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Having doubts and weird feelings.... but I still like him...
I know I have posted a lot of questions about my situation, but I need help...
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month now, and we get along great. We have a strong trust and intense, good chemistry. We get along extremely well and have the same quirky crazy personalities.
Thursday, my boyfriend did not answer me all day. Because I am a huge worry wart, I worried about him. I texted him about four times and called after waiting three hours for him to answer. He turned out to be drinking with friends and turned off his phone, but I was concerned that he didn't tell me what he was up to so I didn't have to blow up his phone and worry like I did. He complained I was clingy and we argued for about three days until I asked if we could stop fighting over it because I was tired of doing so. He agreed and we decided to move on and learn from it. I have been giving him space and learning to relax.
Today we hung out, and it was good. We had a lot of fun, but still, I felt weird as well. I don't know what it was. We chilled like we always do. When I first entered his room I told him I missed him, but he said, "It's only been two weeks." I felt hurt and told him that's pretty long in my book but he just laughed. The day went on and we were fine. Later on he complained when I noticed someone had duct-taped their bumper to their car. He asked, "Why are you in other people's business? Why do you pay attention to that stuff?" I simply told him I was being observant and I'm just curious like that, and he was complaining. He knew I was hurt when we were walking to the store and cracked jokes about certain things, but I stared into space and tried to smile. I felt hurt. He never ever complains when we hang out. I guess he thinks he has the liberty to complain now that he got that I'm clingy off his chest. He asked me what was the matter later on when he was having a smoke and I told him I was just being off. He held me close and kissed my head and we continued on with the day.
I finally told him what was wrong, that I am scared to do or say certain things because I don't want to come off as clingy, but he told me it was fine and continued kissing me while we hung out in his room. I have had extreme doubts these past two days and this day decreased them. I know he really likes me now. It's just me acting weird, that's all. Everything is fine between us, it's just me....
Still, I keep thinking. He's going to the Navy in December. I know he doesn't want me to get crazy attached too fast since he's leaving and we'll have to have long distance, but still. After we were dating for about three weeks he told me he wanted to marry me!!! And he calls me clingy?! I'm so confused...
I like him a lot and I am going to continue dating him, I just need a way to get over the things he complains about and straighten out my doubts and weird feelings.... I need any advice you have, please help...
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alright. i'm just gonna be straight up honest with you. He is not the one for you.
Honestly.. if a guy were treating me like that, i'd dump him within a second. Girl, you have to understand that in a relationship there's trust, loyalty, and RESPECT. He does not respect you.. its clear because of the way he's been acting. No true boyfriend will just ignore their girlfriend for 2 weeks and give her crap for being too clingy. Honestly, I don't know whats worse.. the fact that he's treating you this way, or the fact that you're allowing him to treat you this way. Girl.. just walk the other way. You do not deserve to be treated this way by him.. Don't you want a boyfriend who will miss you after 2 weeks of not talking?? Don't you want a boyfriend who adores you and WANTS to talk to you? It seems like your boyfriend right now feels like he's forced to talk to you. Enough is enough.. just dump him and find another guy who will respect you. I know you said you and your boyfriend have the same personalities.. but it doesn't seem like it to me. I think all he wants is just a girl to have fun with and not get involved with anything serious. And then it seems like you want a relationship more on the serious side. Do you see where i'm getting at? both of you want different things, hence not working out. You can find a guy WAYY better than him :) You'll never know unless you try.
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You both get along, But at the same time you are drifting apart.
Now from what you've written
It sounds to me that your boyfriend just wants to have fun before he goes off into the Navy, However even that doesn't fully add up. Think about it, Two weeks is a long time to not see your partner and it's great you two had a break......but he couldn't even answer your text? A month isn't long at all, In the beginning he may of stated he wanted to marry you but honestly lets face it nobody knows what they want in the beginning of a relationship. It sounds to me that he said that irrationality without fully thinking it through.
If he doesn't shape up and stop putting you down, I think you should reevaluate your relationship status.
If you feel you can't be yourself around him then perhaps this guy isn't really the right person for you. Relationships are all about trusting one another and being able to be yourself without one picking out your bad qualities all the time. Your boyfriend wants to keep you around but seems like he also wants to change you into someone you are not.
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