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first time sex
m/13 so me and my girlfriend are planning to have sex. we dont know whether she should put her tampon in during it so she doesnt get pregnant, or i should use i condom. also, how do u put on a condom? when i put my penis in how fast do i go in and out?
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You are too young to be having sex.
For more information about contraceptives visit [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). There is a decent amount of useful information there and its a good beginning resource.
If you decide to engage in sex contrary to the advice to abstain until you are older and know more, you should definitely use a condom. Coolnurse will give you more information about that as well.
I will finish with this.
I realize that at 13 you want to be grown up. You see all these things that adults do and you want to be a part of that world, and sex is just another window into that.
The problem with this is, that at 13 you are not capable of handling the consequences of these decisions alone.
If you got a girl pregnant at this age, you would not know what to do. If you had to be a father now, you are not mature enough to do it. You do not have enough time on this earth to be able to do it well and be the father that a baby would need.
Its hard, when you realize you are getting closer to be an adult, to wait to do things that adults do. But one of the key aspects to truly BEING an adult is realizing that there are times in life you have to say no, even to things like sex.
Its hard for someone who is 13 to imagine it, but choosing to have sex, and getting a girl pregnant, will change your entire life. It will change the entire course of where your life is going. And it will add complications that you do not need to be dealing with. It will change things for the girl as well. Worst of all, it stands the possibility of bringing a child into this world who will not recieve the life they deserve because the child is born to teenagers who cannot take care of it themselves.
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Having sex with a tampon in will shove the tampon in so far it will have to be removed by a doctor.
That will have to be explained to the girls parents,
who will in turn call yours. Not removing it will result in toxic shock syndrome, which could be life threatening.
You are to young as others have said. Unless you have a good paying job and are prepared to raise a child. Of course most young people ignore that until
it actually happens. Then they beg for help. :)
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Is this some kind of joke?
This is proof you should not be having sex at 13. You are a child who barely hit puberty.
1.) Tampons are not a form of birth control, thank you.
2.) Of course you would use a condom IF you were ready to have sex.
Come on now...
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im just gonna say what everyvbody else has said. DONT DO IT. your way to young. Its impossible to have sex with a tampon in for 1, and for 2, you could get ur GF pregnant at 13. If she hasnt had her period yet, it could cause premature bleeding and stuff like that. so dont do it.
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so yeah you heard it a million times already and normally i would say if you're ready then go for it, but thats for people 15 and up. 13years old is rediculously young. i think i was still playing with barbies when i was that age. if the girl had a tampon in and you were going to have sex with her you could really really hurt her and tear something inside of her. this is really not a good idea. i knew a girl who was 12 or 13 and she had sex with a condom and got pregnant. now picture your life right now with a baby. you yourself have only been in the double digit ages for 4 years. i don't care what people say. 13yr olds are not ready for sex.
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well im not going to tell you to NOT have sex cus yeah its up to you, but you definitly need to take a Health Class or two before doing anything if you think a tampon is the way to go...sorry bud.
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GotMusic727
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A tampon isn't a form of birth control! You are definitely too young for sex if you don't know that. That was quite disturbing. You aren't ready for sex yet, especially if you don't know how to put a condom on or if you don't know if you should even use one. I can't make you not have sex obviously but if you are going to anyway, I suggest you brush up on your sex education because you are clueless.
Instructions for putting on a condom should be on the box or the wrapper for it. It depends on you and your partner on how fast you go. But trust me you definitely are NOT ready if you don't know the basics.
Go here:
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And read a few of those articles. =)
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Okay this was kind of disturbing to read because,hello,your 13.I'm the same age and I'm telling you that your kind of stupid.Don't do it.I'm sorry..I don't mean to come off rude or anything..but your about to lose your virginity and you'll regret it..trust me.
Don't do it please?
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Apparently, your not ready for sex. If you were you would know that a tampon is NOT a birth control method...AND you should always use a condom. Your 13 buddy..wait on the sex.
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You obviouslyy should not have sex.
1) You're 13.
2) You can't understand that it's not even POSSIBLE to have sex with a tampon in.
If you did have sex, you should deffinately use a condom.
And if you don't know how fast to go, then you seriously should not do it.
Your not reaaadyyyy...
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yeah okay, all things aside, do you two have any clue what the female anatomy is like? okay, here it goes. if she puts a tampon in, and then you two have sex, guess where the tampon goes? somewhere where it's not supposed to go, that's for sure. she would have to get it surgically removed from like her uterus or something. okay? so don't do that. besides that, your parents would find out and that would not be good.
also, regardless of age, or whatever, you should always use a condom (even better with birth control pills, but whatever). and simply because you just asked us how to put a condom on, i discourage you from having sexual relations until you can figure out what you're doing. also, no matter what form of protection you use, there is always going to be some chance of pregnancy. it happens. so be able to live with that. does it not scare you that in nine months you could have a little replica of yourself? this is basically what we're dealing with here.
by the way, this is your choice and not mine, but i tell it like it is. there is going to be a chance of pregnancy, especially since you are not sure about how to use a condom. if she has in a tampon, there is going to be a chance that she will have to be carted to the emergency room. does it still sound like fun? probably not. so take my advice and wait a little bit.
by the way, to answer your question, the condom packaging would probably have directions on it.
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This isn't what you want to hear, but I'm telling you anyway.
Darling, you aren't ready for sex. You are 13 years old. You have your whole life ahead of you. Second, you obviously have no idea what you are doing. I'm not going to answer your questions becuase you aren't ready. Yes, you have hormones running around wild. But think about it. Do you even know the first thing about birth control? Judging by your question, you really don't. Wearing a tampon while having sex? That is a very bad idea. Your girlfriend can get pregnant at 13. Do you realize how horrible that would be for her? Chances are, you aren't mentally ready either.
Please, I urge you wait. It will be so much more special and a lot smarter too.
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If you don't know any of the answers, then you are not ready to have sex.
AND YOU'RE 13! LIVE A LITTLE!
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From reading your question, you obviously don't know what you're letting yourself in for and definitely SHOULDN'T be having sex. Not to mention you are too young.
In no way, shape, or form should you have sex with a tampon in.
If you don't want an unwanted pregnancy, a condom is the right way to go. (as well as other birth control methods)
If you purchase a box, it will have instructions on how to put it on.
If not, Google has all the answers.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Here is a site you could look at.
I strongly recommend you practise putting on a condom, just so you know how to do it for the future.
And lastly, you control how fast you go in and out. Basically do what feels good for you both.
Noone here can stop you from going ahead and having sex with your girlfriend, but in all seriousness, take a step back and think for a little. Are you REALLY prepared for the consequences?
This is a big step in a relationship. You may assume you're ready, but mentally, you may not be.
Just think about it, okay?
and best wishes. :)
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