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Bisexuality
15/f
Okay, i had a question about bisexuality. I think that i am bisexual, but i can't quite seem to figure out what to do. I have dreams and think about that stuff with girls, but i wasn't sure how to approach this situation. I don't know anyone that is bisexual or lesbian. I just wanted to know what i should do to actually find out for sure. I told my close friend about it, and he told me that i am because i answered a bunch of questions (like would you kiss a girl etc). I just wanted to see if any one had any advice as to what to do. Serious answers are preferable, and someone who is bisexual would be even better so they can tell me what they did.
Thanks!
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I'm bisexual and I'm a 15/f soo yeah. Well when I first thought I was I thought kissing a girl would tell me if I was or wasn't, but when I did it didn't feel right. When I kissed my girlfriend though it was probably the best kiss of my life, because I really cared for her and that's how I knew I liked girls. The best advice I can give you is not to rush and take it slow. Don't be so quick to label yourself as straight, bi, or lesbian because now a days it could just be your hormones. Also I wouldn't just go out and kiss random girls like I did. Find a girl that you really like and try it out, and if you don't like it then maybe it's not your thing!
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Contrary to popular belief, sexuality is however you identify. This means that someone may identfy as straight, gay, or bisexual before they've done anything sexual at all.
I think the best way to approach sexuality is with an open mind and heart. You're the person who knows you best, and it's important to live a life that is reflecting your genuine self.
As for the 'what to do,' I'm not sure what you're asking. If you're wondering about 'trying it out,' again, this is no sure fire way to prove your sexuality. Sex can be a lot more enjoyable and pleasing with someone you care about, so messing around with one random individual might not make things any clearer for you.
Why not just keep an open mind and see what happens? If you see a girl you're interested in and it seems she likes you back, then you've got a chance to date her. Likewise, if you are interested in a guy, you can date him. This perspective allows it to be about the person rather than what's between their legs.
Recognising your own sexuality as bisexual or lesbian can be a confusing and long process, but know that you're not alone. There are excellent web resources for young people on this topic - articles to read, message boards, etc. There are often local LBGT (lesbian, bisexual, gay, and transgendered) groups you can attend in person, too. These can be purely social or more discussion based.
There's no rush to pin down your sexuality. After all, it'll be with you for the rest of your life.
I wish you the absolute best.
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at this age many people think they are bi or even gay trust me i was there once but have you ever had a girl hiton you coz when u do its different thinking of gettin with someone of the same sex is normal at this age its a hormonal attraction to everything.
your friend would have asked alot of questions because guys like the thought of two girls.
think in your head how you would react if i a girl actually tried tounching you etc because it happened when i girl came after me i felt soo weird and awkward i knew it wasnt right.
hope i could be of service.
but if your sure your bi
just act with girls like you would with guys dont make it a big deal you might get reject more with girls because not all are up for experimenting.
message me if you need more help
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Hey,
Many people are confused the first time they have feelings for a woman, no matter what their age is. I have heard from women in their 40s who are in your same boat. They have only ever had relationships with men, and now they’ve fallen in love with their best friend.
I think honestly, the lines of sexual orientation are not as black and white as we like to think. Many, if not most people, fall somewhere in the middle of gay and straight.
We call it sexual orientation, but really, it’s about so much more than who we’re sexually attracted to. It’s about who we’re emotionally drawn to, who we see ourselves spending our lives with, and yes, whom we’re sexually attracted to as well.
Just take it easy. There’s no need to put a label on yourself. Enjoy your relationship with this one girl and if that’s the only girl you ever feel this way about, that’s okay. If you end up getting crushes on women and men your whole life, you might choose to call yourself bisexual, or not. To some people labels can seem limiting. To others they are freeing. Use them as you choose.
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Well, it can be very confusing now since we're teenagers and hormones and blah blah. Answer questions may help a little but it won't clarify it 100%.
I'm bisexual by the way.
But the only certain way to find out is by actually going out and kissing a girl. If you enjoy it and feel comfortable and happy with it, there is a big chance you're bi. If you felt a little uncomfortable or just disgusted, than it's a no.
I know it's hard to find out this way but it's the most effective way to find out. Just make sure when you know a girl that's bi [or lesbian] and go out with her/kiss her, make sure you trust her and ask her to keep it a secret because you're just trying to experience new things. Also if you do know a bi girl, ask her about how she knew. OR even gay guy friends are good to ask...they're going/went through the same thing too, just a different gender =]
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