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does my boyfriend still cares for his ex?
hi, me and my boyfriend been dating 2 years and a half and he has a son with his ex girlfriend and he's in his mid 40's. me, i'm in my early 30's and never been married. he's kind and loving and we both love each other but sometimes when i see talking to his ex whenever he goes pick up and drop his son for a day, i get a little jealous coz he has his son 3 times a week. she just lives 2o minutes away from we live. he was cheated on by his ex, that's why he broke up with her and when i asked him before we started to date he said,'' he and his ex can never happen again.'' but sometimes i just think he still loves her or i don't know. she's a boozer as well. like last time when we were off to drop his son, he found a receipt of shopping in his son's pram and he went on showing me, look, she's still drinks and i told him,' honey, u don't have to care, u just don't care, and he replied,'i don't, i don't anymore.' anyways i felt like he still cares for his ex. it's only me and it was just my thought. nothing has changed coz we love each other so much. we're trying to have a baby as well. so, do guys take their ex even if they're cheated on and when they have a kid together or am i just being paranoid? the more answers the better. thanks.
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She's the mother of his child. He will also have a closeness with her. He will always 'care' to some extent.
It would take a monster to 'not care' about the mother of your child, and a fellow human being whose life is so intertwined with your own.
So, your boyfriend does care -- to do less would make him heartless monster.
But 'caring' and having romantic feelings for some is very different. After two years together it should be pretty obvious to you that if your boyfriend wanted anything more than friendly co-parenting with her, he would have tried to get that by now.
They are raising a child together. He is always going to care for her well-being to some extent. See it for the blessing and goodness it is. You can be sure, that even if the worst was to happen in your relationship with him, he'd still be a respectful and friendly co-parent.
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You don't really have any hard evidence to prove that he still has feelings for his ex by what you've posted above. Understandably your boyfriend is in contact with her because they both have a child together that is the only reason to why he should be in contact. If he isn't going around breaking any rules and isn't all about her, Then there shouldn't be too much to worry about. If his ex is a boozer and he is finding receipts of excessive alcohol use then yes absolutely he should be concerned as his ex has custody of his child. If there isn't more to what you've posted then you need to chill out and relax a bit and realize that his ex may always somehow be in the picture as again they both share joint custody of their child. That's just the way it goes, It sucks. In the meantime you should focus on yourself and your relationship with him and not worry about his ex, Unless he starts being sneaky and giving you promising reasons to be skeptical about the situation I'd say your over looking it.
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