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I have only had sex a few times and it hurts a little bit, but if we used lube would it help out?
Most definitely!
Some people prefer it with lube anyway. Especially if you aren't that wet to begin with.
which of the new chocolates does everyone like best? the maroon, blue, or black?
incase you don't know what i'm talking about...
maroon:
http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/store/controller?item=phoneFirst&action=viewPhoneDetail&selectedPhoneId=3097&changingCompletedOrder=
blue:
http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/store/controller?item=phoneFirst&action=viewPhoneDetail&selectedPhoneId=3076&changingCompletedOrder=
black:
http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/store/controller?item=phoneFirst&action=viewPhoneDetail&selectedPhoneId=3098&changingCompletedOrder=
i'm leaning towards the maroon.. but i'm not positively sure. the black looks kind of tacky, and the blue is really boyish. help me! :)
I like the maroon version. Gives it that original feel and looks quite pretty.
Black's okay too, but a little normal :P
Well, this morning I took my tampon out and it looked... Smaller? I don't know, maybe it was just me being paranoid. I was freaking out and scared that it had broken inside of me for some strange reason and got lodged inside of me and went up into my bladder. So I've been freaking out and crying.
Then later I was peeing and noticed some fluff in my bellybutton and tried to pick it out and then ever since then I've been feeling bellybutton area pains and the urge to pee and it stings and I want to cry. I'm so scared. I hope the tampon didn't break inside of me or something....
But, yeah, I didn't feel the pain until I scratched my bellybutton to get the fluff out. I really doubt my dad will take me to the hospital unless this is like CRAZY.
You need to stop worrying.
You're absolutely fine!
Firstly, tampons can't just break inside you. It's rather impossible due to the way they are made.
Secondly, the fluff you saw in your belly button is what you can most probably expect to find in anyones. It's particles of your clothing building up inside. Clean it out in the shower and it'll be fine.
Stop worrying and after your belly button's recovered from you scratching at it ;), the pain will go away. Promise :)
Sorry this is long but..OK to start out I'm 15/f.
It started when I was 12 and in 6th grade. There was this guy named Jack and we both liked each other, but neither of us admitted it to the other...then he told me that he was going to move to another country (permanently, not just vacation). When he was there, we would sometimes talk on AIM. He admitted that he liked me, and I did the same. But eventually we lost contact because of the time differences. Well then at the end of that year, for the last quarter of school, he came back. Apparently his school in China was awful. By that time, I had a boyfriend. Jack kind of layed off talking to me at that time, because I think he didn't want to cause trouble. But I dumped my boyfriend before the school year was over, and when Jack found this out he started flirting with me again. But then he went back to China. Then the summer after 7th grade, he randomly called me and told me that he was in town and that we should play tennis. So we played out and then he asked me to a movie. (Last year I was in 8th grade by the way). So then this summer (after 8th grade), I emailed him and asked if he was going to be in town and if he wanted to play tennis. He responded and we played tennis/went swimming. It was awesome, and perfect and we really clicked. Then he called me a few days later to see if I wanted to see a movie with him...we saw a movie but nothing happened. He didn't hold my hand or anything but it almost seemed like he was trying to but couldn't get the courage to or something. Anyway, he's leaving tomorrow (I saw him last night), and I really want to have a relationship with him. He's going to be in the country this coming school year, he's going to a boarding school in the east coast. But I feel awkward initiating it, and there are so many potential problems that could happen if I admitted I liked him. 1) He could say he doesn't feel the same way (I'm pretty sure he likes me, because he was acting so charming and amazing). 2) He could say he doesn't want to have a relationship, and if that happened, if I ever saw him again it would be really awkward. 3)He could say he does like me, but then find a girl in boarding school that he likes better and break up with me. I can't get him off of my mind though. When I knew it was the last time we'd be seeing each other for a while, I just started crying. What should I do? Should I hint at liking him through email or something? The longer answer the better, thank you soo much!
Thankyou for your question by the way.
Well, this is a bit of a tricky situation.
Firstly, as he's flirting with you and asking you to go places with him, it does sound like he's in to you.
However, you have to think of all the possible answers.
He could just see you as a really good friend who he can count on to seeing, despite moving a lot..
Or he likes you but is afraid of what would happen to the relationship when he goes to boarding school.. Or he's nervous and doesn't know how to go about asking you to be his gilfriend.
There are more, but these are some of the main ones.
I definitely feel you should tell him. If I were in your position, I know I would.
Would you rather not tell him and never know what could come of you two? Or know an answer.. even if it's not what you want it to be.
I very much doubt if you told him and he didn't feel the same there would be awkwardness between you. It depends how you act after he tells you his answer. If he says no and you act sad and totally heartbroken, he may be scared to see you again because he doesn't want to make you upset. So let him know you're totally cool with it and it's not a problem. Say you'd rather remain friends anyway because of the complications. (even though deep inside you really ARE upset)
If he'd like you to be his girlfriend but is scared of the complications involved, reassure him.
If you both like eachother that much, it would be a waste to at least not give it a try.
I know the position you're in at the moment is rather horrible for you, but if you really want something to come of this, you have to tell him. I like your idea of hinting to him in an email.
Who knows, he could be thinking exactly the same right now but is shy to ask.
If you'd like further help, send one in the inbox. If not, let me know how it goes.
I wish you the best of luck with you and Jack sweetie.
and remember, if it all doesn't go to plan, I can guarantee you will find someone even better for you without the complications involved, given time. :)
Ok, so when I was born my doctor spilled an acid on my belly button. There's a scar ony the top lip of it and I really want to get it peirced. I was reading through some of your questions and it seemed like you've had quite a few piercings so I hope you can help. First, will it hurt to get it pierced because its a scar? Second, do you think they will actually pierce it because I've had it for 14 years? I would ask a piercer, but my mom wouldn't take me. She said I can get it pierced for my birthday (15th) and I tried asking her to see if a piercer would look at it but she still thinks, after I've told her many times that's not what I was trying to do, is that I'm trying to get her to take me there then beg her to get it pierced right then and there. I also want to know soon and not wait till my birthday and find out that they can't pierce it and have my hopes crushed =/ If you'd like, I'll send you a picture of it, perhaps tomorrow. And I'm so sorry this is super long! But thanks soo much!
To be honest, a picture would be better, but I feel I have a rough idea of what it looks like for now.
I know you can pierce scars, but it all depends on whether the piercer is confident enough to do it. I don't mean it's a different procedure.. It will be exactly the same. But some piercers could be funny about it. Make sure you go to a reputable piercer.
Afterall, people who have already had belly button piercings whom for some reason let it close up, later go onto repierce it over the previous scar. and considering your scar is 14 years old, I don't think it'd be much of a problem.
Scars do tend to hurt a tad more when getting them pierced, due to scar tissue and the likes, but don't let that be a problem! Don't let the pain put you off. Your piercer will put you at ease about that anyway.
It's sad your mum won't let you see if you 100% can get pierced, but I have a feeling you'll be fine! :)
would it feel weird if you & your boyfriend went out.. and did some things.. like lets just say "have sex" (because thats the closest thing i can come up with). and you break up ... would it feel weird if you lost it to him, and then ya'll broke up?
maybe i'm scared he might tell somebody what we did.. that's the thingg... >.
I'm in this position now.
I had sex with a now ex boyfriend of mine and as of last week, I found out from a friend he's been going around telling people I was a "shit shag" because I guess in some way in his twisted mind, it satisfies him and acts as part of revenge, when really, it's stupidly pointless, because I could say many things about him 100 times worse.
He's still not over the fact I had to break up with him, because in reality, the relationship just wasn't working. and after trying everything he could to get me back, he's decided saying things about me is better.
I've had it out with him, asked him why he feels the need to do it.. and he came up with a lame excuse saying he was drunk.
There isn't much you can really do in a situation like this. I feel if you try to stoop to his level, it just makes the whole problem worse.
If you break up with a boyfriend you've had sex with, try and end on friendly terms. If that's impossible, and he actually does go and say stuff about you, honestly, the best thing you can do is laugh it off. Laugh at how immature he's being and basically ignore him.
Ignoring him will make him realize you just don't care (even though deep inside you might).
If you don't give him a reaction, he will soon stop.
Remember:
Even if you are in love or you trust each other 100%, there's still a chance he could turn at the drop of a hat when the relationship ends. After all, that's what happened to me. I trusted my ex after 8 months of dating.. yet he still acted like a jerk.
I'm not saying it WILL happen, because hopefully not all guys are like that. Well actually, they really aren't all like that.
It's just a risk people take.
To be frank,if he does tell people, who cares what they think? Don't let that part worry you. They'll soon forget. Just ignore them too.
Like anybody cares anyway. Don't sweat it. :)
okay i am 14/f and i weigh like 110. i no that's not alot but i really want to get skinnier. i no it's really bad for you and all but i really want to be annerexic, because i no it works! but it's hard for me to discipline myself not to eat! i have been riding my bike 4 miles like everyother day. that's really easy because im very athletic and i play soccer 2 times a week also. and i have been trying to cut down on food and also eat more fruit. it's so hard because when i'm bored i want to eat even though im not hungry. i also do 500 situps every day. i am skinny i just want to be skinnier. i am trying to be annorexic but maybe eat like a banana a day or something but it is so hard not to eat! please help me and give me ways to stop me from eating when im broed and stuff like that! im desperate! thanks in advance!
You can't just decide to be anorexic. Anorexia is a serious psychiatric disorder, which in the end results in organ failure and death, not to mention how unattractive and unnatural it looks.
You said yourself you are very athletic, so exercise isn't a problem. I'm a bit worried about a 14 year old doing 500 sit ups daily, but that isn't my strongest point to give advice on. I just hope you aren't over exerting yourself.
You can stop eating through boredom without becoming anorexic.
**Drinking lots of water is one of them. Most of the time, when people think they're hungry, they're infact just thirsty. So sipping water throughout the day could help.
**Do something to take your mind off it - writing/listening to music/calling a friend/seeing friends/tidy your room.....
**Instead of skipping your meals to eat fruit, eat the fruit in place of any snacks.
**Chew gum/suck on mints etc.
Most people suffer from boredom eating.
Did you know it takes around 2 weeks to kick a habit?
The first 2 weeks will be quite a challenge, but after that, you will feel yourself becoming stronger and not wanting to eat when becoming bored.
To remain healthy and not put yourself at risk, eat the correct meals a day. Eating "little and often" is the key. Around 5 small portions is what you should be aiming at. Skipping meals to a BANANA a day is NOT the answer.
If all else fails and you're actually determined to get an eating disorder, please see a doctor.
Best of luck
how can i get the 'abortion pill'. and do i need a parent with me and do they have to know. because i wanna keep this a secret. && how do they work ?
Your parents don't need to know.
If you're talking about the morning after pill, (which some people call the "abortion pill" for some reason), you need to take it within 72 hours of having sex.
Visit your doc or go to a clinic. Depending on where you live, you may have to pay for it.
I took this from a website:
"What is the abortion pill and where can I get it?
The abortion pill is a form of abortion available to women who are under 9 weeks pregnant. The woman will be given a pill to swallow and 36 to 48 hours later a tablet will be placed in her vagina. These two drugs will end most early pregnancies within the following four hours. A minimum of 2 visits to a hospital or clinic are involved."
[I know of people who've had this form of abortion pill can bleed for about a month afterwards.]
I really want to get my ear pierced here:
http://img67.imageshack.us/my.php?image=earcloseupcx1.jpg
any comments or advice? does it hurt?
It's called a tragus. I have one and to be honest, it was a lot easier to take care of than I expected and it only hurt if I accidently knocked it - which is to be expected!
It's not too bad getting it done. If you're familiar with cartilage piercings, you have nothing to worry about. If not, still don't worry, because although the pain may be sharp, it only lasts about 7 seconds.
Your piercer will tell you what to expect and how to take good care of it.
Just a few words of advice:
Only touch the piercing when cleaning it. Do NOT play with it or touch it without a good reason as it will slow down the healing process and could cause bacteria to get in meaning infection.
Best of luck!
14/f
okay this might sound like HORRIBLY discusting,but i need advice. okay so im 14 and i HAVENT started my period yet. so lately i bought this energy drink, vault i drink 2 a day to keep me up. or just one. but lately its been brown down there(if you know what i mean) and when i go to whipe,its brown too!
and im wondering is this the start of a period or just effects of this energy drink?
okay im so sorry that this is such a discusting question. but if you can help me out, i would highly appreciate it!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE!
It definitely sounds like the start of your period and absolutely not related to the energy drink in any way.
15/F
I haven't started my period yet. But my discharge comes out in clumps, Recently, it smells really weird and is a yellowish color. It's not like it normally is. So is something wrong??
Yes, something seems to be wrong here.
Discharge can vary in consistency, but definitely shouldn't smell bad and have itchy sores around the area.
Even if you haven't had sex, you still could have an STI.
Without a doctor, it's impossible for you to get a 100% accurate diagnosis.
Don't be embarrassed about it - they see things like this ALL the time.
Get yourself checked out so you don't have to worry.
Good luck.
qhettinq my nose pierced on saturday hopefully for my birthday.
1. i've heard that it feels like you got punched in the face . and it feels like that for days .
2. i've heard that you bleed very much .
3. i've heard you have to twist 4-8 times a day everyday.
4. does it hurt cleaning it and how do you clean it?
5. does it hurt taking the nose ring out for a new ring ?
6. does getting yur hose pierced overall hurt ?
The first three are absolute NONSENSE.
I've had 3 nostril piercings.
Firstly, it doesn't feel like a punch in the face. It feels like you'd expect it to feel - a needle. Of course it hurts a little bit. But it's not terribly bad - just a sharp prick. The good part is if you're scared about the pain factor, it only lasts about 5 seconds.
You most probably won't bleed. If you do, it will be a small amount.
Some people are more prone to bleeding.
To lower your chances, DO NOT drink any alcohol or take any tablets 24 hours before your piercing, because they thin your blood which makes you bleed easier.
Whatever you do, DO NOT touch or turn your piercing around AT ALL.
ALL you need to do is clean it as directed. Don't worry, they will tell you how. If not, soak sea salt in warm water and hold it over your nose for about 10 minutes. Use a cotton bud (Q tip) to remove any "crusties" from the piercing.
It doesn't hurt. It's actually really soothing.
But remember, if you touch it/play with it, you most probably will get what's called a nostril bump. and they take absolutely ages to settle down and go.
I advise you not to change your piercing for at least 3 months if you can. The more you aggravate it, the more time it will take to heal.
Nostril piercings are very stubborn and can easily go wrong if you accidently bump it or play with it, so as a final warning, only touch it when you clean it. I cannot stress that enough.
Lastly, for me, if the piercing hurt THAT much, I wouldn't put myself through it 3 times. ;)
If you need any further advice before or after your piercing, don't hesitate to ask.
Best of luck and happy piercing!
I've asked about 6 of my friends to go to the movies with me. REJECTED! all busy.. so
Well, do you go see a movie ALONE?
i feel little weird.. because I always see someone with at least 2 people with them.
I've known of many people catching a movie alone.
You don't necessarily need someone with you. After all, your friends may even disturb you from watching it!
Don't be embarrassed about it.
There's no golden rule which states you can't be on your own.
If you do decide to go, make sure you get there and back safely.
Happy watching!
I'm getting my nose pierced next year or so. I'm just wondering.. how much it hurts. Like.. what does it feel like.. compare it to something? I don't really like needles, but I've always loved that damn piercing :/ I want a tiny hole/stud. So will the needle be huge anyway? Can I ask for a certain size? Do they numb it first or something? I've heard that some places do that or maybe I heard wrong.
Experiences? :]
Your eyes will probably water as the needle goes through. The needle itself isn't too bad and it only stings for about 3 seconds as it goes in.
Once the needle's in, sliding the stud or ring in will feel a little bit uncomfortable, but it's nothing too bad.
(I have experienced both)
Also, don't forget everyone has a different pain tolerance.. So what could be painful to your friend etc may not be for you. :)
I don't think numbing will be needed.. and do not take tablets for pain beforehand, because it can thin your blood and make the piercing quite messy!
Just tell your piercer you're not the biggest fan of needles.
Don't worry about that part anyway, because all reputable piercers talk you through the process.
and to the advicenator below who said her friend has "something growing on her nose", unfortunately, it can happen with some piercings.
If you get your nose pierced, clean it as instructed and LEAVE IT ALONE. Don't touch it or play with it AT ALL. Or your healing process will be set back by weeks or possibly months.
Happy piercing!
like what is frist base second base third base.
and of course home
like in your personal opinion??
My own opinion and one of the most common;
1st: Making out
2nd: Hand jobs
3rd: Oral
4th/home: Sex
I have a lot of piercings on my ears, 13. But I want one more, that not a lot of people have..
So I came down to
A Tragus Piercing
A Rook Piercing
Or A Daith Piercing..
If anyone on here has had any one of those done on a scal 1-10, how bad did it hurt? 10 being the worst.. thanks!!! =]
I Have a tragus.. It hurt about a 5.
But it was only for about 10 seconds at the most. After that, it was a warm, throbbing sensation.
Only time it hurt was if the weather was freezing and the wind was blowing hard on it, or if I accidently knocked it when I was sleeping (both during the first week or 2.)
I also think a rook looks pretty. My friend has one, and he said it hurts like a standard cartilage piercing.. which isn't that bad :P
Happy piercing with whatever you choose to get!
ive already asked for help and noone responded, here it is again.
im in my 40's/male. i was married for about 20 years with the most amazing women known to man.
i have cheated on her with about; 10 different girls, but only had 3 actuall girlfreinds. we have been seperated for about 1 year; im now with my girlfriend she caught me cheating on her with. she doesnt know about the others.
also my 2kids (wife) basically hate me and i never see one of them.
since no one resoponded back to me before im going to make this short.
basically, i still love my wife and im now cheating on my girlfriend with her friend. i want my wife back!!! p.s we are going through divorce. help!!
What you have described between you and your ex wife definitely is not love.
Sadly, everyone makes mistakes. After the first time, they learn. After your TENTH time, you still haven't learnt.
You are also cheating on your current girlfriend..
In all honestly, I think you have a problem and should seek help.
Relationships are tough, but you have to be committed. You clearly are not. and at 40 years of age, AND with children involved, it's quite sad.
People can change. Hopefully you can be one of them. I urge you to get the help you need.
Within time, maybe your wife would see things differently, but considering the terrible mistakes you've made in the past, I don't think anything you say or do can fix the damage already done.
One the other hand, if you're true to you word and realize what a fool you've been, prove you're getting help to her. Who knows, it might be a start.
Best of luck anyway.
is it true that if men drink mt.dew it will lower their sperm count????
It's thought the colouring in the drink lowered sperm count and made testicles shrink!
Thankfully, it's all false. :)
Here's a few websites to back up:
http://urbanlegends.about.com/od/fooddrink/a/mountain_dew.htm
http://www.snopes.com/medical/potables/mountaindew.asp
If you'd like more, Google "mountain dew sperm count"
m/13 so me and my girlfriend are planning to have sex. we dont know whether she should put her tampon in during it so she doesnt get pregnant, or i should use i condom. also, how do u put on a condom? when i put my penis in how fast do i go in and out?
From reading your question, you obviously don't know what you're letting yourself in for and definitely SHOULDN'T be having sex. Not to mention you are too young.
In no way, shape, or form should you have sex with a tampon in.
If you don't want an unwanted pregnancy, a condom is the right way to go. (as well as other birth control methods)
If you purchase a box, it will have instructions on how to put it on.
If not, Google has all the answers.
http://www.feelconfident.co.uk/condoms/how_to_put_on_a_condom.htm
Here is a site you could look at.
I strongly recommend you practise putting on a condom, just so you know how to do it for the future.
And lastly, you control how fast you go in and out. Basically do what feels good for you both.
Noone here can stop you from going ahead and having sex with your girlfriend, but in all seriousness, take a step back and think for a little. Are you REALLY prepared for the consequences?
This is a big step in a relationship. You may assume you're ready, but mentally, you may not be.
Just think about it, okay?
and best wishes. :)
my sister wore super red nail polish and when she erased it (and yes she did it good because my aunt used to work at the nail salon so she has everything at home) her nails were like pinkish red.
What's wrong? she scrubbed really hard and stuff but it just stays that colour
Darker and brighter nail polish colours tend to stain the nails for a while.
To avoid this, use a base coat. (A clear coat of nail polish will do.)
In the mean time, to get rid of the pinkish colour, your sister might want to try soaking her nails in lemon juice. It's a fast way to strip away the colour and make the nails white!