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would it feel uncomfortable?
would it feel weird if you & your boyfriend went out.. and did some things.. like lets just say "have sex" (because thats the closest thing i can come up with). and you break up ... would it feel weird if you lost it to him, and then ya'll broke up?
maybe i'm scared he might tell somebody what we did.. that's the thingg... >.<" cause sometimes he tells people about what happened and stuff..
help???
<333 mary
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I'm in this position now.
I had sex with a now ex boyfriend of mine and as of last week, I found out from a friend he's been going around telling people I was a "shit shag" because I guess in some way in his twisted mind, it satisfies him and acts as part of revenge, when really, it's stupidly pointless, because I could say many things about him 100 times worse.
He's still not over the fact I had to break up with him, because in reality, the relationship just wasn't working. and after trying everything he could to get me back, he's decided saying things about me is better.
I've had it out with him, asked him why he feels the need to do it.. and he came up with a lame excuse saying he was drunk.
There isn't much you can really do in a situation like this. I feel if you try to stoop to his level, it just makes the whole problem worse.
If you break up with a boyfriend you've had sex with, try and end on friendly terms. If that's impossible, and he actually does go and say stuff about you, honestly, the best thing you can do is laugh it off. Laugh at how immature he's being and basically ignore him.
Ignoring him will make him realize you just don't care (even though deep inside you might).
If you don't give him a reaction, he will soon stop.
Remember:
Even if you are in love or you trust each other 100%, there's still a chance he could turn at the drop of a hat when the relationship ends. After all, that's what happened to me. I trusted my ex after 8 months of dating.. yet he still acted like a jerk.
I'm not saying it WILL happen, because hopefully not all guys are like that. Well actually, they really aren't all like that.
It's just a risk people take.
To be frank,if he does tell people, who cares what they think? Don't let that part worry you. They'll soon forget. Just ignore them too.
Like anybody cares anyway. Don't sweat it. :)
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Well if he breaks up with you straight after you did someting, maybe he was just using you. But if something does happens and he tells anyone don't worry about it. You don't need to feel ashmaed or wierd. You were together when you did it, so like I said don't worry, but if you feel strongly about this maybe you should wait until you find someone you can trust until you do something.
well hope this helps. take care
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You are smart to be concerned about this.Your gut instincts are telling you that your boyfriend has a big mouth, and you should be careful. We women would make a lot less mistakes if we listed to our gut instincts. They are usually correct.
So you say that it would bother you if you and your boyfriend were intimate, and he told someone. So don't forget that. Because it could happen. the only way it won't happen is if you wait, wait and wait. Wait until you are sure the he is mature enough to not kiss and tell. Or wait until you are sure that he is not going to grow up very soon, and if you want a mature relationship, then you will have to move on.
Once you have figured that out, then your decision to be intimate with your boyfriend will be easier to decide. There is no reason why you should NOT consider his behavior, (I mean how he would act, after the fact) if you guys had sex. I
mean you must know girls who did have sex with their boyfriends, they boyfriend blabbed, and now they are sorry. So to avoid that, and yes I think you are smart to want to avoid it, then don't have sex until you can be sure. And don't ask him because he'll say that he would never tell, go by is actions. Even test him a little. Tell him something about yourself, something a little secret, and see if he tells anyone, then you'll know that he has a big mouth. Good reason to avoid him altogether.
There are lots of guys in the world. Find a nice one, you'll be much happier in the end.
Michele
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