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one boyfriend, one guy friend.
14/f
sorry this might be longg.. but this is a huge problem to me!
My friends tell me all the time that i "suck at picking guys" cause of the way they treat me.
Here are the facts you need: Guy no. 1 let's call him "D" and he's almost a year younger than i am. and he's been liking me for a while. and he still does. my friends like him, but they don't know him.. they js think hes sweet & my sister thinks he's adorable .. maybe because she's good friend's with his older brother.. O.o
Guy no. 2, let's call him "A", he's my boyfriend, and he's one year older than i am. he's smart in life & school and stuff.. but he's not so smart in love & relationships. my sister DiD approve of him.. but not anymore, because we broke up one time, for this reason. and she didn't like him anymore after that. my friends HATE him, one of my friend's said "i jus` don`t lyk` him , why ? cuh`z he treats yew` lyk SHITTT & he has the potential to cheat on yew` at any moment .." she says that because he's close with his ex, he talks to girls and he flirts without knowing it. and it bothers me.. (i can't say anything about it.. cause sometimes he'd just bring up a problem about ME, and avoids what is bothering me.. sometimes).
Here's the story: me & my boyfriend has been together for almost 3 months now. but i think there were too many fights, in 3 months. but after the fight, we had nothing to hide from each other so things were going GREAT. but we still have fights once & a while, but what couple doesn't? he knows some things that i don't like.. which was talking about my past. and he SHOULD know that i don't like it when people brings up my past.. (cause i went through alot, and I'm trying to live in the present). and he brought that subject up one day cause me & him were having problems. but i didn't cause 'em. and he probably heard things from his ex.. AKA (MY EX BESTFRiEND THAT HAS A GRUDGE AGAiNST ME). but you should probably know what happened after that. but after me & him worked things out.. that's when things changed.. like, my feelings for him... i think i started losing feelings for him and stuff like that (at least i think so) cause i just noticed the way he treats me once and a while. but you know, not all boyfriends are all that bad. he got to talk to some girls.. when i didn't talk to ANY guys at all, for 2 whole months.. besides talking to my girls. until i started talking to "D" and i didn't notice the things he does me for me until now. and this is when i started getting confused.. you can tell that "D" still likes me.. cause he told me he loved me & stuff like that, and that I'm special to him. and me & him hung out.. and he held my hand ALOT, but wouldn't let go.. when i let go.. he was still holding on to my hand. >.<" so I'm not sure how am i gonna sort out my feelings and stuff..
so here's the thing.. my feelings for "A" turn on & off .. and when I'm with him.. i ONLY like him. and when I'm not.. i get confused between "A" & "D" and when I'm with "D" i start to feel guilty because of what I'm doing.. feels like I'm hiding "D" from "A". but then i also think about "A" when I'm with "D", when one of them texts me... i wanna talk to "D" more than i do to talk to "A". cause probably me & "A" (my boyfriend) could get into an argument out of nowhere.(wasn't the first time that happened). and YESSS.. "D" knows i'm going out with "A". but you have to admit.. he's liked me for months & he has the guts to show me that he still likes me.. in PUBLiC.
THEIR PERSONALiTYS
"A" - he's funny, has a sense of humor, he's caring, he's more opened to me, & etc. BAD PART; he's pretty immature for his age, but he can be mature at times, he gets me mad & upset and ends up making me cry, he talks to girls & seems to be flirting without even knowing it, he defended his ex, he's moving kinda far from where we live, but i get to see him on the weekends, & etc.
"D" - he's caring, sweet, has a sense of humor, & etc. BAD PART; he's not very opened.. he likes to keep things to himself, i can't really see him as a boyfriend yet.. but it's possible (who knows? boys might surprise you), he goes to work almost everyday.. so i don't get to see him that often, if me & him go out.. my EX friends would probably tell him things about me.. which was a LONG time ago.. cause they don't know I've CHANGED ALOT, & etc.
i probably want a chance with "D" before my chance runs out of time. but then yet.. i want to stay with "A" cause yannoe.. feelings go on & off. but "A" wants to have sex.. when it's TOO early. and i don't want to do it soo early, so i wouldn't know if he was in the relationship just for sex. but "A" wants to get married & stuff, he wants a future with me.
help me?!
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that was a long story. but my answer will be short.
you said yourself you're not ready to have sex yet(good decision) so you are also not ready for a life long commitment either. You need to date more guys to see which flavor really suits you best. The fact your feelings for A are on and off means he is probably not the right flavor. Try D for a while and see how it works, if not D or A remember that there are 24 more letters to the alphabet. Happy Spelling!!
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