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Family problems
My parents are in a very strict religon.
I dont want to be in this religon and I've told them so, and I don't go to their church.
But everytime I do something against the church rules, (even though I dont go)
they still go, "Your going to hell" "Your a sinner" bla and so forth.
I dont like this and it hurts my feelings. They even say I'm full of the devil and qoute scriptures at me. What do I do? its totally getting on my nerves and just because I dont go to their church doesnt mean I'm a rebellious brat like they think I am.
HELP!
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That is sad. I think that you should talk to you parents and tell them about how it hurts your feelings.(best choise)
or you could be their religion(un-suggested)
or try to talk to someone else about it-like an aunt or uncle or maybe a counsler they are traind to deal with this kind of stuff(suggested)
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You know, I really hate it when people do that to me, and I can't imagine it being my own parents! Unfortunately, my parents are the ones I turn to when I have this kind of trouble. Do you have any atheist friends? Any supportive teachers? It's terrible to face this kind of thing in the home. If they are abusing you, you need to get out of there.
I hope it works out.
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Heres what i think... I think their deffiantley over acting.. how old are you?? well juss sit down and have a talk with them.... sit them down at a table or invite them and tell them what you think in a nice way..also tell them that it doesn`t mean you HATE God but you just dont go to church thats all! Maybe they`ll change their minds abaout calling you a brat..!
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try sitting with them and talkin to them one on one........try telling them that you don't want to be in this religion...besides.......they don't have control over wat religion you decide to choose......
hope i helped ..
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I think that you should try and talk with them about this. But if they don't listen just try to ingore them. Follow what you believe not what others believe. But only follow what you believe if it has to do with God. If you don't go to church then you should. Pick a churc in your area and try it out for at least one Sunday. If you don't like it then try another one until you find one that you like best and stick with it. If you do go to church try and talk to an adult that you trust really well.
ShinyButton: I am a friend of Skittlez's. I would like to give you some advice..... I just couldn't find your question.
I can understand how you feel in some way.... I know what it is like to be looked upon as something evil. My own church family was thinking that of me. I will pray for you. I do not want to treat you like your parents, but what religion are they? Do /you/ go to church at all? If you die tonight, will you go to heaven? Ask yourself these questions, pray, and think about what you are doing that makes your parents mad at you. Is it just a stupid religion? Or are you really doing something wrong? I would like to learn you name and find out if you are near me. I have forgiven my church for what they thought of me, and now have people I can truly confide in. I would like to see if you could join me one Sunday.... or Wednesday.
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Hiya hun,
I know this is really hard (I'm in a similar situation to you - I'm Wiccan, my mother thinks I'm some kinda satanist), but next time they do it, ignore them! It's not worth listening to if it's just gonna stres you out. Try to avoid the subject of religion if you can, and go round friends a lot - when you turn 16 (if you aren't already) you could even move out and live with a friend/rent your own house!
Most importantly, STAY with what YOU believe!! It would be hypocritical of you (and of them to maker you go) to go to their church and stuff when you don't believe in it. Faith is an amazing and beautiful thing and you should never, ever ever let anyone tell you what to believe!!
Ignore them as much as you can when religion comes up. I know it's gonna be really frustrating and difficult, but you can do it :) Maybe you could count to 10 before you reply to anything? I know I'd get angry and need that time to calm down if my parents were saying the same things to me as yours are to you!! Never get angry at them because it will reinforce the 'rebellious brat' image of you they have fixed in their minds. Maybe have a quiet and calm chat with them and tell them that you simply don't believe in what they do - and that's the end of it. Tell them how they are driving you away with all of this!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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Dont worry bout them..be yourself, as long as its nothing bad..like drugs or anything. Dont worry your parents are just being pushovers.
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Next time they tell you something, explain to them, you're not in their religion. Your parents are idiots to quote scriptures, although this is quite funny. Tell them you wanna be agnostic and that its final, or for fun, say your atheist. Haha, play games with em, if its getting on your nerves have fun with it. I would.
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I sort of...know how you feel. Though my parents have never gone as far as to tell me that I am "full of the devil."
Anyway, you need to explain to your parents how much this hurts your feelings.
I would like to say that their behavior seems...abnormal to me. I have known some pretty devout Christians, but this just seems...too radical. Almost like some sort of cult...Which is why I am expressing my deepest concern.
If you talk to your parents, and their behavior towards you does not change, please seek help elsehwere. Go to a teacher, counselor, or prefferably...a family member that you can trust.
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Tell your parents that even though you may believe in different things than they do..thta you still are their daughter and you want to have a relationship with them. They sound extremely radical ..so if they dont care about what you say dont be upset..they are the ones throwing away a relationship with their daughter. There are plenty more ppl out there who care about u, including us here at advicenators :)
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You need to talk to your parents and tell them that what they say to you hurts your feelings and that they should tell you that you are "full of the Devil" and so on. You need to tell them that even though you don't go to their church, they shouldn't treat you like this and if this is getting on your nerves, talk to them and explain that you want them to stop hurting your feelings.
-Karen
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I wouldn't want to be part of a religon either where is aceptable to be so judgemental and hateful to their children and tell them they are "going to hell". Next time they say hurtful things, tell them you are sad they feel that way, but you don't want to be a part of something that cause such hate. They are welcome to their beliefs, and you are welcome to yours.
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tell them dat they are hurtin your feelings. make them understand. tell them why you don't wanna be in their religion. i hope i help. please dont rate me low lol
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