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1st gyno visit and my mom doesn't know I am having sex
I am going for my gyno visit this week. I'm a bit nervous about some things. I am 19 years old and am sexually active. My mother does not know this.... and would kill me if she knew. The only reason I am going is because I have a persistent yeast infection. Anyway they said I need to come in a half hour early to fill out paper work. Are they going to ask me about my sexual history in the paper work, because my mom will be with me and I can't write that down with her next to me....What should I do? And when they call me into the room will they make my mom leave if she follows me there? I want to be honest with the doctor I just can't let my mom know....
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You are 19 and of legal age. Even though you maybe in College and still using your mothers health insurance this does not give her any right to your medical information. Your medical information is confidential and cannot be released to anyone, including your parents, without your written permission.
Part of the paper work you will be asked to sign will be the doctors office policy in regard to HIPPA. HIPPA stands for Health Information Personal Privacy Act. This act spells out to whom and how your personal medical information can be released. Every doctor and medical practitioner you visit will have you fill out one of these forms for their records. Read it carefully, complete it, sign and date it.
Again even if you are using your mothers health insurance she need not be with you when you visit a doctor. Politely inform you mother that this is a very personal type of doctors appointment and you are now a legal adult and would prefer to visit the doctor alone. When and if she questions you as to why? Simply state that you medical treatments are something that is personal and private. Should you need her advice you will come to her. Of course should she ask the big question; are you having sex? Your answer should be along the lines of; That as an adult you feel that too is personal and private. Whatever you do don't say it is none of her business. While it may be none of her business, putting it that way is just the way to start an argument.
When filling out the doctors heath information forms: Fill them out completely and honestly. This is the only way the doctor can treat you properly. If you are sexually active the doctor needs to know this. If the form asks how many partners you have has put the correct number. If the form asks the type of protection used, say so or if not say that. These questions are designed in your best interest. So answer them truthfully on honestly.
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Really?
You're 19. Act like it. Go alone or tell your mother you want her in the waiting room.
You really shouldn't be thinking "my mother will kill me!" at 19. You should be thinking "my sex life is my business and I'm not going to listen to any berating about it" and stop making things her business by being afraid of her reactions.
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You are of legal age where you do not need to inform your mother of your information with a doctor, Your doctors are not allow to discuss your information as this would be invading the privacy of patient. At age 19 you are legally an adult who makes your own choices. To answer your question: Doctors cannot talk to your parents without your permission first. This would be a different case if you were a minor but you are an adult. It is possible they will ask you questions but even if they do...They cannot discuss it with anyone without your permission first.
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Tell your mother that you need to go in alone and feel embarrassed with her being in the room but will call for her if you need to. It's nothing personal and she knows that.
At some point they'll have you fill out a medical form and then eventually you have to disclose sexual history etc. that you rather wouldn't. It's necessary to make sure you are healthy and detrimental if you hide it. They won't care (heard, seen it all) nor can they legally tell your mom or anyone else what you said. At the same time it can benefit you as you can get a prescription for birth control to ensure you're fine.
The other thing is you can tell your mom the truth which is best for you and that you wanted to get birth control while there and stay safe. She might not like that and give you grief for a bit but in the end respect it. Either way tell her this is embarrassing and that you just want to do it privately and get out. Also you're an ADULT at 19 and she doesn't have to be there or know anything at this point. tell the doctor the truth as you have to.
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I don't remember this question being in the paper-work... I'm pretty sure every form I filled out concerned basic information like name/address/etc, insurance information, and they might ask you about your medical history or any medication that you are taking.
When you are called to go back... Just tell your mom that you would prefer to go alone. Really, this is not an unreasonable request. Going to the OBGYN is awkward and embarrassing the first time, and it's reasonable to assume that you wouldn't want a witness. Once you are alone with the nurse and the doctor, you can tell them the truth about your sexual history. To them, it is not a big deal. Not only that, they will not talk to your mom about anything you discuss... It's actually against the law to do so without your permission.
Don't sweat it. It'll be okay. ;)
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