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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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so my boyfriend of 2 and a half years cheated on me.first with my cousin and then with his best friend who happens to be a girl.he blamed me for him cheating.i told him it was over and i broke up with him but he stood there and cried and said he was sorry.what do i do?..2 and half years is a really long time.im LOST.
You keep telling him it's over and stay strong
Nobody forced him to cheat, Sometimes actions come with consequences. This guy was aware he was cheating and he went and did it anyway.
Not only is cheating on someone a slap in the face, It's even worse when the person they cheated on is a relative or a best friend. This guy is crying because he is guilty and he knows it, His tears are tears of gaining sympathy. When someone cheats, They are very likely to cheat again.
Taking him back would only tell him "Hey! It's okay to cheat on me" Do you honestly want to be with someone who betrayed you? How would you ever trust someone who plays with your feelings ever again? This guy not only cheated once but TWICE
You are better than that and I have a feeling you know that too, You don't need us to tell you. I would however cut all contact with him, He doesn't deserve you in a relationship and he doesn't deserve your friendship either. Fuck him
well i broke up with this guy for another guy that i had liked for 2 yrs and now i feel like i messed it up the one guys name is caleb and i really really like him but i think he hates me now i was textn him the other day and tld him how i felt about the sittuation n he was like well ive been through it and itll get better trust me and i dont think it will i think i just lost the guy im inlove with can someone please help me asap ..
~alysaaaa
I'm going to spill the beans
Would you take someone back if they dumped you for someone else? I don't blame this guy for not wanting you back, You betrayed him. If you really liked him then why did you go and leave him for someone else? You cannot force someone to be in a relationship with you. Obviously this guy has no interest in being in contact with you. Do you blame him? You learned from your mistake but now your best bet is to leave the kid alone and meet someone else and don't make the same mistake again.
I'm 15 and my bf who I've been dating for a while..I just found out that hes cheating on me with some pretty blonde girl who knows I am dating him. How should I tell him or get back at him? and what should I say when I break up with him?
There is an old saying
"Silence is ones worst revenge"
This is true, If you say nothing and keep your head held high you leave him wondering and guessing. If you give him no information, Then he knows nothing.
It is immature and childish to seek revenge on someone by looking to get them back. If you want to piss him off then be the bigger person and ignore it. I am 99% sure that this guy will cheat on the blonde girl too because once a cheater normally always a cheater. Be strong and meet someone else who will treat you right but don't go out to seek revenge on someone who isn't worth your time.
Hi, im Gracie and I'm 13 and my dad's finally letting me get another pet and I really, really, really want a kitten. My dads not a big fan of cats; he said that they scratch up everything and climb all over the place. I don't really care about the climbing, but how do you stop them from scratching up everything? Would it help to just keep their nails trimmed? How do I convince my dad to let me get a kitten? We have a leather couch, can a kitten scratch through leather? And I have a 2 yr old golden retriever, Sly, he's super sweet, will they get along?
Yes, Cats scratch at everything
Your best bet is to get a scratch pad or a scratch post for her nails. They would sell these at any pet store. When your kitten scratches tell her "no" and remove her from where she is.
My cat is 15 months, She scratches anything and everything you name it.
As far as a dog, If you do get a kitten you should keep it in a closed room until she is a little older and when the kitten is old enough you can introduce her to the dog. Keep and eye on the both of them at all times, If the dog becomes aggressive then put the kitten back in the room and try again another day. Gradually work your way too it.
My Mother is an animal fanatic
She has 3 cats and 2 dogs.....They all get along just fine but it takes time.
My boyfriend and i have been together since 2mths..
i love him alot..he is gud 2 me and says he is serious wid me 2..
whenever we meet he is nice to me but once daily life routine starts he stops texting me..
i really gt annoyed wid his behaviour..
and everytime he has a excuse ever ready with him..
what you think should i cope up with him cuz i love him or move on without him?
If someone isn't willing to put their time into a relationship then what is the point in being in one? Relationships are about commitment and in order for one to work out both parties have to be serious about making it work not one.
If your boyfriend is only nice to you when he see's you, Perhaps he is only with you to use you for sex? Boyfriend/Girlfriends don't ignore each other, This is not a relationship. Best bet is to move on and meet someone else.
We had a stupid fight because i sprayed his cologne. We argued and carried attitude for about 30 minutes until he called me a worthless ***** then i asked him why would he get mad just because I sprayed his cologne. He told me to say it again and as i said it he punched me right in the mouth and busted my bottom lip. He said he was angry and didn't mean it. We have been together for since freshman year in high school and this has never happened before. what do you think?
Dump him
There should be no tolerance to any sort of level of abuse. Your boyfriend's sorry isn't going to cut the fact that he was way out of line.
He verbally abused you and he physically abused you. No women should have to put up with that, When you forgive someone who abuses you your telling them it's okay. Was it okay for him to hit you? No absolutely not. You could be with someone for years with no problems and all the sudden one day they lash out, It happens. You are better than this, Pack your bags and find someone who will treat you right
21 female. Nick 18
So I have known Nick forever. We just haven't always been close the whole time. Well recently we started hanging out more. But just this last week I was up at my cousins cabin and Nick's family cabin is right down the street (my aunt and uncle are good friends with nicks dad and step mom) and me and Nick were together all the time. He even slept with me every night.
I am starting to fall for him. I know he likes me cause he tells me. He's the sweetest guy and hes not like any other guy. He respects me and treats me like a princess. He doesn't try to hook up with me, he only cuddled with me all night when we slept together. He holds my hand and hugs me tight and reminds me of how beautiful he thinks I am every day.
The only thing that is holding me back from dating him is that he's 3 years younger than me. I just feel so weird and sort of like an idiot for going for a guy 3 yrs younger than me. I'm scared of what people will say or think -even my family. What do you guys think? Should this hold me back from dating him? Does it seem wrong?
Any advice is welcomed!:)
This guy is 18 years old, It is perfectly 100% okay for you to date him. If it were someone under the age of 18, I'd say wait.
You are both legally adults, It is okay.
I know it seems stupid as I'm about to give an example of the type of info here, but this place is different.
Anyway, she just knows my age and gender, what country I live in, that I have a weak stomach, and that I like art and music. There's lots of people like that, right?
I know I'm likely worried over absolutely nothing, I'm just a pretty paranoid person about online friends. It has been pounded into my head that it's "better safe than sorry."
Feel free to flame and call me an idiot, don't even feel bad about it. I just feel kind of nervous..
An idiot? No
If you didn't give this person your exact or approximate location then you are safe. Did you give our your name? Assuming you didn't then nothing to worry about.
It is hard to pin point Waldo in a world of a billion people. Basically, This person doesn't have basic information.
If it makes you nervous, Then next time don't say anything. There are way to many creeps on the internet, Almost every 1-5 people.
Chill out and relax
Anyone can be a Male/Female who lives in India and likes art and music. (That was an example)
Me n him have been together for 5 months now, he told me about his kid who is 8years but now when I call him at night there is a baby cry or he doesn't take my calls at night. He keep his promises and he hardly tells me how much he loves me or even say I love you. Calling oh shame too bad for he hardly calls. I love him and really wanna be with but I think I'm wasting my time. What should I do? How do I talk to him about these? Plz help
I agree with the user below me, You may be wasting your time.
This guy has a son and when you call you hear a baby crying, Sort of makes you think he may have more than one child and a family you don't know about.
is babysitting at 13 too young??xxx
Depends on who you ask
Most mothers would prefer to have someone who is mature and responsible to babysit their children.
If you asked me, I would prefer someone with experience and a bit older than 13 to watch my child. As looking after young children is a very big responsibility and is not an easy job.
My mom is constantly writing people off in her life. I'm 36 years old and from as long as I can remember back my mom has been disowning family and friends. I always dreaded the day that it would be me. But, she wrote me off about a month ago, for nothing in my eyes. In addition to myself- in this episode (which is what I call these mood periods) she has alienated herself from me, my sister, her two sisters, her three nieces, and a nephew over a facebook comment one of her nieces wrote after she went on a verbal attack on facebook herself.
My mother is a very insecure person and always feels that family member or friend's actions are motivated by them wanting to upset her or make her look stupid or to directly hurt her.
She has always been jealous of her sisters, stepmother, and mother because of their relationships with her father. She has been jealous about my and my sister's realtionship with my father. In fact when I was 6 my mom accused my dad and I of having an affair and throw her china against the wall above our heads and told us to move in together. She has often kept us from talking to him on the phone or having private conversations with him in person.
My mother has a constant habit of bad mouthing people, everybody from someone I last saw in grade school, to the neighbor, to a relative, to a friend of mine or a friend of hers, to a constestant on American Idol. It almost seems as though she thrives on other peoples unhappiness.
Whenever a family member has an important event coming up ie: a wedding, birth, some great milestone she takes it upon her self to have one of her episodes - out of the blue. This time was that we were all planning a family reunion at the end of August.
I should also mention that she goes to the dr like it's a hobby. She always thinks something is wrong with her. But she also thinks something is always medically wrong with everybody. All in all I would say that she is paranoid. She is very judgemental and if you don't share her opinion than you are garbage. After putting up with thi sfor years on end I am finally done with pacifying her. My Dad is an enabler so I am not sure how to get her helf. Is there such a thing an intervention for mental illness?
It is very possible your mother could have some issues. We can't really say whether she does for sure or not.
Her best bet is to see a therapist/psychiatrist that can help her cope with any possible anxiety, depression issues. When people write others off it is generally a sign of anxiety and being insecure.
I know I have posted a lot of questions about my situation, but I need help...
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month now, and we get along great. We have a strong trust and intense, good chemistry. We get along extremely well and have the same quirky crazy personalities.
Thursday, my boyfriend did not answer me all day. Because I am a huge worry wart, I worried about him. I texted him about four times and called after waiting three hours for him to answer. He turned out to be drinking with friends and turned off his phone, but I was concerned that he didn't tell me what he was up to so I didn't have to blow up his phone and worry like I did. He complained I was clingy and we argued for about three days until I asked if we could stop fighting over it because I was tired of doing so. He agreed and we decided to move on and learn from it. I have been giving him space and learning to relax.
Today we hung out, and it was good. We had a lot of fun, but still, I felt weird as well. I don't know what it was. We chilled like we always do. When I first entered his room I told him I missed him, but he said, "It's only been two weeks." I felt hurt and told him that's pretty long in my book but he just laughed. The day went on and we were fine. Later on he complained when I noticed someone had duct-taped their bumper to their car. He asked, "Why are you in other people's business? Why do you pay attention to that stuff?" I simply told him I was being observant and I'm just curious like that, and he was complaining. He knew I was hurt when we were walking to the store and cracked jokes about certain things, but I stared into space and tried to smile. I felt hurt. He never ever complains when we hang out. I guess he thinks he has the liberty to complain now that he got that I'm clingy off his chest. He asked me what was the matter later on when he was having a smoke and I told him I was just being off. He held me close and kissed my head and we continued on with the day.
I finally told him what was wrong, that I am scared to do or say certain things because I don't want to come off as clingy, but he told me it was fine and continued kissing me while we hung out in his room. I have had extreme doubts these past two days and this day decreased them. I know he really likes me now. It's just me acting weird, that's all. Everything is fine between us, it's just me....
Still, I keep thinking. He's going to the Navy in December. I know he doesn't want me to get crazy attached too fast since he's leaving and we'll have to have long distance, but still. After we were dating for about three weeks he told me he wanted to marry me!!! And he calls me clingy?! I'm so confused...
I like him a lot and I am going to continue dating him, I just need a way to get over the things he complains about and straighten out my doubts and weird feelings.... I need any advice you have, please help...
You both get along, But at the same time you are drifting apart.
Now from what you've written
It sounds to me that your boyfriend just wants to have fun before he goes off into the Navy, However even that doesn't fully add up. Think about it, Two weeks is a long time to not see your partner and it's great you two had a break......but he couldn't even answer your text? A month isn't long at all, In the beginning he may of stated he wanted to marry you but honestly lets face it nobody knows what they want in the beginning of a relationship. It sounds to me that he said that irrationality without fully thinking it through.
If he doesn't shape up and stop putting you down, I think you should reevaluate your relationship status.
If you feel you can't be yourself around him then perhaps this guy isn't really the right person for you. Relationships are all about trusting one another and being able to be yourself without one picking out your bad qualities all the time. Your boyfriend wants to keep you around but seems like he also wants to change you into someone you are not.
why would you vote for a women president?
Well....
Why would you vote for a man as president?
I met a guy (friend of a friend), about a couple months ago...I've seen him twice. We talked briefly the first time we met, and the second time I saw him, I realized I am attracted to him, and unfortunately, was pretty drunk and dancing up a storm with my friend (a guy); so not nearly at my best.
It was pretty apparent to me that the attraction ran both ways, but he seems shy- he did kinda hint at wanting to meet up again, but no numbers were exchanged- plus I was pretty drunk and dancing the night away with a guy friend the second time around. Don't know if that sent him (the guy i like) the wrong signal...
So now, a month after...I decided to just go ahead and friend him on facebook, a few days ago. He did confirm me as a friend shortly after, but hasn't contacted me in any way. I didn't send him a message, but thought if he were still interested, he might initiate something. So I commented on his post, and no response.
Maybe I'm overanalyzing this, but I'm thinking that he's either a) lost interest, b) my somewhat drunken/dancing turned him away, or c) he's shy, or even yes, d) there's nothing to read into, and I just need to chill.
SO...what could any of this mean? And should I do anything, or just let it go...
You could try to send him an inbox message and see if that works. You stated he was shy, On the other hand I don't see how someone could be "shy" on the internet.
Now lets back track...
He could be the type of guy that isn't into drinking and partying, It could be he saw the way you were acting and it turned him away.
The only way to know is to try, If he doesn't message you back then it looks like he may of lost interest. However, before you jump the gun try checking his facebook to see if he has any recent post. This guy may just not be into computers either.
I got my belly button pierced almost 2 years ago. I've had the same belly button ring in since January (because it's medically graded and it was really expensive like a hundred bucks to make sure that I wasn't prone to an infection.) I've done my normal daily routines and habits but about four days ago, I woke up and I noticed my belly button ring (the top part where the screw is) was itchy. I thought that maybe I slept on it weird, and a couple of days later, it wouldn't continue to stop itching so I cleaned it extra good, but it's still itchy! I always use the same lanundry detergent so I know it's not my clothes and all the clothes I use are fresh and clean.
HELP!
Not everyone can be accepting to piercings, Some people are even allergic to metal, silver and don't even know it.
http://www.adicma.com/metal-allergy/
Sometimes in other cases there are just certain areas on the body that will reject piercings.
Sometimes your body will reject piercings, It takes 1-2 years for a belly button piercing to fully heal. If you are still having problems then you need to pay your local tattoo parlor a visit and have it removed. If you don't, It could scar up the tissue.
- A former tattoo artist
me and this guy kinda have a thing but he wants to have sex but i dont know if i wanna.. im 16 and still a virgin and he ie 18 and has had sex many times...but im scared that its gonna hurt or that he wont like my body... and what if im really bad at it and then he tells everyone that and i get made fun of? im also scared that his penis wont fit and that would be really embarrassing...is it possible for that to even happen?...im really scared and dont know what to do... i really like this guy and i just dont wanna screw things up... please help :(
This guy goes around telling everyone that you are a virgin and you are scared he won't appreciate you and you want to have sex with him?
I'm going to be blunt, He is immature.
Not only is he immature but he is legally an adult and even if you consent it is still considered statutory rape. I won't lecture you too much on the age thing as I'm sure you know it is wrong.
However I do advise you to think long and hard about who you give your body too. A man who appreciate someone does not go around exploiting their private information. This guy just wants to get in your pants, It isn't much more than that. I would pass personally, Give yourself up to someone worth your time. Once you loose your virginity you can't gain it back and don't do it with someone you will regret. If you don't want to screw things up for yourself then be smart about the choice you make. This guy already disrespected you, Don't let him take advantage of you. Look for someone else
What is an orgasim?
Here is a link to explain all about it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm
Is there such thing as pre-cum
Yes there is
Pre cum is also known as pre ejaculation.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Premature_ejaculation
Can the boy feel pre-cum n can it make u pregnant?
Every guy is different, Some can feel it others can't. However, Although the guy may state he didn't cum, There is always a chance of pregnancy. Some guys just aren't aware of the fact that they pre-ejaculated.
So short answer: Yes, Pre cum can make you pregnant.
18/f
There's this girl I know. She is kind of my friend because we were on the same sports team.. but at the same time- i wouldn't consider her my friend because some of her qualities are the opposite of what i consider "friend qualities"
I don't mean to sound harsh, but she's trashy, slutty, boy-crazy, and always wants to be perfect/the best at everything. She brags constantly. She puts pictures of herself on facebook with her bra and then an unbuttoned shirt posing really slutty. She just got her belly-button pierced and brags constantly about it. We went to florida for nationals a while ago and the moment we got on the beach, she flirted with nearly every guy out there and then bragged about it. She made fun of my boobs- saying they were really small, and then proceeded to push hers up and say hers were a C cup. Oh yeah and she drinks and has sex all the time and brags about it to all of her friends. One time she told us the positions and places she did it. I honestly looked at her with disgust. I told her- that stuff is personal.. I really don't want to know that stuff about you.
After knowing her for about a year, its made me realize how badly she annoys me and how badly I do not want to be her friend. The only problem is... we are going to the same college and will be on the same sports team as me. So I HAVE to see her and pretty much have to be nice to her too. I don't want to be that girl on the team who starts drama.
I guess I'm just really stuck on what to do.. I know I have to be nice to her. Thats not a problem because usually i'm nice to everyone, even if i hate them. But I just don't know how I'm going to be able to handle this. I really don't want to be around her and her attitude. What should I do? I want to ignore her, but i have to see her.
I'm also afraid i might lose it and just start going crazy. I could barely stay sane last year with her on my team.. how am i supposed to keep cool this year with her on my college team?? ahhh she annoys the hell out of me. what do i do? thanks!
This girl obviously has a very low self respect for herself, She brags because it makes her feel better.
You can be nice to her but you don't have to be overly friendly either. If you are both on the same sports team then fine just try and keep your distance but be friendly. If she tries and brags about something try changing the subject. This will show her that you are not interested in what she is talking about. If she ask why, Then there is your opening you can just tell her that you aren't into that sort of stuff. Hopefully this will give her the picture on how you feel
Sure she may be loose and sleep with every guy she meets and brag about but I will tell ya one thing it's certainly nothing to be proud about. You keep yourself sane by worrying about you, If she is sitting on the bench then sit on the other end away from her if you can. Keep all conversations to a minimal. If you REALLY can't take the pressure then hell be with it write her a letter on how you feel but again don't let the dogs out.