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Friendship DRAMA!!!!!
me:14/f/
BFF:14/f/
My BFF is acting like a girl player, kinnda. She will go out with any guy that asks and she does w/e they want. I mean she hasn't gotten as far as ACTUAL sex, but she has had guys finger her. She only did this cause i told her she was WAY TO YOUNG to have sex. Me and my other friend are REALLY scared that she will go all the way with a guy that she dosen't love! Plus she says that protection for sex is "over-rated and the pull out method is better". And she says that she will have sex when she wants and has stated that she probly will on her next date with her bf that is like a SENOIR!!! Shes only a freshman!Help me! i don't want her to get pregnant! Shes too young!
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No offense but your friend is a whore. I know you care about your friend and everything but if that's what kind of person she wants to be you can't change that. She will soon relise that all the guys will have talk bad about her and everyone will think she's a slut. I think she is just doing it for the attention, which is pretty sad. If she is irresponsible like that and ends up getting pregnant maybe that will make her realize that you were right. I know a lot of people that lost there virginity at age 13 or 14, at my high school virgins are not real common. If she keeps up this act its going to give her nothing but a bad reputation. There is nothing you can do, she is going to do what she wants. You could tell her parents that she is planning to go around and have unprotected sex so they will put her on birth control but then you risk loosing your friendship by a great deal.
Good luck!
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You and your other friend need to sit your best friend down and talk to her. You need to tell ther the facts, and what could happen to her if she had sex. She could get a disease, she could get pregnant, and other things. I think if you sit her down, tell her how you feel and how her life could dramatically change just because of one stupid decision.
I know there is a whole debate on which age it is right to have sex...but she NEEDS to understand your side of the argument and you have to make sure it gets through her head!
If she chooses not to listen--make her! Don't talk to her over the phone because she can just hang up. Talk to her in person. If she still chooses to do what she's doing, don't just dump her. She will need support if something happens to her but she at least needs to know how strongly you feel. Hopefully it will sink in.
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**also she could always be bluffing about having sex on the next date but you still should talk to her
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hey
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pull out method = not good. PRECUM?
ANYWAY, sweetheart, i see where you are coming from. have you tried talking to her like ALONE without anyone around? just telling her, "look, i know we are best friends & we always will be, but i'm really worried about you. so many guys like you because of your gorgeous features & i'm afraid you will become pregnant when you have sex." just flat out TELL her. don't give her any HINTS or anything [not that she would understand them anyway if she says the pull out method is better than wearing a condom and / or using birth control]. just flat out tell her. i know it will be hard to muster up the courage, but don't involve your other friend quite yet. try by yourself & if she doesn't budge, let your other friend try talking to her.
DONT say things like, "YOU ARE HAVING SEX! YOU ARE GOING TO BECOME PREGNANT!" use "I' terms like, "I think we need to talk. it seems to ME that your gorgeous features are attracting many boys, and that's fine, except I'M worried you guys may go too far." try to avoid saying "you" as much as possible - replace "we" or "i". that way, it avoids many opportunities of saying the wrong thing & miscommunicating.
if she gets mad at you / doesn't want to listen, i'm afraid there really isn't much else you can do, unfortunately. if she isn't open to people wanting to help HER future, then she will end up with whatever choices she decides to make.
just know, in the end, you gave it your best shot. if she doesn't listen to you & your other friend, & one day comes up to you crying saying, "I'M PREGNANT" just let her know that you TRIED to help her. but maybe she'll learn that the pull out method against condoms & birth control is like paper against a gun shot... you can try it, but odds are you won't end up happy :]
i hope i helped, babe, & don't worry too much about her if she doesn't listen to you. she does what she wants with your life & you do what you want with yours as well.
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