly wrong for both familys to not be able to care for their own kids.
So grandma likely wanted a single life of her own and not consciously but subconsciously resents the position she is in which is what causes her to treat you kids this way. No matter why she does it, its not right. There is a chance grandma may be hiding something, maybe she is into gambling or some other addiction so she is not making good decisions anymore concerning the children.
The schools provide breakfast and lunches for children in families with low income. At least I think they still do. So besides CPS, I'd talk to a school nurse and school counselors asking for help. Perhaps grandma needs some counseling to be able to get better so she can care for you all, especially if the reason is that both sets of parents died, then she's not getting over the loss of her own kids, which could have snowballed to the current situation with her not caring anymore about anyone else. So start talking to people who can help. Do you have any other living relatives who may not be aware of your situation and willing to take you all in? This info would need to be passed on to CPS to check for you,
If worst case scenerio they take you kids away from grandma. The other option would be foster care for which you may all be split up, so other family friends or relatives who would be willing would be the ones to receive the money to take care of you kids. The money isn't much and will barely cover all your needs so not just anyone will be willing to take you in as they will still need to pitch in from their own funds. But I am sure you'd want to stay all together. I dont know what else to suggest since I don't have all the details. Good luck to you. Don't wait. Ask for help now. In weakened state, an ordinary flu or virus this winter season could kill one of you.
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You should apply for food stamps. I'm not sure how old your grandmother is or her mental state. Is she bitter that she has to take care of you? There are so many unanswered questions here. But you have to do what is best. If everything you say is true you really may need to contact children services. Perhaps your grandmother just needs extra assistance they could provide or sadly you may just need another guardian. Luckily you are 16 you can work if you must and soon you will be an adult. Do what your gut tells you too. I know you love your grandmother but some people just are fit to care for children or simply come to a stage in their life where children aren't their priority.
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At 16 you should be able to find a part time job. I am not sure where you are from but you may want to file for foodstamps ir have an older sibling file for you. When people fall in hard times there are always food pantrys that offer food to people who need extra help.
You may want to contact a relative or an adult you trust. Call the DCYF abd explain what is happening.
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