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birthday plans
hi, i'm have a small sleepover at a hotel with some friends, there is one girl whom i've known since the 5th grade (i went to the new school and the teacher put me next to her) we haven't even been CLOSE we just happen to hang out with the same people although NO ONE in my entire class likes her, i guess its just her attitude, and she is a tattle tell, she can also be immature (by the way we are eighth grade)my mom wants me to invite her because she "is a part of the group" like i said no one likes her, i know if i didn't invite her and she saw pictures we take she will feel bad, and i will feel bad
but at the same time i don't want to invite her and have her annoy everyone else (including me)
another thing, she has a medical problem (not terminal or anything serious) but i know her personality and i don't want her to go all crazy on me (knowing her she might confront me and get very man)
i hope its not too long, or complicated
but please help! should i invite her so i don't feel bad, but feel stupid for inviting her
or should i not invite her enjoy my party, but feel bad for not including her (or get guilt tripped by her)
thanks so much
-kelsy
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Sounds like you aren't that close with her, everyone strongly dislikes her, and she will flip out on you no matter what you tell her. But her down softly, and explain to your mother your dilemma. Hope i helped!
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aww i've been in the same situation!
okay so heres my point of view,
you think maybe you should invite her so that you dont feel guilty about it later and so that she doesnt take it out on you afterwards.
then again you think you shouldnt because she might be mean or something may go wrong because people don't like her.
theres two points i can peel out for you.
1. her getting "mad you didn't invite her" shouldnt be a reason to invite her. if she's someone who's going to be mean and selfish that you didnt invite her when you guys arent even that close of friends anyway, it makes the decision that much easier. would you really want someone like that at your party anyway?
2. do what YOU feel is right. if you think "hey maybe this is an opportunity for us all to become closer and we can talk and actually become good friends" then hey, go for it! but if your thinking "oh no she'll be so mean.." then maybe you should second think it.
do what YOU want to do. this is your decision, nobody elses.
hope i helped,
lalaloverxo.
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Just explain it to your mom the way you explained it here. She sounds like a lonely girl who is getting attention however she can even if it's not positive attention. Kind of like little kids who are ignored by their parents so they get into trouble so their parents will yell at them because negative attention is better than no attention. However, that should not be an issue you have to deal with on your birthday. My daughter was in this position and I told her that she could only invite XX # of girls for the sleepover and the number was exactly the number of girls she wanted to invite so she could honestly tell the girls that she didn't want to invite that her mom said she could only invite so many and she was sorry but she'd already invited that many when I told her the limit and that didn't leave room for any extra.
If the girl gets mad just tell her the truth--you could only invite so many and that if she continues to act mad over something like that then you are sorry but that is the reason people don't like to hang out with her.
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