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hey, i am a single parent of a one year old son, my relationship with the father of the child feel thru last year in november i was livivng with him and left to comeback home and i was unemployed at that time i left my job to move towns and live with him then after i came back home was not employed for 3months and had no form of income i asked the father to support hes child not with cash we agreed he could but the stuff he needed and send it on its own but he refused told me if i cant take care of he son i should bring him and he will do so every since i have not asked for any thing but i feel there is a need for him to support he child i am since employed but my salary can just about manage the costs, i dont know how i can get assistance form him for he has not been cooperative lately, my mother has adviced me to seek alawyer for maintenance but my dad feels there is no need for it says i should not worry about him he wiill come back one day wantin to see him but the tables would have turned. waht do i do now
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Dear To Whom it May Concern,
For a deadbeat father of a child who won't support his family, I'd listen to your mother. A lawyer is the right way to go for this type of situation. I know many single mothers and trust me you are better off. I hope I've helped you.
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Signed,
Clash2004
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normally, there are local centers that help with support payments. he helped you bring your sons life into the world, he needs to help take care of him.
best of luck
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the guys a jackass. he really should have thought about it before he got you pregnant. if your gonna go out and have a kid you have to take care of it, and he should deff. help you.
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Take him to court they'll soon make him pay. xx
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You HAVE to go to a lawyer! You and your son deserve the money to be able to afford basic things such as food and you shouldn't have to wait for five years until your ex comes around to the idea. If you live in the UK, the CSA (Child Support Agency) deals with this kind of thing, but if not, I would go to a lawyer and they will point you in the right direction/deal with it themself. The father HAS to pay maintenance by law.
You will get legal documents drawn up stating when the father has access to the child (although you can deny him access, or he can refuse access if either of you want - and he still has to pay maintence; in fact it goes up the less he sees the child) and how much he pays for the care of the child annually/monthly. This might change each year (usually will go up about £10 every January) but will continue until your son leaves full-time education (up until University [18+]).
If your son doesn't want to see your father in however many years into the future, he doesn't have to. You could go through your lawyer to make that official but you don't have to. The only benefit of informing your lawyer of any changes in the amount of access the father has to your son is that the amount of money you get from each month will change. Plus it's on record who's house he's in and when.
I hope that helped :) And please go to a lawyer - being a single mum is hard enough without the father refusing to pay maintenance!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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You need a lawyer. Just buying stuff for the child is not good enough. You have a household that needs to be in good condition for the sake of the child's health. If you can't afford one, contact your local social services for assistance.
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