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ok, my mom an dad have been fighting for like ever.they always swear at each other an stuff.my dad drove away a couple days ago to get away from my mom.thank god he came home.im afraid they r gonna get devorced.i need advice!!! wat shud i do???

sighned,
xxjewlsxx224

I'm sorry, it sucks when stuff like this happens. There really is nothing you can do if they are going to get divorced. Just always remember that it's not your fault.
My parents divorced when I was seven and I found it kinda hard, but you get used to it after a while. And there are some benefits - there's much less arguing. They are often friends after the divorce rather than enemies within the marriage. You kids get more attention because they feel kinda guilty. You get twice as many presents at birthdays and stuff - one from mum, one from dad rather than one from both of them. Excellent bargaining power - if your dad won't let you eat cake before lunch, say 'mum'd let me' and he'll let you :P
If they do get divorced, it'll be really sad and take a lot of getting used to, but it will be OK, I promise! 3/5 of all marriages end in divorce now, 2/5 of those involve kids. Just be there for any brothers or sisters you have and stay strong! If you ever wanna talk to someone who's been through it, just add me on any of those addys on my profile :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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is it just me?...or is it just the way my friend acts?...or are others like this also?..

there is this girl Angie...ive known her for about 4 years already..theres time where were close, like best friends. but lately shes been so annoying!..i get so irritated by her!..juss things she does!..shes so fake! and just doesnt know how to be herself! and she'll be so loud just to get attention!!...

anyone else hate this about someone?!

Hiya,
I know exactly what you mean. The thing is, nobody is perfect and even though your friends may seem so at the start, after a while you'll begin to see their 'faults' and they are gonna change. People change, and that's just the way it goes, however much it sucks. A real friendship is the one that survives the changes.
If this is annoying you so much, point it out to Angie - don't be all 'oh you're so fake' because that'll just hurt her. Just tell her that she's changed and you miss the old her and your old friendship. Chances are, she knows she's changed and is waiting for someone sensible like you to come a long and have the guts to tell her so. She sounds pretty insecure about who she is, so if she realised that enough people like the old her better, she might go back to how she used to be.
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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im sorry if this is long
im 13/f and i have 2 brothers a mom a step dad a dad a step mom and a step sis. my life gets so hectic some times that i just cant stand it, my step dad yells at me for every little mistake i make, and he always thinks that someones out to get him. my mom and dad dont even talk anymore, and if they do, they wind up yelling or hanging up on each other, and my dad doesnt even care enough about her and me and my bros to help us. my bro blamed the reason that him and his girlfriend fight because of me, his girlfriend used to be 1 of my best friends. i feel like i have only one friend, all the others are just there, and they dont invite me to anything. my only true frind is moving lyk an hour away, and then i dont know who i would b able to hang around with for my highskool years. sometimes i get so upset that i constantly think about commiting suicide, or cuttig my self to get rid of the pain. i havnt cut my self yet, but every single day i get closer and closer to doing it. i need help, what should i do?

I am so sorry...that sounds like it really sucks. *Hugs*.
There really isn't much you can do with regards to your parents arguing (mine are the same) other than telling them how much it is hurting all you kids. That might make them stop a little bit.
About your friend...always stay in touch. And with the others, ask them out to things - once they see you being more open and friendly, they might be too.
Please don't cut - I know exactly how you feel but it really won't help. Cutting is a slipperly slope and once you have started falling it's very hard to get up again. Find other ways to vent/get rid of how bad you're feeling - excersize, write, draw, listen to music, talk to your friends about this (or a diary once she has left - anything is better than nothing and you shouldn't bottle stuff up), volunteer for a charity (e.g. for animals, for old people, for children, at a hospital), make a collage of pictures of good memories, anything.
You'd probably benefit from talking to your dad's girlfriend and try and get the friendship thing going again too.
Good luck, and feel free to email me at any of the addys on my profile if you ever want someone to talk to :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Hey guys, I always have to have a book to read for my reading class. My teacher calls it our independent reading book. Anyways, I was wondering if any of you could give me the names of some really good books that you've read before. I love reading, and I can't seem to find any good books right now, so I was hoping someone could tell me some good books. I like to read fiction books, mysteries, or something that has to do with romance/relationships in it. If you can, please helpt me out! Thank you so very much! :)

Try Noughts and Crosses, and it's sequel Knife Edge, by Malorie Blackman. They are really amazing books.
You might The Raging Quiet (sorry, I don't know the author), Speak by Laurie Henderson, I Capture the Castle by Dodie Smith, or even Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte - I loved that book. There's a bit of everything in it, and once you get past the language barrier it's really cool. And it's not at all hard to understand if you read a lot normally.
Hope that helped!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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After begging my mom to take me to the doctors, she's finally going to (because I currently have a soar throat). I've been asking her to take me to get tested for anemia and ADD. Everytime I asked her she would say "I highly doubt you have ADD" and she would just snicker. So I have a soar throat now and I think she's making me drive to the doctors on my own (usually she goes with me). So for sure I'm going to ask about anemia and ADD. The only thing is, how am I supposed to bring it up.? I don't want to just say 'oh yea, I think I have ADD'. How should I bring it up without looking stupid? Should I tell her my situation first (about how I can't stay focused, etc) or should I ask what the symptoms are, or what? And what will they do to me (sometimes I think I have ADHD also) as far as tests and stuff, and will they do it then, or is it a process where I have to come back? And how will my teachers get notified? Will I tell them? Doctors note? etc... and since they'll know, what exactly will my teachers make me do because of it?
Please help...

Don't just ask about the symptoms - that'll make it sound like you don't know about it and she's less likely to take you seriously. Just say something like, 'hey, while I'm here, do you think you could test me for anaemia?' and 'I think I might have ADD, could you refer me to someone who could help?' Either way, she'll have the answers and she won't think you're stupid - she will hear stuff like this all the time, and she'll think you're intelligent and brave, if anything, for persuing this and admitting you may have a problem.
I'm not sure on the tests, sorry, but I know it won't be blood tests - ADHD/ADD aren't things in your blood. They'll probably just ask you or observe you for a while. I asked about asthma and they didn't even test me, just asked me when I get out of breath and gave me a prescrip. for an inhaler. They'll probably refer you to a specialist who will ask you a bunch of questions.
Your school will need to be notified. This can be done by your mother calling in, or you taking the doctors note in, or simply you updating your records at the start of the new year.
They won't do much really - if you have a big problem in class they may offer you extra study help, but I know for exams they let you sit in a room by yourself with no distractions and take a bit longer (usually around an hour or so) longer than everyone else over it.
Hope that helped!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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i'm currently a freshman in my second semester of college and i have a problem staying awake in my classes, even if i get adequate hours of sleep the night before!

i've tried drinking coffee during class (despite the caffeine, has not worked for me), bringing munchies, having a water bottle, doodling on my notebook, and vice versa. basically anything to keep me busy and awake! all of my attempts have failed...any ideas?

Sometimes you can get too much sleep (unfortunately) so try not to get more than say 10 hours. Keep drinking the water, at least a litre a day; it'll help you to concentrate more in the long run.
If coffee doesn't work, try cola. That has sugar as well as caffiene so it should give you a double boost, or even biscuits dunked in coffee.
When you feel like dropping off, try talking to people, getting up and going to the toilet, tapping your feet under the table - anything that involves movement. Stretch your legs out, move your position in your chair (try to sit upright) and try and get a seat by the window so you cna get lots of air to keep you awake or by the door so you can watch the people going by.
I know exactly what you mean though - I fell asleep in Business while writing the word 'help' yesterday and woke up to 'hep' and a squiggle. Maybe we just get bored easily?
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Hey I have wrote before but I took out some of the names out of the choices that I wanted you guys to help me with.. I like unique names btw.. not like John or Matthew.. just so my baby will be most likely the only one in his class with that name.. Here's a list below and maybe if you find one or something I may like suggest it please!
Jayden
Daryk
Carsyn
Aiden
Kaden

thanks a bunch!!

Tayhe (pronounced Tay/Tai)
Leo
Ricardo
Ethan
Bevan
Brandon/Braeden
Cael/Caleb
Camden
Kian
Cole
Conan
Ewan
Finn/Finlay/Flynn
Loman
Logan
Kane
Tristan
Tyrone
Kent
Trent
Alfie/Alphie
Sirius
Zephan
Morgan
Ciaran

Hope that helped!! And I like Aidan from your list best :) I tried to go with an Irish/Celtic theme with a lot of the names I suggested, seen as most of the ones you pick out are variations on old Celtic names. You might wanna look that up and maybe search for some more Celtic or Gaelic names.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Hey thanks for your reply it was really nice.
I'm actually seventeen, so I guess another year of tourture and I'm good to go.

x-x thanks x-x

No worries, glad I could help!! :)
Good luck with everything!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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i just got a new rabbit and i have never had one before so i know nothing about them! i know that they have to be kepy in shade but thats about it! i need to know how big the cage should be and what you need in the cage. what do they eat? i am also kinda afraid that everytime i pick it up it will bit me....i guess i think that cause my cat bits me...do rabbits even bit? i guess i pretty much need to know everything about them....so if you have the time, please tell me! thanks! i'll rate!

Hiya,
I've been keeping rabbits on and off for nine years and my best friend breeds them so I know a little :P I reckon the best thing you can do is buy a book - 'my first rabbit' is good, Google it or search for it on Amazon.
Riight...they don't have to be kept in shade. Direct sunlight is not a good idea but they do like a little of it! The size of the cage depends on the size of the rabbit(s). A starter hutch, which you can buy from most pet shops, would be ideal at this stage but you may have to change it depending on how big he gets. Is he a dwarf, giant, or didn't they say? If they didn;t say then get a medium hutch, if he's gonna be a giant then get a big one (around 1m wide and .5 m back - you may have to get a dog kennel and attach a door for this) or one with two floors, and if he's a dwarf you could probably stay with the starter hutch always (around 2 foot wide, 1 foot back).
Bucks (male) are more likely to bite than females. You'll wanna get it neutered (talk to your vet) if you have biting/scratching problems. They may bite but are more likely to if they sense you are nervous. Pick them up very gently and slowly and be patient - they're very shy animals! Wear gloves if you're nervous.
They live anything up to around 7 years on average, but I've had one that lived to 9, one that lived to 4 and another that lived to 4 months, so you never know - they have VERY weak hearts as a general species so don't let the dog go near them if you have one!
They love anything vegetable-y. Cauliflower, cabbage, carrots, swedes, runner beans, grass (it's OK to leave the soil and roots on), dandelion leaves, broccoli, parsnips, potatoes, ANYTHING. Seriously. Some rabbits are picky though so it's just a case of feeding them a variety of vegetables and finding out which ones they like best. You can buy commerical processed food but it's not very good for them and makes them fat.
Rabbits, especially ones on their own, get pretty bored. Try hiding some food in the bedding as a little game! They're not keen on toys and they won't chase things, but they like a little climb every now and then.
They need LOTS of bedding. You can never have too much bedding in there, trust me. Paper shreddings, sawdust and hay/straw are all fine but don't go for newspaper because the ink is toxic.
Your rabbit will probably go to the toilet in one or two corners but it might take a while for them to establish that corner. Clean them out once a week at LEAST. They get very messy if you don't. Ssay you clean out on a saturday, scrape any excess poo and dirty bedding out every Wednesday - it'll help when you give a big clean out.
You'll need a run. They will have to go in it at least every other day unless it's rainy and muddy and stuff. You'll also need a water bottle, and also some cage disinfectant - available from any good pet store. Don't fuss with food bowls, they just use them as toilets. Entertaining but not nice :P
Your rabbit will need to go the vets a.s.a.p to be checked over and given it's injections. Rabbits from the age of two weeks can recieve injections (about £10-£20 each) against the two deadly diseases Myximatosis and VHD. These need to be updated annualy - your vet'll tell you more about that. Meanwhile, stroke your rabbit (gently - they're a lot more fragile than cats) every single day and spend time with him/her. Check her eyes out - are they runny? Noses and eyes should be clear and not runny at all. If they are, go straight to the vet because they are two main signs of Myxi and that's a very nasty disease that can kill. Check it;s ears and teeth and bum if you can for dirt and overlapping teeth, but if you're scared the vet can do that, don't worry! My bunny doesn;t appreciate my fingers in her mouth so I always leave that to the vet.
Claws can also be a problem. The vet will tell you if they're too long and can clip them - never do this yourself!
Cover your rabbit in a teatowel if it's very nervous - the dark will help it calm down. You'll need a plastic cage for taking it to the vet - they chew through cardboard ones in seconds - and can tempt it in with a carrot/grass/whatever it's fave food is if s/he isn't keen on being picked up yet.
The most important thing is to be patient. They're lovely animals but yeah, they do scratch when they want. They won't turn round and snap like a cat but they might nibble. You HAVE to handle her/him from the very start or, trust me, it'll be hell to get them to the vets every year! Don't feel sorry for them - they're often stubborn rather than scared of you :P Try to pick him/her up in an enclosed-ish area (such as inside the hutch) so they can't run away. If you're having trouble, find the fat at the back of the neck. Pull and put your hand under their bum. I know this seems horrible but it's actually the most comfortable way for them to be transported from the ground to your arms/a cage! Don't lie them down on their backs because it can damage the spine. Just cuddle or let them sit on your knee.
Rabbits eat straw. The bedding'll need to be replaced v. regularly :P Add more when it's cold, you can even buy special thermo-cotton wool stuff.
A breeze block would be a nice toy while s/he's still a baby - you know, those grey bricks with two great big holes in them? S/he can use it as a tunnel and a climbing frame! Wood blocks are also a good idea. Don't panic if the inside frames of the hutch get chewed - it's a natural thing they do to wear their teeth down. As long as s/he isn't chewing gaping holes in the cage you'll be fine :P
Don't be scared if s/he nips at your shoes while you're standing up and it's on the ground. It's just affection :) Watch out for bags - my baby bunny LOVES chewing plastic bags (such as the one the hay comes in)!.
Go into a pet shop and check out things you can buy for him, like treats, salt wheels, etc. I wouldn't recommend salt wheels though because they tend to corrode the bars of the hutch.
The water bottle will need cleaning around once a month or it goes green (God knows why but it does :P). You can use a baby's bottle brush and warm water for this.
Sometimes when it's really icy the water bottle will freeze. Put it in a tub of warm water and wait for the water inside to melt.
It's nice for the rabbit to have a cover over them at night - get a piece of lino or a plastic-covered table cloth (so it doesn't get damp in the rain) or even a bin bag and put part of it on the roof of the hutch, weighing it down with a couple of rocks, and then let the rest drape down over the bars of the hutch so it's darker and warmer inside. This also provides good shade during hot days.
It'll get fat if you feed it too much - your vet will tell you if s/he's overweight. If you're need feeding it enough, it may get aggressive over it's food, eat it very quickly or see desperate to get at the food. A typical baby rabbit could do with a cabbage leaf and a carrot at breakfast, maybe a long runner bean at lunch, and three or four cabbage leaves at night. Increase it a little as s/he grows. The most you will ever feed a rabbit isn't really that much. I once owned two giants (I mean giants...bigger than a jack russel dog) and they ate a cabbage a night each...yeah, that's a lot :P
Because they eat so much plant material and can't disgest it, rabbits sometimes eat their own poo to re-digest it and get all the goodness. Yeah, it might seem gross but that's what they do :) So don't be alarmed if you see it eating it's poo, lol. Oh, but the poo should be round and look hard/dry unless it's fresh. If it's sloppy or runny then s/he could have a tummy upset or an illness.
Finally, take lots of photos so you remember then always :) Rabbits are gorgeous animals and can grow really tame - mine runs to the bottom of the run to say hello if she's out in it and I walk into the garden!! - but it takes a while for them to get like that so be patient :)
Good luck and if you ever want to know anything else, feel free to email me at any of the addys on my profile!!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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i have three rabbits but one of them seems to of lost all his body fat this winter has anyone else experineced this????? he is eating fine he is his normal self

It could be perfectly natural, or due to a change in diet (i.e. you've changed from processed commerical rabbit food to vegetables)...although it could be something more serious. It could be inidicative of a heart problem (if the heart is pumping too slowly then he won't grow and he may loose weight if his heart isn't strong enough), a thyroid problem, nervous or digestive system failure (check the bunnies mouth - is he swallowing all the food?) or even mites. Get this checked out by the vets and isolate him (maybe bring him inside for an afternoon if this isn't possible) if you can until then, not so much because he may pass something on to the other rabbits but because you'll wanna be watching him - how he jumps, what his poo is like (it's gross I know but you've gotta check it's OK) and if his eyes, ears, nose and mouth are all clear and healthy. Like I've said, it could be absolutely nothing but you had better get it checked out just in case!! Runny eyes and noses are the biggest sign of disease in rabbits so make sure you check that out.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
P.S. Other people have said about losing fur - that's in spring for the mating season; they pull out small amounts of their own fur to make nests. And that's only females. So it can't be anything season related - they'd keep fat for the winter!

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I'm really scared. I will soon have to have 2 teeth pulled! I was wondering how much it hurts, can you feel them actually pulling the teeth out, and how long it takes for it to stop hurting after you get them pulled. Please help! I'm really scared!!! I rate 5's by the way.

It doesn't hurt, honest! I've had five teeth out and it didn't hurt at all. You can feel them pulling it out but it doesn't hurt, it just feels odd. It won't hurt at all if you take a painkiller when you first come out of the dentist. It might bleed for an hour or so and it does really hurt if you don't take a painkiller though. Your friend probably felt a lot of pain when she ate, which is normal, because the gum will still be sensitive, but if you have pain when you're not eating for longer than two days you should go back to your dentist 'cause there might be something wrong.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Hi! I'm having thoughts about marriage, I'm a 19/f btw. I recently viewed the film, Romeo and Juliet and was wondering on what other people's opinions are. Do you think Romeo and Juliet got married too soon? Why or why not? I'd like to talk to someone about this. I gove good ratings. Thank you in advance. =)

The thing with Romeo and Juliet is that it was common for people even younger than them to be married and even parents (Paris says, 'younger than she are happy mothers made' about Juliet). So nah, they didn't get married too young - maybe too SOON though. They were pretty rash about it. I don't see any problems with you, as a 19 year old, getting married, as long as you really know this person and you're sure you want to spend the rest of your life with them. The beautiful thing about Romeo and Juliet is that they knew that (well...who knows, after a year of marriage they may have driven each other crazy :P [the play lasts for five days]). Just maybe live with this guy first and really, really make sure you know him and love him!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Does anyone know where I can find one of those tshirts that say "I need a hug" or something like that?? Or does anyone know where I can find any other cute tshirts that say cute stuff like that?? I've been looking for them for like forever and I cant find any!! Thanks!!

I think Top Shop does quite a lot of stuff like that. If not, you could always make them yourself - any good craft, sewing or material shops sell fabric paint and you can get all sorts now - the bog standard pot stuff, pens, glitter tubes, etc etc etc. Just buy a plain tshirt from any shop you like, stretch it out over the thin end of an ironing board to kepe it steady, and write whatever you want - in whatever colour you want - on it!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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hey, i am a single parent of a one year old son, my relationship with the father of the child feel thru last year in november i was livivng with him and left to comeback home and i was unemployed at that time i left my job to move towns and live with him then after i came back home was not employed for 3months and had no form of income i asked the father to support hes child not with cash we agreed he could but the stuff he needed and send it on its own but he refused told me if i cant take care of he son i should bring him and he will do so every since i have not asked for any thing but i feel there is a need for him to support he child i am since employed but my salary can just about manage the costs, i dont know how i can get assistance form him for he has not been cooperative lately, my mother has adviced me to seek alawyer for maintenance but my dad feels there is no need for it says i should not worry about him he wiill come back one day wantin to see him but the tables would have turned. waht do i do now

You HAVE to go to a lawyer! You and your son deserve the money to be able to afford basic things such as food and you shouldn't have to wait for five years until your ex comes around to the idea. If you live in the UK, the CSA (Child Support Agency) deals with this kind of thing, but if not, I would go to a lawyer and they will point you in the right direction/deal with it themself. The father HAS to pay maintenance by law.
You will get legal documents drawn up stating when the father has access to the child (although you can deny him access, or he can refuse access if either of you want - and he still has to pay maintence; in fact it goes up the less he sees the child) and how much he pays for the care of the child annually/monthly. This might change each year (usually will go up about £10 every January) but will continue until your son leaves full-time education (up until University [18+]).
If your son doesn't want to see your father in however many years into the future, he doesn't have to. You could go through your lawyer to make that official but you don't have to. The only benefit of informing your lawyer of any changes in the amount of access the father has to your son is that the amount of money you get from each month will change. Plus it's on record who's house he's in and when.
I hope that helped :) And please go to a lawyer - being a single mum is hard enough without the father refusing to pay maintenance!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Can someone define the diffrence between love and being in love...anything corny is fine! Or could you define love itself.

Oh and is it possible to find love at any age? 15?

Love is whatever you want it to be :)
I personally think that being in love is VERY different to loving - loving is a boyfriend and girlfriend, people who are very fond of each other, people who look past each other's faults and only see perfection. Being IN love is something that I personally think only happens with your 'one'. If you're in love with someone, it's all the love stuff and mor.e You would die for them. They can make you feel 16 after 50 years of marriage. You can honestly see yourself spending forever with this person, without wishful thinking being involved. When you're in love, there are ALWAYS fireworks, and you do more than simply smile when that person says 'I love you too'.
And it's possible to find love whenever :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Okay, well i need help with my room. I'm 13 by the way. Okay, so I'm not allowd to paint my walls, and I just got $6000, custommade furniture. But, the thing is, my walls look really empty...I need somthing coolin my room, im a guy. does anyone hae any ideas

Photos of friends, or one giant collage of all your fave photos, 'cause lots of little ones could look quite messy :) Jumbo posters of your fave actors/singers. Would you be allowed to have patterned wallpaper? You can get some pretty cool (non-granny-ish!) designs now.
There's also the fact that if you want loads of accesories, you'll want your walls to look bare to tie it all in :)
You could have fairy lights, a noticeboard (with funny messages from your friends on!), dream catchers, windchimes, mirror balls, even galilaeo (sp?) thermometres. Candles might be cool too.
I know you're not allowed to paint your walls, but would you be able to do little paintings? For example, me and my friends painted loads of cool-looking flowers (like daisies and stuff) onto the wall in my study in the summer holiday, and not only was it cheap because we only needed paint tester pots, but it brightened up the wall and was a load of fun! We even did a hand-shaped flower using my hand print!
You could drape tapestries or material on the wall too, or put shelves up and put little ornaments or photoframes on them. Try and make the most of your window - I have little silver stars stamped around the edge of mine to brighten it up a bit. An interesting lamp shade might help too, as would a really long (maybe even one of those cool wavy ones?) mirror! A bead curtain or light box could go on your wall too. There's even mirror tiles if you don't want a full-length mirror.
Anyway, that's all I've got so I hope it helped :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I am asian, and I think my nose is quite broad and quite flat. Compared to others, it is not that bad, but I'm just not satisfied with the look of it. I want something like the nose of Lucy Liu, it has a prominent bridge and it is narrow.

The thing is, I need to ask the permission of my mom! We are not close, and I think I'm (middle child) her least fav. child out of her 5 children.
I think I have enough money in the bank to pay for my own beauty enhancement, and I'm old enough to have rhinoplasty because I'm turning 21 in July.

Pls. give me tips and strategies so that she will say yes!

Hiya,
You should talk to a surgeon about your nose. The shape of it will match your cheekbones and chin shapes so if you change it too drastically then it won't suit your face and will be 100 times worse. Your surgeon will talk this through with you, so just remember that you aren't Lucy Lui so a different nose may suit you better, no matter how much you like that one :P
Why do you have to ask your mother's permission if you are paying and you're 21?
Hmm...well does she know you want this done? Like, have you mentioned it in the past? If so, just say 'hey mum, I really want to get my nose done and now I'm old enough and have the money I thought why not? I'm going to do this whether you approve or not, but I did want to ask your opinion'. (Because if she doesn't like the idea...that's her problem. You're an adult, you don't need her permission). If you haven't mentioned that you want surgery, tell your mum how fed up you are of your nose (maybe emphasise it a bit by adding in stories of anyone who teased you about it when you were younger, if they did). DON'T say you want to look like Lucy because then it'll be like you just trying to be like a celeb in your mother's eyes, rather than you trying to make the best of who you are. Ultimately this is your decision - remind her of that. She'll just be pleased you went to her for her opinion. Make it sound like you really care what she thinks and went to her because you CAN - not because you HAVE to.
Maybe spend a day before hand doing stuff for her or taking her out somewhere so she's in a good mood before you ask? You could see a model or a photo in a shop window and say 'I wish my nose was that thin' to start off the conversation.
Hope that helped!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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is it just me, or are there certain columnists that are arrogant, bitchy, crude, and ignorant? i've noticed a lot on advicenators, might i add whom don't offer any helpful advice, or relevant for that matter. these stupid little pricks need their ass kicked...

if anyone has any ideas on reporting them to advicenators, let me know.

to all you dumbfucks: stop with the immature bullshit and grow the fuck up.

Hi,
Well...yes, there are a lot of them. All you can really do is file an abuse report (look for the link under site map) and the mods will deal with it. However, the columnists may not always be deleted - some of these people, you have to admit, are funny. However, the more offensive ones MAY be banned, but I wouldn't bet on it definately happening - and most of the time they just come back under a new user name anyway.
I'm a L1 Mod so I'd help if I could but I'm not on quite a big enough power trip yet :P (you have to be a L2 to deal with abuse reports).
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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My parents are in a very strict religon.
I dont want to be in this religon and I've told them so, and I don't go to their church.
But everytime I do something against the church rules, (even though I dont go)
they still go, "Your going to hell" "Your a sinner" bla and so forth.

I dont like this and it hurts my feelings. They even say I'm full of the devil and qoute scriptures at me. What do I do? its totally getting on my nerves and just because I dont go to their church doesnt mean I'm a rebellious brat like they think I am.

HELP!

Hiya hun,
I know this is really hard (I'm in a similar situation to you - I'm Wiccan, my mother thinks I'm some kinda satanist), but next time they do it, ignore them! It's not worth listening to if it's just gonna stres you out. Try to avoid the subject of religion if you can, and go round friends a lot - when you turn 16 (if you aren't already) you could even move out and live with a friend/rent your own house!
Most importantly, STAY with what YOU believe!! It would be hypocritical of you (and of them to maker you go) to go to their church and stuff when you don't believe in it. Faith is an amazing and beautiful thing and you should never, ever ever let anyone tell you what to believe!!
Ignore them as much as you can when religion comes up. I know it's gonna be really frustrating and difficult, but you can do it :) Maybe you could count to 10 before you reply to anything? I know I'd get angry and need that time to calm down if my parents were saying the same things to me as yours are to you!! Never get angry at them because it will reinforce the 'rebellious brat' image of you they have fixed in their minds. Maybe have a quiet and calm chat with them and tell them that you simply don't believe in what they do - and that's the end of it. Tell them how they are driving you away with all of this!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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i have a friend called Chad and everybody makes fun of him for 2 main reasons 1he stinks(no offense ment to him but he REALLY does)2he failed grade 8 but i do not want to stand up for him because of the class will randomly punch him and say(when somebody farts)Chad is in the room and start fights with him for it but they cannot (teachers)punish the people doing this because it is a whole class of people.what should i do

Solemnstar

The only thing you can really do is take Chad to one side and tell him that what people are saying about him stinking is, although mean, true. If you don't want to do that, buy him loads of aftershave and smelly stuff for his birthday; that should give him the message.
It's horrible when people pick on you but there is unfortunately nothing you can do about it. Tell a teacher - you never know what they might be able to do. We have a girl like this at my school and she got picked on for exactly the same reasons, but she started wearing excessive amounts of perfume. She had a reputation as the smelly kid but it faded away over a few months and no-one even remembers what she used to be like!! Anyone can change: you've just gotta wait a while before everyone else around them follows suit and takes in what they've done. Take away the reason for them to pick on him and they have no reason!! It WILL stop eventually, I promise :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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