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1 wife, 2 gf, 2 kids
ive already asked for help and noone responded, here it is again.
im in my 40's/male. i was married for about 20 years with the most amazing women known to man.
i have cheated on her with about; 10 different girls, but only had 3 actuall girlfreinds. we have been seperated for about 1 year; im now with my girlfriend she caught me cheating on her with. she doesnt know about the others.
also my 2kids (wife) basically hate me and i never see one of them.
since no one resoponded back to me before im going to make this short.
basically, i still love my wife and im now cheating on my girlfriend with her friend. i want my wife back!!! p.s we are going through divorce. help!!
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What you have described between you and your ex wife definitely is not love.
Sadly, everyone makes mistakes. After the first time, they learn. After your TENTH time, you still haven't learnt.
You are also cheating on your current girlfriend..
In all honestly, I think you have a problem and should seek help.
Relationships are tough, but you have to be committed. You clearly are not. and at 40 years of age, AND with children involved, it's quite sad.
People can change. Hopefully you can be one of them. I urge you to get the help you need.
Within time, maybe your wife would see things differently, but considering the terrible mistakes you've made in the past, I don't think anything you say or do can fix the damage already done.
One the other hand, if you're true to you word and realize what a fool you've been, prove you're getting help to her. Who knows, it might be a start.
Best of luck anyway.
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You have made your bed and now you are sleeping in it (apparently with a lot of different women)
The fact is, that while it might be possible for you to affect a positive and meaningful change in your own behavior, you probably cant do it in time to save your marriage.
My advice is let her divorce you. Because she deserves someone better than you. Harsh, yes, but thats still my opinion. Sorry =/
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Honestly, to me it sounds like you have messed up pretty bad. You need to control yourself and stop cheating. Then maybe you and your wife can be friends but I don't think it will ever be anymore than that again. I'm sorry if it doesn't really help but thats what I think you should do.
<3Taylee
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If she's the most amazing woman known to man why the hell were you cheating on her? She has a right to hate you. Now you're with her friend? That's a fucked up way to gain her forgivness and get back together with her.
If you really want to be with her you're going to have to stop cheating on her... for good. You need to get your children and your wife and talk to them... no beg them for forgiveness. Then you need to tell them that you'll get a therapist, because you definitely need one.
You need to talk to your wife, tell her what you did was a mistake and that you only want her. Tell her you love her and you don't want a divorce. Ask for another chance. And even if she does give you another chance and forgives you, don't count on her actually trusting you for a while. And don't expect her or your kids to act the same way around you again. You *really* messed up. I highly doubt things will ever be the same between you and I doubt they'll forgive you.
::Jasmine::
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I wouldn't want you back if I was her. In order for her to take you back you need to break up with all of your girlfriends. What's more important cheating on your wife or your kids? You are the one making the decision to do it, think before you act. If you really loved her you wouldn't feel the need to cheat. Before your wife can trust you, you need to stand up and be a real man. Stay true to your family, because they are more important than some whore.
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I am not going to be nice about this, you're a whore- if I was your wife I wouldn't want you back either, seriously. I would hate you too- stop being a asshole& be a man.
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karma can seriously come back and bite you in the ass as you can tell.
but if you want to finish the right way.. start over the right way!
you have to break up with your girlfriends.
all of them.
then you have to promise not only your wife, but yourself that you will NEVER cheat on her again.
if you do.. you will loose everything, your wife, your kids, your world pretty much.
keep that in mind and explain that to your wife and kids, tell them how much you love each and everyone of them and how you would never want to loose them.
and remember.. if you really love them.. you will not cheat your family.
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Well you obviously don't love your wife if you would cheat on her... especially with 10 different girls.
If she got back with you, it's not like you'd change because your cheating on your current girlfriend right now.
Go to counseling...
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i'm just going to keep it real. wth? grow up. if you love your wife why would you cheat on her? if you really really love your wife, you'd drop the girlfriends and start showing her you will change and you want to change and it will be forever.
if your serious about this, talk to her. tell her you were wrong. but i wouldn't get your hopes up to high about getting her back. i know if someone did that to me i could never trust them again.
so just try, if you love her that much.
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You should go and seek some sort of counseling for your cheating problem.
Obviously there is some reason that you have this compulsion to cheat on the women in your life, and you are discovering how such a compulsion can destroy your life.
ygs-29/f
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ok your stupid you dont cheat on your wife regardless...you have a problem you need to get help...and now you are cheating on your girlfriend who you were caught cheating with in the first place??????!!!!!! and you wonder why your kids dont talk to you...my dad did the same..so i agree with what they are doing...get your act together and maybe your kids will talk to you
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