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Keeping it up
Ok, I'm sure that people have heard this one before, but this is serious and we need help:
When my girlfriend and I have sex, I can't keep my erection long enough to orgasm. This results in hurt feelings and disappointment. I don't know what's wrong with me... I know I can orgasm, but I just can't keep the erection long enough to be able to. My girlfriend is very upset by this as well... It's frustrating to me and I feel like I'm failing her, or as if I'm broken or something. If it helps to know and it's not TMI, I've masturbated frequently for years.
If there's anyone out there who has some information on what can be done we would very much appreciate that. Oh... And anyone who says something like "You're probably gay" or "You don't really love your girlfriend" is getting a 1 for a rating because that's complete crap.
Thanks for your time!
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I agree you should use viagra. It would help out a lot.
<3Taylee
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if i were you i would use viagra that way there are no dissapointments at all I know that doesnt help your situation on it with out using the med. but hey ignore the problem and get a shortcut!!
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Ok, so I'm not a guy, but I'll give you my input.
You need to have confidence in yourself that you can keep an erection during sex before you even begin. Negative thoughts in the back of your mind, such as feelings of disappointment, failure, and inadequacy will likely keep the problem ongoing.
Masturbation, no matter how frequent or infrequent has nothing to do with it, so no worries on that.
It isn't a matter of being gay or not loving your girlfriend, as you obviously well know.
My chips lie on it being psychological, since you come off to me as lacking self confidence in the sex department because of this.
The fact that your girlfriend is upset about this doesn't help at all. Reassure her that it has nothing to do with her. Talk to her about your feelings of inadequacy, and maybe you can get past all that and go on with a happy, fulfilling sex life.
If nothing else, you may consider setting an appointment and discussing it with your doctor. Not saying it is a medical problem, but your doctor would be able to advise you on your problem.
I hope I made some sort of sense and was of some sort of help to you. Both of you need to keep your chins up.
ygs-29/f
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It could be medical. Let's explore that. Blood circulation is very important to getting and keeping an erection, because the penis fills with blood to get hard. Medications can interfer with that. But you are so young, I would assume that you are NOT on any medication. If you are this needs to be reviewed by a physician.
How is your blood pressure and how is your circulation. To you have cold hands and feet often. If so this is a sign of poor circulation.
Do you have any other symptoms, which to you may not be related, but could be....like headaches, dizzyness, blurred vision. All signs of poor circulation. Do you have a heart condition? If not, maybe this needs to be looked at, since it is the heart that pumps the blood. A complete physical and a one on one dicsussion with a physician is what I would recommend here. I hope that you follow through on this, because IT IS unusual for a young man to be having these symptoms.
Good luck to you
Michele
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