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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
Thanks:) x
Having a baby at the age of 14 is the worst thing you could do, Do you have a full time job? and by that I mean one that pays more than $8.00 an hour? Babies require stability, You and your boyfriend are not mentally nor financially ready to care for a child. You are right on one thing, It is NOT a walk in the park to raise a child. Do you live independently on your own? Do you have a license? Babies require A LOT of time and money. They need medical care, food, clothes, etc. Raising a child cost an average of 3,000+ more a month. Do you have this kind of money?.....
Right now you are thinking of having a child on impulse of wanting one. How are you going to raise a child when you are still a child yourself? If you were to have a baby now that child is going to grow up in poverty, It will be bought up with parents/parent who were selfish. You have dated your boyfriend for over a year but do you really think you two will last forever?......You both are only 14 years old. You are going to go through High School and believe it or not you are going to mature and grow up don't destroy your life because you and your boyfriend "Think" you are ready to take on parenthood. Wait until you are older, Wiser and more mature. At 14, You have no idea what it means to be independent yet responsible.
Again, Let me point out something...
An apartment these days run no less than around $700.00 a month and that is a CHEAP apartment. Apartments come with utilities... Electricity. An electric bill cost an average person ( 1 person ) around $70.00 a month and this is approx. Then you have to think about food....maybe $200.00 a month.
This is apart of responsibility, This is what it means to be independent. If you can't afford that, You aren't ready to be a parent. This adds up too ($970.00) alone and that is not all experiences of living independently. Motherhood would add a nice 2,000+ a month for diapers, formula, clothes, medical coverage, etc. You are far from being ready, Until you've lived on your own and experienced what it is like to be an adult stay away from the thought of having a child.
Okay this normally goes out to people who have gotten their wisdom teeth pulled out. Does it hurt?
Everyone's experience is a little different...
I've had all four of my wisdom teeth pulled on the same day, The pain was unbearable and I swelled up for a few days. I was stuck eating anything from jello to soup for a week.
Would I do it again?....Probably not
I'm on a diet and I ate kind of a lot of slices of watermelon today. Will I gain weight?
Watermelon is good for you, It is mostly just water.
In fact there have been many stories about the "Watermelon diet" helping people to loose weight!
http://my.dietpower.com/features/watermelon_diet.php
I am a senior in college and 21 years old. I had dated my ex boyfriend for a year and a half. I thought he could have been my husband, everything about him seemed so right. i loved his family, and he fit perfectly in with mine. his parents had told him that they saw us being married. this was all until he cheated on me. we had some rough times when we were on and off when we were both very busy with school and our sports that we both play in college. i think we both were very stressed. how do you know if its right? even after everything i can not be mad at him. i love him so much and saw myself having a family with him...i just need thoughts on this.
I truly believe that when someone cheats a certain aspect of them was never truly happy in the relationship they were in.
Cheating is betrayal, When two people are in a relationship it is up to the both of them to make it work and your boyfriend choose to cheat to whatever reason that may be. If you continue to be in a relationship know that you will never trust him the same again. I agree with YoungMommy people who cheat are usually always cheaters. You thought this guy was the right one for you but sometimes things aren't always what they appear to be that is just how life goes. You don't love him, You loved him for who he was before he cheated. I honestly think you should put him behind you and try to meet someone else who will appreciate you and love you for who you are.
Hey! I am Farah from Egypt I love guy with me at school who really is nice and a good friend for all girls , I love him so much but he's treating me normal or less than normal i feel that i don't matter with him but sometimes he talks to me and says you are nearest because you are the only one who didn't hurt me but he doesn't talk much with me and sometimes i feel he ignores me and i also feel that he loves my best friend but she doesn't care for him at all , he love to tease me all the time and he knows that he is making me sad by that i don't want to go in relationship with him not to lose a great friend like him , i love him so much and did many things for him and he knows i feel i can't go away from him .
This is the second time you've posted this question so I'm going to give you the same answer I gave you before:
This guy sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Sometimes it's not worth the stress waiting for someone who isn't worth waiting for. I know you stated that you like him but if he isn't into you then it's probably best you move on. If he likes your best friend and it doesn't seem to be working with him getting with her then how do you know that you aren't going to be next in line? This guy told you that were next, Do you really want to be his doormat?... I would just move on and try to look for someone who will appreciate you instead of playing games.
You do not go and have sex with someone who isn't into you for who you are, If you want to go and sleep with someone that wants to play childish games then go for it. I highly suggest you move on and meet someone else who will appreciate you for who you are. If you want to be someone's booty call then fine but don't post questions repeatedly because you don't like what someone has to say.
Hi, I am 33.My ovulations dates are July 21 22 and 23. I had sex intercourse with my husband on July 21 at 8am and 10pm. On July 22 I had sex with condom with my ex around 8pm. I didnt saw that it broke, but to be sure I took an afterpil onJuly 25 at 6pm.(exactly 68 hours after the unprotected sex). Can this protect me of getting pregnant of my ex and still get pregnant of my husband?
A baby should not be bought into a world without stability, It would be unfair to the child to be born with the possibility of not having his/her father. You are talking about becoming a parent but you are not faithful to your own husband?
I'll be blunt: Your actions say you are not ready to be a parent. Being a parent means being responsible. Here you are cheating on your husband with an ex is NOT responsible. I find it awfully childish that you would want to bring a baby into this world. Stop cheating on your husband and get into marriage counseling first. Work on your marriage THEN talk about having children. Right now, You are too childish.
This is some of the things my bf does:
1) When I'm texting/calling someone when I'm with him he asks me who I'm texting/on the phone with.
2) He reads my texts over my shoulder.
3) If I talk to another guy he gets very jealous and upset. We were at a party the other day and I was talking to a guy there off and on and he told me he got very jealous and felt I was ignoring him.
4) He's very jealous of my gay (guy) best friend because we hang out a lot and I've known him for years.
4) If I text him back at a slow pace he gets very angry with me, but if he takes long to text back I'm not supposed to be mad at him..
5) He always wants to do what HE wants to do.
6) We live about an hour from eachother and he always makes me go out there to see him bc he doesnt feel like driving here.
7) If I go out with friends he always, in a mean tone, asks me what I did and for details, etc.
8)If I leave his house and we don't talk for about an hour (through texting) he'll text me to see what I'm doing.
There's more but that's the majority of it....
Your boyfriend is controlling you, It needs to stop.
Trust plays a huge factor in relationships, He clearly doesn't respect you enough to give you your privacy. That is also another big factor -Respect- As you describe your relationship has neither.
Unless the boyfriend lightens the hell up your relationship is going to run itself out faster than you know. Right now, You should sit down with him and explain to him that he needs to learn to trust you and not make false assumptions every time you don't respond. Jealousy is not healthy and there is a fine difference between loving someone and bullying them.
What I would say?
"I feel lately you have been making false assumptions in the relationship and it is causing me to stress out, If you want this relationship to work then we both are going to have to learn to trust one another and respect each others privacy"
This is one way to put it, If you feel the need to be more blunt you could say: " I don't appreciate how you constantly look over my shoulder and question my actions when I talk to people, I am entitled to my privacy just as you are entitled to yours." Communication is the key word. Your boyfriend is in the wrong to hound every action you make. This is bullying and it is controlling.
If he can't lighten the hell up and gets all defensive towards what you say then you may need to walk away, Nobody needs to be in a relationship with someone who can't learn to trust and respect.
my dog had a small fight with a dog who may have a condition where germs collect in the mouth causing her breth to constantly smell bad and now my dog has a huge infection on its face and its swollen up .. i dont have enuff money for the vet so is there anything i can do to help her and will she die?
Many vets can work out a payment plan where you can put little money down on the bill every month. If your dog needs to be seen by a vet then you need to take him.
Hi!My boyfriend and I are 20years old n we are dating since d last 2 and a half yrs..we really love echothr a lot..but he hardly expresses his luv mayb jus on my bday or our anni n dis gets really hard for me bcoz I need to hear every now and den "I luv u" n stuf like dat but nw m over it bcz I ve gone through shit and he was widme through out so I know he luvs me..the prob is he's too lazy..we don't go for dates ever we stay 10mins away from echother stil sometimes we don't meet for 10-12days..i keep nagging but he just says"m too lazy" its been 2 and a half years n can u believe we haven't gone for any bloody vacation..I have many guy frnds n I stay alone so I don't get to travel a lot n when my guyfrnds make a plan n invite me n my boyfriend,my bf asks me to tell them a no cz he's lazy so I miss a luvly vacay.n when i ask him to take me somewher he tells me "no I don feel like goin nywher"its so annoyin..he doesn't go n doesn't letme..m jus so sick n tired of dis behavior..n u know what when we meet he just keeps makin fun of me to make me laugh wich really is funny so I don't mind but nw I jus can't stnd him cz its so pissin off dat I dn gt to spnd time widhim n wen he is widme vr jus crackin stupid jokes n playin arnd..nothing sweet n romantic..m tired of this..what should I do?I don't wanna leav him bcoz he's a gem of a person mean it..he never let's me fall..please help me..also arnd 4-5times he ditched me n kept me waiting bcoz he was out wid his frnds..so dat really makes me think dat maybe he jus pretends to be lazy.I've broken up wid him bcoz of all this around 5times(m too short temprd)but he alwys mkes me gt bak cz for a fact v both do love echothr too much..n all our frnds n family knw abt it..please help me..
It takes two to make a relationship work not one, If your boyfriend is too lazy to get off his ass and
commit to the relationship then he is to lazy to be in a relationship it's that simple. 10-12 days is a very long time to not see your spouse especially when you both live no more than 15 minutes away. You need to sit down and discuss your concerns with him but you also need to tell him if he doesn't shape up you will walk. This is something he needs to hear nobody needs to stick around for a deadbeat.
OK this may be a dumb question, but just need some answers. I normally sweat a lot more than most girls, I am 21 years old and a college volleyball player. I am not in perfect shape, but I do work out a lot and would like to think im overall pretty healthy. However I feel like lately I have been sweating a lot more, like all over my body, even from my arms and legs. It has been very humid lately..so could that just be it?
Is there anyway to stop sweating from my face and head/neck as much? it gets really bad even if im just sitting outside when its hot
It's normal to sweat especially while playing sports, If you sweat constantly and excessively then it could be a medical problem. Here is a website more on that information: http://www.excessive-sweating.net/
If you fit these symptoms then you should consult a doctor.
Make sure you drink plenty of water or Gatorade and avoid 100% cotton.
Did he really reject me?
Basically I told a guy I liked I really liked him. He said it's fine, I'm OK with that, he told me he really liked me too and that I was a great person, an amazing person but he just got out of a two year relationship and he's fed up with all of that. I mean I told him I got out of a 6 year relationship and that I know how it felt losing someone. I told him that I'm not expecting him to like me back but he cut me off saying "no, it's not that I don't like you, I really really do like you a lot, but I don't want to be tied down in another relationship".
I know how it feels to break up with someone but I've heard this all before whenI ask out a guy, he'd reject me and say he's just broken up from a relationship. The thing is, at the pub today, he kept wanting to sit next to me when my friend sat on his chair and that he asked me constantly whether I'm going to the pub with the others. He leaned closer to me but not to a point where he nearly hugged me, it made my friend say "you make a cute couple". He has a lot of girls liking him and that he likes that attention.
This guy isn't ready for a relationship, He told you that. You may know how it feels to loose someone but reality is sometimes when relationships end it takes time to get over it. The worst thing someone can do is date immediately after you ended a relationship.
Likely he is just staying a single guy for awhile because that's how he wants it. You didn't get rejected he just in other words told you to lay low for awhile. Be cool about it and don't rush anything, If he likes you then he'll come around when he's ready.
I am going for my gyno visit this week. I'm a bit nervous about some things. I am 19 years old and am sexually active. My mother does not know this.... and would kill me if she knew. The only reason I am going is because I have a persistent yeast infection. Anyway they said I need to come in a half hour early to fill out paper work. Are they going to ask me about my sexual history in the paper work, because my mom will be with me and I can't write that down with her next to me....What should I do? And when they call me into the room will they make my mom leave if she follows me there? I want to be honest with the doctor I just can't let my mom know....
You are of legal age where you do not need to inform your mother of your information with a doctor, Your doctors are not allow to discuss your information as this would be invading the privacy of patient. At age 19 you are legally an adult who makes your own choices. To answer your question: Doctors cannot talk to your parents without your permission first. This would be a different case if you were a minor but you are an adult. It is possible they will ask you questions but even if they do...They cannot discuss it with anyone without your permission first.
My girlfriend and me whenever we hang out she always just reaches her hands down my pants and she says she wants to give me a handjob...weve been dating for 7 months and i dont think that she will notice that im small since its her first handjob...i really want one but im afraid she will think im too small....what should i do?
If your girlfriend were to judge you by your size then obviously your girlfriend is too immature to be in a relationship period. Looks and size shouldn't be important, If someone appreciates you for who you are they are not going to give two flying shits what you look like. You are over thinking it, Go with the flow and have a good time but be safe about what you do.
19/f
i'm gonna try to make this short. so basically me and my boyfriend just broke up... kind of. we've been together for 10 months. we had a good relationship for the most part and really loved and cared about each other. he broke up with me the other night when i was drunk because i say stupid shit when i'm drunk like how i wanna be single or wanna hook up with other guys. obviously i don't mean any of it i just was dumb and said it to make him jealous. i know that sounds horrible but i guess i've just been a little insecure in our relationship lately and it was nice to see that he cared. apparently this pushed him too far because he broke up with me. we got back together the next night but a few days later he said things were still weird and he broke up with me again. i wrote him a really long letter apologizing and telling him how much i care about him. he told me he's really confused and needs space. it's been almost a week. the last time he broke up with me he took 2 weeks to talk to me but he texted me when he was drunk and only because i ignored him when i walked past him. (the last time we broke up it was because he was mad because he broke up with me when he was blacked out and i hooked up with another guy because i was upset). clearly the things i've been saying only hurt that wound more because he still is worried that i'm gonna cheat on him (even though i would NEVER) and he's just really self conscious and vulnerable right now. when he broke up with me he named all of his flaws and then told me all the guys he thinks im gonna move on with. so basically we haven't talked in almost a week. i don't know if i should keep waiting for him or move on because i'm really upset. i really miss him and wanna be with him. he's the only guy i've been this comfortable with and wanted to spend every moment with. i've been with lots of guys (not talking about sex just making out or having a 'thing') and i know what i want by now. and it's him. i think he's having trouble trusting me and i don't know what to do to fix things because i literally said all i could say. it's up to him now. i don't know if i should play games and make him chase me because that's what he's attracted to or if i should just be honest. should i wait for him to talk to me even though it's killing me? what if he never does? or should i wait a week and then talk to him and see what's up? he kinda left me in a really shitty position just wondering if things are gonna work or not
You are both insecure, You both are wrong.
The problem; Alcohol makes us do stupid things but WE are responsible for how much is consumed. You both were not drinking responsibly.
You stated you two have broken up once before. The more people break up with each other the more draining the relationship will be if you two were to get back with one another. This is were I've always told people I have ever dated when we end up in arguments "If you walk out that door, Walk out knowing you aren't coming back" Making up in relationships cause lack of trust, stress and tension. You broke up and you got back together and here is were the relationship went on a strain.....You both didn't fully trust one another. The only thing I can really tell you, Is too try and contact your boyfriend and have a serious talk about both of your actions. Frankly, I'm not going to tell you both to stop drinking but it certainly wouldn't hurt if you both agreed to cut back your intake. Actions sometimes hurt and so don't words. If he isn't willing to listen too you and talk it out then I would consider moving on as it takes two too make a relationship work not one. If you want serious commitment then both parties are going to have to be willing to make serious choices. Right now, You both should work on communication. You both lack understanding one another and both actions have caused disappointment.
Hey! I am Farah from Egypt I love guy with me at school who really is nice and a good friend for all girls , I love him so much but he's treating me normal or less than normal i feel that i don't matter with him but sometimes he talks to me and says you are nearest because you are the only one who didn't hurt me but he doesn't talk much with me and sometimes i feel he ignores me and i also feel that he loves my best friend but she doesn't care for him at all , he love to tease me all the time and he knows that he is making me sad by that i don't want to go in relationship with him not to lose a great friend like him , i love him so much and did many things for him and he knows
This guy sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Sometimes it's not worth the stress waiting for someone who isn't worth waiting for. I know you stated that you like him but if he isn't into you then it's probably best you move on. If he likes your best friend and it doesn't seem to be working with him getting with her then how do you know that you aren't going to be next in line? This guy told you that were next, Do you really want to be his doormat?... I would just move on and try to look for someone who will appreciate you instead of playing games.
hi, me and my boyfriend been dating 2 years and a half and he has a son with his ex girlfriend and he's in his mid 40's. me, i'm in my early 30's and never been married. he's kind and loving and we both love each other but sometimes when i see talking to his ex whenever he goes pick up and drop his son for a day, i get a little jealous coz he has his son 3 times a week. she just lives 2o minutes away from we live. he was cheated on by his ex, that's why he broke up with her and when i asked him before we started to date he said,'' he and his ex can never happen again.'' but sometimes i just think he still loves her or i don't know. she's a boozer as well. like last time when we were off to drop his son, he found a receipt of shopping in his son's pram and he went on showing me, look, she's still drinks and i told him,' honey, u don't have to care, u just don't care, and he replied,'i don't, i don't anymore.' anyways i felt like he still cares for his ex. it's only me and it was just my thought. nothing has changed coz we love each other so much. we're trying to have a baby as well. so, do guys take their ex even if they're cheated on and when they have a kid together or am i just being paranoid? the more answers the better. thanks.
You don't really have any hard evidence to prove that he still has feelings for his ex by what you've posted above. Understandably your boyfriend is in contact with her because they both have a child together that is the only reason to why he should be in contact. If he isn't going around breaking any rules and isn't all about her, Then there shouldn't be too much to worry about. If his ex is a boozer and he is finding receipts of excessive alcohol use then yes absolutely he should be concerned as his ex has custody of his child. If there isn't more to what you've posted then you need to chill out and relax a bit and realize that his ex may always somehow be in the picture as again they both share joint custody of their child. That's just the way it goes, It sucks. In the meantime you should focus on yourself and your relationship with him and not worry about his ex, Unless he starts being sneaky and giving you promising reasons to be skeptical about the situation I'd say your over looking it.
Is amy winehouse really dead? Or is this some kind of stunt to sell more of her stuff?
If she is dead did she OD? How did Amy Winehouse die?
Yes, Amy Winehouse has died
The results of her death are still unknown at this time.
my boyfriend is a meth user.. i am not.. i am 12 weeks pregnant will having sex with him hurt the fetus
Yes, Your boyfriend had meth in his system therefore it very well can be passed on to the fetus.
Meth is one of the most dangerous drugs on the market, One hit can make you hooked. If you really want to provide a healthy environment for you and your unborn child at least make a smart move to leave the boyfriend. When someone is on drugs they don't have a clean mind state and aren't able to provide for others. Their mindset is getting their next fix. Sure, It was not the smartest choice to have sex with a meth addict but you can't fix what already happened but you CAN fix what can happen. I honestly think you should consider what is in you and your child's best interest and forget the boyfriend.
I've posted this on advicenators but to be honest you're one of the only ones that I noticed who actually gives thoughtful, consistent advice which is something I really need right now...
19/f I started dating my current boyfriend in February. He is a really amazing guy. Hes sweet, caring, loving, sincere, and genuinely a good person. And he adored me. We didn't have one fight for the first 3 or 4 months, I guess you can call it the "honeymoon phase". We fell in love because we fit together so well we are perfect for each other personality wise. But three months ago he hurt his back pretty badly and there's nothing doctors can do about it unless he gets surgery to fix it. But that's the last thing he wants/needs because once you get surgery you're f***ed for life. At first I was unaware of the extent to which his pain was affecting his life. Needless to say things are not going as great for him as they were when we first met. He's always in pain now, among other things going wrong.
The one thing about him that I know and the only thing I don't like is the fact that he gets angry very easily, all the time, for no reason. He told me he's always been that way. Not angry at me, just at situations and life. I try to help him with it but nothing I say now seems to have an effect on him. He's always in a bad mood, or when I try to talk to him/kiss him, most of the time he just looks at me and doesn't respond. Sometimes he even looks annoyed. We pretty much live together because we're always at each others houses, we always want to be together. But recently it's become sort of taxing for me. I come home from being with him and find that I'm in a bad mood. I'm fighting with my parents a lot and I'm just not happy. And the sad part is that I am a huge believer in happiness and I always preach how important it is to be happy. I just get so upset when I see him so mad and we're spending time together but hes in a bad mood. We used to get along great and have a great time and now its basically me always trying to cheer him up. We'll have moments here and there when he forgets he's upset, and we don't really fight, but he's always mad and I'm always sad because of it. So I've been trying to talk to him about it and explain how I feel and he keeps telling me that his anger problem has gotten 100 times worse because he's literally always in shooting sharp pain from his back. Therapy helps him a little but he says it comes right back. I just don't know what to do anymore, I try to do nice things for him and kiss him and give him love and care but nothing works. A few times after we've come back from a night of drinking and he's like that, I get emotional and I've cried to him pretty bad a few times and I hate crying it makes me feel vulnerable and weak. It's because of the alcohol that I cry, but it's because of his mood and the way he acts that I get sad. Now he has it in his head that we can't drink together anymore because when we drink we fight and I get emotional and its not me. I tried really hard last night to explain that its still how I feel, just the alcohol makes me more vocal about it. And the only reason I get emotional now is because I'm truly upset at how he is. He wouldn't even hear it. He told me to talk to him when I was sober. Which I know, is what I have to do now. I really need some advice on what to say though, because now I have the feeling that he sees me as an emotional wreck. I get the feeling that he thinks of me differently, before he used to adore me and he pretty much had me on a pedestal. Calling me perfect all the time, actually believing I was, and I'm not expecting that now at all I actually didn't like that but now I feel like what he saw in me in the beginning is gone. I just don't know what to do or say to him to fix this problem in our relationship. It's not like he can get rid of his pain or anger, he can't help it, but it seriously makes me depressed and I feel like the more I try to talk to him about it the more I ruin our relationship by putting strain on him making him feel even worse that I'm not happy with him. Help?
Relationships are all about communication, Even in the worse times. You stated your boyfriend hurt his back and he is always in pain, Pain puts stress on the body and can cause us to become miserable. Your boyfriend could go with the surgery but he should also know that back surgery can only be done once and nothing is ever guaranteed.
A person can only take so much, All you can do is explain to your boyfriend that you are only try to help him. Talk to him about it, Tell him how you feel and when he vents out his half listen to him and try to be understanding. It's not fun to be around somebody that is always in a bad mood all the time and if you two can't work something out I can almost promise you your relationship is going to go downhill. From what you've posted above you already sound like your on your way out. Sometimes we love someone but we can't sacrifice our happiness to be with someone who no longer makes us happy nor be in a relationship that causes us stress. I recommend your boyfriend to continue to go to physical therapy, Perhaps seek some consoling as it will help him cope with the situation. A person is only one human being, We cannot do everything. You can sit down and discuss it with your boyfriend and agree to take it one step at a time or slowly watch your relationship die out. It has too be on the both of you too make it work, Anything is possible.
i have a guy who sayd we are friends all his friends and mine say there is something more. should i make the first move or wait to see how he feels?
im 15 and i need to know before i embarrass myself
If the guy says you are just friends, Then that's all it is.
Yours as well as his friends are making false assumptions. If you really want to know how he feels then let him make the move, It would be foolish to ask when he told you that you both were just friends. If he likes you, He'll come around eventually. Be patient about it and tell your friends to chill out.