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Q: okay. i have never told anyone this. but when i was like ten, i kissed (tounge) and did some other stuff with this girl who i used to be best friends with. i feel disgusting. i really dont wanna be a lesbian, because you go to hell if you are, i wanna have kids, and have a normal life. i like like every boy in my school that i have known or seen.people always think im a lesbo because i have a deep voice, baggy clothes, and the short hair. please tell me.
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you're not going to hell if you ask God for forgivness (that might sound corny and i don't even know if you believe in God but whatever) you just have to tell yourself that that was a mistake and you know you won't do it again. if you know you like guys, you should just put that incident behind you and start new. you shouldn't let people make fun of you for looking like a lesbian because you dont. there is no "look" for a lesbian. If that is how you like to dress then dont let what people say stop you from wearing from wat you want to wear.
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Q: my dad abuses me. mentally and emotionally, sometimes even beats me. i have asked this question before. i have gone to all the hotlines on the internet, but i am scared to tell anyone.
if it helps, my dad was beat and touched by his parents. it has been going on for....4 years maybe. well hes done it all my life, but not this bad. he makes fun of me all the time, so does my stepmom. i live with my dad, but im going to try to go to court to live with my mom. please help me.
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listen:
you HAVE to tell someone no matter how much you love your father
its going to be hard but you have to do it
that way you and your father can go to court and sort things out
you will still be able to see him even if he goes to jail--just please tell the police, i wish you the best of luck
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Q: ive already asked for help and noone responded, here it is again.
im in my 40's/male. i was married for about 20 years with the most amazing women known to man.
i have cheated on her with about; 10 different girls, but only had 3 actuall girlfreinds. we have been seperated for about 1 year; im now with my girlfriend she caught me cheating on her with. she doesnt know about the others.
also my 2kids (wife) basically hate me and i never see one of them.
since no one resoponded back to me before im going to make this short.
basically, i still love my wife and im now cheating on my girlfriend with her friend. i want my wife back!!! p.s we are going through divorce. help!!
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Honestly, to me it sounds like you have messed up pretty bad. You need to control yourself and stop cheating. Then maybe you and your wife can be friends but I don't think it will ever be anymore than that again. I'm sorry if it doesn't really help but thats what I think you should do.
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Q: i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.
nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly.
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The worst thing to do is to hold it in. You need to tell someone you trust and someone that you know will believe you. If you continue to hold it in, it is just going to eat away at you until you finally crack. Also go to the police and file a report. You might be embarressed but if this person hurt you then you need to stop them before it happens again. I promise that no one is going to hate because you havn,t done anything wrong. Trust me if you tell someone you will feel so much better. A girl in our school was being molested so she told the police and the guy was put in jail. Please do something or at least tell someone. It feels so much better knowing that someone believes you and that you can be helped.
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Q: first things first--15/m.
ok so like i said, im 15 and theres this girl(lets just call her bonqueesha lol) who is basically all over me, and shes really cute and all.. but shes only 13. see in my opinion i think it would be wrong/weird for us to hook up or go out or whatever, so what do all you advicenators think?
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i do not think it would be wrong for you to go out at all but i think hooking up might be a problem....
I KNOW there is a whole thing about what age is right to have sex and everything but personally, i think she is WAYY too young and you are pretty young too.
But its only a 2 year age difference so i think if you went out you would be finee.
hope you guys end up together
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Q: ok so like people always say you cant get STDs if you havent been sexually active unless you were born with them, but like is that really common to be born with STDs or is it rare? if your parents had any are you gaurenteed to have them also?
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obviously you can't get an STD from kissing and stuff ebcause it's called Sexually Transmitted Diseases. However, if your parents have them, you aren't guarenteed to have them also, but it's a possibility. If your parents have any i think you should talk to them about it and you guys can look into this more.
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Q: Hey everyone, I have broadband internet but my internet is running slow at the moment.
It's not my computer, my computer is fine and so is MSN/AIM. It's just when I try to load a webpage it takes forever to load, and when I try to watch a YouTube video it takes forever to load. I've scanned my computer and it hasn't picked up on any viruses/trojans so I don't know what to do.
I have unlimited usage so that's not the problem.
I don't know what to do.
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Whatever you have, whether its verizon or comcast or something...call them. They can talk you through stuff on the phone or they can come over and fix the problem. I assure you this will work !
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Q: me:14/f/
BFF:14/f/
My BFF is acting like a girl player, kinnda. She will go out with any guy that asks and she does w/e they want. I mean she hasn't gotten as far as ACTUAL sex, but she has had guys finger her. She only did this cause i told her she was WAY TO YOUNG to have sex. Me and my other friend are REALLY scared that she will go all the way with a guy that she dosen't love! Plus she says that protection for sex is "over-rated and the pull out method is better". And she says that she will have sex when she wants and has stated that she probly will on her next date with her bf that is like a SENOIR!!! Shes only a freshman!Help me! i don't want her to get pregnant! Shes too young!
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You and your other friend need to sit your best friend down and talk to her. You need to tell ther the facts, and what could happen to her if she had sex. She could get a disease, she could get pregnant, and other things. I think if you sit her down, tell her how you feel and how her life could dramatically change just because of one stupid decision.
I know there is a whole debate on which age it is right to have sex...but she NEEDS to understand your side of the argument and you have to make sure it gets through her head!
If she chooses not to listen--make her! Don't talk to her over the phone because she can just hang up. Talk to her in person. If she still chooses to do what she's doing, don't just dump her. She will need support if something happens to her but she at least needs to know how strongly you feel. Hopefully it will sink in.
If you need any more help just contact me !!!
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Q: hi, i'm a girl of 14 and am hooked on porn sites i know this is dirty and bad my family and friends would be disgusted if they found out i'm practically addicted i'm a really good person inside what shall i do and how do i stop????
thank you
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If its guy porn then I don't see a problem. But if you really want to stop then keep your computer off for a while and find some activities to keep you off the computer.
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Q: my boyfriend keeps on trying to have sex with me and i keep saying no but he got me naked on the couch 3 times!
and he tryed to finger me!what should i do?
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I think you should dump him. It sounds like the only reason he likes you is because he wants to have sex with you. If so then that is a bad relationship. If you have feelings for him though I would just draw the line somewhere and try to resist whatever he is doing to pull you in.
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Q: For my friend's birthday, were going to Red Robin. The thing is, I'm on a diet and I looked up their menu online. I can't find one thing on it that isn't too many calories, low in sodium and sugar, and low in fat. Any suggestions??
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One thing you could do is skip your diet for one day just for your friend.
But if you want to play fair--you could ask one of your friends to split a meal with another one of your friends their. You could also eat half of the meal with the lowest cals/sodium/and sugar or whatever, and take the other half home.
OR you could stuff your face before you go out and you could just get something to drink. Good luck!
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Q: my boyfriend and i were thinking that we should have a song that's "our song". i've been thinking about what it could be, but i keep drawing a blank. do you have any suggestions? it should be a love song and it would be nice if it's r&b. if you think a song could be a song to remind us about each other, i would love it.
thanks.
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Its not an R&B song but i think the song forever by papa roach is a wicked cute song.
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Q: How do i get my cat to walk on a leash?
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Get a dog instead because cats don't usually walk on leashes.
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Q: Ok, I'm sure that people have heard this one before, but this is serious and we need help:
When my girlfriend and I have sex, I can't keep my erection long enough to orgasm. This results in hurt feelings and disappointment. I don't know what's wrong with me... I know I can orgasm, but I just can't keep the erection long enough to be able to. My girlfriend is very upset by this as well... It's frustrating to me and I feel like I'm failing her, or as if I'm broken or something. If it helps to know and it's not TMI, I've masturbated frequently for years.
If there's anyone out there who has some information on what can be done we would very much appreciate that. Oh... And anyone who says something like "You're probably gay" or "You don't really love your girlfriend" is getting a 1 for a rating because that's complete crap.
Thanks for your time!
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I agree you should use viagra. It would help out a lot.
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Q: About 2 weeks ago my xboyfriend said he wanted to be friends and I was fine with that. We broke up about 4 weeks ago but ever since we had been friends he been wanting to have sex
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I personaly wouldn't have sex with him. If you guys are only friends then whats the point? Plus I can't tell you that you're too young cus I don't know how old you are. But still if he only wants to be your friend so he can have sex it's not worth it.
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Q: ok well i have a problem i have liked guy for almost 2 years and i cant get him out of my head...i cant to get over him i just dont know how.... all my friends have been telling me i need to but its not as easy as it looks and i feel they just dont get it. i am getting really annoyed with thm!!!!!!!pleze help me before i go crazzzzzyyyy!thanx
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Well first step is to find out if he likes you back. This way you won't be that hard to tell him cus he might feel the same way. Second step is to try doing an activity and keep ur mind off him. I'm sorry if this affends you but you sound a bit obsessive. So do something to keep him off your mind. There are more important things in life.
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Q: im on summer vaca but i think im gonna have LOADS of trouble with 7th grade next year. i need some study tips or some way to make time since i play sports that take up most of my time.
thanks.
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Hey if you're going into the 7th grade you wouldn't be 13 yet. (please comment back on this)
The best thing for you to do is to make a scheduel. Start your homework right when you get home from school, but do it for 3 mins, then take a break and get a snack or call up a friend or something. Then do your homework and study for 30 more minutes, and so on. if you have a friend over make sure it's on a day that you have no test or quizzes the next day and you don't have that much homework. Also, listen to your teachers carefully and DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK A STUPID QUESTION. I know how many times you have probably heard this, but honestly--it's true. Lastly, always be prepared. if you have a test friday, study ahead of time. Good luck.
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Q: i used to like this guy ( lets call him bmiller) for 4 months. he was a flirt sweet sensitive knew how to treat a girl really well charming and had really nice blue eyes but then he started being a jerk to me and i regret liking him sort of
so my question is why are these kinds of guys irresistable to us girls and what is it about blue eyes that we love so much
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Well it could just be your personality. Maybe you like the bad boy type and you don't know it. Also blue eyes are just adorable--its just a known fact!!I think he was sweet and sensative so he could draw you in. Oh well thats my advice so good luck with these guys in the future.
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Q: It's really hot so I've been wearing thinner clothing but you can see the fabric of the bra I'm wearing. Does anyone know of a type or brand of bra that I can wear that is smooth and doesn't look lumpy or anything under my shirt? Thanks a lot.
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No offense or anything (i don't know if this is offense or anything) but I don't think it would be lumpy if you filled the bra. So basically, you might need a smaller bra size. Please don't rate... that might not be the case at all--i'm just guessing
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Q: i'm 15/female
i'm scared incase my friends think i'm a lesbian,..i'm not u am straight,..but i just have a funny feeling they all think i am and because of this when i talk to them i always make sure i look at their eyes incase like i look them up and down,...but i can't remember why i started thinking this cos before i never bothered at all but now its like when ever i'm near them i'm scared to look at anywhere other than their eyes incase they think i'm a lesbian
why am i like this
i no i'm not a lesbian i love boys wayy to much
i'm just confused
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if you are not a lesbian, then i don't think you should let it bother you at all
besides you only "think" that they think you are a lesbian, you don't know, and asking could be pretty awkward. Chances are, they don't think you are a lesbian at all! It's all in your head, so let it go, relax, forget about it, and have a good time with your friends!
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I am 5'2 with medium length, straight blonde hair and natural highlights. I have baby blue eyes and love to spend all my time at the beach with my friends. My favorite color is pink (obv.) and I work as a lifeguard and teach little kids to swim. In my sparetime I like to go on advicenators, spend time with my boyfriend, listen to music, hang out with my friends, sunbathe, and surf. Message me anytime! =)
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Gender: Female Location: California Occupation: I work as a lifeguard during the week days. Over the weekends I teach swimming lessons. Age: 15 Member Since: July 10, 2007 Answers: 22 Last Update: July 18, 2007 Visitors: 1806
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