My name is linzi. I have a wonderful boyfriend!!! I play every sport possible...and i've been through a lot of stuff so feel free to ask me anything!!!
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ive already asked for help and noone responded, here it is again.
im in my 40's/male. i was married for about 20 years with the most amazing women known to man.
i have cheated on her with about; 10 different girls, but only had 3 actuall girlfreinds. we have been seperated for about 1 year; im now with my girlfriend she caught me cheating on her with. she doesnt know about the others.
also my 2kids (wife) basically hate me and i never see one of them.
since no one resoponded back to me before im going to make this short.
basically, i still love my wife and im now cheating on my girlfriend with her friend. i want my wife back!!! p.s we are going through divorce. help!! (link)
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I wouldn't want you back if I was her. In order for her to take you back you need to break up with all of your girlfriends. What's more important cheating on your wife or your kids? You are the one making the decision to do it, think before you act. If you really loved her you wouldn't feel the need to cheat. Before your wife can trust you, you need to stand up and be a real man. Stay true to your family, because they are more important than some whore.
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ok, so i'm 15/f and i'm gay, it's not too big a deal in my community, but i am still worried about coming out because there are some people who would kind of shun me and such. Anyways, there is this girl who is 17 and she's a lesbian, and i kind of like her, but that doesn't really matter because she has a girlfriend and i would never want to come between them. anyways, i kind of would like to just talk to her about it and stuff because i look up to her a lot, and the only person i can talk to is my best friend, who is cool with me being gay, but not too helpful since she's straight.
anyhow, this 17 year old girl thinks i'm straight probably and i want to start dropping hints, not just towards her, to everyone that i'm gay because i really dont want to just come out and say it.
what should i do? wear, act, say.......??? please help, I feel like if i just said i was gay I would lose some of my friends, and also because people would be like, so what we don't care, like it doesn't matter enough to just announce it, lol
ok if anyone-gay or straight, has any tips for dropping hints that would be awesome.
thanks in advance, if I don't like your advice i won't rate you bad i promise (link)
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Ok i recently went through the same thing. I'm 15 and the girl i liked is 17 i just told her i was a lesbian. Then we started hanging out and now we're like best friends. When I started hanging out with her more people started to think I was gay because everyone knows she is...I let that be my way as dropping hints. You shouldn't change who you are (like the way you dress or act) to let people know that you are gay. To tell you the truth most lesbians can tell when other people are lesbians. So just give it time. If people don't start catching on then I would suggest just telling a few people.
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i hate my height..i'm 5 6...i hate being this tall...i'm 14/f...is there any ways of being shorter?? (link)
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that's not tall..
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Hmm, okay in order to make my question short, I'll just ask one question and anyone willing to help, please give me your e-mail, AIM, YIM, MSN or some way of me being able to contact you.
Are there any bi, gay, or lesbian columnists on this site because I'm having trouble and issues with coming out [I'm bi and 14/f] and I would really like your help on how to deal with things and what to do...
No offense or anything but if you're not out, you're obviously not going to be able to help me [unless your friend goes/went through the same thing]
Thanks very much!!! (link)
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xxlinzimariexx on aim. i go by lindsey.
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so, there is this person, she's actually a teacher at my school. A lot of people think she's a lesbian(she's only 22 also) but me and my friends think that there is something going on between her and another teacher at my school (Man). so i'm wondering, how do you tell if a person is a lesbian? and what are some signs that people are having an affair. it's also a boarding school and they both live there.....
i just want people's opinions, my school is kind of boring and not much happens so, my friends and I are trying to investigate :)
this is why people think she's a lesbian:
she is really athletic, coaches field hocket and softball
dresses ungirly- like button up shirts, sweaters, slacks and jeans- nothing girly
always wears her hair in a ponytail-never down
really competitive and kind of a tough attitude
This is why we think she is having an affair with my science teacher
they sit together a lot, interact a lot
walk places together
his wife is out of town for a month, and we have only noticed them hanging out since she has been gone
people have said they talked about "watching movies" at each others apartments or something like that
once, she was wearing eyeliner and my friend was like "why are you wearing eyeliner?" like teasing her, because she doesn't usually wear makeup, and then my science teacher came in and my friend was like "wear are you going" and he said "nowhere you would want to go" (which seems very suspicious) and then the woman said "we're just going to the gym to play basketball"
They just seem sort of, i dunno, together
anyways i know this is long, but it's kinda funny, and i'm just wonderign what other people would think about this??
hmmmm.....very suspicious
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Ok...I agree that you shouldn't be butting into your teacher's life. I doubt they would be together anywyas since she looks like a "lesbian" and what if they heard you talking about them??? It would hurt their feelings if they aren't together and if you start rumors like that it could get them fired because he is married. Maybe he is hanging out with her because she reminds him of his wife and he misses his wife? You never know anyone else's situation so you shouldn't judge them. This is not a way for you and your friends to entertain yourselves! It is something serious that has NOTHING to do with yall so why do you care? Yeah...that's all I have to say :D
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i am 14/f and a Christian.
i am so scared right now. i believe in god and i love going to church and it makes me want to be a much better person, but when i hear people talk about their doubts of god, i get scared. i mean, what if they are right? i cry when i think what if he doesnt exist because i am just so unsure, but i love god and i want to believe that he cares about us all. i am so so scared and i could never be an atheist or whatever.. can someone please give me advice? (link)
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Part of being a Christian is trusting in God and having FAITH in him. Nobody knows what is true except for God, and you just have to have faith in Him and believe what you read in the Bible. It's normal to have these thoughts I have them too but I think about everything that I've been taught at church and it's just that you have to listen to yourself and noone else.
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15/f
Okay, i had a question about bisexuality. I think that i am bisexual, but i can't quite seem to figure out what to do. I have dreams and think about that stuff with girls, but i wasn't sure how to approach this situation. I don't know anyone that is bisexual or lesbian. I just wanted to know what i should do to actually find out for sure. I told my close friend about it, and he told me that i am because i answered a bunch of questions (like would you kiss a girl etc). I just wanted to see if any one had any advice as to what to do. Serious answers are preferable, and someone who is bisexual would be even better so they can tell me what they did.
Thanks! (link)
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I'm bisexual and I'm a 15/f soo yeah. Well when I first thought I was I thought kissing a girl would tell me if I was or wasn't, but when I did it didn't feel right. When I kissed my girlfriend though it was probably the best kiss of my life, because I really cared for her and that's how I knew I liked girls. The best advice I can give you is not to rush and take it slow. Don't be so quick to label yourself as straight, bi, or lesbian because now a days it could just be your hormones. Also I wouldn't just go out and kiss random girls like I did. Find a girl that you really like and try it out, and if you don't like it then maybe it's not your thing!
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I want to buy Nike Shox for myself. The ones I want are $115, do you think it's worth the money?
Also, are they good shoes for running in? Because that's what I'd be mainly using them for.
Thanksss. (link)
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I love my shox I have 6 different pairs of them. They are comfy and easy to run in.
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Hey everyone :D,
I'm Hailey, and im 15 years old (freshman in highschool)
I need advice on my love life lol. I like a boy named jake that goes to my school.. but hes a Senior. Hes 17. I don't know what to do.. Do you think that a freshman dating a Senior is wrong? And if you think its okkay, do you have any advice on how to get to know him. He goes out to lunch and i dont have any classes with him, occasionally I see him in the hallway and i start up some kind of small talk untill we get to our classes, but it usually doesn;t branch off from there. Any siguestions? Thanks a million! i REALLY appreciate the help!! :D
hailey,3 (link)
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Yeah there is no problem with that. I dated a senior my freshman year and we're still really close. Just make sure that since he's older he may be more like into drinking or sex, or maybe not. But if he is make sure you don't get into that kind of stuff. You can get to know him by talking on the phone and hanging out like on the weekends not just at school.
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sometimes i wanna go shopping with my mom, but everytime i do my mom just has to bring my grandmother along! i love my grandma,and she lives wiht us too..but it's just so embarassing and inconvenient to have her! whenever i see someone from my school i feel like a complete dork because im shopping with my 85 years old grandma..i know this sounds horrible, i'd gladly spend time with my grandma doing other stuff but not shopping at our trendy mall! she's sooo slow and my mom has to hold her and stuff,and it's just so embarassing i'm sorry. but my mom gets mad at me b/c my grandma never goes out and she doens't have time to take both me & my grandma out different times. what do i do? im SO sick of this!! (link)
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I know you're probably sick of her, but wouldn't you feel bad if she wasn't there. Sometimes I wish my grandma was still here so I could bring her with me to do stuff. You shouldn't be embarrassed of your family. Wouldn't she be sad if she read this right now?
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im in a group home and its an all girls one. im straight but i really am starting to like the girls. if you know what i mean. i wanna touch them all over. i have a bf, but i want one of the girls to join in with me and him. i think that would be fun. so now am i gay? (link)
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No it doesn't make you gay! It's probably because you are around her all the time and it puts thoughts in your head. Maybe you should try it out, it could be fun!
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hi :]
16/f
well me and my mom were talking yesterday and shes like i think i might know something else to get you for christmas! and im like what? and shes like have you ever heard of the CHI straightener? and im like yea the one that costs like $200. i heard its suppose to be good but for anyone that uses it does it really work good or what because i will feel bad to have her like spend so much and have me not like it!! well thank you. (link)
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Yeah it works better then any other straightner I have used. And if you don't want the skinny one, they make a thicker one. But if your hair is shorter it's best to get the thin one. But I have long hair and it takes about 10 minutes to straighten it good.
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Well, for starters, I'm a freshman in high school (15/f). I like this guy in one of my classes, and he's really nice and we talk and all, but my problem is that he's a junior. I'm not worried about him using me or anything bad like that. I just don't know if he would consider going out with a freshman. Should I still go for him, or give up before I start? I'm probably going to go for him anyway, I just wanted to see what others think. (link)
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Last year (my freshman year) I went out with a senior. He didn't care about age at all. He said he only cared about me, not my age. If this guy really likes you then he shouldn't mind either. But then again it depends on what type of person he is.
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ok i feel so stupid asking this but someone said this today...
"she ate her little sister out"
i know its something gross since that was everyone's reaction, but what does this mean? (link)
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ewww. Eating a girl out is oral sex on a girl. Like how a girl gives a guy head. But yeah you know on a girl.
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I want to lose some weight and go down to Hilary and Lindsay's weight because I am not comfortable with my body.. does anyone know how i can do this? (link)
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I wanted to be like them too, and that's why started my anorexia. I go threw stages of it all the time. Now I'm not saying Hillary or Lindsay are anorexic because nobody knows what goes on in there lifes but you don't want to be like Lindsay. Her weight is up and down and very unhealthy. I read in a magazine that Hillary does pilates to stay in shape. Just count calories and restrict how much you eat and do at least 30 minutes of exercise because that's when you're body starts to burn fat.
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first of all i am a freshman and the guy is a senior. ok my frinds say that this guy likes me because they say that he always stares at me i am so confused please help!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Just because he stared at you doesn't mean he likes you. Maybe he just thinks you are cute. I mean he can't like you until he talks to you. Seriously. If he likes you just after staring at you then he just wants you for your looks. So you should probably just talk to him and get to know him better and see how it goes from there.
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i decided i want to makeout with someone before 8th grade. but i need some pointer on how to. like do you open and close you mouth? and do you put your hands? i am so confusedd. thanks in advance! (link)
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making out is not something you really plan on doing. Just go with the flow...you can start out with your mouth closed then open it, either way really. You just put your hands wherever. It all just kinda happens and you know what to do.
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I'm a Guy, and for some reason I'm attracted to the opposite sex. I don't think I'm gay because I would never have sex with a male, but I can't stop looking at guys. Whats wrong with me? and is this Normal? (link)
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I'm going through the same thing right now. It's totally normal to look at the same sex. If you have feelings though then maybe you should experiment. Just do whatever feels comfortable, don't do anything you don't want to do. But if you are totally sure you are straight it is probably just a phase.
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i think about what my husband did to me all of the time, i can't stop. i know i need therepy for it but in the meantime...
i found out about an affair he had through finding love letters written to a co-worker that he claims is just a friend. what makes me even angrier is she came to our baby shower and baptism. what a lot of nerve! i would love to have it out with her too. she is married with two kids as well. i know it wouldn't give me the satisfaction that i want because if she is that low to come to our family functions, well..
how will i ever trust my husband again, he is so secretive i hate that more than anything. i have talked about everything with him but i just can't trust that the answers he gives me aren't just a waste of my time. what am i going to do? i want to fix our marriage esp. for our child. (link)
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Well i'm not married or do I have kids, but the only way you can get on with your marraige is to gain all your trust back. I think you should go to marriage counseling and while there tell him you know he had an affair, and it really hurt you. Then you will be able to work towards gaining your trust back. Always remember, if you aren't happy it's not worth staying with him. Sometimes a divorce is the best thing, but i hope everything works out for the best!
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i really like this guy but he is 19 and im 15 he really likes me too and i know that im young but i really have never felt like this in my life and i feel soo comfortable with him he makes me laugh and gives me hope in life like no other could i reall would like to call this love but im just not sure anyways to the part about the whole sex thing i have had sex with him 2 times sine we have been together im on birth control and we use condoms am i a slut or a whore for having sex at so young of an age and i dont regret doing it either because it feels soo right with him please answer my questions i just need to know :/ (link)
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No it does not make you a slut. You are only sleeping with him so you aren't a slut. If you were having sex with people for the fun of it you would be a slut, but no it's perfectly fine. I think if you love this person then it's a good way to show your affection as long as you are ready for it. Just make sure that you are safe!!!
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