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Heyy You c: the name is Jessie. I'm a cheerleader and a singer =] i laugh at anything pretty much, and it usually makes other people laugh. i am very optomistic unless its my own situations. photography is my love and i would be completely lost without my camera. making people happy is what i strive for. I care too much about what other people think, but i'm learning. ive been giving advice for a crazy amount of years and continue to do so. i've never been rated less than a 4. so.. i guess i'm pretty good. i tend to blabber on about absolutly nothing, and i'm pretty sure i've done that alreday so i'll stop

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WHAT SONG IS THIS? MALE RNB!!!! please help?
I AM DIEING TO KNOW THIS SONG OR JUST HAVE A LINK TO LISTEN TO IT.. I HEARD IT ONLY ONCE!


ITS RNB AND A GUY SINGING.. HERE IS WHAT I REMEMBER

Girl I aint never seen a body like that
The way you bump and grind
And bring that booty right back

Its whatever you like.. take a ride in my car spend a g at the bar

I know that your man don’t ever treat you right
He always makes you cry and don’t do anything you like

Honestly im not sure when it came out.. it sounds more like the present though.. i swear its soooo good.. !! it is slow but in the middle another guy starts singing.. it sort of sounds like ying yang twins if thats any help! =(

all i remember for that part is:

girl whats wrong can you tell me yo problems.. let me solve them or something like that

ANYONE KNOW??? its sort of a sexy song i remember =(((

treat you right by wezley coshare or
r kelly

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ok got this gril i like and were really close friends and its a real turn off to me that she smokes cause it is decusting and waste of money and harmful.... even if nothing happens with us what can i say to get her to quit...i have asked her before and she has for a while then started back up what should i do and what can isay to let her no its not worth it!!

tell her that its a turn off.
tell her that alot of guys think its gross and that she'd be so much more respected if she didnt smoke.
then tell her that YOUD like her more and have much more respect and liking in her if shed just stop because its not doing anything good for her.
sure it may take away stress, but its adding to likeliness of death.

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Hello, I'm 15/female.

THIS IS NOT LIKE THE OTHER RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, HELP IS GREATLY APPRECIATED! ALITTLE LENGTHY.


Okay, so I've known John for almost a year now, we met in school were we have 1 class, and lunch together. We talked in school, as friends. Well the last 2 months of school her met my best friend Jess at a party, they both got drunk & you know what. Well they began to like eachother, which was great. I talked to him about her in school, not badly or anything, but he'd ask questions about a girl he liked, which is normal, right ? Okay well my Jess would fight with me & tell me he and everyone else said I was flirting with him, which I wasn't. So I talked to him about it, he never said I flirted with him. Jess also told him the exact thing, just vise-versa. Well John seemed to think she's jealous of me.

Another time we were at a party, Jess got out of control, John couldn't handle her alone & asked me to help. I did, she punched me in the face. He got mad because she was so out of control & they got into a fight. Well later on that night, he was texting me & seeing if I was okay and if I needed a ride or anything, and got into the subject that she has a lot to be jelous of me for, may I mind you they are going out now. Jess & me fought because her boyfriend talked to me, even though I did know him first..

Now they haven't been going out for a week, and a few days ago he commented me on Facebook and said, 'so you stop talking to me now" and commented my picture saying I was cute. Well I commented him back. & he started texting me again, saying things like he wanted me, would ride me all night LOL, he just kept saying he wanted me, things like that. So later on that night, he called me & was like Jess is retarded, & he three-wayed her with me, her not knowing. And he was a total ass to her, calling her slut and saying that he was talking to me and to give me all his things because he'd be seeing me, knowing she'd get mad. Well Jess and me fought again, because I commented him back and because I was talking to him. After that me & John stayed on the phone talking for almost 2 hours. He says in the middle of the conversation " Honestly can you talk to any guy like this " I said no, because I can't. Well I think he's into me, or atleast wants to 'get busy.' & in his facebook, it says like Thanks to people, I'm 2nd, right after his best friend, I'm in caps, and periods all around so I'd be noticed, he said.


He claims to not like her at all, and be 100X happier without her. Also he thinks she's a slut & liar. Also he always has weird Facebook names about her, like "She has STD's" stuff like that. Does he just like Love to Hate her, you know?

He trusts me a lot, and always came to me for help with her or when he thought she was lying btw.

Now me & him haven't talked for a few days, and he called Jess one night when he was drunk & asked her out.

To my questions,
1) Am I wrong to be talking to him when, I knew him first, even thought he's my best friends ex & she forbids us to talk.

2) Does he still like Jess ?

3) Does he like me or just want to have sex with me ?

4) Should I text him, or wait for him to text me, which he might not do ?

5)Should I give effort to him, or his he 'over it' since he hasn't bothered to text in almost a week.

6) Does he just use me to get to her(to get her angry), as she says ?

7) Any other imput is great!


Thank you so much, sorry for the length & scattered-ness. I will clarify if asked.

this is INSANE hahaha.
okay well here

1. your not wrong for talking to him as a friend but youy are wrong in talking to him if your saying things like you wish you were with him or wanna get with him too or something because that can come right back around and bite you in the butt. if you talk to him like thatm explain to him that you cant unless they broke up because its wrong, just talk to him liek a friend theres nothing wrong with that.

2. guys are SO confusing about this stuff. hes either
a)just saying he hates her that much and stuff because he wants you to think hes over her (to either get with you or so he has 2 girls..)
b)really over her
c)is doing it to see if you talk bad about jess and then telling her or something
d)isnt over her but he likes you alot more

3. this question is so hard to tell. a good way to tell is to tell him that in order to have sex with someone youd have to be with them for a year (even if thats a lie..) if he says thats gay, then hes a jerk. if he understands, then hes worth your time. also, ask him! ask him if he likes you or if he just wants to "get with you."

4. wait 2 days for him to text you, if he doesnt, text him (: (he may be thinking "why isnt she texting me?? also)

5. dont give it effort to go get with him or go out wwith him but give it effort as a friend.

6. jess might say he uses you to get her angry because shes jealous but i doubt thats true because whats the point of WANTING to fight with your girlfriend??

7. girl just talk to them and dont say ANYTHING youll regret.. but tell the truth.

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Hey! i would like to put my hair up in a pony tail...but my ears stick out and i don't like that! I only wear my hair up when i'm home. But my friends get upset b/c i never wear my hair in a different style to skool, everyday, it's down! Well sometimes i would love to put my hair up but i don't like my ears!!! What should i do?!?! i tried sleeping on my side and put pressure on my ear to make it go flat....idk! I just don't like my ears. Could anybody help me feel better or any ways i can put my hair up?!?! Thanks in advanced!!!

1. you can do a pony tail that covers the tops of your ears by making a part in your hair and instead of pulling your hair perfectly back into a pony tail, pull it down and then back so that the yips of your ears are covered

2.try these hairstyles..
A) http://www.celebrities-hairstyles.com/wp-content/themes/almost-spring/celebrityhairstyles/angelina-jolie-hairstyle3.jpg

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for school next year I want to be the thinest I can be..I weight like 165 now and Im 5'3
I want to lose like 30 pounds this summer alone are there anytips out there I can use
i really want to like
eat a little bit I know it isnt healthy but all my friends that say oh I just stopped eatting alot lost alot of weight so do you think that can help and whats a good way to make my waste smaller
thanks...and I would also like you help on how to get a flatter stomach...thanks

being one to eat only a little is very stupid to do.
sure, you do lose weight the first few weeks, but then..
1. you keep doing it and it can either turn into anorexia, give you a disease, or kill you

2. once you lose enough weight and you start eating alittle more again, all the weight PLUS MORE will come back.

just exercise is your best bet and eat less carbs. if you feel hungry for a snack, grab an apple or drink alot of water til your full. at dinner, eat your meat and veggies first so that once you get to the fatty stuff like the pasta and carbs, you wont eat alot because youll be nearly full.

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ok i already tolded u i like a guy well he broek up with his girlfriend and i told u he wanted to go out with me know he has another girlfriend. my heart is broken sometimes i want to cry. i listen to no air everyday. he told me yesterday something freaky he locks him self in his room on a full moon.. its that freaky. but is he a player bc he said he likes me but know he has another girlfriend what do i do... im sick of this. im too ugly to get a boyfriend

girl i think you need to get some confidence.
if he's a player, why would you wanna go out with him anyway?
if you guys ever went out he might just end up telling some other girl that he likes her too just like what he's doing to you.
you can find someone else that likes you for you.
he seems to be a tease or a player and thats not cool.
also, tru to work on that confidence thing.
for starters.. when you walk, walk with your head up and smile when someone looks at you. walking with your head up makes you look much more confident and smiling makes you look outgoing and happy with yourself and inm general.

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i'm female
okay, i've been 'best friends' with this girl for 3 years now and we're really close! but i sometimes feel we only talk, and i mean really talk when theres something wrong in one of our lives. and i was just wondering if thats normal, i mean like, do quite a lot of 'best friends' act like just friends until theres a time when they really need each other?

make sure that she thinks of you as a best friend too because that might be the situation. does she tell other people that YOUR her best friend or does she just say that she has alot? this could be part of the problem. also it might just be in your head. she might see you as a best friend and you see her as one too but you know how to show more affection towards the situation whereas she only knows how to act like a friend because shes not used to being so close with someone.

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When you have an umm..weird facial feature,like bigger and noticeable, does it look less noticebable when you're fat or when you are skinny. because im just a LITTLE bit over weight and its like ew. but back when i was skinnier it was smaller. but maybe that was because i was younger? so lose weight or no?

their more noticable when your thinner because it slims the cheeks of your face down so that your big features stand out more. if you want to lose weight you should do it anyway because its healthy for you. if your afraid to do it because you think your feature will stick out more, just learn makeup tricks or things to do so that your big feature looks smaller in size. that way you get the best of both worlds.

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13/F

A long time ago (a couple years) i was told that a family member i'm close to was sort-of abandoned at birth by her mum. Here's the story -

Her mum was overwhelmed by her birth, and this huge change to her life that she had 'sencond thoughts'. she took this family member to my granny, who took her in - and would have raised her if need be - but my granny (after a night or so) managed to convince the mother to take her back.

If this family member (that i'm v.close to) found out about this (i only just found out she doesn't know) whoknows what could happen to her. She hasn't had the best life - her parents divorced, she gets bullied badly etc... - and this could make it worse (if she finds out).

My Mum told me about 3 or 4 hours ago (we got onto the subject when i was talking to her about my family for a family tree project at school) that i'm not even to breathe a word to any one other than her.

About 1 or 2 hours ago i realized that i have told someone. I think i told 1/2 people, but i'm not sure. I'm not even sure who. I told them trusting them not to say a word to anyone and even though i know they've probably forgotten (i told them a while ago) or if not they would have said by now if they were going to say, but i still can't help feeling sort of scared she'll find out and guilty for telling.

I dont want you to tell me it's alright etc... but have you got any advice for me? Also should i tell my mum that i think i told someone? Thanks loads!!!!!!

you should definately tell your mum.
if your mum finds out before you tell her, she could get really upset with you and not trust you any longer.
tell her that your so sorry but you knew you had to tell her.
it will help hewr realize your just trying to be trustworthy with her.

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what are love handles?

thanks xox

love handles are your hips.
its when a girl isnt really skinny (not saying she's fat either!)
and its the curves to her hips.
some people love them and some people dont.
it really depends.
for the most part, guys love love handles because it shows the girl isnt way way skinny.
but TOO MUCH love handles could be bad to the point where their no longer love handles but fat handles.

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo.

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There is this girl, sammy, last summer she got with this guy i really really liked. i didnt know her at first, but after she realized that me and her boyfriend had a really long and meaningful history she got extremely jealous. She would often wait until i was walking by and kiss her boyfriend, the one i liked, or tell him how much she loved him and how glad she was that they were together, just so i could hear. and i knew this because she would give me a very smug smile after she saw the look of hurt on my face.

..well sammy and her boyfriend broke up and i had finally moved on from him. two weeks ago i was out on a date and she happened to see us. then just two days ago i found out that the guy i had been on the date with is now her boyfriend. I am not really mad at the boy, i mean yea it sucks that he blew me off for her... but hey thats life. but i can't help but thinking that this is a really bad coincidence?

any opinions... is this just a crazy coincidence? or is this girl out to get me and hurt me whatever way possible. i just dont want this guy to get hurt if she is just dating him to get back at me!

soe girls can be total witches in cases like these.
think about it, the only reason she'd be doing this to you is because she's jealous of you.
clearly!
hey, she might like the guy you were on a date with and it may have been a coincidence.
but for now, have a little bit of an open eye and dont let her get to you.
if she flirts with a guy that you like, ignore her.
if you look hurt, thats exactly what she wants.. you to be hurt.
so dont let her see you hurt.
make her think nothing she does bothers you and eventually, she'll give up.

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I have feelings for my best friend for 7 years and still counting. I told her that I am bi sexual and she is fine with it. I talk to her about my struggle for coming out and she listens and gives me advice but I really struggle of trying to get over her! She is bi curious never had a long term boyfriend but confused of her sexuality and not interested to anyone at the moment. I told her I like her but she sees me as a sister. I am never touchy feeling or flirty to her I keep my distance. But she is to me! She leans on me sometimes and flirty to me too. I asked her if she likes me more than a friend she said not as of now sorry I see you as a sister. I want to get over her but every time I try I have a feeling that she does like me more than a friend but denies it. But I don’t think that’s true. I just can’t take no for an answer. I don’t have any gay friends to take me to gay bars or help me hook up with a girl.
I feel like she the only girl in the world I am in love with but I really want to get over her and see her as a sister.

if you were me what would you do?

thats a very hard position to be in.
first of all,
sometimes when girls are really close friends, it'll seem as though their acting flirty towards eachother when they might even both be straight.
some things are like that in todays world.
for now, try to think and believe deeply that she only sees you as a sister no matter how she acts towards you. this should help you understand your guys relationship on friendly terms.

second of all, you dont need a GAY friend to bring you to a gay bar.
there are tons of bi curious or any type of straight people who are allowed into bars like that just to hangout with friends.
if none of your friends feel comfortable doing that, join a gay club or an online website to help you come out about being gay or to neet other gay people.
this way it will help you to open up, and help others too.

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo.

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hi, i'm have a small sleepover at a hotel with some friends, there is one girl whom i've known since the 5th grade (i went to the new school and the teacher put me next to her) we haven't even been CLOSE we just happen to hang out with the same people although NO ONE in my entire class likes her, i guess its just her attitude, and she is a tattle tell, she can also be immature (by the way we are eighth grade)my mom wants me to invite her because she "is a part of the group" like i said no one likes her, i know if i didn't invite her and she saw pictures we take she will feel bad, and i will feel bad
but at the same time i don't want to invite her and have her annoy everyone else (including me)
another thing, she has a medical problem (not terminal or anything serious) but i know her personality and i don't want her to go all crazy on me (knowing her she might confront me and get very man)
i hope its not too long, or complicated
but please help! should i invite her so i don't feel bad, but feel stupid for inviting her
or should i not invite her enjoy my party, but feel bad for not including her (or get guilt tripped by her)
thanks so much
-kelsy

aww i've been in the same situation!
okay so heres my point of view,
you think maybe you should invite her so that you dont feel guilty about it later and so that she doesnt take it out on you afterwards.
then again you think you shouldnt because she might be mean or something may go wrong because people don't like her.
theres two points i can peel out for you.
1. her getting "mad you didn't invite her" shouldnt be a reason to invite her. if she's someone who's going to be mean and selfish that you didnt invite her when you guys arent even that close of friends anyway, it makes the decision that much easier. would you really want someone like that at your party anyway?

2. do what YOU feel is right. if you think "hey maybe this is an opportunity for us all to become closer and we can talk and actually become good friends" then hey, go for it! but if your thinking "oh no she'll be so mean.." then maybe you should second think it.

do what YOU want to do. this is your decision, nobody elses.

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo.

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ok this boy i liked has a girlfriend but he likes me. he wants me to go to this powehouse with him on friday should i go... i really like him.. he calls me, he Ims me and texts me on my cell.... i think he likes me do you . he is 16 and im 18

it definately sounds like he likes you.
heres the thing,
you sound like a really great person and you probably are.
but be so so careful when the guy you like has a girlfriend expecially if he likes you back.
the only way you should go to this powehouse with him is if you know for SURE and i mean 100% sure that if he tries to kiss you or anything like that,
you will have enough will power and respect not only in yourself but for that other girl that you can say no.
if he treis anything, tell him you like him but you could never do that to another girl so it would just have to wait until they break up.
if you know that you won't be able to say no to him,
i wouldnt hangout with him if i were you.
you'd get a terrible reputation and not only that but guys would look at you in the wrong way.
if you like him, hangout and do some innocent flirting.
but for now, know that you guys are just friends who are secretly crushing on eachother,
and nothing more than that.
(for now [;)

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo.

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I used a cotton swab pad thing with nail polish remover to take my nail polish off. Once I was done, I threw it away in my trash can. Then a few hours later my dog went over when I wasn't looking and took the cotton thing out of my trash can and started chewing on it...
Is this bad? Like, the remover was 100% completely dry and had been sitting in the trash can for at least an hour. Is it harmful to him even though it was dry?

haha aww don't sweat it.
it can't harm your dog unless he had a ton of it.
theres a 98% chance that nothing wrong will happen with your dog.
if your dog starts to act weird, tell a parent as soon as possible though.
but i'm sure the dog will be fine.

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo.

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okayy, so i like this kid lets say joe. and we are going to this school formal dance as "just friends" as he put it. but i like him. and we just got back from this school 4-day trip and we hung out sometimes and when i was in the hotel rooming with my friends he called every night practically and we would talk and stuff but then my phone died and he said aww okay ill call you on your roomates phones but they were on it so i couldnt and i said id call back but when i did he was sleeping.
(the guys were 2 floors below the girls.) then at this dinner thing one night he was sitting at another table until we were doing this puzzle thing, he came and sat next to me and we did the puzzle for like an hour. and when we were on the phone that night he had one of his roomates talk to me for a minute and his friend asked questions like "do i know you, are you short,are you ugly?" i heard joe answering the ugly question saying NO! and another time he told my friend i was pretty. but he likes someone else. so can i do anything to make him like me? please help asapp (: id like a guys opinion too. ill give feedback tooo!

haha that is so cute =]
but okay,
you cant do anything to make anyone like you because think about it,
if you change something your doing or change something about you to make someone like you, then they don't really like you for you, they like you for who your trying to be.
It definately seems like he likes you though in my honest oppinion.
maybe give it time.
wait until you guys talk more and just be yourself infront of him.
think about this,
if you want to be with him.. or if you dont.
if he really cares about you and likes you, he'll keep talking to you and you guys will eventually date.
but if he doesnt like you and he's pretty much leading you on.. then it just makes the decision that much easier.
hope i helped.
xo xo, lalalover

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ok well here it goes..

last year i liked this guy, he liked my friend and i got them together. they didn't talk much and broke up. i still liked him. he like one of my other friends and i helped them get together. they broke up in the summer of last year.

he supposedly did like me last year at some point at least people said they thought he did because he supposedly was alway "flirting" with me.

i still like him and we havent talked like at all this year and we used to always be laughing and talking

i dont think he could or would ever like me but people said they thought he did and he is like not popular or anything. i hang out with some popular people but im not popular or like one of the extreme pretty girls.

i just want to know what i should do.

should i ask him to hang out this summer or should i just wait to see what next year brings... help!

if i should say something in his year book what should i write?

-ilovepink 14 female 8th grader

haha first of all, thats really cute.
but anyway,
if you see him around or happen to be talking to him, you should casually bring up the summer such as saying "so what do you have planned for the summer, are you going on vacation anywhere?"
after he answers and says whetever hes going to say, somewhere in the conversation fit it a "haha yeah well i hope i see you this summer." or something like that.
it'll keep him thinking about you.
also, in his yearbook dont write a short meaningless thing of course, but also dont write a long mushy letter or he'll get creeped.
but in my oppinion you should write something liek "so many memories with you and i hope to have so many more. your a great guy. have an amazing summer and i hope to see you soon =]"
:} hope i helped.

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well i want dana but i don't want josh. but know theres a new problem his gf thinks that were playing around and shes a friend of mine and shes suppose to come to my house this weekend and i don't know what to do because dana and i aren't doing anything behind her back.

well the only thing i can truly think of is this weekend maybe talk to her and tell her theres nothing going on between you and dana. if he has a girlfriend, maybe you just shoudlnt flirt with him or people will think you guys are fooling around behind his girlfriends back.

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ok heres the second prob he broke up with me yesterday all b/c of this guy josh and there was this rumer going around school saying that i was making out with this guy josh but its not true and dana didn't even come to me andhe just beleived every one eles, and to top it all off amanda was dating josh and then broke up with him yesterday and thats when they started dating ,but the day that dana broke up with me the night both of them started dating and non i think that i want to go out with this guy josh i don't know what to do can u help me just a little bite. thanks.

well i can tell you right now, if he doesnt believe you.. he's not worth it.
he should believe you if he cares that much about you.
if he believes everyone else, maybe t was meant to be that way, and maybe you should find someone new (besides josh and dana)

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Alright, so this is the first Valentines day I'll have a boyfriend, and I have NO IDEA what to get my boyfriend...hes really sweet and I love him to death but he is the hardest person to shop for. He spent alot of money on my christmas present and I feel bad...so I wanted to get him something really memorable for Valentines day. Hes kinda a redneck and likes outdoorsy stuff. Well any help would be appreciated!!!
Thanks a bunch

haha awww.
okay well theres a few suggestios depending on his personality.
1. a build a bear dressed up in something he likes (whether its a sorts team, super hero, hobby, career, etc.) and have it holding chocolates.
2. a bunch of stuff from godiva (its expensive thoughh)
3. a futon! haha. you can get them between 60-200$ usually but their so much fun and comfy ands guys love them.

hope i helped,
lalaloverxo :)

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